| Should disabilities be listed on profiles?
Posted: 6/23/2008 10:04:14 PM | Retarded can be used in so many ways I know but I was once told by a wise old couple what the word means when it's used to describe people with down syndrome or brain injuries and I thought about it so I looked it up and it's truest meaning is to hinder or to take away in the sense that an opinion action or thought is degraded to make ones self feel bigger then another person I know it's hard to believe.
People that have a brain injury don't think the same way as someone who doesn't have one so the next time a person who has one is trying their hardest to get an idea across just listen. | |
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| Should disabilities be listed on profiles?
Posted: 6/23/2008 10:17:49 PM | | I agree a disability isn't something that the entire world needs to know but no surprises when your about to meet a person I myself disclose my disabilities when I feel it's ok to it's not that I'm keeping a secret it's that I need to know how genuine a person is but don't wait to long either I wait 2 weeks max because I won't meet before that period is up | |
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| Should disabilities be listed on profiles?
Posted: 6/24/2008 1:53:02 PM | sexydancingprincess - if you didn't already Know the risks about Diabetes and Pregnancy, which it looks like you don't, HERE is why.
"What can happen to a woman with Type 1 or Type 2 diabetes who becomes pregnant?
Pregnancy is a time when a woman’s body goes through lots of changes as it nurtures a developing baby. All women need more nutrients, rest, and energy to grow the baby when they are pregnant. They also need to be physically active. When a woman with diabetes is pregnant, changes happen in her blood sugar, often quickly. If a woman with diabetes does not keep good control of her blood sugar, she might get some of the common problems of diabetes, or those problems might get worse if she already has them. Out of control blood sugar could lead to a woman having a miscarriage. Out of control blood sugar might also cause high blood pressure in a woman during pregnancy, and she will need extra visits to the doctor. High blood pressure during pregnancy might lead to a baby being born early and also could cause seizures or a stroke (a blood clot in the brain that can lead to brain damage) in the woman during labor and delivery. Sometimes, out of control blood sugar causes a woman to make extra large amounts of amniotic fluid around the baby which might lead to preterm (early) labor. Another problem common to a pregnant woman with uncontrolled diabetes is that her baby grows too large. Besides causing discomfort to the woman during the last few months of pregnancy, an extra large baby can lead to problems during delivery for both the mother and the baby.
What can happen to the baby of a woman with Type 1 or Type 2 diabetes during pregnancy?
Diabetes in a pregnant woman can cause the baby to have birth defects, miscarry, be born early and have a low birth weight, be stillborn, or grow extra large and have a hard delivery.
A woman who has Type 1 or Type 2 diabetes that is not tightly controlled has a higher chance of having a baby with a birth defect than does a woman without diabetes. The organs of the baby form during the first two months of pregnancy, often before a woman knows that she is pregnant. Out of control blood sugar can affect those organs while they are being formed and cause serious birth defects, such as those of the brain, spine, and heart, or can lead to miscarriage of the developing baby.
If the woman’s blood sugar remains out of control throughout the pregnancy, the baby likely will grow extra large. Out of control diabetes causes the baby’s blood sugar to be high. The baby makes more insulin and uses the extra calories or stores them as fat. The baby is “overfed” and grows extra large. Extra large babies can occur in women with any out of control diabetes, including Type 1, Type 2, and gestational. The extra large baby can cause problems during and after delivery. Nerve damage to the baby can happen from pressure on the baby’s shoulder during delivery. A newborn might have quickly changing blood sugars after delivery. A large baby born to a woman with diabetes might have a greater chance of being obese and/or developing Type 2 diabetes later in life.
If the woman with diabetes has problems that lead to a preterm birth, the baby might have breathing problems, heart problems, bleeding into the brain, intestinal problems, and vision problems. A woman with diabetes might have a baby born on time with low birth weight. A baby with low birth weight might have problems with eating, gaining weight, fighting off infections, and staying warm.
Will my baby have diabetes?
Babies born to mothers with diabetes do not come into the world with diabetes. However, if the mother’s diabetes was not controlled during pregnancy, the baby can very quickly develop low blood sugar after birth and must be watched very closely until his or her body adjusts the amount of insulin it makes.
Extra large babies are more likely to become obese and to develop Type 2 diabetes later in life. They especially need to develop healthy eating and regular exercise habits as they grow up to lessen the chance of obesity and Type 2 diabetes. "
It does affect things...it can be controlled, but it does take CAREFUL OBSERVATION on the part of ALL PARTIES to a diabetic pregnancy for success. I'm not saying that you need to utlize bedrest for Diabetes, one DOES need to use their heads...follow doc's orders and keep up with everything. This is why I do NOT suggest diabetics mate with STUPID PEOPLE. Avoid at all costs men from Arkansas or any male who wears a wifebeater on a regular basis. :wink: And most especially avoid Spousal Abusers.. | |
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| Should disabilities be listed on profiles?
Posted: 6/24/2008 2:05:28 PM | I guess something obvious would be discussed during a chat which is why I like to chat for awhile. I only meet someone I really hit it off with on chat. I figure by the time I'm ready to meet someone - we'll have discussed almost anything going on with us including a disability.
