Rhett1
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Posted: 1/20/2008 8:01:51 AM | How is it worse that he initiated it? It's just as bad that you know he has a girlfriend and went for it, anyway.
What "help" are you looking for?
Dump him.
There, problem solved.
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Posted: 1/20/2008 8:10:39 AM |
I know this is gonna sound terrible. But I am sleeping with someone in college, who has a girlfriend. Who I really like.
Whats worse is he initiated it. And I know I have feelings for him too ... but I know I should call it off.
Can anyone help me?
You know it sounds terrible.
You know you are sleeping with someone.
You know someone has a girlfriend.
You know he initiated it.
You know you have feelings for him.
You know you should call it off.
You know you want someone to help you.
For someone who knows so much, why do you need help ?
Seems you have everything YOU want. | |
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Posted: 1/20/2008 9:42:43 AM | | I always find it fascinating that some women find a man more desirable when he's hitched. Otherwise, if he was with nobody, he's overlooked. That's truly focked up. | |
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Posted: 1/20/2008 9:50:46 AM | Kudos to horneschwoggle!!!
You said it right. And the same for the men that find attached women more interesting.
Drama is meant for soap operas and movies. Not in our personal lives. | |
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Posted: 1/20/2008 10:02:21 AM | always find it fascinating that some women find a man more desirable when he's hitched. Otherwise, if he was with nobody, he's overlooked. That's truly focked up.
Yeah - it is fvcked up! The thing is - it really isn't so fascinating as it is nasty. I knew 2 local women who Only went after married men! Why? Because they're much easier to blackmail! seriously! One of these women spent almost a year "grooming" her last victim! Even went as far as (somewhat) befriending the wife before she went for the jugular. When she started her 'home wrecking' career, she took them for 'small ticket' items, toasters, microwaves, dvd players, tv's etc. This last one was like a promotion to her - he bought her a car!!! She used his love for his children as one of her manipulations - ie: "You wouldn't want me to have to tell your wife and your boys.. would you?" How do I know? - This one in particular was actually Proud of her behaviour!! AND blamed the wife for not taking care of her Duties to her husband!
We weren't "Friends" for long. I can't be 'friends' with anyone who can be that low, dishonest and hurtful.
I wonder if karma has visited either of these women .. yet.
It is wrong to Cheat and it is just as wrong to go after someone who has a SIGNIFICANT other. Nasty. | |
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Posted: 1/20/2008 10:07:56 AM |
you could always get his gf in on it and encourage him to embrace polygamy
Polyamoury would be better, then the girls could have other boyfriends too! | |
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Posted: 1/20/2008 10:28:38 AM | congratulations.... you have won the short term attention of a jacka$$....
even if he ends up with you... you have nothing... but hey... anyone that would get into a relationship with someone knowingly involved with someone else... really doesn't deserve much... women like you are who make it hard for others who are not willing to be second...
grow up... and leave the taken men alone... he couldn't initiate anything without your participation... YOU are to blame.. NO is the word you should have used.... | |
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Posted: 1/20/2008 11:27:55 AM | it does sound terrible!! there are so many guys out there who dont even have 1 girl to sleep with! he has 2!
hes a cheater, and you like him?!
you and him are hurting someonelses feelings very deeply....i think if you guys arent in love youre not headed anywhere....and even if you are he is still cheating, even if he stays with you and leaves her, he will probably cheat on you later on.
honestly i hope you fall in love head over heels one day, and then find out later hes slepping with someonelse exacly at the same time your looking for his valantines present....maybe youll get the picture then!!
i bet all the sex feels good, but its just completly wrong.....when you can so easily fix it, seeing all the alternatives you have out there! | |
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Posted: 1/20/2008 11:49:53 AM |
I'm the other women
ALL of them? LOL the word is "woman".. and you aren't one yet. A woman has integrity.
