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Posted: 6/30/2008 4:46:54 PM | 1 things for sure, If I started to get fat I would be very ashamed of my body and would feel depressed about it. I would not expect women to find me attractive. The overweight guys I know hate the way they look and have little success with women.
All the women I know prefer toned or muscly guys, not skinny or fat. | |
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Posted: 6/30/2008 8:07:36 PM | I agree, I'll take even a few extra curves (as long as she's still 'healthy') over a super-model skinny any day, and I don't know many men that actually find hereoin-chic attractive. Gimme a skinny girl and I'll take her to Denny's for a cheeseburger, cheese fries and shake.
I have a theory about that too:
The only men telling the skinny super-models they are really beautiful are the European clothing designers.
who are all gay and really want a teenage-boy! | |
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Posted: 7/1/2008 2:50:57 AM | i consider skinny girls to be curvy. Curvy in the right places.
heres a good example http://i.ehow.com/images/GlobalPhoto/Articles/2055464/fit_Full.jpg good hip/waist ratio and boobs. | |
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Posted: 7/1/2008 6:00:49 AM |
If I started to get fat I would be very ashamed of my body and would feel depressed about it..... The overweight guys I know hate the way they look and have little success with women.
There will always come a point in a large person's life where they have two choices....
1. Decide they are okay with who they are and what they look like. Accept it and decide to stop being depressed and ashamed, and just start living life. It's the whole Shawshank Rendemption idea of "Get busy dyin or get busy liven".
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2. Stop letting the shame and depression eat at you... and do something to change what it is that makse you ashamed and depressed. I promise, when those of us who are changing what we don't like about ourselves.... the shame falls to the way side. The depression seeps away comepletely.
All the women I know prefer toned or muscly guys, not skinny or fat..
Are the women you know looking at toned men as possible mates? Or just someone to enjoy till the good one comes along? I know I have a different standard between men I see fun for sex. And men I see suitable for living the rest of my life with. I wouldn't NOT keep the option to actually seriously date a well built man though. LOL!
Ya never know who the universe will open your heart to.
I have noticed that no matter the size of someone, there will always be someone else who adores them. *I* think John Goodman is very handsome... especially in a suit. I think the same of Hugh Lourie (Dr House). He's not particularly built or toned. Then again, I also love body builders.
I would not expect women to find me attractive.
I know skinny people who feel this way. I know women who starve themselve who swear no man will find them attractive because they are too fat. I know some well built men who say this because they don't have lots of money. People of ALL shapes and sizes say this.... not just fat people.
And P.S. Men DO find us attractive. So much so, that some of them ask us to get BIGGER for them.
.... I'd like someone who likes me just the way I am and adores me... even if I am losing weight. | |
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Posted: 7/1/2008 6:06:30 AM |
heres a good example http://i.ehow.com/images/GlobalPhoto/Articles/2055464/fit_Full.jpg good hip/waist ratio and boobs.
This woman is airbrushed!! And maybe with the right corset, she would be curvy.
You want us all to have an airbrush artist following us around?
I think Scarlet JoHanson and Jessica Abba are good examples of curvy and beautiful.
.... but...we are all allowed our preferences. | |
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Posted: 7/1/2008 6:21:39 AM |
I have nothing against "Big" women......
Bullsh*t.... or you wouldn't give a rat's ass what they wear or how they dance.
they have their chub hanging out of every posibble place
Again, if you have nothing against them... why bother saying something crude?
and then they get to the middle of the floor and start pulling all these moves which the skinny girls can get away with but on a bigger person its just clowning.
So... it's okay for a skinny chic to get on the dance floor and have agreat time.... but a fat chic just looks rediculous?
I thought the point of a dance club was to go have a good time... and dance? You ever think they are not there to impress you and.... give it a second... have a good time????
Maybe they should start having a "You have to look like this" poster out front of every club.
So Big women carry yourself with more respect
Respect for themsleves? Or respect for you?
Here is a secret that you, and all the men like you need to learn..... YOU do not matter when it comes to a woman respecting herself.