To answer the question - NO I don't think that disabilities need to be listed but I would want to know if they are deaf, in a wheelchair, etc before we met. As far as diabetes and stuff like that - just have them take a physical before you date them. Sounds ridiculous doesn't it??? So is listing diseases and disabilities on a profile. JMO | |
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| Should disabilities be listed on profiles?
Posted: 6/26/2008 4:27:05 PM | Hello,
I list my disability - I'm visually impaired. I like being up front about it. My disability is as much a part of me as my hair color, height or weight. I try to show how it has shaped my personality/outlook on life and I've had dates! :) | |
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| Should disabilities be listed on profiles?
Posted: 6/26/2008 5:16:04 PM | | Definitely list something that would affect another person who would want to date you. Wearing glasses or having mild diabetes is probably not. But if something might make them say "what happened to you" when they meet you for the first time, it should be mentioned. If you have something that makes you short-term relationship when they want long-term, it should be mentioned. | |
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| Should disabilities be listed on profiles?
Posted: 6/26/2008 5:26:00 PM | i have several disabilities myself
i feel upfront is to put a little information on profiles
at least...
like i have sugar diabetes
im hearing impaired not deaf totally do wear a hearing aid
but can barely get by i read lips great
noone knows im deaf until i tell that person about me being deaf
yes. i think disabilities should be listed on profiles
i dont have it on this profile but i need to update and correct my information
after thinking about this question! | |
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| Should disabilities be listed on profiles?
Posted: 6/26/2008 5:38:51 PM | i totally agree with there will be certain activities that one can do with their
disability and one cannot do
i have been disabled all my life so have grown used to a lot of issues the world
puts on hearing impairments
some will say o geez you cant go to a movie
well yeah i can im not totally deaf plus at a movie theatre is loud so yeah can hear
but like in a church i cannot hear
or where loud music i cannot hear
people dont understand what a disability really is on the human body!
technically on paper with the system a disability is one that affects his/or her
daily functions of life@!
that is what a disability is people
not sinuses not adhd shit that dont affect functions of daily living get real here! | |
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| Should disabilities be listed on profiles?
Posted: 6/26/2008 5:39:30 PM | HIPPAA laws go in the workplace and for this space. Your private health problems are yours and yours alone and it's not a good idea to put it out in the public.
If you communicate with someone and want them to know, that's fine. But, based on laws that protect people and their health, I would not post it in a profile. You might be opening yourself up in a way that might come back to bite you in your "real life." | |
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| Should disabilities be listed on profiles?
Posted: 6/26/2008 5:40:58 PM | im hearing impaired
sugar diabetes
kidney failure is appearing
no range of motion in my neck due to neck surgery last year
so no im not afraid or embarrassed to tell my disabilities!
i am still here on this earth for a god give reason
and i love life to the fullest | |
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| Should disabilities be listed on profiles?
Posted: 6/26/2008 5:44:24 PM | this is america
we have our freedom of rights
if one wants to post what they want to post on a profile...so be it geesh
im not ashamed of who and what i am i have overcome the battles of lifes
defeat with people
there are tons of cruel people in the world that dont accept one with disablities
to me that is not an american | |
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| Should disabilities be listed on profiles?
Posted: 6/26/2008 5:57:18 PM | yes sir diabetes can be a form of disability
would you like to talk to my case worker dude
it depends on how high or low the persons blood sugar levels remain
and the side affects!
diabetes is one of my disabilities on paper work technically! | |
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| Should disabilities be listed on profiles?
Posted: 6/26/2008 7:25:05 PM | No! I will not put that I am Epileptic on my public profile and you do not have to disclose that you are going through "the change" and have a hormone ring shoved up your snatch. Now if I like a guy enough and we are talking I will discuss that chance that I may seize during our date, foam at the mouth, bite my tongue and pizz my pants. That does not need to be listed on my public profile nor that my last mamogram came back Aok....
I would really be more concerned about the pictures that are 20 years old or 100 lbs skinnier.
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| Should disabilities be listed on profiles?
Posted: 6/26/2008 7:46:12 PM | No! I'm a diabetic, I don't consider it a disability, and if someone has a problem with that too bad. You never know what the future will bring, and it's mighty shallow of anyone to deny other's and themselves , to meet some really great people. I'm sure if they had a child that was disabled, they would resent people with such attiudes.
If they can't handle that, that's their problem, and it is up to the individual to state it. and only if they want to, not because they have to. We do have brains you know! Terry Fox was a great example to humanity, as other's . They have families and contribute to society , another examp;e Stephen Hawking, he has a family, and I know his IQ, is higher than the ones who are critical of disabilities!
Maybe they should, just to eliminate the jerks out there!
Just my 2 cents here.
Lm Seth. | |
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| Should disabilities be listed on profiles?
Posted: 6/26/2008 8:10:05 PM | To sexydancingprincess.
