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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 1/14/2008 7:02:19 PM | | I learned that you have to really weed out the frogs from the princes. And furthmore...I might have passed up alot of princes...you never know!!!! | |
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 1/14/2008 7:22:28 PM | And where do you suggest we all go?If i were 21 years old this wouldnt be such a problem but there are very few places to go and meet someone of my age .M y guess is that you have to learn new interests. After all who takes an interest in a numismatist. | |
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 1/14/2008 7:36:20 PM | Well, as that may be true the old adage, of try try again , comes to fore.At first i was prone to take this place a little to seriously. I f you look at it life is somewhat similar.The only difference is you have to be polite.I have always been shy around women, but I am learning persistence is the key. Good lucky and happy fishing!!  | |
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 1/14/2008 7:41:36 PM | When a guy says he 'forgot' his wallet, don't offer to pay for anything. Just end the night and go home! As much as I don't mind paying, I find it rude to just 'forget' your wallet. Especially driving a long ways, without a license. I have a hard time believing that! To me, that shows lack of respect and no interest! But Live, Learn and move on! | |
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 1/14/2008 8:47:36 PM | It's been a while since I've dated at all and this is my first shot at the on-line thing. The thing that has really struck me is that the men seem to be clingy, lacking in self-confidence, possessive, and all around weenies. | |
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 1/14/2008 8:55:27 PM | I just learned that you should never send someone a message that just added you to their favorites list no matter how innocent the subject. I not only got the read/deleted, but also removed from favorites. All I can do is  and throw another worm on the hook.
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 1/14/2008 9:01:42 PM | To many ppl play mind games ... but I have chatted with some wonderful ppl on line..
Some I talk to me by my phone and they are wonderful ppl.. Most men in here just want to talk about sex .... most men appear to be teasers by the way they talk to us ladies .. are they just into masturbating or girlie magazines, on line cyber sex... it's like that is what they want to talk about. I had to block some of them for that reason. I don't know what the men go through with the ladies but I heard some stories from them also about the ladies... so why bother if you are into games... be honest with yourselves .... I now have reformed myself to the forums and trying to make friends in here as well as chat with ppl I have become friends with... I like stimulating conversation I am a well rounded person with an open minded.. as some of the men in here know me when I chat with them . I am very respectful and I can be funny also... I wish you all the Best !  | |
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 1/14/2008 9:17:45 PM |
I've learned that men and women seem to have very different approaches to online dating.
Yes... that is very true
Long term to a woman means relationship
Long term to a man means Long Term Sex!!!
HAHAHAHA
Nice guy = Doormat/Low Self Confidence/Clingy/Chameleon
Gentleman = Nice Guy * Bad boy
Bad Boy = None of the above/Possible good rom in the sack
Gentleman is the best of the above three options IMHO.
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 1/14/2008 9:24:09 PM | I learned it's nice to stop and say hi to someone when you see them on line and just chat ...you will find he/she is more interesting then you thought.. doesn't hurt to say hi and chat or bit.. I was afraid to IM guys at first being that I am old school but found most are friendly .... and welcome it.
Besides I don't bite I just nibble  | |
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 1/14/2008 11:55:48 PM | I've learned that if you post even a reasonably ok photo on p of f, dozens of guys will write to you immeadiately. Most of them will be looking for a hook-up, but won't admit that until a few emails back and forth. Some of the guys will be looking for a girlfriend, but they'll be 20 years younger or older than me, or will have nothing at all in common with me, for instance, they will love sports and monster trucks, staying home on weekends and live in rural new hampshire, but will write to me in downtown boston, a girl who works 65 hours a week, likes travel, art museums, theatre, etc., just because they liked my photo.( Then they will post on the forums that no one ever responds to their emails.)
I deal with this by sending photos only to the guys i contact, and usually send out only a few messages at a time, so I have time to correspond with the guys who answer me. I've met a few nice people like this.
Obviously, this means for the guys that a thoughtful profile is the key. It probably makes more sense for the guys, who seem to greatly outnumber the ladies, to put thought into their profile, rather than send long introductory emails that never get answered. Some nice girl in your neighborhood will find you eventually! | |
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 1/15/2008 2:20:07 AM | I have learned that ' ladies'[if they truly are*] that post no pic, treat showing their pic as if they are giving away their virginity. Thus I move onto profiles that post a pic | |
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 1/15/2008 2:44:26 AM |
What have you learned from online dating ?
- The more demands someone puts in their profile, the less they themselves have to offer.
- People are picky about who they respond/reply back to and how they do it differs from person to person... to the point of being downright petty & ignorant about it... but it's absolutely fair game.
- Most people have their guard up... some more than others... and those who have it up way too much aren't worth the effort.
- Online dating is like fast food.. everyone tries to upsize their own pepsi cup but can't seem to fill the cup more than halfway no matter how hard they try and end up being thirsty again in no time.
- Being single is more appreciated when you read other people's misery stories online. Lemons turn to lemonade... grab a hammock and enjoy your singledom.. you will reminise about it someday when you're stuck with someone you wish you hadn't married.
- Giving out your phone number & personal info too early is a sure shot way to earn yourself a stalker... and rightfully so. If you stand by a puddle in the road and expect not to get splashed on when a car speeds by... guess again.
