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Posted: 7/2/2008 7:13:42 PM | I have debated on if I am "a few extra lbs" or BBW. So I don't know what is actually more accurate for me to post. I don't feel that I am obese (which isn't a choice on POF.) "
Its really funny that you mention that, see I have the same problem too. I think the whole BBW term has to be more clearly defined.
If I go into regular stores , yes i can find clothing that will fit me (usually Large), but if I go into a plus size store none of the girls refuse to help me and majority of the time the smallest size is too big for me, so then im stuck because I am in the middle ! so I guess I coin the term VOLUPTUOUS to describe myself.
Nevertheless, I think and I am positive that regardless of what shape and size you are it is CONFIDENCE that sets you apart from others.  | |
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Posted: 7/6/2008 1:47:04 AM | What about us gals that like big men. What do you call big men? BBM? I have always loved a big man; I mean tall and large
I was 5' 6" and always trim until a back injury. Now I'm 175lbs and 5'4". I wear an extra large or a 1x in clothes. (You know how that varies) Some sites have stock answers to describe yourself and there is nothing between "a few extra pounds" and "heavy" Heavy just does not sound very feminine to me. What term should I use when referring to myself?
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Posted: 7/31/2008 12:12:09 AM | | Just my 2 cents worth here...I don't know where some of these men get the idea that women are willing to base their self- worth on what they think? I am sure that if you were a decent guy, honest, hard-working, fun, sensitive and genuinely great to be with I would overlook your receding hairline or (waxable) backhair issue...SURELY we are more significant than the sum of our parts in a full-length mirror - doesn't character count for SOMETHING? Dig a little deeper, people...please. | |
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Posted: 7/31/2008 12:48:41 AM | | People who tease usually do so from a point of weakness, attempting to attain a point of strength. Either agree with what they are saying, it's no fun for them if it doesn't bother you; or find their weakness and exploit it, they are far less likely to take a shot across your bow, if you return one into their forehead. I.E. "Yeah, and check it out, she speaks in full sentences." or "Yeah, I'd be concerned too if I had a 2 inch d1ck." Ok, ok, ok, I know it's juvenal; it just pi$$es me off when people are cruel for no reason. | |
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Posted: 7/31/2008 6:06:21 AM | I despise the term BBW. We are fat, heavy, overweight, what have you but fat is NOT beautiful. IF there had to be a phrase coined, then it could have been BW(big woman). If you need to have your looks validated, then how about OLFAFW (ok looking for a fat woman)
Voluptuous as in Marilyn Monroe's body is sexy. She was curvy, a little chunky, but she was healthy(aside from her drug addiction lol)
As a former normal looking woman who is now heavy, I can tell you that as much as I like myself, I liked me better 75 pounds ago!! I question all heavy women who say they are perfectly fine with how they look and are happy to stay that way.
As for the men who are commenting on how heavy women can dress inappropriately-I agree. We shouldn't be wearing hip huggers where our rolls of fat look like an undershirt and our tops are so tight that our flab is outlined and jiggling.
THere are specialty clothing stores where you can dress nicely, look pretty and sexy without having your fat hanging out on display. Yes, you can look sexy when you are heavy, you just can't dress like a size 7 would dress. Most of us have nice cleavage or legs-show that off.
As far as the dancing in a club or what have you. If you are fit enough to do the moves, then do them. I still exercise and can keep up on the dance floor. But we are no Shakira, my fellow fatties. You may be able to belly dance, but the vision of our pudge vs her abs is not going to present the same effect.
I have dated since I've gotten so heavy, but in the back of my mind I always wonder if there is something wrong with a guy who likes fat chicks. I know I know, it's supposed to be the person INSIDE that everyone should see, but sparkling personality and a quit wit isn't going to erase a jelly belly and bingo arms. (You know-the old ladies that raise their arms and yell BINGOOOOO as their underarms kind of flap in the breeze.)
Ladies, I'm not talking about those of you who are chubby or X-large. I'm talking about those of us who are plain old fat.