Also... I have a feeling, that if you met up with a woman, big or small, who actually carried herself with respect (for herself... not you).... you could not handle her doing so. | |
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Posted: 7/2/2008 6:14:14 PM | I have a feeling that this little nugget of wisdom, posted by CanYouStimulateMyMind, has gotten lost in all the bickering about BBW's and people's preferences for skinny, thin, slender, curvy, BBW, etc. So, as a public service, I'm going to post it again:
I've read these messages, and the only thought that comes to my mind is....why do we allow society..friends (so called) dictate to us what is acceptable for our own personal lives? Do you let them tell you what music to listen to?...What shows to watch?...what books to read???...What food to like??...then, why let them tell you who to love or be attracted to? (*emphasis added here)
I'm not sure how this thread has escaped mod review, as the OP's topic was not so much about size preference (the D2D Thin v. Fat), but rather the fact that his friends teased him about his preferences. With respect to that issue, OP I think it's time to get new friends, unless you enjoy this kind of belittling.
Sure, friends joke around, they have fun, they tease each other. But real friends do not tease so much about one aspect of your personality that you begin to feel self-conscious about it. Really, who needs or wants friends who do nothing constructive to connect with you and help you gain wisdom and insight in your life's journey, but would rather tease you for your preferences in what you find attractive? Get some new friends, seriously. | |
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Posted: 7/2/2008 7:12:40 PM | I'm happy to here you decide to concentrate on you & less on what others think. I've been going through the responses but this one just took the cake.
He writes: "You just happen to have something you like that's easy to tease you about", where do I begin with this phrase? Especially after seeing this persons profile?!?!
I'll be nice and just walk away, this person have enough to deal with. | |
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Posted: 7/2/2008 7:13:42 PM | I have debated on if I am "a few extra lbs" or BBW. So I don't know what is actually more accurate for me to post. I don't feel that I am obese (which isn't a choice on POF.) "
Its really funny that you mention that, see I have the same problem too. I think the whole BBW term has to be more clearly defined.
If I go into regular stores , yes i can find clothing that will fit me (usually Large), but if I go into a plus size store none of the girls refuse to help me and majority of the time the smallest size is too big for me, so then im stuck because I am in the middle ! so I guess I coin the term VOLUPTUOUS to describe myself.
Nevertheless, I think and I am positive that regardless of what shape and size you are it is CONFIDENCE that sets you apart from others.  | |
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Posted: 7/6/2008 1:47:04 AM | What about us gals that like big men. What do you call big men? BBM? I have always loved a big man; I mean tall and large
I was 5' 6" and always trim until a back injury. Now I'm 175lbs and 5'4". I wear an extra large or a 1x in clothes. (You know how that varies) Some sites have stock answers to describe yourself and there is nothing between "a few extra pounds" and "heavy" Heavy just does not sound very feminine to me. What term should I use when referring to myself?
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Posted: 7/31/2008 12:12:09 AM | | Just my 2 cents worth here...I don't know where some of these men get the idea that women are willing to base their self- worth on what they think? I am sure that if you were a decent guy, honest, hard-working, fun, sensitive and genuinely great to be with I would overlook your receding hairline or (waxable) backhair issue...SURELY we are more significant than the sum of our parts in a full-length mirror - doesn't character count for SOMETHING? Dig a little deeper, people...please. | |
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Posted: 7/31/2008 12:48:41 AM | | People who tease usually do so from a point of weakness, attempting to attain a point of strength. Either agree with what they are saying, it's no fun for them if it doesn't bother you; or find their weakness and exploit it, they are far less likely to take a shot across your bow, if you return one into their forehead. I.E. "Yeah, and check it out, she speaks in full sentences." or "Yeah, I'd be concerned too if I had a 2 inch d1ck." Ok, ok, ok, I know it's juvenal; it just pi$$es me off when people are cruel for no reason. | |
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Posted: 7/31/2008 6:06:21 AM | I despise the term BBW. We are fat, heavy, overweight, what have you but fat is NOT beautiful. IF there had to be a phrase coined, then it could have been BW(big woman). If you need to have your looks validated, then how about OLFAFW (ok looking for a fat woman)
Voluptuous as in Marilyn Monroe's body is sexy. She was curvy, a little chunky, but she was healthy(aside from her drug addiction lol)
As a former normal looking woman who is now heavy, I can tell you that as much as I like myself, I liked me better 75 pounds ago!! I question all heavy women who say they are perfectly fine with how they look and are happy to stay that way.
