| Is it wrong for husbands to sexually neglect their wife...but still expect commitment and faith??
Posted: 1/15/2008 4:03:35 PM | Yes i agree blahblah101 and nope hunnie i dont carry past baggage into new relationships and wouldnt compare any new man to my ex husband...it would be hard to find a double of my ex...he,s truely that oddly rare! lol..most men ive found since becoming single want to jump my bones...not let them grow cold and thanks for your compliments sweetness...but im ok im self assured enough to know im not swamp creature and could have my pick of a crop! lol but thanks all the same pet! lol | |
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mio310
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Joined: 1/9/2008
Msg: 154 | |
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| Is it wrong for husbands to sexually neglect their wife...but still expect commitment and faith??
Posted: 1/16/2008 8:06:58 PM |
He has to be attracted to you to have sex with you. The true victim is the husband because the wife has gained weight or has not used sunscreen when she was outside.
Hmmmm...mio...from what I've read so far of your posts...you have some big issues with an ex (or soon to be ex) wife; or you like stirring the pot?
Sunscreen?..huh?..what's that got to do with anything?..lol...
And of course, men never do anything that might upset a woman?
If one loves me, he doesn't stop loving me when I am not perfect..and vice versa..and sexual attraction follows love does it not?
OT: It is wrong for either partner to neglect the other. But, it is also wrong to cheat..for revenge or any other motive. | |
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mio310
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Joined: 1/9/2008
Msg: 157 | |
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| Is it wrong for husbands to sexually neglect their wife...but still expect commitment and faith??
Posted: 1/17/2008 2:56:48 AM |
A guy cant be expected to have sex with a female that is 40 yrs old. In most cultures the guy is allowed to have a young mistress to have sex with.
Whattt??? Are you seriously kidding me??!!!! Can't be expected?? Women 40 and older are the most secure, confident, sexy and receptive they've ever been. Women over 40 can, and do, look hotter as they age-many are, in fact, hotter than they've been in their entire lives. And they NEED sex as much, if not more so, than any 20 something. Honestly, I feel the same is true if you reverse your statement-a woman can't be expected to have sex with a male that is 40 years old-but I don't go around saying it! And, I feel that now at 32-that does not mean that when I am 40, I will not be attracted to men my own age, or, more specifically, if I happen to be in a relationship with someone who is my age at that time, that I will then go on and cheat on them because I am no longer attracted to them. Love is the key to long-lasting attraction. Regardless of attractiveness, if you MARRY someone, you must love them and were at least attracted to them at some point. And if you love them, and are in fact in a marriage with them, it is your duty based on the commitment you made to care for all of their needs. If there is a reason or a difficulty in doing so, you should either get help or you should leave the relationship. But withholding ANYTHING-sex, nurturing, love, communication-is cruel and torturous and it is the antithesis of love and a healthy relationship. | |
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| Is it wrong for husbands to sexually neglect their wife...but still expect to be nagged? :)??
Posted: 1/17/2008 4:22:36 AM | some men have the madonna whore syndrome going on. they see their wives give birth and after that it's over, they just are not aroused by her anymore.
it is wrong for any spouse to sexually neglect the other, unless they have agreed that this is fine with them. it's difficult night after night to sleep next to someone who has no interest in being intimate. I had me one of those and for awhile I thought he was gay. It plays on your self esteem and you wonder what is the matter with you so you make sure you look and smell and feel nice and .....nothing.
needless to say we are not together and now I'm very happy with the man I'm with. | |
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| Is it wrong for husbands to sexually neglect their wife...but still expect commitment and faith??
Posted: 1/17/2008 5:23:33 AM | I've just read through the post and not found one thats looking at the whole question.
Although he was not provided for your sexual needs, it is possibly fair to expect your commitment and faith, providing!!!!!!!!!
You have not given us a full satement of how things were.......
Did he commit and give you the faith he required from you?
If he stayed faithful and committed in all other aspects of your marraige then I would say he has the right to expect that from you.
Finally remember this whatever he did...YOU allowed it to happen if you weren't happy you should have done something about it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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| Is it wrong for husbands to sexually neglect their wife...but still expect commitment and faith??
Posted: 1/17/2008 7:00:59 AM | Why is he neglecting you?
Whatever the reason, welcome to the life of living in a sexless marriage.
Ask yourself:
Can you accept a life without sex or intimacy?
(If he can't get it up, there are otherways he can satisfy you)
Would your life be better off if you were to leave him?
Can you handle a friends with benefits situation?
For all practical purposes, that's about your only options. | |
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| Is it wrong for husbands to sexually neglect their wife...but still expect commitment and faith??
Posted: 1/17/2008 7:11:17 AM | | Whether its right or wrong is beside the point. Truly. The question is, are you prepared to spend the rest of your life having your needs unmet? I wish I had better news, but it's not likely to improve. There is such a thing as "reasonable happiness", but we also have a finite time here. Try to ignore the superstitious nonsense coming from the moral highground, and do what you need to do. Good luck! | |
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| Is it wrong for husbands to sexually neglect their wife...but still expect commitment and faith??
Posted: 1/20/2008 2:13:44 AM | "A guy cant be expected to have sex with a female that is 40 yrs old. In most cultures the guy is allowed to have a young mistress to have sex with."
Again, another reason why you are 37 and still single
And a 21 year old beauty shouldnt be expected to have sex with a nasty 40 year old men either. Its f'ed up how you think...Do you think the SLAVES that are sold to men in these cultures ENJOY laying under the nasty men old enough to be their dads? No! its exploitation.
people should go after people your own age. Women arent the only people who get wrinklier and fatter as they get older. And men often lose their hair, yet you expect women to be into you just the same. ridiculous. | |
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