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Posted: 1/3/2009 3:38:28 PM | I don't know what's attractive about being unhealthy. I AM GOING TO GET FLAMED FOR THIS. But, hey, women and men who are overweight, especially obese, OR underweight are unhealthy no matter how you slice it. I take pride in being healthy and doing my best to ensure I live a long, healthy life.
I think people who are over the weight they need to be to stay physically healthy just like to make excuses. "Big people are beautiful too!" Well, it's not even about that. It's about your HEALTH. Seriously, how many overweight elderly people do you see? | |
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Posted: 1/3/2009 3:59:12 PM | Becca what are you twelve. These forum are for people who have a genuine interest in something not a pre-teen who is bored with a lot of values that have never been tested in the real world. In 20 yeas maybe you should look at your weight and then reply to this thread. Or better yet get some experience out of high school and have valid opinions.
You are why some men are weird about dating their potential soul-mate, but who wants to be put down. It is about personality and a connection, not just appearances. But what would you know really. have fun at the prom! | |
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Posted: 1/3/2009 4:06:07 PM | Yes, because everyone 20 years older than me is fat! My goodness, strange how I've never noticed that before.
Never once did I say anything about appearances, by the way. I was talking about health. You are not healthy if you are over the approximate weight you need to be for your height and body frame. | |
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Posted: 1/3/2009 5:17:55 PM | There is no one that everyone would agree on as 'perfect'. There will always be someone that you think is prettier, smarter, thinner, curvier, sexier, more successful, etc. than you. Thing is, they might be thinking the same thoughts about YOU! 
The vast majority of people in this world are going to be someone's 'type'. They will also NOT be someone elses'. So why worry about it? We all rock!  | |
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Posted: 1/3/2009 5:39:48 PM |
Never once did I say anything about appearances, by the way. I was talking about health. You are not healthy if you are over the approximate weight you need to be for your height and body frame.
Rubbish.
My father was 6ft4 and was told, at one point, that he should be 12 1/2 stone. (sorry dont do pounds, there are 14lbs to a stone work it out lol). He reached that weight and was almost hospitalised. He had carbuncles on his legs, could barely stand and was chronically ill. When my Mum and my Grandmother insisted he needed to fatten up he stabilised at about 17 1/2 stone, passed fitness tests at the docs. He stayed that weight roughly for the rest of his life. He also walked everywhere and at weekends would walk about 4 or 5 miles a day.
Those height/weight charts are absolute crap and do not take into account build or age.
Im a bigger lass and although i have lost lots of weight i am still battling with it. I am not actually happier when i am thinner and i have been every size from an 8 to a 22 (UK sizes not US sizes) i just prefer the clothes i can get into when i am slimmer. | |
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Posted: 1/3/2009 5:40:28 PM | | Just because someone is thin or normal in appearance or by weight doesn't mean they are healthy. I had an ex who looked healthy on the outside, but had a family history of high blood pressure and a very close relative died from a stroke. Genetic issues with plaque in his arteries it is hereditary. | |
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Posted: 1/3/2009 5:50:55 PM | | If you like BBWs you will get LAID so much it's amazing. I saw a guy who put it right on his profile that he likes bbws and he had like 200 chicks favorite him. It was hilarious. Smart move, smart move. Because a lot of woman who think they're fat really are NOT fat, they are very beautiful. Putting this on your profile is a great way to get some serious hits. | |
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Posted: 1/3/2009 6:06:25 PM |
My father was 6ft4 and was told, at one point, that he should be 12 1/2 stone.
Wow, 175lbs for 6'4? That's ridiculous. Maybe if he had a very small frame, but other than that... ridiculous. Those charts aren't going to cater to every person's body, but the more accurate ones are a decent guideline. Also, I'm not really referring to people who are 20 or so pounds overweight. More so when a person is OBESE.
Just because someone is thin or normal in appearance or by weight doesn't mean they are healthy.
I'm aware of that. I didn't mean to imply that people who are a healthy weight are always healthy? HBP runs in my family too. And by being a healthy weight I am helping to prevent myself from getting it.
I don't see what being a healthy weight has to do with someone's relative dying from a stroke or a hereditary illness. People who are obese are just as likely to have family medical issues as those who are healthy. And by being obese, they aren't exactly upping their chances seeing as so many health problems are caused and/or amplified by obesity. | |
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Posted: 1/3/2009 8:55:37 PM | Hey Foxy! 12.5 stone is pretty thin for a 6'4" man! I'm glad he found the right balance for himself.