Quit being a fool and find your own damn guy, sheesh, there's enough of them out there. You are young and attractive... shouldn't be that much of a problem. Unless..... you are avoiding committment because you like men who are "unavailable", or your self-esteem is so low you need to prove to yourslf that you can "beat" the competition. Really, take a look at WHY you have put yourself in this situation...and then look at WHY you felt a need to look for advice and/or validation on a public forum.
Do you think you will EVER be trusted again? Do you believe that some guy will leave his wife or girlfriend for you? Sorry honey, but I've seen it too many times... and even if he DID leave his girl for you... who is he going to leave YOU for? You are "convenient"... that's all.
Sorry, but I don't believe in feeding stupidity, or coddling dumb@sses, I'm not being mean.. I'm just hoping you will wake up before some guy uses you and throws you away, or some woman kicks the crap out of you.
Good luck | |
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Posted: 1/20/2008 12:16:15 PM | "Can anyone help me? "
I know I can't help you for more than one reason
1) you live too far away
2) you are too young for me, but it wouldn't matter if you weren't
3) I wouldn't get involved with someone that does something intentionally that they know is wrong
4) I wouldn't initiate anything with you so I could get accused of making it "worse"
Some people may excuse or attribute what you are doing because of your age. I don't care what age you are, if you know its wrong then you shouldn't do it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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Posted: 1/20/2008 12:19:00 PM | | Vote winner- Lindyloo on this one honey, god forbid it ever happens to you. x | |
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Posted: 1/20/2008 12:23:20 PM | Why on earth would you want to be with someone that you know cheats on his gf? What, you think that you might make him yours and then he wont cheat on you? Please dont be so naive!
He is already sleeping with two girls...how do you know he isnt sleeeping with more?
You need to find some self respect. | |
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Posted: 1/20/2008 1:41:28 PM | Hmm,we all need a FB at least once in our lifetime..I guess this is your turn.If you can`t handle it then you should get out now before you get hurt.As far as his gf,this is his problem .
You are only 18 and you will live and learn,so don`t take all the replies to heart.None of us are innocent!! | |
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Posted: 1/20/2008 3:14:56 PM | It is not as terrible as you think... there are many girls like you. myself being one of them. I met this girl a short time ago prolly about 7 months ago (an old friend of the family who is 3 months younger than me) we saw eachother when we were about a year old the family took a few baby pics of us and then boom gone and 20 years later that girl moved to wisconsin where I am from and she was married.... well it turns out that I really started to like this guy. we ended up havein alot in common we smoked together, made eachother laugh like no one else could i mean it was perfect but I didn't say anything and I never would have because this girl and I had become like best friends because the three of us were all hanging out all the time! well anyways he started helping my dad with his pony ride buiseness so he had to come and stay with us for 3 weeks and my parents said there wasn't enough room and they needed a mans help more than girl and I had already been there 4 a few weeks and then he came in and I had already been fighting with my head and my heart and then he kissed me in a hay barn and said I know how you feel about me and then I asked what he was talking about and I guess it was a lil more obvious than I thought. i thought I was doing a good job at hiding my secret thoughts but it was like he could read my mind adnt thenI kissed him and said I never would have said anything but he told me he was sick of not saying anything. and at that point my head lost the battle and then for the next 3 weeks we just planned out our lives and as bad as I felt about what I was doing he was just so perfect and at the end of the 3 weeks he told me that they were moving back to kansas and he asked me if I would go to and here I am in mathattan kansas I left all of friends, family, job ect so we could have the life that we had talked about those 3 weeks and now that I am here it is not going the way we had planned at all it is really feel like he is havein his cake and eating it to.... after 5 months of being with him it is falling apart because I am not strong enough to do it anymore he tells me that if he wasn't married he would be all mine but it is a longer process because of the divorce he keeps saying he is going 2 get. its alot harder than I thought it would be but I do love him.... I have to watch her hug, kiss, cuddle and watch a movie ect.when ever she wants but me I have to wait till she leaves the room to give him a quick hug and kiss or when she is at work. but the man and I also work together so on our way to work we get our mushyness out of the way... but I can't live like this anymore so now I am on the look out 4 someone that will just be mine it hurts pretty bad but after his birthday of feb 1st I am going to tell him that it is over. I won't ever regret it cuz we had alot of fun but it might leave a mark but I am hoping that I can find a sweet guy and then this other guy can just be my really good friend again and then his wife can go back to being best friends again I know that things won't ever be the same but I am going to move on and try to make things go back as much as I can. take my story how ever you would like to but I hope it helps you in some way and if you would like to send me a msg go ahead good luck !!!  | |
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Posted: 1/20/2008 3:33:21 PM | ANOTHER ONE !!!
