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cazar
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b0unc3
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| Are Men Intimidated by Confident Women???
Posted: 5/25/2005 2:37:36 AM | not me anyway....Confidence together with a sense of humor..guided by sensitivity for others beliefs/feelings is a killer combination...
very few people posess it
looked at your profile curly all I can say is if I did not live half way around the world Id definitely drop you a line. | |
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| Are Men Intimidated by Confident Women???
Posted: 5/25/2005 5:06:53 AM | There is a huge differnce between assertive and agressive. I see it in my office all the time. Assertive women are self confident, but don't run steamroll over men. Assertive women can still get their point across without hurting anyone's feelings, and without being rude, or nasty. Assertive women have the right mix of standing up for themselves and respecting others opinions.
Agressive women are just completely ugly to be around. | |
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| Are Men Intimidated by Confident Women???
Posted: 5/25/2005 8:50:14 AM | | I am not assertive or aggressive..am actually quiet and shy....but men are intimidated by the muscle and because I am seriously fit. As far as I can tell...men are intimidated by EVERYTHING!! | |
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elle j
| | Joined: 5/14/2005
Msg: 32 | |
| Are Men Intimidated by Confident Women???
Posted: 5/25/2005 10:37:39 AM | I grew up being dragged all over the country due to my father's occupation (non-military) I became quite comfortable with who I am. I make aquaintances easily, but hold few close to me as 'real' friends. I am condident and self sufficient. Like anyone else, I would like to find someone to be with, but I also, will not tolerate being someone's doormat. I speak my mind while trying to be mindful of other's feelings. The fact that I am OK with spending much of my time alone seems to perplex many men. Like I have heard from others in this thread, it's the insecure men I have trouble with. I am told somethings 'wrong' with me when I don't vie for their constant attention. In their need to feel needed, they become resentful that I don't really need to be with them. I 'choose' to be in their company, I certainly don't 'need' to be there. If a man is confident in himself they don't seem to have a problem with it. I don't cling nor do I like to be clung too.
I think when someone chooses to strike out by calling someone a b*tch or man hater or whatever label society likes to give strong, confident women, it's a way of trying to bring us to their level where they feel better about themselves. It seems to be easier to dole out the criticisms than it is to pay a compliment.
Conversely, the same can be said for men. They also have to deal with their share of lables from other men as well as women when they don't conform to what is perceived as societies norm. | |
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| Are Men Intimidated by Confident Women???
Posted: 5/25/2005 10:56:08 AM | | I am turned on by confident women. It's just not impressive to me when their confidence compromises their self respect and their respect for others. | |
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bean01
| | Joined: 4/20/2005
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| Are Men Intimidated by Confident Women???
Posted: 5/25/2005 11:00:31 AM | | I can totally relate curlz! I have been called intimidating a lot lately. I laugh about it because I don't see it at all. I am someone who is open about everything, will answer any question, will give my opinion if asked, can speak on several topics and will call people on their shit when they try to pull it but never with the intention of being ****y and I'm not pushy or overbearing. I know what I like and what I don't and I thought men were tired of trying to read a woman's mind anyway...with me there is never any doubt where you stand or how I feel. If that's intimidating, then I guess I am and I'll happily wear the hat, the button and the t-shirt that says so. | |
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| Are Men Intimidated by Confident Women???
Posted: 5/25/2005 11:16:29 AM | Agrees with Bean01 Tell it like it is dont be shy about it and ok sometimes a hint is missed... so be sexy like bean and show me who you really are I like that alot! | |
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| Are Men Intimidated by Confident Women???
Posted: 5/27/2005 1:04:36 PM | Well it depends on which context it's in really... on one hand, a good confident woman would be one who is independent of her family, how about a woman who's not a total mama's girl for once? It seems like any time a girl is like on a total short leash and obeys every beck and call of her mother is considered fine and dandy whereas it's globally accepted that a guy that's that badly mama-whipped is totally without a backbone... I'd like a woman who can stick up for herself without having to depend on her mother all the time, it's equally unsexy to me to see a *girl* (not worthy of being called a woman really) who has to ask her parents permission for everything... grow a spine please! You don't hafta be a dominatrix, just be a woman!
As far as a woman's place with a man, it's not about a man wanting to control a woman or anything, it's just about simple gender roles... I know that many women tend to feel better being in a role where their man is protecting of them and makes them feel safe, but the same applies in reverse! We guys like to feel like we are YOUR MAN, ya know? The guy that protects you, the guy that looks out for you, the hero for the damsel in distress and all that, it makes us feel more manly being able to stick up for you and stuff and take control of situations that you can't handle, the good-feeling of filling a gender role goes both ways! If a woman is so strong-willed and so independent and confident in herself that she's on equal or higher ground than her man, then what's our role? To just stand there and nod in agreement with everything that's said? Gee, fun, enthralling, exciting... not. | |
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~KC~
| | Joined: 5/10/2005
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| Are Men Intimidated by Confident Women???
Posted: 5/27/2005 2:06:31 PM | Loverboy24.. so what your saying is that you want a confident woman that won't emasculate you??
True confidence empowers a person.. and as long as one doesn't abuse it.. then both parties will greatly benefit. | |
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| Are Men Intimidated by Confident Women???
Posted: 5/27/2005 2:21:07 PM | I am ONLY interested in intelligent,confident,spiritual women who have a zest for life. This combination seems to be often stated by many but is rare to find in action.I think action speak volumes.I know of women who consider themeslves confident but can't go 3-4 mo without being in sometype of "relationship"THAT to me is an action that shows a neediness and lack of confidence.Usually those types are in a series of dysfunctional relationships and always ask why.Another example of those who say 1 thing and have actions that tell another story is those who seem paranoid or overly concerned about what others are "saying" about her. | |
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| Are Men Intimidated by Confident Women???