As for the men who are commenting on how heavy women can dress inappropriately-I agree. We shouldn't be wearing hip huggers where our rolls of fat look like an undershirt and our tops are so tight that our flab is outlined and jiggling.
THere are specialty clothing stores where you can dress nicely, look pretty and sexy without having your fat hanging out on display. Yes, you can look sexy when you are heavy, you just can't dress like a size 7 would dress. Most of us have nice cleavage or legs-show that off.
As far as the dancing in a club or what have you. If you are fit enough to do the moves, then do them. I still exercise and can keep up on the dance floor. But we are no Shakira, my fellow fatties. You may be able to belly dance, but the vision of our pudge vs her abs is not going to present the same effect.
I have dated since I've gotten so heavy, but in the back of my mind I always wonder if there is something wrong with a guy who likes fat chicks. I know I know, it's supposed to be the person INSIDE that everyone should see, but sparkling personality and a quit wit isn't going to erase a jelly belly and bingo arms. (You know-the old ladies that raise their arms and yell BINGOOOOO as their underarms kind of flap in the breeze.)
Ladies, I'm not talking about those of you who are chubby or X-large. I'm talking about those of us who are plain old fat.
I am very attracted to chubby guys, or what I call"Fit Fat". Those overage athletes whose bellys have gone to pot and now they are husky he-men. But-they can still go camping or walking without wheezing and can keep up with me on all activity levels. I find it comforting and sexually pleasing as in my eyes men should have a little meat on them. | |
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Posted: 7/31/2008 6:16:08 AM | well i know how u feel bro i got that too from ppl
know i dont care i am 28 got me self a real sex kittin bbw shye turn me on in every way and i must say i been with skinny girls but omg bbw girl in bed are wicked heheheh | |
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Posted: 8/10/2008 8:02:06 PM | Wow this thread has had a lot of positive and negative posts. Here are my two cents worth:
I used to be morbidly obese, with no co-morbidities - meaning diabetes, heart issues, breathing, mobility, high blood pressure etc. I was very active and always on the go. I was however, very shy and I guess somewhat depressed. When I went out to clubs, I was covered from head to toe. I have always had an inactive thyrois (hypo-thyrodism), which means it slows down your metabolism. It got to the point that no matter the dosage of meds, nothing worked. I decided to take matters into my own hands and diet and exercise. Once I lost 50 lbs, bam my thyroid started to work. I am now down 130lbs, but my body just doesn't want to lose anymore weight. Not everyone is overweight because they chose to wake up one morning and say "hey, I want to be fat". Most times there are underlying factors that make a person how they are physically. Be it genetics, addiction to food, depression, health issues, etc.
I am healthy, happy and active. I have embraced the fact that I will never be a thin person and am now a plus size model. So, much for wearing clothes that cover me from head to toe. I say you don't like it don't look. I am who I am and that's it! I decided to show the world that plus size people can be seen as attractive, happy people, leading fulfilling lives.
Who are others to judge your preferences? Your preferences are just that YOURS! Tell them where to go and choose your mate based on your preference not that of your friends or society.
What I don't understand is why Obesity is the last socially acceptable predjudice?  | |
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| Teased for liking bbw's
Posted: 8/10/2008 10:48:02 PM | | Because it is gross. Unless you put a nipple on it, then it magically transforms a blob of fat into a shining beacon of sexiness. | |
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Posted: 8/11/2008 1:32:46 AM | It's not gross at all, BBW's are often very sexy! I'm not the best looking guy in the world, so I might feed the stereotype of guys that are interested in BBW's but honestly even if I looked like Brad Pitt I still wouldn't be interested in skinny women. Someone like Angela Jolie holds no appeal to me, even though she does have a pretty face.