I am very attracted to chubby guys, or what I call"Fit Fat". Those overage athletes whose bellys have gone to pot and now they are husky he-men. But-they can still go camping or walking without wheezing and can keep up with me on all activity levels. I find it comforting and sexually pleasing as in my eyes men should have a little meat on them. | |
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Posted: 7/31/2008 6:16:08 AM | well i know how u feel bro i got that too from ppl
know i dont care i am 28 got me self a real sex kittin bbw shye turn me on in every way and i must say i been with skinny girls but omg bbw girl in bed are wicked heheheh | |
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Posted: 8/10/2008 8:02:06 PM | Wow this thread has had a lot of positive and negative posts. Here are my two cents worth:
I used to be morbidly obese, with no co-morbidities - meaning diabetes, heart issues, breathing, mobility, high blood pressure etc. I was very active and always on the go. I was however, very shy and I guess somewhat depressed. When I went out to clubs, I was covered from head to toe. I have always had an inactive thyrois (hypo-thyrodism), which means it slows down your metabolism. It got to the point that no matter the dosage of meds, nothing worked. I decided to take matters into my own hands and diet and exercise. Once I lost 50 lbs, bam my thyroid started to work. I am now down 130lbs, but my body just doesn't want to lose anymore weight. Not everyone is overweight because they chose to wake up one morning and say "hey, I want to be fat". Most times there are underlying factors that make a person how they are physically. Be it genetics, addiction to food, depression, health issues, etc.
I am healthy, happy and active. I have embraced the fact that I will never be a thin person and am now a plus size model. So, much for wearing clothes that cover me from head to toe. I say you don't like it don't look. I am who I am and that's it! I decided to show the world that plus size people can be seen as attractive, happy people, leading fulfilling lives.
Who are others to judge your preferences? Your preferences are just that YOURS! Tell them where to go and choose your mate based on your preference not that of your friends or society.
What I don't understand is why Obesity is the last socially acceptable predjudice?  | |
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Posted: 8/10/2008 10:48:02 PM | | Because it is gross. Unless you put a nipple on it, then it magically transforms a blob of fat into a shining beacon of sexiness. | |
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Posted: 8/11/2008 1:32:46 AM | It's not gross at all, BBW's are often very sexy! I'm not the best looking guy in the world, so I might feed the stereotype of guys that are interested in BBW's but honestly even if I looked like Brad Pitt I still wouldn't be interested in skinny women. Someone like Angela Jolie holds no appeal to me, even though she does have a pretty face.
I like women usually 170 pounds and up, there's something sexy about big thighs, curvy calves and a nice round butt. No disrespect to thin women, I'm thin myself, but personally I don't know what guys get excited about with a 110 pound woman who (usually) has little to no curves.
Anyway, its good there's a diversity of opinion, but frankly I'm sick of thin being shoved down my throat. I can't think of one hollywood actress that I would consider attractive, because they're all forced to starve themselves. Renee Zelwegger was starting to look good in Bridget Jones, but of course she had to turn into a skeleton for Chicago.
For a skinny man like myself its actually easier to find a skinny woman, those are the only types who ever have hit on me, but I have a strong preference and so I have had to wait for openminded women who don't care if they outweigh their man. Life can be difficult that way with all the various preferences and non-negotiables people have, but the most important thing is to have your own mind and live your life as you see fit. | |
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Posted: 8/25/2008 1:39:12 PM | | I find this forum question so interesting. I am not a BBW but I am certainly not skinny either. I have been turned down by some men because they thought I was not thin enough for them, It still hurts to be rejected at any age. I think that you should like anyone of your choosing and it doesn't matter what others think | |
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Posted: 8/25/2008 2:50:24 PM | | No. Inner beauty will always trump physical appearance. She may look great in her 20s and 30s but give it time. Beauty fades with age but an educated, virtuous, innerly beautiful woman endures. I'm sorry to hear you were teased but sounds like you are better off for it. | |
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Posted: 8/31/2008 12:58:34 PM | Well applepiesweettart.... who the hell would love you when you hate yourself and those around you????? Shut up, get a life.
I was anorexic, for a good 10 years and thought I was disgusting. I was but for being too thin. I started eating properly and bang, 80 lbs on in a year. My thyroid was screwed up, the end result is that my body stores.
Now, let me tell ya.... no way am I using that as an excuse to stay big. What I am saying is that I am better the way I am. I like my body, love what it can do. I don't care for thin men myself, or thin women for that matter.
What I do care about is being with someone who takes me as is. End of story. They need not be chubby chasers, they don't need to hate thin women to be with me. Only appreciation of what I am now is great for me.
I proudly put my photos up... I have nothing to hide. And for all the simpletons like Tyler Durden.... I see you DON'T have a photo up. That screams to me like you have something to hide. | |
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Posted: 9/6/2008 12:58:34 AM | | tall &large men ? large in which capacity? in answer to what term to use when referring to yourself, at 5'4" and 175 lb? fact is you're "heavy" | |
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Posted: 9/9/2008 9:27:44 PM | aww sweety..u should punch them out lol. ignore them what u like is ur own. dont let dumb people like that put u down
i always got made fun of for what i liked. after a wile i just put my head up and didnt care | |
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Posted: 9/9/2008 9:28:01 PM | I have to say I find this discussion very interesting. I am what most call a BBW, and I love it! I also find bbws very appealing. I used to get ridiculed for being a BBW, it hurt to think because of society and the way television has shown us, that all women should be rail thin in order to be attractive. SOOOOOOO NOT TRUE!!