Posted: 5/27/2005 2:52:02 PM | "Intimidated" What is up with that word?!?
It does not apply here! If her profile featured pictures of a person wieldind a bloody dagger, then it would make sense to assume that people are not contacting this person because they are intimidated by em.
However, when somebodies profile shows obviose signs that they are say....... easily offended, quick to take the offensive, and are just all around an unplesant person to be around, that does not mean that they are intimidated, it means that they are not interested in spending any period of time with them. | |
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| Are Men Intimidated by Confident Women???
Posted: 5/27/2005 2:57:57 PM | Hi elle j,
I agree with your post 100%
I too grew up all over the U.S., so I guess all those places and people help build confidence.
Also what makes a woman doubley intimidating on top of her confidence, is if she is externally and internally beautiful. Add intelligence and you've got a person others don't feel they measure up to. Hence the other persons confidence falls and they don't give the person a chance. Either that or they become extremely jealous, and you havn't done a thing.
I wouldn't want to be any other kind of person then the one I am. Doesn't matter what label I'm given.
Hugs to all
windover | |
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| Are Men Intimidated by Confident Women???
Posted: 7/14/2005 11:15:33 PM | Let's see if I got this right..
The premise statement is a **question** asking men's **opinions** about such and such, right?
Yet the way the thread is unfolding is kind of a psychological exercise in which a subset of folks who have, by implication, noted that something about their personalities clash with the male set.
So what is happening is not a solicitation of our opinions, but a way of lecturing us how to properly think. Or more specifically, to think politically correct.
Rigghtttttt.
Framing the issue as "strong, intelligent" versus "meek" or "allows others to walk all over them," and menfolk who don't see it that way are "intimidated?"
First off, there is a difference between confidence or self assurance and just being a b!tch.
If you have to go through such verbal gymnastics to frame it that way, I figure you folks already know something is up and have already admitted, to some extent, of being b!tches.
Frankly, that's type of character flaw is as unpleasant as stale bodyodor and about as much fun to be around.
Intimidation doesn't have jack to do with it.
B!tches suck, and not in a nice way.
Confident, pleasant girls are confident but not ready to scratch you eyes out.
There's a difference in there. | |
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| Are Men Intimidated by Confident Women???
Posted: 7/15/2005 2:04:24 AM | | confidence is attractive, being a **** is moreso about telling someone off that doesn't deserve it, or berating someone just because the way they look or act, very shallow and unattractive, but being happy and confident with who you are and where you're going in life, that's hot lol | |
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| Are Men Intimidated by Confident Women???
Posted: 7/15/2005 3:23:50 AM | There is an extremely fine line between being very confident, and being militant. That line can be thinner or thicker depending on the enlightenment of the man perceiving it. I believe that confidence is a MUST...but being confident and being "in yo' face!" are often confused.
Sure, stand up for your loved ones, stand up for yourself, but don't jump all over every guy that tries to make a pass at you or one of your friends.
I must say that the instability that comes with weak and unsure women is a lot scarier. You never know when they might go over the deep end, or have a nervous breakdown because their ceasar salad has parmesan cheese on it.
Stay strong, but not overbearing. | |
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| Are Men Intimidated by Confident Women???
Posted: 10/14/2010 11:21:11 AM | Whoa, this is a blast from the past.
Anyways, confidence is an excellent thing to have, as long as you're not being overbearing about it like the other poster mentioned. | |
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| Are Men Intimidated by Confident Women???
Posted: 10/14/2010 11:36:26 AM | These threads are annoying, like the "nice guy" ones.
"I'm too independent and smart, men don't want me and are intimidated by me." Bull sheeyot, sorry, that's not it. Find what else drives men away and focus on that. A guy in his right mind wants intelligent and independent, it's simply an excuse for "guys don't want me" just like the "nice guy" says he's too nice and girls only like a-holes... | |
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| Are Men Intimidated by Confident Women???
Posted: 10/14/2010 12:46:50 PM | a "confident" woman- isnt' that akin to an "arrogant" man?
its someone trying to "convince" those around them of their superiority when in fact they are just insecure as the next person. its a facade they are hiding behind.
women can and in many times are very successful- but what I have seen is the idea of "confidence" they have attempted to portray often times is on the teedering edge of being a "b.tch" | |
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| Are Men Intimidated by Confident Women???
Posted: 10/14/2010 3:58:10 PM |
So tell me.. if you read a profile that exudes confidence... or even meet a woman in person who does.. does that deter you from asking her out? Are you intimidated by confident women
Confidence doesn't scare me. im just repelled by the ones who act like they are confident but really are just plain ol' arrogant.
Also "confidence" isn't enough to keep someone around if they lack in a lot of other areas.
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| Are Men Intimidated by Confident Women???
Posted: 10/14/2010 4:38:30 PM | | when i would read a profile that was free of cliches, and spent as much time talking about what she brought to a relationship as what she wanted out, i would figure that was a confident woman. | |
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| Are Men Intimidated by Confident Women???
Posted: 10/14/2010 7:48:21 PM | Hasn't this topic been done to death? I'm surprised they let it live.
One can be confident in one area and not in another. I consider myself generally confident but get a kick out of going to a customer and telling them that I don't have the slightest clue what's wrong! I could care less, what they think of me. That in a way is the ultimate confidence. AND, usually in the end, I can find and fix the problem. There are so many bullsheit artists around it seems! Which brings me back to this thread. REAL confidence is usually welcome by most. Some, self proclaimed BS is not! | |
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