You are young, and a type 2 diabetic. For those of us who have been Type 1 for 33 years, it's not all that easy. Yes, getting pregnant is a risk, neuropothy is another, tell that to the diabetic, with feet or legs amputated, and their not disabled? Come on here, get real. Get off that high horse of yours. The secondary conditions of diabetes are critical. And its not that easy controlling blood sugars. Emotions, infections, etc, can cause sugars and ketones to rise. For those of us who have to take insulin, it's no easy task. I have a disabled sticker, because if my sugars are running low, I can't afford to waste time looking for a parking spot ,so I can get something to eat. And before you say, Ihave plenty of warning, not true. Over years of this disease, I have desentsitized, so have to check my sugars as much as 8 times a day. Because I get no warning signals anymore. wait untill you get older my friend, and you may have to go on insulin, and its no picnic, making sure you always have something in your pocket , to do even the simplist things like a hike, shopping, even sex. Tell me about your diabetes in 20 years, and lets see if you sing the same tune!
Lm Seth. | |
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| Should disabilities be listed on profiles?
Posted: 6/26/2008 8:20:01 PM | I think this sort of thing should be brought up before meeting, but not needed to be listed on a profile.
This is a long ago thread and boring by the way.
Makes me want to change my profile to list every little thing I consider a disability. Does spelling count?
How about being superficial and uncaring and greedy? | |
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| Should disabilities be listed on profiles?
Posted: 6/26/2008 8:27:10 PM | I think that yes, you should say. That is part of who you are, and I think the other person has the right to chose for themselves from the very beginning whether or not they want to be with a person with a disability. I have diabetes (type II) and I'd much rather someone refuse an initial date or meeting with me because of it, than to pull out my testing supplies 3 months down the line and they decide THEN that they have a problem with it.
Being with someone who is disabled or sick is a very challenging thing in some circumstances. Some people just aren't able to handle it. My ex-gf had Crohn's disease, as well as some serious knee problems, and several other things. I stuck with her (until SHE wanted to end it), but it was a big challenge to our relationship. I would have done it again in a minute, but some people would not. I think its best right from the start to weed out those who would not be able to handle a disability. | |
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| Should disabilities be listed on profiles?
Posted: 6/26/2008 8:32:00 PM | Yes people should be honest about it,because if they lie about that, what else do they lie about?
I did go out once with someone who had disabilityand did not disclose it ,after the dinner,I did ask him to put himself in my shoe,and asked, would he go out with a woman that was in a similar physical shape as him he hesitated,and put his had down and said "NO".
So I close my discussion.
Cheers
T-Princess | |
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| Should disabilities be listed on profiles?
Posted: 6/26/2008 8:49:56 PM | Famous Bipolar People: 1. Britney Spears 2.Robert Downey Jr. (actor) 3. Winston Churchill (politician) 4. Charles****ns (author) 5. Jimi Hendrix (musician) 6. Ernest Hemingway (writer) 7. Abraham Lincoln (president 8. Florence Nightingale (nurse) 9. Snéad O'Connor (musician) 10. Ozzy Osbourne (singer) 11. Jane Pauley (TV Journalist) 12. Edgar Allan Poe (poet, writer) 13. Axl Rose (singer) 14. Theodore Roosevelt (President) 15. Ben Stiller (actor) 16. Sidney Sheldon (producer, writer) 17. Darryl Strawberry (baseball player) 18.Sting (Gordon Sumner) (actor, musician)
19. David Strickland (actor) 20.Ted Turner (businessman 21. Mark Twain (author) 22. Jean-Claude Vn Damme (actor) 23. Vincent Van Gogh (artist) 24. Robin Williams (actor)
Autistic**********: John Denver, Woody Allen, Bob Dylan, Bobby Fischer, Bill Gates, Al Gore, Kanu Reeves, Michael Jackson
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| Should disabilities be listed on profiles?
Posted: 6/26/2008 9:30:11 PM | I haven't read this whole thread, so this might have already been discussed.
I wouldn't consider it a disability, but what about if a person is going through a very traumatic emotional period in their lives? Has had something happen to them that a potential date might not want/be able to cope with-as in "whoa, that's too heavy for me"?
Off topic in a way, but I would be curious to hear what others think. | |
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| Should disabilities be listed on profiles?
Posted: 6/28/2008 1:19:56 AM | | You should put whatever you think offers you the best chance for success. That's what everyone does and I have yet to see anyone say there is anything dishonest about, for example, saying one is intelligent if one is dumb as a post, which is arguably much worse than an omission you'll have to reconcile right way. The only question is whether you think you'll be perceived as dishonest or merely as reserving some details for an opportunity to disclose them in the way you feel most comfortable. There is probably no right answer as it could depend upon the person you are meeting and/or the way you handle it. | |
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| Should disabilities be listed on profiles?
Posted: 6/28/2008 1:57:10 AM | | wel lets just say,, once a conncection is made between a person then it should be up to said person to discuss. Its not that fun in life to go around with a prosthetic. Kids are the best they dont hide a thing. they are honest and concerned. Adults are opposite,, i am sure some snickering and whispering occurs. So as for the topic should they be listed, I dont think so. | |
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