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Posted: 1/15/2008 3:25:31 PM | Christine, I've experience all those type of things myself. The term Chubby Chaser is one I find particularly obnoxious. I've also had the extreme opposite things happen. I spent over a year (at my current size) in the gym every week day sweating on the elliptical and building muscle. I lost a whopping 10 lbs but I was very fit. I actually had a couple of ladies stop me and tell me what an inspiration I was for them. So, even when the jerks get to you, just being out in the gym provides an inspiration for others who might be intimidated.
As far as showing cleavage, well you've heard the old "flaunt it if ya got it!"  | |
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Posted: 1/15/2008 3:39:33 PM | I so agree with the Oposter who pointed out that until recent decades (driven by the standards of fashion designers, no more comment on that ....) an attractive female body was usually a "much fuller" one! IMO, it is not a matter of body height and weight, bur of how one carries them. along with personality! That is why a full body photo is always more revealing how attractive a person is than measurements of height and weight. As per "pressure", social or from friends, well, one can please himself via his/her choices or please their friends. Obviously, the former is the healthy goal!
Objectification? Oh pleez! See the works of famous painters or the scupltures (female and male) in Ancient Greece, etc. (Greeks counted a combination of body and mind). | |
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Posted: 1/15/2008 3:50:18 PM | I was watching a new show the other night and was amazed when they put this woman's body up on a building in New York and they asked men and women what they thought about the photo. There wasn't one person that said she was fat. Men commented on her nice wrack and curves... women said "She's a real woman this IS what real women look like"
Like I mentioned earlier, there is a huge difference between being curvy and being a BBW / obese. Many men would date a woman that is curvy or a few pounds overweight, but aren't attracted to extremely overweight women.
I bet you have never gone to a gym and participated in a aerobics class and have someone say "Oh my God, your so fat your making me want to hurl" TRUE STORY....or had a someone hit on you in a bar...though you did not invite him/her and them have you insult you because of your weight, or go to a restaurant and order a dessert and have someone at the next table come over, protectively put their hand on your shoulder and go "I don't really think you need to order that dessert, do you?"
Fat people aren't the only people that are picked on. People can be picked on for many different reasons. Their race, religion, income, height, hairstyle, sexual orientation, lifestyle among other things.
There are always lots of thinner people online in here, who just cannot wait to insult someone larger. Too bad stupidity, ignorance or intolerence were not something we could see in a photo.
There are also some fat people who are rude to thin people. Saying that all thin people are rude, shallow, ignorant, self-centered, high maintenance, bony, Barbie Dolls, b-tches or jerks etc. I have seen plenty of examples of this on the POF forums and in "real life". It works both ways. | |
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Posted: 1/15/2008 3:55:43 PM | I used to like tiny chicks... but I kept breaking them.
One of the movies I quite enjoyed over the summer was Hairspray. Great movie about tolerance. The heroine wears a bigger dress size than most, but gets the hot guy at the end. Of course, she was also very fit; what does she do for work? Dance. What's her hobby? Dancing. The girl could probably kick down a steel fire door.
Are there negative connotations to Plump? When I free associate plump, I come up with juicy. Plump and juicy women? 
If I wanted to take up bulimia as a hobby, I'd score me some pictures of Nicole Ritchie, Mary Kate Olsen and Kiera Knightly at their scrawniest. That would either make me projectile vomit or talk me out of developing an eating disorder.
When it comes to sex and dating, when you first decide you're going to talk to someone for the purpose of forming a relationship with them, it's because you find them attractive. Being Politically Correct is all well and good, but it has no business in the dating world. Initial attraction is all about what you see, hear and smell. Of course we objectify the object of our desire, this is only a problem if you aren't also interested in getting to know them. | |
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Posted: 1/15/2008 4:11:41 PM | | Each to their own man!!! I am so sick to death of hearing this kinda shit like people saying that bbws dont have personalites like some one said it was good to ride or some rubbish like that!!!! | |
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Posted: 1/15/2008 4:15:20 PM | Forumwanderer, I was having a good time with this (still am actually) and you suddenly sound bitter. Yep, my breasts sag. They would if I was 100+ lbs lighter too. Regardless of size, I haven't had less then a D cup since puberty and gravity works!
It's fine that you see nothing beautiful about obesity as you put it. I don't see anything beautiful about really thin men or women. Just doesn't do it for me. Give me a man that can easily lift me any day of the week (I date three of them). That's more my style along with women with decent hips and a full bottom.
