| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 3/17/2008 3:28:16 AM | I've learned that most people have really lousy interpersonal relationship and communication skills.
I've learned to give people the benefit of the doubt about things like appearance. I'm looking for a really great man. They come in all kinds of packages. Someone whose picture doesn't really appeal to you might knock your socks off in person.
I've learned to be very cautious. There are predators afoot, both active and opportunistic.
I've learned not to take it all so personally. Unless and until you actually have a good relationship cooking, who cares about what some stranger on the Internet has to say? | |
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 3/17/2008 6:36:31 AM | I have learned that though a guy may show initial interest, most are waiting for someone better looking. They want "Miss America". I've learned that I am "crap" to men in the dating realm. It's fine, I'll be the ****y boss they have to deal with later on in the workforce. My success in my professional life will prevail the heartbreak of this idiocy of the dating world.
Substance is not what men in NJ are looking for. | |
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 3/17/2008 6:46:26 AM | | I have learned that there is a reason all of us have resorted to this site. 95% of us have faced too much rejection in real situations and/or have some serious issues that prevent us from connecting with real life people. We are the confused, insecure byproduct of this poor excuse of a perverted, screwed up world whether we know it or not. Go ahead bash me, but you all know it's true. | |
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 3/17/2008 7:16:06 AM | I am new on here cant even get a pic to post but I have learned alot.
I met someone and we really hit it off great it was going fine until we had a small disagreement and he quit calling I know that he is on just about every dating site available In normal dating you would try to work through it but online there are so many people out there that there is no reason to work it out just go find someone else I believe that some are looking for true relationships but are they willing to work at it. | |
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 5/9/2008 3:10:34 PM | One can't expect that what is posted will be the truth so it is important that you get to know the person by directly communicating with them. Either by telephone or personal email. I like to get off the site immediately in order to facillitate this. To exphasize this I prefer talking by telephone. I've met and lived with several ladies I've met online and it seems they all have issues of abandonment or of societal indifference. Still, I keep trying for that one in a million. That one lady who will be whom I seek. Someday... | |
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 5/9/2008 4:17:44 PM | | oh and most people CANNOT spell. please please please proofread your profile (and emails) before posting it. i don't have the time or patience to decipher what you are trying to say!! | |
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 5/9/2008 5:23:08 PM | What have you learned from online dating ?
The quality of your pictures and how good you look in them will determine if you have success in online dating or not. | |
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 5/9/2008 6:07:26 PM | I've pretty much learned that most people who are on this website, are so excited to get home to read their emails just too see if "anything better "has left them a message, or they have just become so worried about how to be honest with a person face to face they have to result to the computer .
It's a huge ego boost to be able to pick and choose who you want to go out with, like we are some kind of puppy on an adoption site...people feed off of attention , then they soon find out most of that attention is FAKE....... | |
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 5/10/2008 5:04:26 AM | [is it because someone else has caught his eye and he has a new person to chase? Or maybe it's just that online dating is by its very nature, an inherently superficial way to get to know someone?]
This has been my experience, but I also know that not every guy is like that. Dating sites are a great idea, if that is exactly what they are used for. | |
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 5/10/2008 7:09:19 AM | What have I learned? ......that most men are completely clueless; have sex first and foremost on their minds, have fragile egos, and are insensitive.
...children equals baggage... Not necessarily 'baggage' as much as having to deal with another woman's drama.
The ones that crack me up is the ones who claim to be separated , but now dating . Separated still means married , in my opinion.. I feel the same. I want nothing to do with a married man, separated or not. He is still legally married. And it makes me wonder just how serious he took his wedding vows.
...I have had my fill of reading about " No Players"... I think I wrote that on mine. It weeds out the immature little boys.
Those who claim to be VERY oral in most cases suffer from ED. Hahahaha I've never read that. I thought it meant very talkative.
I guess I haven't had enough dates from POF yet. | |
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 5/10/2008 8:52:05 AM | Well I've learned how to identify the Nigerian scammers very quickly based on profiles and communication .
They seem to see some sort of a target on me.
However their wasting their time with me, I know better!  | |
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 5/10/2008 9:29:16 AM | | you wrote "no players" on your profile? you don't actually think that men read them, do you?? because i'm quite sure that they don't which is a reason i rewrote mine. i know it's negative but i was sick of men asking me if i was into threesomes or having married men hit on me constantly. i think most of them just look at the pictures and if you are halfway decent looking, they might be interested. if not they just move onto the next victim. | |
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 5/10/2008 10:05:23 AM | When it's typed in their profile ...wants a woman who will "take risks communicating" and to say what she's "actually thinking"............... you either keep your mouth shut or run when you see this. Please, take my advice. lol.
The person who says, "I have NO baggage, I don't expect you to either". This is always interesting.......unless you happen to be 5 years old, everyone has baggage if you've lived long enough that is. It's all in how you carry this baggage and NOT live IN it. IMHO.
