| Should disabilities be listed on profiles?
Posted: 6/28/2008 2:15:10 AM | | I know what you mean I'm presently in the same situation, part of me is in denial you know what I mean? Can I talk to you email, if that's OK? Kathy | |
|
| Should disabilities be listed on profiles?
Posted: 6/28/2008 8:08:13 AM | | I have a disability and I am upfront about it. What difference does it make if the person passes by your profile cause you state that you have a disability or if they RUN when you tell them before meeting. I feel it is easier to save the disappointment of getting to know a person them have them disappear when you do tell them about it. My disability is obvious when you see me, so it is not something I can hide when I meet someone face to face. I also feel that if the person can't accept me for who I am to begin with..the whole package deal..I really don't want to get to know them. | |
|
| |
| Should disabilities be listed on profiles?
Posted: 6/28/2008 8:38:24 AM | Yes people should be honest about it,because if they lie about that, what else do they lie about?
I did go out once with someone who had disabilityand did not disclose it ,after the dinner,I did ask him to put himself in my shoe,and asked, would he go out with a woman that was in a similar physical shape as him he hesitated,and put his had down and said "NO".
So I close my discussion.
What is scary about internet meetings is there are so many people with mental problems that "they" dont think they have a problem. If you make the mistake of getting involved with these kind of people, they try to project their madness onto you as it is a part of them to play mindgames and to try to make you what they are so they can have some comfort level. I have always walked when I encounter this but there are some people who are not secure enough to leave because of the grip they get on them.
I say full disclosure before we get to meet. That way if we meet and like each other, we are ready to move on and not wait until you think you have suckered me then start laying down your bunch of negativity and problems on me. | |
|
cmp58
|
Joined: 6/14/2008
Msg: 305 | |
| Should disabilities be listed on profiles?
Posted: 6/28/2008 8:18:45 PM | I don't have the answer to this question, but I do have a few comments.
What do people consider a "disability"? Something that you are getting government benefits for? My brother is permanent/partial disabled from an injury he got in the service-lives a full life and looking at him, you would have no idea there is a thing wrong with him. He does have some very bad days with a lot of pain, but he chooses not to let it dictate his enjoyment of life.
There was a post on another thread where a guy thought it was a disability that a gal he met wore glasses.
I think it boils down to individual perceptions. If you like a person, then part of that is accepting/embracing everything that makes them who they are. | |
|
| Should disabilities be listed on profiles?
Posted: 6/28/2008 10:29:41 PM | I think it should be up to that person to decide - sometimes the disability affects them so little they don't feel the need to share, and other times theres jsut no avoiding it.
I myself, have little sight in my left eye, but good enough in my right that no one would know unless I told them - But I tend to share that with the ones that I have been talking to for awhile - if for nothing else, as my reason to not having a car heh. | |
|
| Should disabilities be listed on profiles?
Posted: 6/29/2008 2:39:19 AM | wow..so many different opinions here! its like a smorgasmord! and while i am reading thru them i realize there are so many good points here to ponder on...
i am so fortunate to have someone who saw my spirit long before he saw my illness...and dont give up hope people...steve first got to know me thru my forum post here on pof !
but what so many of you are talking about ...posting a profile, then meeting someone on the basis of what that profile says about you and having disabilities can be a tough decision..my advice is to be upfront and honest but leave the details for later ....when you both decide if want to go beyond a first date...
it may be that you make a new friend...but honesty is never a bad choice!
happy fishing! | |
|
| |
| |
| |
| Should disabilities be listed on profiles?
Posted: 7/6/2008 1:21:20 PM | ladydi8,
My response when someone asks "what's Wrong with me(or my legs)" is to say "Nothing. I was BORN this way!" Which is the truth BTW. A few people who were rude with this question received the response, "Nothing! What is wrong with your Manners?" Don't catch me on a bad day ... hehe | |
|
| |
| Should disabilities be listed on profiles?
Posted: 7/7/2008 6:49:25 AM | | I think if you want to avoid your date to be shocked it would be wise to tell about it before you meet. Listing it in your profile may also avoid the trouble of having people ignore you once they know. It onle serves to embarrass both of you. | |
|
| Should disabilities be listed on profiles?
Posted: 7/7/2008 8:24:33 AM | Hrm, I'm curious why this topic still gets to remain active - but the one regarding visual impairments got shut down...
Personally, I have a hard time being willing to put on my profile that I have poor eyes - becuase even good, decent, people can be ignorant and misunderstand the condition - and judge me unfairly. Give it a few e-mails and I'd be happy to share though, once you've had a chance to understand I am my own person, and completely self-sufficeint.
It's hard enough as a guy to meet anyone, ya'know? (lol)
 | |
|
Home
login 
