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| Fiance says Party to get it out of your system You have 16 days.
Posted: 1/16/2008 2:02:25 PM |
In your opinion if your (she) fiance said to (male)you I am going on vacation with my parents for 2 1/2 weeks and I can see that you are still itching to "play the field" before we walk down the isle (in less than a year)......and they said to you ....you have two weeks to get it out of your system before I get back, I don't care what you do as long as you are careful...... how would you react? Would you jump at the opportunity to party? Or would you think twice about it and wonder if it is a test of your loyalty to her?
If i had to hesitate & second-guess weather or not i had to 'party' before marriage, i would call off the wedding.
15 days to party and thats it?..... it would sound like a warning to begin with and i'd be suspicious from the moment that was said.
I'd like to think that whole "sew your wild oats" mode would have been completely out of my system a while before i proposed to her. | |
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| Fiance says Party to get it out of your system You have 16 days.
Posted: 1/16/2008 2:08:41 PM | | Hmmm..RED FLAG..It sounds like she (in around about way) is giving him an open door to play; so she doesn't feel guilty about cheating on him while she is away. Is the place where her family is going a regular a vacation spot for them? | |
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| Fiance says Party to get it out of your system You have 16 days.
Posted: 1/16/2008 2:15:50 PM | | I've heard of this before. have their spouse one last chance to "sew those oats" so that there are no excuses when they are married. Very risky, and tricky as well. Normally, it would scream to the high heavens of a trap. But then again, who knows these days. | |
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| Fiance says Party to get it out of your system You have 16 days.
Posted: 1/16/2008 2:47:07 PM | each to their own
who knows
to me it would insult me for MY finace to say that to me
to even INSINUATE that i would be untrue while engaged says more about the PERSON SAYIN IT
goose n gander thing
u know that u gotta know that
they say it as THEY intend FULLY INTEND to live it up in any unmoralistic way they can
kathi | |
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| Fiance says Party to get it out of your system You have 16 days.
Posted: 1/16/2008 2:57:37 PM | All the way around it just doesn't sound right. I'm in the agreeance with the other posters who think she is giving HERSELF permission to sow her wild oats. It sounds like taking a break from each other, not just scratching an itch. If he does and she doesn't, I bet he'll never hear the end of it, but if she does and he doesn't, in her mind she gave him permission so she naturally has permission, too. The best case scenerio is they both do, realize they shouldn't get married, and move on. The worst case is neither does but one of them still feels the freedom to do whatever, whenever, even after an ill-advised marriage.
Either way, it's a no win situation.
It's like a past co-worker of mine, who is bi, and had a three-some with another co-worker and her hubby. The wife went out of town, and the bi woman asked if she could take the other woman's hubby out to a club. The wife said sure, and she didn't think to say, but you can't get intimate without me there. You can guess what happened...end of friendship, and almost end of marriage. She gave her permission once while they were all together, and to the other parties involved, that meant an open invitation to share.
I'll never understand some people's way of thinking. | |
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