We all have our own standards of beauty and that's cool because it means there is someone out there for all of us. I don't get why people react negativly because someone else doesn't meet their standards of beauty. If it doesn't do it for you personally, just pass on by. No need for comments, for negative thoughts or behaviour patterns ect.... Add all of that to the fact that physical beauty can be gone at the drop of a hat and be with someone who appreciates you as a whole, fat thin short tall scarwny or muscular. We may be attracted to a physical type but what keeps each of us together is far beyond that. | |
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Posted: 1/15/2008 4:37:00 PM | Boring Schlump you have taken jujumonkeys words and mixed them up to make out he's got something against BBW in other words you'v put 2 and 2 together and got 6 i mean come on read th title of the thread PLEASE!! i myself am a curvy girl and thats the way i like my women to look theres nothing sexier than a curvy woman thats why god created curvs so we could enjoy them whats the point in being a woman when you have the figure of a 12 year old boy ITS NOT FUNNY OR HOT YOU JUST LOOK ILL!!  | |
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Posted: 1/15/2008 4:45:54 PM |
whats the point in being a woman when you have the figure of a 12 year old boy ITS NOT FUNNY OR HOT YOU JUST LOOK ILL!!
Just being devils advocate here, you are doing exactly the same thing to thin people as people do to curvy/BBW people!! I think there are many women who are very attractive when very thin but I also think it is a preference! Please don't pool yourself in with the rest of the people who bash people on their looks! Be proud of who you are like who you like voice your likes and dislikes but don't make it personal by making them feel bad many women who are really thin have a VERY hard time putting on weight and are just as self conscious as bigger women about their appearance!!!! | |
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Posted: 1/15/2008 4:59:53 PM | | ^^^ maybe...but thin women who struggle with being underweight are certainly less judged by society than their heavier counterparts. look at runway models, paris hilton, most of hollywood...they show ribs and vertebrae and it's called sexy. how many plus sized women are idolized in that way? whether or not a thin girl is inwardly insecure, the degree of social acceptance or rejection is quite different from what a bigger girl is confronted with. for the thin girl, it's in her head...for a bigger girl, those insecurities are fed and reinforced by sources both inside and out. | |
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Posted: 1/15/2008 5:59:27 PM | | Whats the difference between saying you are attracted to BBW's and saying you have a fat fetish (other than the activity one can do like another poster stated) and if you are going to say you have a fat fetish, how is this any different than any other fetish? Enjoy what you like, and sorry your getting teased....but come enojoy BBW's this way!! | |
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Posted: 1/15/2008 6:17:27 PM | | I didn't know that the middle 'b' stood for bountiful (had the words a bit mixed up) but I did get the main idea. So tell me, what's the difference, really, between being BBW and Plus Size? | |
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Posted: 1/15/2008 6:23:12 PM | I think its great that you wrote what you did; it shows alot of character on your part; and I would think you'd get a lot of popular responses from the ladies as well!
I think in part youre getting teased because its become such a social standard that men want thin/in shape women-- look at all the profiles on here that say, "sorry no fat women need apply- just interested in women who are athletic/inshape"... and hey thats there perogative, but unfortunately it further perpetuates the thin is beauty myth.
For me as an attractive tall but plump woman, I have noticed that I find it hard to accept a man would appreciate a larger body as anything more than a fetish-- even though I have had good sucess as far as finding long term lovers, I cant help but run myself down assuming that well I'm they still didnt marry me, etc... because only thin woman are any good.
Still... I do realize that rubenesque women were all the rage and not too long ago either. The main thing is that you're healthy-- thats what matters most. A big gal, if she's active and takes care of herself, and eats healthy can still live a long life. | |
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Posted: 1/15/2008 6:28:13 PM | | There is no difference between BBW and Plus Size...One sounds a little nicer. Sort of like the petite section, instead of tiny people...LOL | |
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Posted: 1/15/2008 7:01:33 PM | | Pssssh! Of course men might not follow their desires because of social pressure. If a 37 year old guy said that he liked and only dated 19 year olds. Imagine the out roar. I mean 19 year olds are perfectly legal but now we have the women tearing him to bits instead of applauding him. | |
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Posted: 1/15/2008 7:09:08 PM | I'm a fat girl......er, woman......and a senior at that!!! 
regardless of what you desire, be true to yourself and **** them that tell you otherwise! LOL | |
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Posted: 1/15/2008 7:19:43 PM | maybe...but thin women who struggle with being underweight are certainly less judged by society than their heavier counterparts. look at runway models, paris hilton, most of hollywood...they show ribs and vertebrae and it's called sexy. how many plus sized women are idolized in that way?
Some media outlets consider very thin women to be attractive. However I think most men in general aren't attracted to women who are bony. For example at my previous job, there was a woman who was bony and a woman who was obese. Many men ( and some women ) made some rude comments about both of them. Women who are bony are stereotyped just like obese women. | |
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Posted: 1/15/2008 7:34:20 PM | | Now you all have me wondering......is it possible that I missed out on something really wonderful by overlooking the more larger women back when I was dating???? Oh well, don't tell me.....kinda late for me now. | |
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Posted: 1/15/2008 7:53:22 PM | Garnet73
Yep that movie rocked!! Im not skinny by any means, but Im able to spend a day being active, I work all day, sometimes 20 hours a day , I was able to do three 10 hours days in a row at disney. Im not able to run a marathon (but how many people are??) I think its one thing to be someone that is over weight and sit at home doing nothing, but its another when the person has an active lifestyle.
