| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 7/4/2008 7:43:15 AM | What I have learnt from online dating is - it is very flippant.
One day you can be that special person, the next not that special person.
When someone asks you for a date and you say no, it is hit and miss as to whether they will accept it quietly or say really nasty things to you in an email, which they wouldn't say to your face.
Online dating makes the world a smaller place, but distance and travel is still an issue. | |
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 7/4/2008 11:11:48 AM | What I've learned is:
-Men AND Women lie
-Everyone says they want someone who is honest, but at least half of the people out there can't handle the truth and don't really want to hear it - even if you tell it in the nicest way possible
-Some women are just fakes... men posing as women
-it's better to be tall and anorexic than short and fat
-If you just want to get laid, then DON'T be honest... or at the very least, don't tell the whole truth.
-Men like the idea of meeting up with someone they met on the internet... women, not nearly as much.
-Pay sites usually aren't better than free sites.
-Pay sites sometimes employ hot women to get men to waste their money on chatting with them.
-Some women on dating sites are escorts
-The male to female ratio ranges from a best of 10 to 1 all the way up to 50 to 1... and it's much worse than that once you strip out the fakes, the escorts and the obese.
-some of the men AND women who say they're single are in fact married or in relationships
-Many women want a 'bad boy' who magically starts being nice to them but is still bad to everyone else.
-Many men will have sex with anything with a pulse.
-Many women will have sex with anything with lots of money and a hot car.
-Women want men who are taller than them most of the time
-Most women are in favour of equality with men... but for some, that ends when it comes time to pay the restaurant bill and suddenly chivilry is important.
-having a partner with a good career is far more important to women than it is to men.
-looks are more important to men than to women.
-both men and women want to get laid... but they often want to do it in different ways. | |
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 7/4/2008 8:22:35 PM | I have not yet met anyone off the site. After reading these posts, I'd say the probability of meeting someone I'd be happy with is a big "0".
I like the forums though .. some posts are hillarious while others are informative, like this one .. others are maddening and I think some are a ruse..
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 7/5/2008 2:37:18 AM | So refreshing to actually see honesty in writing! pity it's not practiced so much inreality.Your so right MacgyverRI, honesty is everything!........."the truth will set you free"
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 7/5/2008 3:28:46 PM | I think that fng's post says more about this than anything else I have read. I now think that I have learned more from the posts on this forum than in reading/talking/responding and being dissapointed/dissalusioned by all of these essays on here from people who don't know how to be honest or to recognize when a decent honest person is putting themselves out there. So that being said let's all of us with any sense just be friends and let the others wallow. Here is a toast to all of us who have a brain and a heart and know how to use them.  | |
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 7/5/2008 3:38:57 PM | Learning pretty quickly that men do not like to pay their share on a date, beware girls, make sure you have enough to pay for the whole date 
Learning that men are becoming quite bitter about women and saying so quite loudly on cyber sites.
Not learning - cos I still want a date with a nice man, I still want to make cyber friends and pen pals.
Hey ho I am a lost cause   | |
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 7/5/2008 4:05:02 PM | Here are my opinions:
If a guy's pic seems too good to be true, I ask for more (and show him more of myself if he asks). Some of the time, the original pic doesn't not quite match up to the others, even considering the lighting and camera angles.
When a guy states "few extra lbs" and I meet them in person, most times they'd just miss out on the category of "overweight". This is somewhat important considering I'm such a petite person (weight and height-wise) so it'd be an odd look if he were standing next to me.
Also, as the OP pointed out, what I define as "rarely" when it comes to smoking and drinking is different to what the other person would define. Rarely to me is less than 3 times a week, whereas "rarely" is under 10 times a week according to some guys. As a person who doesn't drink nor smoke (yes its true), I wouldn't appreciate it if the guy lied about his drinking and smoking habits. Hence, when I search I don't bother pursuing guys who have put "rarely" in reference to their drinking and/or smoking.
Just another thing that gets to me: when guys who put down "seeking intimate encounters" message me asking for friendship even though I clearly state I'm NOT looking for intimate encounters and the like, and then they try to convince me to be "friends" with them in the hopes that they'll eventually get into my pants. Or, when someone much older than me messages me with the intent of dating, its annoying, especially when I've stated in my profile that I'm only looking for guys close to my age, i.e. between 19 and 23. I once had a 40-something male ask if I'd like to receive free massages at his home...O_o | |
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 7/5/2008 9:09:51 PM | i have learned it is not that different except men are more apt to lie on here than when youv'e met them in person,what the hell is it all coming to. are there any non-playing fools out there?  guess i will keep fishing just gonna put on a different kinda hook  | |
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 7/6/2008 6:53:37 PM | I have learned that you don't know someone until you meet them face to face. You might think you are getting to know someone online, but it isn't real until you actually meet. People can be anything they want to be when they have a computer in front of them - it is a lot harder to hide when you are looking someone in the eyes.
We can all be witty, interesting, kind, understanding and adventerous when we can take our time to craft a careful response.
Some women are turned off when a guy wants to meet right away. I have a couple preliminary things I want to know, in order to weed out the obvious no-matches, but then I figure, bring it on. Why waste time with useless online chit-chat that really doesn't mean anything.
In the past I have spent months talking with guys, thinking I was getting to know them but then we meet. Totally different than they projected themselves online. Next! | |
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 7/6/2008 7:43:09 PM | OP?
I learned all 10 things you listed. I have also lernt that a recent photo attached can be just scanned in but very old indeed. That not every guy really is doing/making what his profile says. That if he does not want/ask to meet you in the first month or so there is a good reason. | |
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 7/6/2008 9:14:28 PM | The one thing that I have learned is that you can chat or talk to someone as long as you want online but you don't really get to know a person until you meet that person and hang around with them.
I have also learned that many profiles are not 100% true, for example someone indicates that they don't smoke, but when I meet them they actually do, they tell me they smoke very little and trying to quit..............Smoking is Smoking! | |
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 7/17/2008 8:35:15 AM | | we are all looking for something that we haven't been able to find on our own. We are hoping that we find it here.......I won't comment if that is realistic or not. | |
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 7/17/2008 9:33:21 AM | What I have learned is that people do not follow through. I occasionally get emails from women who are interested in me. They say things like they liked my profile and would like to find out more etc. I respond by telling them a little more about myself and then that is the last I hear from them.
It is getting to the point that I have difficulty getting enthused enough to bother writing back. | |
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 7/18/2008 6:18:24 AM | What have I learned from online dating? People don't follow through on their actions. For example, they claim they want to talk to you, you give out your number and they never do anything with it.
Follow through people or don't bother with things | |
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