- Even the most bitter people online have good days.. even if they hide it.
- Just because someone compliments you in a pm, doesn't mean they want to meet you or have an extended conversation with you. If they just compliment you, thank them and shut up. If they really want to chat you up and get to know you or meet you, they will say so.
- Expect nothing... always.
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 1/15/2008 3:18:59 AM | That it is a lot more complicated than it needs to be.
Who would have thought that a place that allowed one to easily weed out potential dates (assuming they used large amounts of common sense and used their heads and not their hearts), could turn out to be such an unnecessary and overtly complicated matter?
Nice idea online dating, but in practise and as these forums show, it's not working as well as it should. | |
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 1/15/2008 5:40:25 AM | I've learned that online dating has two major advantages:
1) It's a lot easier to find people online that have similar oddball interests. Occasionally people aren't really as interested in the things they said in their profile.
2) The people online are looking for some kind of relationship (in theory).
I don't have to waste 30 minutes chatting up some stranger to find out that I don't think they are interesting, or that they are already in a relationship.
The disadvantage is that I don't get to sense the woman's femaleness as I would in a live conversation. There's something about talking to someone of the opposite sex who I've never talked to before that gets lost in online translation. | |
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 1/15/2008 6:03:46 AM | | I have learnt that men can be very calculating in planning how to get you back to their place in the hope of sex. ("Oh, my ATM card isn't working. Sorry, I can't buy you a drink, but I have a cask of wine back at my place after your money runs out"). | |
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 1/15/2008 6:05:41 AM | I have learned that you can meet someone and fall in love on the internet.
I learned to give people a chance and not run because they are not every single thing on "my list", and maybe different than I thought, etc.
I learned that we normally look/go for a certain type of person, and by doing that, we inevitably set ourselves up for failure.
I learned to think outside the box, and to be more adventurous.
I realised, that out of ALL of my dates over the last 3 years, I NEVER went out with anyone that I did not contact first.
I learned that I normally have several nice men who want to meet me when I am dating someone. It is inevitable, and if I am not seeing anyone, I can't seem to connect with a soul.
I learned that there ARE a lot of nice, normal men out there who hate the bar scene and really would make someone a great partner.
I learned what being bipolar can do to a person.
I NEED A NEW BUSINESS VENTURE AND AM CONTEMPLATING STARTING ONE:
INTERNET DATE SCREENING SERVICE............
ANY TAKERS? LOL | |
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 1/15/2008 6:34:54 AM | Some very good posts.
I have learnt you can be married, divorced, or separated and according to a lot of profiles your still single.. get a grip...
I believe what Just Jim says, ...it about sums it up..I take this place and like a lot of the other's
is just a way-station, a rest stop or intermission,
a short interlude in there life and knowing
the rest of the real world is just outside.
If you make it past the 3rd date you are lucky with out them pulling the disappearing
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 1/15/2008 11:13:00 AM | My No. 1 rule is to view online dating with NO EXPECTATIONS.
I may find a wonderful guy, I may find a couple of new friends, or I might walk away after a few months with only emails from guys that can't spell making lude comments and blatant sexual advances. Or I may get nothing at all.
If you're going to survive this thing be prepared for the worst and hope for the best. I'd rather be pleasantly surprised than bitterly disappointed anyday :)
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 1/15/2008 12:40:53 PM | It's all about communication. If you start out with lies and deceit, that's all it will be. Some people don't know the difference which is sad. On-line dating is like any other tool, but this one hasn't had the "rules" written for it yet, we all are making them up as we go. I don't have any problem with trading a few emails back and forth, some phone calls, but if you don't have any intention on meeting, I'm going to move along. I'm not looking for "notches on my belt" I'm looking for a lifetime partner, that one that I can make special and will make me special.
Is that lady out here????? Who knows, but because 95% of those out here have hidden agenda of one kind or another doesn't mean they are all bad. Because of past experiences, until I can sit across from you and "see" what you are saying, its all smoke and mirrors. As for the ladies that think most guys are looking for a new conquest, I prefer the first meet to be for breakfast. They say breakfast is the most important meal of the day, so what better way to start off a prospective new life than across the table from each other sharing the most important meal of the day. | |
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 1/15/2008 12:43:03 PM | I'm new at online dating, but it's a good thing I'm a fast learner!
~ Some of the men I've come in contact with confuse getting-to-know-you flirting with let's-talk-dirty. Down, boy - get a grip!
~ Younger men seem to think that it's okay to ask if I'm "romantic" or "loving" in our first IM chat. What??? And then feel free to put down my age and/or appearance if I decline to discuss how "loving" I am. Thank goodness for the "Block User" function.
~ I've met some wonderful men online, but I'm under no illusions that we have a "relationship" from some emails and/or IMs, and I hope they aren't, either. No in-person chemistry = no relationship.
~ So far, the profiles of the few men I've met in person have been accurate, at least on the surface. By that, I mean that I actually recognized them when we met, and our conversations ran along the lines of the interests that they expressed in their profiles. So guys, keep up the honesty!
We'll see where this online thing leads. Yeah, it's not quite "real life", but sure beats the local bar scene. | |
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