I have learned that people put up 25 year old pictures, but it doesn't take a Rocket Scientist to see that when you come upon one of them.
*jldude* - What does the *j* represent? Jaded? Speak for yourself
Edit to add: *curveyone* (below)- re the "must love dogs/cats" .........well, I will only hazard to guess that they want to narrow their dating pool down even more than they already have once you have concluded reading their profile.~grins~ I have dogs, I don't expect anyone to love them either. lol. | |
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 5/10/2008 10:21:30 AM | | how about the people who say things like MUST love dogs? or MUST love cats?? why MUST i? LOL, i just find those very amusing. are they telling me what i MUST love? or how about "My kids are #1 in my life and very important to me". yeah so?? | |
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 5/10/2008 12:03:54 PM | | What I've learned from online dating and the net in general is that most people live the life they want (a fantasy life) online. And if you meet in real life and they use your screen name and not your real name, you're in for one hell of a time..........LOL! | |
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 5/10/2008 8:24:28 PM | Couple of points first:
1] My idea of "average " or a "a few extra lbs" and others ideas of "average and " a few extra lbs " is two very different things . If you are as round ,as you are tall ,then Darlin , you are not "average "or "a few extra lbs ". If you have so many chins that your head is shaped like a pineapple ,you are not "average " or " a few extra lbs" My profile states clearly BBW { a term I hate .See # 4} , but at least I am honest.
I agree:
I would have to agree with this and just from another perspective I can't begin to account for how many times I have seen "Athletic" being used in a very wrong way. Athletic for starters does not mean "thin", this is why "thin" is another option to choose from, not to mention how many times I have seen this used and thought... that should really be a "few extra pounds" choice.
Separated still means married , in my opinion
I can't really agree with this:
From a legal perspective it is somewhat accurate but being legally seperated where both parties have no intention of making amends is hardly married. I have been seperated for about 15 months, for a variety of reasons we have not completed the paperwork as of yet, one of them really is that neither of us are in any hurry to re-marry so the paperwork is merely a formality at this point. If you had suggested that a couple that had only been seperated for a couple of months were still married I might be inclined to agree with you .
8] What does rarely mean ? Folks will go on and on about how they drink "rarely " and yet the first place they want to meet you is at a bar . I have no issue with a drink or two ,but if ya are bellying up to the bar and drinking until closing ,then to me that doesn't mean "rarely .
I hear ya on this one and to some degree I think its a database issue with the site for not having some of the key words for such descriptions, such as "occasionally" smoker. The options sound like "I smoke once a month", "I smoke 8 packs a day", I don't smoke". Another thought that came to mind with this comment was... Can you confirm this person goes out and drinks like this 3+ times per week? Or is this just a person getting carried away due to not getting out very often?
I have learned through online dating that children equals baggage
Sadly this term has been in use for a long time, far longer than computers have been around.
Okay here is the very little I have learned from online dating:
1. Most men view online dating as a place to get lucky (thanks for making an already complex scenario that much more difficult).
2. Online dating has turned into the equivelant of a job search, you submit your "resume" out for review, it gets a glance at best against a very wide assortment of local applicants. If you get lucky, that really cool paper you used and the very clean font you picked get's noticed and you then may make it to a "chat interview". During the chat interview you are generally drilled for the most common concerns; Marital status, height, weight , addtional photo requests, current job status etc. Providing this goes well you may advance to the next interview stage; the telephone interview, during this phase many of the previous questions will be gone over again but in more detail and finally if all goes well it may evolve into the actual interview in person process. All in all, I am not entirely decided on the whole "online dating" thingy as of yet. I do like the fact that I can do some screening of who I meet etc. just not sure if I like where it is heading. I would not be surprised with how technolgy is progressing in areas such as "biometrics" to see my grandchildren one day simply allowing for DNA analysis to manage the entire process...
3. I have learned that there are a lot more beautiful people local to me than I realized and that if nothing else it's not a bad place to meet up with people I would most likely otherwise have never bumped into.
4. I have also learned that I am a very poor self promoter!
Cheers! | |
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 5/11/2008 1:32:13 PM | I've learned that no matter how well you seem to mesh, no matter that you spent a month in almost daily contact, no matter that plans were made or how much both are supposedly looking forward to finally meeting...they can always abruptly change their mind. I also learned that even though we hadn't met, it still hurt my feelings.
On the plus side...at least I still have feelings  | |
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 5/11/2008 1:37:29 PM | 1. I'm 21 really means 16 or 17.
2. I'm divorced really means I'm married getting a divorce.
3. I want to marry you really means, lets not ruin it by meeting.
4. My friends and family are important to me really means, I don't need anyone else in my life right now.
5. Short answers mean that they just are not into you. | |
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| What have you learned from online dating ?
Posted: 5/11/2008 1:45:28 PM | | your wrong there there are scammers and girls will ask you for money it doesnt matter where tour from 1 credit card detales and if your lucky you will be blackmailed dont say you havent been warned your talking a loud of crap i would be carful talking to any member | |
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