I dont expect people to like me only because Im not skinny, but it would be nice if someone could look past my weight and get to know me before making a judgment on me as a person :) I really wanna be liked for the person I am, not what I look like. | |
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Posted: 1/15/2008 7:56:44 PM | I'm surprised this would be an issue for normal adults. I know plenty of men who are attracted to larger women (either specifically or they date good-looking women of varying shapes and sizes), and I've never heard them teased about it. The closest I've witnessed are a couple of friends who go weak in the knees for large-breasted women (of any body size), and they've been the brunt of some good-natured kidding about it. But, really, they don't mind - they're quite upfront about their appreciation.
Off topic: I knew this thread would degenerate into insults from both sides as soon as I saw the title. So far, it's been mostly against thin women and men who aren't attracted to larger women, but I'm sure all shapes and sizes will be abused before it's inevitably deleted.
My two cents: thin women don't "look like 12-year-old boys" any more than thin men look like 12-year-old girls. They are as much "real women" and "real men" as average and large people. The only time people (both men and women) start to lose the APPEARANCE of their particular gender is when they hit the extreme, dangerous levels of medically underweight and morbidly obese. That's when, to my eye, they become rather asexual. An anorexic woman looks the same as an anorexic man. Neither look like a "boy" or "girl." Same applies to the morbidly obese. Anything in between just looks like a thin/average/plump/large woman or man. | |
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Posted: 1/15/2008 8:02:23 PM | It's very neat when people like larger ladies.
I know I do.
I have a few pounds I could stand to lose, which I wouldn't unless my health was at risk, but people still like me and I loveee larger women.
The more to love.
Soft supple curves and gorgeous large thighs.
That's my kind of woman.
I also like larger men. :)
They're pretty delicious too.
It would be nice if people could see beyond the outer layer.
Openmindness is nothing to be ashamed of! | |
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Posted: 1/15/2008 9:29:00 PM | | To forum wanderer stop whining since you are thin and dont have a rack to show. I bet you have not got those im messages from men that think because you are BBW and divorced so you must be desperate enough to have sex with them.Also i dont post any pics that show the clevage. | |
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Posted: 1/15/2008 9:36:05 PM | I've been teased for being with a woman who wasn't model thin... (but wasn't really huge either.. just had some curves on her) ...but the funny part is, the guy that used to give me flack about it ended up with a model chick who cheated on him a few times for a big huge guy (not huge with muscles... more like a sasquach gut)... On top of that, he's still with her and she isn't exactly thin anymore now that she had his kid.
What goes around comes around. | |
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Posted: 1/15/2008 9:55:25 PM | I'm glad to have a place to post this ... Maya Angelou is a wonderfully insightful woman, who wrote this about the joy of being a confident women, no matter what your size. It's not being prideful, it's having pride in ones self, no matter what. It's knowing who you are inside, not relying on what you are on the outside. I hope we, women and men understand this.
Beauty fades, and when it does you are left with, you ... What you are inside, which is far more important. We should all take pride in what we are... Size not withstanding.
Enjoy!
PHENOMENAL WOMAN
by Maya Angelou
Pretty women wonder where my secret lies
I'm not cute or built to suit a model's fashion size
But when I start to tell them
They think I'm telling lies.
I say
It's in the reach of my arms
The span of my hips
The stride of my steps
The curl of my lips.
I'm a woman
Phenomenally
Phenomenal woman
That's me.
I walk into a room
Just as cool as you please
And to a man
The fellows stand or
Fall down on their knees
Then they swarm around me
A hive of honey bees.
I say
It's the fire in my eyes
And the flash of my teeth
The swing of my waist
And the joy in my feet.
I'm a woman
Phenomenally
Phenomenal woman
That's me.
Men themselves have wondered
What they see in me
They try so much
But they can't touch
My inner mystery.
When I try to show them
They say they still can't see.
I say
It's in the arch of my back
The sun of my smile
The ride of my breasts
The grace of my style.
I'm a woman
Phenomenally
Phenomenal woman
That's me.
Now you understand
Just why my head's not bowed
I don't shout or jump about
Or have to talk real loud
When you see me passing
It ought to make you proud.
I say
It's in the click of my heels
The bend of my hair
The palm of my hand
The need for my care.
'Cause I'm a woman
Phenomenally
Phenomenal woman
That's me. | |
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Posted: 1/16/2008 1:24:58 AM | To Forum wanderer......sounds like someones jealous.... sorry i have curves that drive men wild..... If your so perfect ,why are you wandering forums... .no one want perfection .........honey,ever heard the term if you got it flaunt it . You must have nothing to flaunt , but your bag of bullshit.................get a life ...... | |
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