| Thoughts on online dating ?
Posted: 1/18/2008 2:36:25 PM | -Some people posting in the forums can be intelligent, witty and down right funny.
-Some people posting in the forums are not intelligent, witty or funny.
-That  on POF is exactly as I expected.
-When having a  don't try to type a one handed post. | |
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| Thoughts on online dating ?
Posted: 1/18/2008 2:37:08 PM | No one looks like their picture....
That people are a lot ruder on the computer than they are in person... As in Thin is the only female who is "well thin" all others are fat.. I am overweight and I will tell anyone that but don't dare judge my personality or my ability to keep up with you solely on that.
Free dating web site seems to mean no job, car or licence.
That people fell less inhibited to treat you badly like sex talk or other such talk..
They would not want thier mother, sister or daughter to be treated like that why treat someone elses like that..
That if this is the only way someone is trying to meet new people they need to get a life.. | |
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| Thoughts on online dating ?
Posted: 1/18/2008 3:48:41 PM | | Men seem to be seeking a perfect woman, which seems to mean that she can have any problem at all as long as she looks great and acts passive/agressive they will be happy. If you are an average looking woman who has not been married and has a career you are branded as a feminist or a **** or a lesbian or psychotic or ugly. | |
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| Thoughts on online dating ?
Posted: 1/18/2008 3:57:43 PM |
My biggest beef, however is the number of women who indicate that they're sincerely
looking for specific things in a man, and don't bother responding to replies at all!
I've learned that most of the time women will not respond. The fact that there are far more men looking for women than women looking for men gives women the ability to ignore anyone that isn't their idea of "the perfect man". | |
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| Thoughts on online dating ?
Posted: 1/18/2008 4:41:01 PM |
What have you learned from online dating ?
How does that song go?
There's not enough stars in the sky...
There's not enough words to describe.....
 (and I'm not a drinker) | |
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| Thoughts on online dating ?
Posted: 1/18/2008 5:27:08 PM | | I'm kind of nervous about trying online dating. I met a guy in a chat room and he seemed nice, and he said he was twenty-two (I'm 21) and then when I added him to my MSN he got weird. He started asking me if he could get me pregnant and asked if I wanted a girl. I told him eventually I would want to get pregnant when I met someone I wanted to have kids with and I didn't care if it was a girl or boy. He started going on about how he wanted a daughter and hoped she would get pregnant at age 14 and asked what I would do if my daughter got pregnant at that age. I got weirded out and blocked him. A few weeks later he added me on another email address and flipped out on me for blocking him. So I've been turned off by the whole online dating. However, someone recommended this site for me so I decided to try it out. I'm kind of nervous about it still. | |
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 1/18/2008 5:59:39 PM | AMEN!
In just the last 2 day.. had bad experiences with different guys re: our "first meetings " that never happened!
First guy.. we had written a few times and were set to meet for lunch. That morning he confirmed, but right after sent message to "disregard last message".. which TOTALLY confused me! So I wrote.. asking which message?? Apparently I had deleted him off my favorites list.. UNintentionally.. but he then cut off communication!!! Just told me after 2 attempts to reach him.. that I didn't know I HAD deleted him, .. that I should meet those on my list.
Just 10 minutes after I was to have met HIM.. got a very nice first IM from a guy I'd also had as a favorite. We had a long talk, then phone conversation.. It was GREAT! We matched on almost everything, and both accepted those few that weren't exact matches. WOW! I thought! He was SOOOO accepting of what I consider my weaker points.. Had I FINALLY met the right guy??? We made a date for dinner the next night. Fast forward.. next morning we IM'ed and talked on the phone.. over an hour.. and things were said by both how excited we were about meeting. Then he said "You want to hang out?? I'll cook for you!".. but I suggested meeting at a restaurant for lunch.. and if things went as well as we thought, he could come over an watch a movie at my place. We had 1:15 hours to get in the shower and meet.. and I told him I might be a little late.