I gained weight from an endocrine condition that didn't show itself until a few years ago. I think that no matter your weight, it's taking care of yourself that counts. Do I wish I looked like I did a few years back? Sometimes. But honestly I am a healthier person now for recognizing what is going on with my body and making sure I'm taking care of it! And I think I look pretty good to be honest!:)
Like I said before, there's so many factors involved and so many preferences out there. Be good to yourself, take care of yourself, and don't take for granted all of the good in you! | |
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Posted: 1/3/2009 9:00:21 PM | Becca,
I am a larger woman and am in great health. I have a lower cholesterol level and blood pressure than women of "normal" or "healthy" size as you deemed them. It runs in my family to run on the overweight side. Plus I had a child and a string of abusive relaationships. While I may not be able to run the NYC marathon or anything, I can generally hold my own. Being unhealthy and being overweight do not necessarily go hand in hand. You might want to get your facts straight before you go running off at the fingers and/or mouth. | |
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Posted: 1/3/2009 9:54:20 PM |
I am a larger woman and am in great health. I have a lower cholesterol level and blood pressure than women of "normal" or "healthy" size as you deemed them. It runs in my family to run on the overweight side. Plus I had a child and a string of abusive relaationships. While I may not be able to run the NYC marathon or anything, I can generally hold my own. Being unhealthy and being overweight do not necessarily go hand in hand. You might want to get your facts straight before you go running off at the fingers and/or mouth.
You can say you're in "great health" until you're blue in the face but that doesn't change the fact that obesity increases your chances of getting/having:
- Type 2 (adult-onset) diabetes
- High blood pressure (hypertension)
- Stroke (cerebrovascular accident or CVA)
- Heart attack (myocardial infarction or MI)
- Heart failure (congestive heart failure)
- Cancer (certain forms such as cancer of the prostate and cancer of the colon and rectum)
- Gallstones and gall bladder disease (cholecystitis)
- Gout and gouty arthritis
- Osteoarthritis (degenerative arthritis) of the knees, hips, and the lower back
- Sleep apnea (failure to breath normally during sleep, lowering blood oxygen)
- Pickwickian syndrome (obesity, red face, underventilation, and drowsiness).
Try to find a doctor out there who says obesity won't cause these problems. You might not see them now, but you're still pretty young.
I also fail to see how your past "abusive relationships" contribute to your weight problem. | |
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Posted: 1/3/2009 10:22:45 PM | So getting back to the OP's actual question:
i've been an admirer of bbw's since i was a teenager, i love the fuller figured woman, soft female curves really do it for me. i've been teased about it off other men, and from women to, to the point that for a long time i wouldn't admit being attracted to larger ladies. now i'm 37 and no longer care what other people think, but i can understand why other men might not follow thier desires because of social pressure. have you ever experienced this yourself?
I asked an ex of mine if he minded that I was 'bigger than him' when we were together ( I was about a size 16, not what I'd call BBW), and he said that he didn't mind at all, and his roomie said he wished he had a 'looker' like me. (Dude if you're reading this I hope you don't mind )
Simply put, if other men aren't following their desires because of social pressure, they're missing out on what they want. Alternately, no one has ever teased me about not dating a built, ripped, romance novel cover guy. | |
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Posted: 1/4/2009 2:34:28 AM | I'm not a BBW (or a man) but I tend to find them sexy. Many of the Goddesses in mythology were larger girls. There was a time when being thicker was a sign of higher social status. I think attitude has a lot to do with it. If a woman is well groomed and comfortable in her own skin, she will drip with sex appeal no matter what her size. And there's nothing more feminine and inviting than lush full breasts, but I think they look out of place super skinny girls.
Besides that, OP has the opportunity to meet some spectacular princesses that others might miss out on because of their shallowness. Rock on! | |
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Posted: 1/4/2009 3:46:26 AM | | more then anything else , i find myself attracted to beautiful women, there with good body images ,women that feel beautiful,size, shape does not play into this, many very thin women obsess over a few pounds gained, or stech marks, women, its you who are beautiful | |
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Posted: 1/4/2009 6:37:53 AM | BBW lover, chubby chaser, guy who likes big girls...call it all what you will! Rhetoric is a necessary evil in the online dating scene. Because you cannot "size" someone up like you can when meeting them in real life, we need terminology to best fit our description. We try to create gentle rhetoric to make it more accepting...
Whatever the case may be, I am thankful for these men who find beauty in all sizes. Because it IS harder to meet someone when you're big.
What I *bane* is when people tell me: "Oh, but you have such a pretty face, why don't you lose weight?" Inside (never actually aloud), I always think: "Oh, but you have such an ugly personality, why don't you go for psychotherapy?"