I like women usually 170 pounds and up, there's something sexy about big thighs, curvy calves and a nice round butt. No disrespect to thin women, I'm thin myself, but personally I don't know what guys get excited about with a 110 pound woman who (usually) has little to no curves.
Anyway, its good there's a diversity of opinion, but frankly I'm sick of thin being shoved down my throat. I can't think of one hollywood actress that I would consider attractive, because they're all forced to starve themselves. Renee Zelwegger was starting to look good in Bridget Jones, but of course she had to turn into a skeleton for Chicago.
For a skinny man like myself its actually easier to find a skinny woman, those are the only types who ever have hit on me, but I have a strong preference and so I have had to wait for openminded women who don't care if they outweigh their man. Life can be difficult that way with all the various preferences and non-negotiables people have, but the most important thing is to have your own mind and live your life as you see fit. | |
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Posted: 8/25/2008 1:39:12 PM | | I find this forum question so interesting. I am not a BBW but I am certainly not skinny either. I have been turned down by some men because they thought I was not thin enough for them, It still hurts to be rejected at any age. I think that you should like anyone of your choosing and it doesn't matter what others think | |
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Posted: 8/25/2008 2:50:24 PM | | No. Inner beauty will always trump physical appearance. She may look great in her 20s and 30s but give it time. Beauty fades with age but an educated, virtuous, innerly beautiful woman endures. I'm sorry to hear you were teased but sounds like you are better off for it. | |
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Posted: 8/31/2008 12:58:34 PM | Well applepiesweettart.... who the hell would love you when you hate yourself and those around you????? Shut up, get a life.
I was anorexic, for a good 10 years and thought I was disgusting. I was but for being too thin. I started eating properly and bang, 80 lbs on in a year. My thyroid was screwed up, the end result is that my body stores.
Now, let me tell ya.... no way am I using that as an excuse to stay big. What I am saying is that I am better the way I am. I like my body, love what it can do. I don't care for thin men myself, or thin women for that matter.
What I do care about is being with someone who takes me as is. End of story. They need not be chubby chasers, they don't need to hate thin women to be with me. Only appreciation of what I am now is great for me.
I proudly put my photos up... I have nothing to hide. And for all the simpletons like Tyler Durden.... I see you DON'T have a photo up. That screams to me like you have something to hide. | |
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Posted: 9/6/2008 12:58:34 AM | | tall &large men ? large in which capacity? in answer to what term to use when referring to yourself, at 5'4" and 175 lb? fact is you're "heavy" | |
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Posted: 9/9/2008 9:27:44 PM | aww sweety..u should punch them out lol. ignore them what u like is ur own. dont let dumb people like that put u down
i always got made fun of for what i liked. after a wile i just put my head up and didnt care | |
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Posted: 9/9/2008 9:28:01 PM | I have to say I find this discussion very interesting. I am what most call a BBW, and I love it! I also find bbws very appealing. I used to get ridiculed for being a BBW, it hurt to think because of society and the way television has shown us, that all women should be rail thin in order to be attractive. SOOOOOOO NOT TRUE!!
Women are beautiful, big or small!! It is all in your attitude and the way you think. As everyone should be entitled to their own a opinions, but if your opinion steers towards judging someone because of their size, colour, ethnic background, or whatever, you should learn that old saying " THINK before you speak" and keep your opinions to yourself.
Hurting anyones feelings is just wrong!!! I have two kids and have taught them that everyone is the same skin deep, and it doesn't matter if someone is big or small or black or white, We all need love and to be loved, not to hurt someone's feelings. With this said I hope this might have helped a bit, and if not then I have said my opinion and I hope this reaches someone!!
"Treat Others As You Would Want To Be Treated"
~Popeyesolive~ | |
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