True to form, I was running 7-8 min. late, and called the number he had given me to say I was on my way.. had to leave a message. Got to restaurant within 5-6 minutes.. but he wasn't waiting outside.. so I went in. Hostess said no one his description had been in. I went out to call again. and got some other guy!!! Waited 20 minutes, checked inside 2X more.. went home almost in tears! And that's NOT like me.
Hour later see he's online, I'd sent message: ?? What happened?? but he didn't answer. Sent a couple more.. that I'd kept our date.. couldn't BELIEVE after all our great conversation / chemistry... he wouldn't talk to me at all..!!!??? Tried to YIM him too.. no reply.. and now 6 hours later.. STILL nothing! It's maddening to find out HE may have been a total fake.. and if not, that he couldn't accept that I DID show up within a reasonable time.!!
So lesson here.. guys.. if some "glitch" happens.. have the DECENCY and RESPECT to at least talk once to find out what's up! You liked her enough to set up a meeting. Things DO happen.. weird as both my experiences were.. to NICE people. Not every woman here is a fake!!! | |
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 1/18/2008 6:10:51 PM | Thought of a few more....
- That if a guy is good looking and says that nice guys can't get a break women swoon all over him. But if it's an ugly guy, he's a whiner and spineless.
- Even though the the CDC and AMA say that less the 7% of all people overweight are due to medical reasons...they all found their way to POF
- Being PC and not living in a world of make-believe is the norm online | |
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 1/18/2008 7:49:16 PM | Welcome to the human race!
Nice post, OP!
What I've learned is that people will be people,
and the Internet gives people the anonymity to
be at their worst!
Things could be worse though. If men have a Ego issue
with their height, isn't it a good thing that other manly
statistics aren't required! 
Ahhh Miss Claudia. . . . Your still as beautiful as ever | |
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 1/18/2008 7:54:06 PM | That a couple of reasonable assumptions that I had about online dating when I started, were completely wrong.
1) That participating in online dating would result in significant real dating. I was actually concerned that having too many first contacts outstanding would result in awkward scheduling/time problems. Seems kind of silly now.
2) That some writing skill and a good profile would be a significant advantage.
The forums have been enlightening. Some of it useful. Some entertaining. A great deal is depressing. Narrow minded attitudes, particularly the notion that anyone who has lived their life differently is broken and, therefore, undateable are much more prevalent than I expected.
More from viewing profiles than forums:
1) Racism is alive and well. Excluding people with marked racial preferences seemed like a good idea until I noticed how many people this excluded.
2) Discrimination based on religion or lack of religion is far more common than I expected, even in California. I expected this in the Midwest. But California?
Silly things like the average female height being two inches shorter than I thought. Kind of a bummer for tall guys like me. | |
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| What's a thought? :)
Posted: 1/18/2008 8:05:38 PM | I've learned I need purchase a monitor brick. It's kinda like a T.V. brick but smaller.
This is required for everyone who posts silly threads and comments that make little sense. Everyone but sweet lil ole me that is.
I thank you? | |
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| Not everything is BAD about internet dating!
Posted: 1/19/2008 4:57:40 AM | I’m going to depart from the generally negative and cynical direction that most of the posters have taken with this topic and focus on some of the more positive, heart warming and inspiring things I’ve learned from online dating:
There are some really incredible people out there in cyberland. People who are very kind and friendly and who turn out to be in person, exactly how they portray themselves to be in their profiles, emails and forum postings. Many have become my friends offline and my life is better for knowing them.
I don’t have the opportunity to travel a lot but I have had the opportunity to discover different worlds and cultures through people who live far away. They have expanded my world beyond the confines of my own and again, my life is better for knowing them.
Enjoying activities with like minded people is so much more fun than sitting at home by myself in front of my computer screen. This site is unique in that in addition to forums, most areas have singles events so that not only do you have the chance to meet a lot of people, you can have a lot of fun doing it! It has expanded my social circle and you guessed it! My life is better for it.
