| | What have you learned from online dating ?Page 4 of 22 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22) | Ive learned that geberally:
-ppl lie a lot to themselves, thinking someone else might buy it. 5'7" is not 6'0" and not seeing your feet cause your stomach is in the way is not average.
-ppl saying they have no luck on here never answer emails sent to them, unless they look like a god/goddess
-since u can hide behind a screen with a fake name, ppl are rude to you...but would come unglued if you were rude to them
-ppl refuse to accept who they are...the 'i wouldn't do that' or 'i'm above that', are worse then the ones they complain about. | |
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 1/15/2008 1:40:43 PM | I learned adults with kids, jobs, and community responsibilities are busy. It is hard to carve out time for dating. Folks with less committments often feel slighted when they date busy people. Busy person is multi-tasking like crazy trying to meet all their obligations and create a relationship.
I learned that way too many dating websites act like its a great thing when they match you with someone 50 - 100 miles away. Who has time to "Commute Date." Maybe an 18 year old without major responsibilities. But a busy adult needs to create relationships with folks they can see without spending hours on the road.
I learned that most dating websites are successful business activities but little value. Think about it. PAYING members create the content. PAYING members attract newcomers. The folks that own e-harmony, chemistry, yahoo personals, must be getting very high return on investment.
I learned there are many wonderful men and women that have a lot of love to share and I hope internet dating works for many of us. | |
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 1/15/2008 2:11:24 PM | I have learned.......
If you go to POF mixers not only will you meet men but you will make alot of friends.
I have made real friends from POF they are female friends and we do hang out in real life..
That everyone is single so that means we all have some kind of baggage.."Unless they lie about being married" And that is thier issue not mine... I just move on!!
That just because people seem weird or crazy to me does not mean that they are. Really they are just diffrent than I am. I am sure I have seemed weird to some of the men I met....lol
That the internet dating should never be the only way you try to meet new people .
Never turn down a friendship because they could be the way you meet the one you will spend the rest of your life with.
Don't take yourself so serious keep this fun and dating fun.
One last thing if you don't like a forum don't make a post in it. Complaining about someone elses complaint is kind of silly I think. This is why I love America we can complain or say what ever we want... | |
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 1/15/2008 3:15:19 PM | OP,
I have learned I am not the catch I thought I was. Before POF, I thought I was an interesting, attractive woman with a nice figure. Silly me! ;) | |
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 1/15/2008 3:35:37 PM | Online dating is full of ups and downs. I've got to find out that some ladies on this site have different types of issue such as health,drug , marital , financial, ego, and even Mental issues.Some are just here to mess with ur mind and emotions.
I'm almost giving up on online dating cos I have that unfortunate tendency of meeting the wrong type of women especially those with ex-issues.I'm tired of playing Dr Phil.
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 1/15/2008 3:37:09 PM | OP I have learned you like the word 'rampant'.
I have learned not to think I am learning too much either way from my online experience and treat it like a bit of fun. I have also learned that whereas I may have a 3 second burst of frustration over a bit of unpleasant treatment or a nasty comment, I will sooner or later come across a poster (of either sex) who has taken their own similar bit of teensy frustration and festered it into a life's work which they then display for all to see. I have learned not all people live on the same planet I do. And I may not be living there either.
I have learned these 'life-workers' makes me look good. When I see how far gone some folks are down this route I am reminded how sane I am. I also come across some fascinating folks who occasionally post links and stuff to sites that really do teach me things.
I have come across ladies who aren't on here for dating but are on here to write to people who are dating to tell them either they're inadequate for some reason for daring to lower themselves to take the risks attached to dating or to advise on where the profile isn't mysterious enough and one shouldn't be as open as one is as ladies need to be made curious (by 'on here' I mean any of the dating sites).
I have learned that for me it's about having a giggle. Which is what I would also wish to have in real life.
I feel one coming on right now ... | |
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 1/15/2008 3:45:37 PM | That from being on this site on again and off again for a couple of years that it is time for me to take a break from the online dating thing........it can be addictive to an extent.It is time to break it up and move out into the real world more but I do enjoy these forums!!
That people tend to judge by pictures more then they maybe should and I am guilty of it too.You don't know what a person actually looks like until you meet them in person,you have an idea but a persons personality can change their looks for better or worse.
If you talk to a person on the phone or on messenger to much before meeting then they sometimes get a misconception of you.
If they put you on their favorites list for the soul reason of telling when you were last online after only one date and then making comments about why you were on here and not emailing them,then watch out something is wrong in that.
Just a few observations and sugarpiehoneybunch your list cracked me up | |
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 1/15/2008 7:49:09 PM | "So my question is ,what have you learned from online dating/chatting ?"
Hmmmmm I think i've learned that i'm probably going to be single for a LONG TIME. 
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 1/16/2008 12:32:52 AM | Why do we even call this whole online meetup option "Dating". Speaking to someone online is NOT dating. Let me emphasize, this is not a date with anyone! Sorry to burst some bubbles and blow some confidence here. I've been a user of online singles sites and forums since Matchmaker.com was the real player. And, I must say the site was quite good lets say 8 years ago. So listen from my experience....
1. If you are a man, you will face the following statistical probabilities:
a) It takes 10 emails to get a response.
b) It takes 50 emails to get to 3rd contact stage.
c) It takes 75 emails to get on the telephone.
d) It takes 3 phone contacts to get a DATE !
