| Would you date a woman who doesn't want kids?
Posted: 1/15/2008 8:41:00 AM | Yes I would date and marry a woman who dosent want kids
I have nothing against parenthood and think kids are great but its not for me. I like my lifestyle of being able to go out whenever I want to, and to spend my free time and money on whatever I want to. Children would only complicate that for me. | |
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| Would you date a woman who doesn't want kids?
Posted: 1/15/2008 8:42:17 AM | | Not wanting children is actually a big plus for me. At my age I don't want anymore kids. Plus not having to worry from month to month is she's pregnant. Takes a load off my mind. | |
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| Would you date a woman who doesn't want kids?
Posted: 1/15/2008 11:02:57 AM | Yes , I have wanted children except I never have had any . The reason being , I am very picky in whom I would want to fertilize my ovaries. For me the object of my affection has to be worthy not only as a mate, lover but also as a father figure. If I feel as I have he could not fulfill the role of 'fatherhood' as I would want and wish I won't pursue a deeper meaningful relationship. . I have seen enough women getting pregnant only to realize the mate they chose is not up to par as a father figure .
When I do date and if the man has children from a previous relationship I seriously take the time to evaluate what type of father he is to them. Biggest turn off is if they are in arrears when it comes to child support!!!! and what type of interaction he has with them.
That being said to me it has never mattered whether 'children' in my life were biological or not.
There are enough children out there who need parents so I have never ruled out adoption possibilities if I met someone and this was our only option. And at my age this would be the only option unless of course he already had kids.
My biggest turn off is men who have children with several diffrent women and women who have children with several different men.
Sad part is many kids are born to people who should have been sterile in the first place. | |
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| Would you date a woman who doesn't want kids?
Posted: 1/15/2008 11:16:48 AM |
hell yes
in fact for me its a preference as such - would rather a woman with no kids or who doesnt want kids
Ditto. Count me as a "yes" with Thunder, here. | |
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| Would you date a woman who doesn't want kids?
Posted: 1/15/2008 12:07:12 PM | If I was dating - yes. I've reached a point in my life where I could have kids or not (in my current relationship it isn't a possibility).
Previously, I lived with a woman with a young son (he was 4 when we met and 11 when we ended it). We lived together for 5 years so I got to experience a taste of fatherhood. It was the worst of times it was the best of times... ;) | |
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| Would you date a woman who doesn't want kids?
Posted: 1/17/2008 3:28:19 PM |
Heres something I've been wondering. Hypothetically.. If you meet this chick and you get along great. You've been on dates and consider a possible relationship with this woman. Then you finally talk about values each of you have. Lets say it turns out the chick had a surgery to prevent herself from becoming a mother and wants no part of children at all in life. Would it effect how you feel about her? Would you leave her and find someone to have a family with? Or accept that you won't have children with her ever and stay anyway?
I would be perfectly fine with a woman who does not have and even could not ever have kids. I don't have kids and don't want to ever be a dad so that is fine with me. I prefer to meet the women of my dreams, marry and just be together, kids are just not for me.
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| Would you date a woman who doesn't want kids?
Posted: 1/17/2008 6:59:55 PM | I think it would be a non-issue to me. As hard as it is to believe there are those of us who don't think the world absolutely needs little versions of us running around.  | |
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| Would you date a woman who doesn't want kids?
Posted: 4/6/2008 2:09:35 AM | | I've never wanted kids either, but I wonder if I should just keep my mouth shut about it? It's particularly an issue since so many men my age are divorced with...yup...kids! If I don't want my own kids, then I certainly don't want someone else's. On the other hand, I'll date guys with kids as long as I don't have to be involved with or meet the kids. It works for me since I don't want to see anyone more than 3-4 nights per week (any more than that sort of kills the romance). Wonder if I should keep quiet or be up front? Guess I'm thinking people see it as weird for a woman not to desire kids. On the other hand, I want to be myself. It also kind of irritates me when men assume women want to meet their children. I don't even want to hear about their kids - it's a turnoff. I'm tired of feeling like a phony acting polite when someone mentions their kids. I'm usually thinking, "Shut up about the lil b*stards." Not politically correct, but that's how I feel. What's the best way to express that w/out totally turning people off? | |
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| Would you date a woman who doesn't want kids?
Posted: 4/6/2008 7:44:11 AM | OP
Certain you have gotten responses all over the spectrum. Depending on age of the person responding.
At my age and the age of the woman I would be interested in, not an issue because we would likely already have had children that were grown up already.
