| Teased for liking bbw's
Posted: 6/7/2009 9:26:48 PM | | well, as a plus sized girl i know it's hard for people to admit that they like larger girls. i think we all need to say the hell with the world's cookie cutter impression of what a woman should look like...real women have curves and they know how to use them. | |
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| Teased for liking bbw's
Posted: 6/7/2009 9:55:20 PM | | I love my body. I have huge ass and hips but I find them very attractive. I think any guy who thinks that my ass is hot is worth my time. | |
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| Teased for liking bbw's
Posted: 6/9/2009 5:47:32 AM | lol, that's like the first thing i noticed about u (hope u read this) | |
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Posted: 6/9/2009 6:21:45 AM | OP...I think the reason you're being teased is because, basically, many men are complete idiots. Let me explain.
First off, there are cultures where a very large rear and hips are considered extremely important and attractive on a woman. So important that the women when going out to dances and such will engage in the behavior of padding their clothing in order to make their hips and asses look very large. In THIS culture, it is considered the most aspired trait in women.
In another culture, they are told that a long slender neck is what is most feminine. It makes a woman look more regal and therefore more desirable...so women wear rings in order to stretch their necks...to a maximum of 32 rings. The damage this does to her spine and shoulders is huge.
Then you have our culture...one in which the less space a woman can take up, the better, and that starved looking emaciated girls are more beautiful because we are an overfed, oversaturated culture. Larger women take up too much space, do not appear vulnerable and threaten the size of the men (something they just can't handle) not to mention makes their penises look even smaller than they already are.
So...as long as an image of a woman makes her appear VULNERABLE (think footbinding in china where her mobility is destroyed and home is where she'll stay) our western culture just loves it. You see, we still live in an unevolved state where men have a hard time with women who aren't defined by men's standards.
So, to make those men happy, women in our western culture go out and get plastic boobs, liposuction and every other imaginable body alteration in order to procure their desire.
I say get a man like the OP and ditch the rest of 'em. While I advocate for health and fitness, people need to grasp that you can be of a larger mass and still be more fit than a pencil thin woman. This doesn't seem to be getting through to many. What many aren't noticing is that women are having to alter their health in order to please men. Ridiculous. They'd f*ck a post if given the right texture.
Anyway, I like when BBW threads come up. While I'm not a BBW, it still helps me weed out the men I don't want anything to do with...thanks for that!
And I've seen many gorgeous big girls. I guess I have a different lens on. | |
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Posted: 6/9/2009 9:45:49 AM | Well , I am a larger girl myself and i know for fact that theres nothing wrong with me .
We have feelings just like those skinnier girls that the people teased you like ,
I myself am very opposite , I have a thing for skinnier guys but at the same time it can be difficult because you get scared to sit on his lap in fear of crushing him .
We all have our interests that are hard to face . I'm currently faceing one where i cant talk to my friends about as well . I am sure like in your case it wont bother me as much later . | |
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Posted: 6/10/2009 1:46:22 PM | Women go through this as well... though maybe not to the same extent men do. I don't really deserve to be shallow, but I admit I have my moments. Many years ago, I wouldn't have dated anyone that was not what I considered "hot" and who did not impress the heck outta my friends. They tended to be inconsiderate jerks that coasted through life on their looks (before I get bashed... no, not every super hot guy is a jerk, only the ones who take me out - heh). A few years ago I was asked out by a guy that was sooo the opposite, he was balding, and heavy-set... but super funny, and seemed sweet. He wasn't really my "type" at all, though I did feel an attraction to him. Honestly, it DID cross my mind that I might be embarrassed to introduce him to friends and family (I know, I know... shallow), but thought "what the heck, it's just one night... who knows?" Well, that night turned into several months of being together, and those friends I was worried about... adored him.
A bonus to this sweetheart of a man... he was the absolute best lover I have. ever. had. Bar none. He once told me he had realized awhile ago that looks weren't gonna do it for him, so he practiced up in other areas. lol. He knew just where everything was and what to do... It's been awhile, but even now when I see a balding, heavyset man, I get a little quiver in my belly thinking of him.