Sorry, I realized there were numerous tangential BBW rants here...to get to the point: If you like them, love them, forget the rest! | |
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Posted: 1/4/2009 7:01:43 AM | | I like to hear that people like BBW's as I am one and have been looking for new relations for a while now and have had no luck. | |
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Posted: 1/4/2009 7:28:59 AM | | McLovin, I know what you are saying is true, on the off chance I get a request for an IM conversation, I know it's somebody that is looking for an easy piece. Most of them are married, and not getting any at home, and want a friend with benefits, but you know that the benefits are the most important part of the deal for them, and the friendship will be non existant once they get what they came for. I usually ask them which is more important, finding a lover or a friend. I have yet to have one tell me they want to pursue a friendship and see about being lovers, most try the "I want both" approach, big CYA. They want to get laid and are counting on the BBW to have such low self esteem that she will give in, because of course the friendship will follow. I'm not faulting the guys, they are just being guys and it took me a long time to figure out that screwing somebody doesn't mean they love you, or will fall in love with you, it just means that you had sex. I decided it feels better to say no and keep a little self respect than to give in and give it up. | |
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Posted: 1/4/2009 5:39:14 PM | I love how plus sized women are deemed desperate for sex and attention. Another stereotype. Society is really clueless.
I guess only skinny girls are worthy of actually being loved. The rest of us are being used. Makes me wonder if men actually love any women, being as sex-crazed as they are being depicted here. | |
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Posted: 1/4/2009 6:03:08 PM | Well, if I develop prostate cancer, I will definately be a medical marvel, since women don't have prostates. As for cancer, I could be a stick thin size 2 and I would have the same chance of getting cancer. I am in a high risk group for a multitude of cancers since my grandparents (all 4 of them) all had cancer... my maternal grandmother had brest, lung, liver and brain cancer when she died.
Apparently some people think they are medical experts. I am nearly 30 years old and I have no characteristics for any of the health concerns listed. As for gall stones and gbd, a 120 lb woman who eats an unhealthy diet is more apt to develop gall bladder issues. I eat a pretty healthy diet and perform moderate amounts of exercise.
I have arthritis in my knees, but not from being overweight, it is from 15 years of repetetive up and down motions as a catcher (get your minds out of the gutter guys) and a genetic predisposition to it.
As for abusive relationships contributing, it wasn't until recently that I realized that I am worthy of the effort it takes to lose weight. Mental and physical abuse can play hell on a woman's self worth and self esteem making her feel like she doesn't deserve to be happy, pretty, (fill in the blank).
So, now that all of your "theories" have been shot to hell, what are you gonna say next? Why don't you take your ignorant theories elsewhere since your post didn't even stick to the OP of the thread. | |
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Posted: 1/4/2009 6:55:40 PM | I think that people should follow their hearts and date who they are attracted to. I could really give a rat's ass what anyone thinks. I have dated all sorts of men.
The point is this: Don't date someone just BECAUSE they are a BBW or whatever. Date them because you're attracted to them and like them. I am constantly turned off by comments like: BBWs are better in bed (true in my case LOL...but a gross generalization). BBWs are more appreciative (bullshit!). BBWs are happier (you should see me with PMS...LOL). The list goes on and on. Any generalization about any group of people is wrong.
I thank the lord that men are attracted to me....but I doubt very seriously that it's because I'm a BBW. I like to think it's because I exude sexuality   | |
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Posted: 1/4/2009 11:42:59 PM | I've never been desperate for sex although I do love it. There are a lot of men out there that genuinly love us BBWs. We never have to settle for less than what we want and it's a very good thing as I'm not the setteling type.
As far as the health issue goes, unless you are asking for a family medical history of everyone you meet, you aren't concerned about health as someone with a genetic predisposition to hereditary diseases who is of a normal weight is more likely to develop a health problem than a BBW without the predisposition. That's just a convenient reason people use. The real deal is that if you are attracted to someone, go for it. If you aren't, don't. No need to justify anything more than the attraction is or isn't there. | |
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Posted: 1/5/2009 11:48:45 AM | I myself am plus sized and have met very very few men who actually really liked me. I am proportioned okay but still "big". Social pressure is harder on bbw women bc we are already feeling bad enough but if our man is getting pressure because of the way we look it makes us feel worse. Kudos to you for not giving a d a m n about what others think. More men need to stand up and be just that, a man.
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Posted: 1/5/2009 12:27:19 PM | | OP, if I liked bigger women, I wouldn't give a damn about what other people thought about it. Follow your heart and do what makes YOU happy. Screw the people that can't handle it. What business is it of their's? | |
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Posted: 1/9/2009 1:39:17 AM | | I agree with Luv 100%!! Whom you date is YOUR buisness NOT theres. If they dont like whom you date F them!! If they're your true friends, they shouldn't tease you about it in the 1st place at least not in my eyes. | |
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