I’ve discovered that there are lots of people out there who have shared similar life experiences as I have. Their outlook has broadened by perspective and I’ve learned that there are many different ways of looking at things and that mine is not the only interpretation. I’ve become more knowledgeable about myself and the facets of human nature.
Sure, I’ve had bad experiences in online dating. Just like I’ve had bad experiences in any endeavor that I’ve undertaken. However if any of my endeavors consistently brought me unhappiness, anger or frustration, rather than joy and satisfaction, AND if there was nothing that I could do or wanted to do to change that, I simply quit doing it!
No one is required to participate in online dating. Online dating is not required to be successful for everyone who does participate in it. If it's not working for you in helping you get what you want, if the bad experiences are outweighing the good, if you're more unhappy now than you were before you started it, then STOP trying it and try something else. There is a REAL world out there, inhabited by REAL people and online dating is not the only way to meet them and find the one you’re looking for.
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| Not everything is BAD about internet dating!
Posted: 1/19/2008 1:22:14 PM | Thanks, Lola, for pointing out some of the positives of online dating. I think a possible reason for some of the bitterness of people's responses is perhaps that their expectations were a bit unrealistic. I enjoy meeting people, and this venue provides more opportunity to meet and interact with diverse people than any other I have available. I've gone to pof parties, and almost everyone on my favorites list I've met in person. It is what you make it, just like the rest of life.
OT: What I've learned is that I'm not as shy as I used to be!
Peace,
Ruthannah
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| Thoughts on online dating ?
Posted: 1/20/2008 7:13:15 AM |
I have to say that overall, I'm disappointed. 'A few extra lbs.' usuallly means they're beyond Jenny Craig, even! 'Average' means that they're built like a line backer for the Packers. If it doesn't say 'slim', it means ' BIG'!
I need to counter post with......
I have to say that overall, I'm disappointed when most men claim to be 6'1 and when they show up they are MAYBE 5'10" at MOST......
Do they have some magic mirror where their image appears taller then in real life?
I have to say that overall, I'm disappointed when some men claim to be broad shouldered with an athletic build like a foot ball player, when in actuality they they are too large to even fit into a chair at an outdoor restaurant....
Ohhh.... and then there are those men who for some reason MAGICALLY grow 10 yrs older and much more bald then in the picture in their profile....
So my friend that road goes both ways........
What I have learned.... is WEB CAM WEB CAM WEB CAM!! lol
 jj | |
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 1/20/2008 7:35:43 AM | I've learned that this site is essentially an online husband vending machine that perpetuates all that is wrong with our archaeic mating rituals.
...and that nobody likes it when you point this fact out. | |
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| Thoughts on online dating ?
Posted: 1/20/2008 10:53:18 AM | I tell it how it is in my profile.... I've considered POF to be BLIND dates... I even would consider meeting someone without a picture...
The dates NEVER look like their pics... One stated she was 5'7" average, and was really like 5'2" with an azz so big it had it's own zip code.
I have to say that overall, I'm disappointed when most men claim to be 6'1 and when they show up they are MAYBE 5'10" at MOST......
and yes I hear this all the time from my POF female buddies...
I tell ya... My buddies in the REAL world only add a couple inches where you can catch them in that lie in the locker-room...
I really don't understand the height and weight lie..
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| Thoughts on online dating ?
Posted: 1/21/2008 8:23:29 AM | "I have to say that overall, I'm disappointed when most men claim to be 6'1 and when they show up they are MAYBE 5'10" at MOST......"
I know what you mean JJ, I mean haven't these guys ever heard of elevator shoes?
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 1/22/2008 7:11:28 PM | | I have learned that there are many beautiful women needing companionship. Many divorced women trying to find new love. Online dating is not just for lonely and desperate unattractive people. | |
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 1/22/2008 10:31:34 PM | The main reason guys rush into meeting is because one cannot tell much from "chatting" or email tag. People tend to lets say, embelish facts which is polite for saying lie when they are on line but when I meet ladies in person and speak face to face  I can get the truth more easily.
I'm sure the same from most guys about lying but thats the price we pay by going on-line. | |
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