So not interested in starting any new children with anyone. | |
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| Would you date a woman who doesn't want kids?
Posted: 4/6/2008 10:29:59 AM | Not wanting kids wouldn't really be an insurmountable stumbling block for me, personally. In fact I'm not sure that I want them really! I definitely don't want / can't handle any now, so.....no, no big deal at all. It might even be better in a way b/c she'd be more "DINK"-minded ultimately -- maybe just live together (maybe, eventually) but no major pressures for marriage or kids like so many women (esp.around my own age range lately). Anyway the world has enough ppl as it is. It's not as though I have to breed an heir to a throne or something. What's the rush, or the big deal???  Like Larry David said in one of those "Curb Y.E." episodes, talking to a guy who had like 9 kids, "isn't it a little arrogant in a way to have to have that many kids?? It's like you're copying yourself, over and over again. Me, me, me, me, me, me....." Anyway it sometimes seems like the ppl who reproduce the most, starting from the earliest ages, are more like the types who .......well, really ought not be so excessively proud of themselves & their lives that they feel they really have to be reproducing so much... naming their kids after themselves, and so on. The world had to deal with you once, that's enough!! | |
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| Would you date a woman who doesn't want kids?
Posted: 4/6/2008 10:59:55 AM | | I sue would, so long as she understood I'll be having some with somebody else at a later date, and if that suits the situation, then all's well, no worries !!! | |
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| Would you date a woman who doesn't want kids?
Posted: 4/6/2008 3:38:38 PM | | Sure I would. I wouldn't let something like that be a determining factor whether or not we could date. besides, I already have kids, mostly grown now, but I wouldn't have any issues at all if she couldn't have kids, besides, I'm not that shallow. As long as she accepted mine with no problems then all would be fine. | |
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| Would you date a woman who doesn't want kids?
Posted: 4/6/2008 6:02:17 PM | dating a woman who wants nothing to do with children is not an option for me or for probably most fathers.
dating someone who has children and wants no more might be an issue, but not necessarily. | |
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| Would you date a woman who doesn't want kids?
Posted: 4/6/2008 8:18:32 PM | I think it matters what the guy is looking for in the long term. Personally, I have no interest in having children so I'd consider it a plus. I'd definitely date this 'hypothetical' woman.
If a guy is looking to sow his seeds, a relationship probably wouldn't stand up to the pressure of the 'need to breed'.
So, personally, yes it would affect how I feel, but only for the positive.
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| Would you date a woman who doesn't want kids?
Posted: 4/7/2008 8:05:00 AM | Did you ever hear of VHEMT?? You can "google" it I'm sure. "Voluntary Human Extinction Movement". They firmly believe every person of breeding age should make a conscious decision to not do so, in order to ensure that the human race will w/in the next few gen's or so .... go extinct, basically. It's an Earth-centered type of thing, really extreme IMO. I don't like or agree w/that, but still Earth-type concerns can be legitimately taken into consideration w/this question of kids vs. no kids, I feel.
They say now they are working on ways to (eventually) extend the human lifespan even further than it already is (80's and 90's were once virtually unheard of after all). So , here you basically have people, and a good number of them too I think, who want to live like little modern-day kings or noblemen basically, here in their urban / suburban enclaves, who rarely think seriously of any environmental concerns (beyond recycling their Fiji water bottles), many of whom drive for example Hummer H2's or Cadillac Escalades, who demand very cheap (and basically neverending) oil for these cars and trucks.. AND to top it off they also expect to be able to have as many kids as they feasibly can (usually 3 or 4 but sometimes more than that) AND to live to be at least 85 or 90 w/hopes in the future of possibly being, say, cryogenically frozen perhaps and "reanimated" at a later date, or utilizing some (still unknown) future medical technology in order to live to perhaps 120 or 150!
What we have here are , IMO, unconscionable life hogs, basically. If Mother Nature worked like this , one season would refuse to give way to another and they'd go to war! I'm not sure if this is primarily a phenomenon of today's American middle and upper-middle classes, or if this kind of thing is widespread in Europe as well (although it seems not b/c Europe's birthrates are much lower I believe).
Regardless, ppl like this, major breeders & mega consumers, clearly are not thinking things through for the long term. If people live that long, as long as they expect their 3 - 5 + children to be able to, and each of them breeds still another 3 - 5, how the hell do they expect this planet's resources to sustain us , at this kind of a pace?? Eventually one might even think Malthusian principles may come into play... the tsunami to take just one relatively recent example. | |
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