So the point of my long-winded story... I realized, partially from this experience, and partially from age and the wisdom it tends to bring... Go with what works for you, and to hell with what anyone else thinks. If we were all attracted to the same people, what a boring and lonely world we would live in. | |
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Posted: 6/10/2009 2:29:06 PM |
Then you have our culture...one in which the less space a woman can take up, the better, and that starved looking emaciated girls are more beautiful because we are an overfed, oversaturated culture.
No one thinks starved, emaciated girls are attractive, except more maybe European fashion designers. People think women with figures are attractive, as in, you can tell where her hips end and her waist begins.
Larger women take up too much space, do not appear vulnerable and threaten the size of the men (something they just can't handle) not to mention makes their penises look even smaller than they already are.
You sound really bitter. | |
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Posted: 6/11/2009 2:07:35 AM | | I live in our of the most backwards and intolerent parts of my country and I never got treaed for liking big girls. Well not since I was in primary school. Probably because I admit it and make no apologies for it. | |
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Posted: 7/16/2009 11:11:33 PM | Yea, I've kind of been there before myself too. My friends used to tease me and say that I'd go after anything in a skirt. After I found out about Scottish bagpipe players and kelts, that is no longer true. LOL!
Ed | |
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Posted: 7/17/2009 1:15:37 PM | You know, I would choose a woman 15-20 # heavier than the ideal body weight if all else is equal. Some women are just super sexy regardless of weight. As a young man I dated women of all body shapes. I never really cared what others thought of my dates.
MG | |
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Posted: 7/17/2009 1:25:29 PM |
Plus sized women are beautiful.
Not all of them. And that goes for every size of women.
I am a chubby chaser. But I do not care for the BBW term. I know it's just to make yourself feel better. But the term is to damn generic.
Phil | |
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| Teased for liking bbw's
Posted: 7/17/2009 3:08:04 PM | Ok. I know it sounds like a childish answer...but big girls are the bomb!
Love 'em! | |
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Posted: 7/18/2009 12:09:47 AM | Hmmm
Well I am a big girl..I never try and hide that..I've always told a guy exactly how much I weigh because I hate being lied too..so why lie to someone else..I understand not all guys are attracted to my body type..thats life..but I don't hate them for it..I just don't think they need to call me names and assume my lifestyle according to my weight! I'm not attracted to men of color..does that make me racist? no I am friends with black guys..indian guys..no big deal..I just don't find them attractive in the sense I would date them..Everyone is entitled to their prefrences..but as for being called names..I say F$ck em! I mean honestly I don't care what others think..so why should the guy I am dating..I refuse to date a guy who will "sleep" with a big girl..but walk ten steps a ahead of them in public..if he can't hold my hand and be proud..then get the F*ck out!
Just my two cents.. | |
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Posted: 7/18/2009 12:31:46 AM | OP- I think it's great that you are coming out of your hiding and admiting that you like BBW women.
why should it be you who has to change? why can't societies values change instead? you deserve to be loved for the person you are
Juju, you hit the nail on the head. Society paints a picture of a woman being sexy by appearance. Media feeds us that millions of times a day, and people are unable to comprehend the power of the media. It's rather sickening.
Sexy is attitude I'm not fluffy, I'm thick- I am sexy, because I am confident in who I am, where I am going, and what I want... and no man that says to me,"Karen you have such a beautiful face, you should lose a few pounds" is worth my time. I should be accepted for who I am. PERIOD. If a man is not attracted to me, that's fine, because I love who I am. | |
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Posted: 7/18/2009 2:15:53 AM | I used to have a size self prejudice. The best thing I ever did was go on a plus sized website. I found out that lots of guys dig my bod which encouraged me to go on a public site like this. I always thought that I was pretty secure and that I had rockin self esteem but I had to face the fact that I had lost some of my great confidence.
Also, once I found out that I am old enough to be Orlando Bloom’s mother that was kind of a knife to the gut—it’s not that I’m into younger guys, but I didn’t remember getting older. So though I feel sexy walking along I was subconsciously feeling too old and too fat to attract anything but maybe a tiny section of men.