So, that all adds up to roughly 200 - 225 emails just to land at a local Starbucks ! Sorry ladies, that is way too much trouble just for a cup of coffee and 15 minute chat time.
For men, the best thing to do is put up a profile and just let it sit. You will get an email every once in a blue moon. From what I've learned is that the email that comes to me has a good 50% chance of landing in a Starbucks. And, that's just one email! | |
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 1/16/2008 1:02:15 AM |
that all adds up to roughly 200 - 225 emails just to land at a local Starbucks !
For men, the best thing to do is put up a profile and just let it sit.
Wow, it took me months to figure this out.
My experience is similar.
In the interests of my ego, I did statistically better but arrived at the same conclusion. 
I'd change that last line, though.
For *honest* men, the best thing is to put up a profile and let it sit. | |
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 1/16/2008 1:43:23 AM | | I have learned that I have absolutely no luck on this site, for some reason I go completely ignored, I honestly do not have a clue why. I can land a date on myspace (which is more a social networking site) easily, but POF seems to be impossible. Can anyone point me in the right direction? | |
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 1/16/2008 1:48:03 AM | Or, just do what works. If you get results on Myspace and not here, I would use time spend on POF at Myspace instead.
I would love to use Myspace, but for some reason, my profile gets deleted or simply disappears. Being a rather convertive fella, this is hard to understand. | |
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 1/16/2008 4:26:14 AM | | I think it has to do more with the fact that men on singles sites far outnumber women. I did a local search of all men within 5 miles of my zip and the results maxed out. A search on women yeilded only 297. Childless, single women in their 20's and early 30's will get a ton of emails. Often so many they don't have time to answer them. Like any other human, anyone who gets that many letters knows something better will come up. I have a 3 bedroom duplex with a small yard; the woman responds to my letter. Quickly, another guy with a 4 bedroom house with a swimming pool responds, now I'm out of the loop. Then, another dude with a 5 bedroom home located in Highland Park complete with 3 cars, a boat, and a pool with attached jacuzzi responds. Now the man with just the house and pool gets thrown out. So, even rich men will get shafted pretty badly on the singles sites LOL! | |
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 1/16/2008 4:38:04 AM | | I have learned to 'google' people. Call it cynical but from now on I am checking the internet first. It's not 100% I know. But you can find out a lot of interesting stuff. And maybe next time it will save me a little heartache. If a guy has nothing to hide he has nothing to worry about... Sure I will trust... after I have checked you're not on the crazy sites... | |
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 1/16/2008 5:24:42 AM | A recap......some postings that caught my interest..:
Ive learned that most people online arent really looking for a relationship. Everyone is screwing someone. 2. Men have huge issues, way past anything I got going on. 3. Men who say they are looking long term are lying. 4. Men who say they are looking for a nice ladies, arent. 5. Dating is nothing more than spending a month togther, then moving on. Men REALLY like boobs. 2. Men LIE A LOT I've learned that men and women seem to have very different approaches to online dating.
Yes... that is very true
Long term to a woman means relationship
Long term to a man means Long Term Sex!!!
HAHAHAHA If you're going to survive this thing be prepared for the worst and hope for the best. I'd rather be pleasantly surprised than bitterly disappointed anyday :) - Expect nothing... always. Online dating is full of ups and downs. I've got to find out that some ladies on this site have different types of issue such as health,drug , marital , financial, ego, and even Mental issues.Some are just here to mess with ur mind and emotions. I'm almost giving up on online dating cos I have that unfortunate tendency of meeting the wrong type of women especially those with ex-issues.I'm tired of playing Dr Phil. | |
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 1/16/2008 10:09:05 AM | buyer beware....
everything is not always as it seems or as it is presented on a profile
to ask a lot of questions and keep my eyes open
to be less judgmental about other people and the situations they get themselves into (things I could never fathom doing myself and learning to shut it when I want to slap em upside the head and say what the hell were you thinking)
that fundamentally we all want love, of some form or another
there are a lot of wonderful single people out there who haven't met the right person yet and I hope they do find someone sooner than later
some people but not all have emotional problems and issues that being on a dating site only exacerbates
people ask for a lot sometimes and give little in return
people will put up with a lot of crap that they shouldn't
that sometimes people do get lucky and find a wonderful deserving partner and that is why people stay on dating sites, on the hope that this will happen to them too | |
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 1/16/2008 10:18:17 AM | That some people are better than I imagined..that there are women like me,I am not alone..that one of the posters on these forums reminds me of chester the molester & I wish I could tell him him to his real life face..online might be easier..just remember real life will always supercede eventually..
Online dating can be fun..yes fun..
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 1/16/2008 11:54:35 AM | I learned that this online dating is nothing but an illousion. People claim to want one thing but then ask for another. The profiles are decieving. People claim to be honest and caring and so on, but those aren't qualities. Anyone can choose to be honest Anyone can choose to be caring in any given moment. but most people aren't and thats ok just dont hype yourself up to be a gift. Intelligence is a quality; because some people aren't. Funny is a quality; because some people aren't at all.
I learned that overall anyone who says "there a good guy" most likely isn't lol
I learned people want to be happy and people want to be accepted. Thats perfectly okay. But at the end you get to choose who gets you.
Thats probably the best part.
I imagine there are some awesome people on this site that we are over looking for various reasons and thats the sucky part.
But everyone has a personal preference. | |
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