Women are beautiful, big or small!! It is all in your attitude and the way you think. As everyone should be entitled to their own a opinions, but if your opinion steers towards judging someone because of their size, colour, ethnic background, or whatever, you should learn that old saying " THINK before you speak" and keep your opinions to yourself.
Hurting anyones feelings is just wrong!!! I have two kids and have taught them that everyone is the same skin deep, and it doesn't matter if someone is big or small or black or white, We all need love and to be loved, not to hurt someone's feelings. With this said I hope this might have helped a bit, and if not then I have said my opinion and I hope this reaches someone!!
"Treat Others As You Would Want To Be Treated"
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Posted: 9/10/2008 12:53:48 AM |
i've been an admirer of bbw's since i was a teenager, i love the fuller figured woman, soft female curves really do it for me. i've been teased about it off other men, and from women to, to the point that for a long time i wouldn't admit being attracted to larger ladies. now i'm 37 and no longer care what other people think, but i can understand why other men might not follow thier desires because of social pressure. have you ever experienced this yourself?
This is a social stigma for them being BBW, and for us that like them. Happens just about everywhere, except in Europe where they seem to be more open minded about a rubenesque figure.
I used to date the "skinny model" types, or "hotties", but they were just fluff...all of them. Just to clarify, all of them *I* was with...this doesn't necessarily mean I'm pointing at YOU (yea you, the skinny model type I just mentioned who's reading this...so relax). Once I grew up, and realized I could give a shit what anyone thought, I dated my first "bigger" girl. I haven't looked back yet.
Last several girlfriends, including my ex fiancee, were all "heavier" women. Did I get jibes for it? Not at all. Got a lot of jealous stares though, 'cause each managed to carry their weight in the sexiest way possible and for the most part were comfortable in their own skin. The only one that ever said anything negative about any one of them, and to my face no less, ended up with a blackened eye and a split lip.
I found that, not only are they more real and down to Earth, they aren't interested in fads and trends, and they are as low maintenance as can be. Add to that, that their sexual prowess was off the charts, and it's just like Heaven. I had my most satisfying relationships with the bigger ones.
My current SO is an ex model, but to be fair, we knew each other years ago and there was already chemistry to work with, so we're just gonna see how far that goes. She'll be my first non-curvy girl in almost 15 years. There's exceptions to every rule though, eh?
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Posted: 9/10/2008 7:47:53 AM | If you are happy with being who you are and what your preferances are, then who gives a crap what other people think. As far as being teased, well it might be time to find friends that are more mature.
And yes I'm a SBBW, and for the folks that don't like that description... well i have 3 words for you... "Suck It Up"  | |
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Posted: 9/11/2008 3:53:01 PM |
This is a social stigma for them being BBW, and for us that like them. Happens just about everywhere, except in Europe where they seem to be more open minded about a rubenesque figure.
True, but Rubens' figures weren't obese as is often the case here. My limited experience in Europe (mostly Italy but Russia and Latvia) is that the population is much trimmer than here. Last time I was in Italy, I was away from the tourist spots and went two weeks without seeing a person who was truly obese. Here, I can't go more than a few hours at most. There's a difference.
Still . . . you have to feel comfortable with yourself and your preferences and not let others stop you for stupid reasons. To each their own. If you like larger women, don't let anyone stop you. After all, you're getting what you want. Maybe they're jealous because they aren't. | |
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Posted: 9/11/2008 3:59:32 PM | I had to literally click on your profile arwen52 to be able to tell what gender you are. Now this is in NO WAY an insult, but I am ok with not looking like you. Just as it would seem that you have no desire to look like me. I like the fact you have a live and let live.
There is no question that I am female. And I like it like that. | |
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Posted: 9/11/2008 5:33:47 PM | | I think your taste in women is just fine, jujumonkey . . . . but maybe you should rethink your friends! | |
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Posted: 9/11/2008 9:21:11 PM | | There only hot when you can't get the normal ones and are so used to looking at there fat arses... | |
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Posted: 10/2/2008 5:11:54 PM | Why not? People are so SHALLOW-love people for who they are-no twigs in my tree!!  | |
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Posted: 10/2/2008 7:20:41 PM | Isn't it perception on what constitutes a BBW? I mean, is it weight, is it measurements? Because someone could be petite (under 5'4") and still be big/heavy. Petite is only for height actually. So really you could have a petite BBW. And what is the difference between plus sized and BBW?
I say like whatever you want. If you are happy, it shouldn't matter what others think. | |
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