On POF lots of buff, built gorgeous young bucks have emailed me with a compliment—okay not “lots” but I’m telling ya, you guys that not only dig the curvy girls but tell them so ROCK. | |
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Posted: 7/18/2009 5:03:22 AM | | Who cares what other people think? You love who you love and are attracted to who you are attracted to. I have a straight laced friend who is marrying a girl that has tattoos all over her body and piercings all over her face. Yes, I was taken off guard when I met her, but he loves her and I'm happy for them. | |
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| Teased for liking bbw's
Posted: 7/18/2009 5:05:16 AM | | I love BBWs, but some guys have teased me about it. I like the larger ladies, call me a chubby chaser if you want, as long as I get to catch one, lol | |
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Posted: 7/18/2009 6:40:16 AM |
But I do not care for the BBW term. I know it's just to make yourself feel better.
Many of us don’t either, I doubt very seriously that it was even a big woman who coined that term. However, on POF the only two options are “a few extra pounds” (which for some of us would be considered lying) or the Big & Tall/BBW option. It isn’t even separate, it’s lumped together both men and women, how does that make us “feel better”?
Average is even more generic, I can’t even count the number of guys I have seen use “average” and look as if they are about to give birth to triplets.
I was teased in my youth when I was considered “skinny” and my HS sweetheart looked like John Candy’s younger brother. He was and pretty much still is one of the greatest guys I have ever known. No one could believe we were dating, many thought his family must have had money or something. I didn't care what anybody said, he treated me great. I have always found it ironic since I am heavier those "big bear" types of guys rarely ask me for dates. | |
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Posted: 7/18/2009 3:23:00 PM | We all have to admit that we see the physical first though and get to know the person after. I am a big girl and I dont expect to be every guys type, but I know there are guys out there who I am right for. | |
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Posted: 7/18/2009 3:28:47 PM | Awww anyone who likes big women is fine. I asked this one guy HOW? Because he liked REALLY big women. Not how do you like them but how do you have sex. He said the first 50 000 miles where just figuring it out lol.
But seriously, he was a sexy man and we couldn't get together because I am too small, so there are some men who really hold a candle for you ladies. I am happy about that. | |
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Posted: 7/18/2009 3:30:05 PM | Don't assume other men's desires are driven by social pressure. I like what I like because I like it.
As far as BBW is concerned, the term is often used by women who want to lose weight but cannot (close family members included) who are putting confident foot forward.
That's fine, but don't then turn it around on people who are of "normal" weight to assume they are slaves to the media. | |
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Posted: 7/18/2009 7:11:39 PM |
Well I am a big girl..I never try and hide that..I've always told a guy exactly how much I weigh because I hate being lied too..so why lie to someone else..I understand not all guys are attracted to my body type..thats life..but I don't hate them for it..I just don't think they need to call me names and assume my lifestyle according to my weight! I'm not attracted to men of color..does that make me racist? no I am friends with black guys..indian guys..no big deal..I just don't find them attractive in the sense I would date them..Everyone is entitled to their prefrences..but as for being called names..I say F$ck em! I mean honestly I don't care what others think..so why should the guy I am dating..I refuse to date a guy who will "sleep" with a big girl..but walk ten steps a ahead of them in public..if he can't hold my hand and be proud..then get the F*ck out!
Girl, me and you are on the same exact page, you rock!! | |
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Posted: 7/18/2009 8:07:04 PM | | I'm an admirer too, don't feel bad and any bbws who wanna exchange pics msg me. | |
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Posted: 7/18/2009 8:19:53 PM | Guys who messaged me seem to be in the "closet" secret admirers of BBW
Because a lot of guys who i talk to even admit it, which is a shame because the guys who have admitted that there "closet" secret admirers, they will never have a girlfriend whom is plus size, but it is more than okay to them just to have a sexual relationship only where no one see's.
Which is very frustrating and angers me cause it makes me feel like guys are embarrassed to be seen with me on there arm or even in there company
And in some ways degrating to me as a human being
And im a very confident, nice girl, and i have no problem with my curvy juicyness :P
I think more people should be out in the open of liking BBW cause its nothing to be ashamed of in my opinion
Guys who are open about being in a relationship with a BBW should be proud and when and where can i find one in my area?? lol | |
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