and now that I am here it is not going the way we had planned
at all it is really feel like he is havein his cake and eating it to....
after 5 months of being with him it is falling apart because I am not strong enough to do it anymore
he tells me that if he wasn't married he would be all mine
but it is a longer process because of the divorce he keeps saying he is going 2 get.
Good thing you can come to POF. not
By the way, it IS NOT the way """"WE"""" planned it... it is going exactly how HE planned it though. LOL LOL LOL
Some people plan their lives, like their decisions were decided by a committee.
"""WE""" did not plan anything, but you had dreams that just went sour, like lousy plans always do.
Good people do it !
Bad people talk about doing it.
HE will NEVER get a divorce for you. It isn't worth the trouble or expense.
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Posted: 1/20/2008 4:07:56 PM | ..you're just like someone i dated that cheated, what goes around cums around!! get ready!  | |
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Posted: 1/20/2008 6:42:09 PM | So after reading your post the situation is this. Its not your fault that you're a cheat, its not your fault that you want to steal your friends bloke, he's the bad guy, aha hah.
Real story you're both no good. You're both cheats. The only difference is that you've come here hoping for sympathy and to be cleansed of your sins as they say.
Hopefully one day when you've found someone this will all happen to you. | |
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Msg: 95 | |
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Posted: 2/23/2008 2:59:12 AM | | Why call it off? He likes you, you like him...at least you are honest! I bet 3/4 or more of the people condemning you have done the same thing. Most marriages end in divorce...do you think they happen to be faithful till the end...not likely! Live life and enjoy...you are young and in lust. Yeah!!! :-) | |
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Posted: 2/23/2008 3:08:07 AM | CALL IT OFF IT!
The shoe will soon be on the other foot .
Its a disgrace to womenhood ! | |
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Posted: 2/23/2008 3:29:18 AM | Well, just stop it?
Young people do things no adult would even consider doing. Yes, you are still 'young' - that doesn't stop until twenty five and thats biological - has to do with brain development and all. Don't beat yourself up too much over it, but just think - if he cheats on her, he will cheat on you, too. At least that has been my experience - loyalty comes with wisdom comes with age, and for some it just never comes at all. | |
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Posted: 2/23/2008 3:45:30 AM | | I have no sympathy for anyone who cheats or who sleeps with someone who is in a relationship whether it be a relationship or marriage. Cheaters lack any morals and basically describes what kind of person they are. Losers | |
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Posted: 2/23/2008 4:27:59 AM |
And I know I have feelings for him too .....What makes you think he has feelings for you? He is still with his g/f isn't he (well when he's not with you).
Sorry OP you should be ashamed of yourself. When he initiated 'it' the correct thing to do would have A. Declined his invitation. B. Have a quiet word in his g/f's ear.
Put the shoe on the other foot. How would you like to be betrayed by the one who supposedly loves you?
This is the lowest of the low.....don't be so naive and go find yourself a SINGLE man. | |
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Posted: 2/23/2008 4:45:53 AM | | < ---- single man . has not GOT a woman or had a GF in over 10 years . from wisconsin . yeah it's cold and we do have snow BUT , snow , men slip on snow .easy to catch . cold , men want to cuddle with you to keep warm . | |
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