| I'm the other women
Posted: 2/23/2008 6:40:08 AM | It does say lots about your personality, storm18. But, unless you just get off on the "thrill" of being the other woman (having no integrity and being deceptive), why don't you just go ahead and tell the other girl, so she can decide if she wants to continue dating the idiot or not? If not, you can have him for however long it lasts...
Maybe someday you will grow up and understand why it is wrong to sleep with another woman's man ... especially if/when it is YOU that is being cheated on. | |
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| I'm the other women
Posted: 2/23/2008 6:54:03 AM | | People this age change boyfriends or girlfriends as often as we change our socks. It's probably not even an issue anymore because they've probably both gone on to other people by now. The others are right, OP - have some self-respect. Rise above being some liar's playtoy. | |
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| I'm the other women
Posted: 2/23/2008 8:36:01 AM | | I think at 18/college this happens a lot. It's not a time in your life to take any relationship too seriously. You are in collge to study! (Damn, I sound like my Mother) Exclusive is for adults. | |
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| I'm the other women
Posted: 2/23/2008 8:46:12 AM | what made you agree in the first place??? that was silly anyway....so if you know what your doing is wrong why you asking us??? feelings or not yes call it off and tell him ditch his women and get his sh*t sorted out before calling you again...and besides why would you waste your time with this guy since hes just using you...and even if he ditches his woman and supposedly wants only you...well he cheated on her with you for however long..what makes you think he won't do it to you when your with him?? | |
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| I'm the other women
Posted: 2/23/2008 9:06:28 AM | Don't get mad but I have to say it.
Your enjoying this.....its a rush for you. Forbidden Fruit.
I say this because you know it's wrong yet you can't stop. I'll ask you, you can't stop or you won't stop? There's a big difference. | |
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Joined: 2/11/2008
Msg: 106 | |
| I'm the other women
Posted: 2/23/2008 3:22:19 PM | "the other woman" I agree with the above 100%... I had to live with one of those type of people for a long time for the greater good. I have learned that these type of people could have bigger past/mental issues, they are not moral/good people although they will believe and tell you diffrent.
Sooner or later these people will mess with the wrong persons partner and it will come back to them 10fold. They don't seem to think of this while they are getting a rush from doing another persons partner.
other woman have you heard, what goes around comes around. | |
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| I'm the other women
Posted: 2/23/2008 3:30:47 PM | You will pay a price for this for the rest of your life....
that price is never being able to trust, every person i know who has cheated, believes that everyone cheats and when they get a new partner they ruin their relationships because they simply do not believe that people will be faithful so they search thru belongings and they look for 'evidence'.
The new partner gets fed up with being accused and questioned and not believed, eventually they do wander or they leave....
what a shame you have bought this upon yourself
what a bigger shame that you will create this lack of trust in the girlfriend
what a shame that the men who do go on to fall in love with you will suffer because of your lack of morals
you have a lot to be ashamed about. | |
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| I'm the other women
Posted: 2/23/2008 5:10:18 PM |
I know this is gonna sound terrible. But I am sleeping with someone in college, who has a girlfriend. Who I really like.
Whats worse is he initiated it. And I know I have feelings for him too ... but I know I should call it off.
Can anyone help me?
you must realize that your feelings of attraction to a male are just responses that you are unable to control
through evolution, girls were designed to wait for men to approach them and then they are submissive to alpha males who know how to use attitude and thoughts (words are just an expression of a thought) to control women
no girl will outright tell a guy (even if he is ugly) to screw off if he says hi, tell me your name, and he tries to be her friend. then if the guy just acts alpha she will feel attracted to him.
most girls are like that. some are different, i know, im just saying most girls are like that. your feelings of attraction are not a choice, they are a response. you are attracted to certain men because your genes tell you to be attracted to those men. the same way men are attracted to a certain figure because their genes tell them to be. attraction is a response, not a choice
if you want to get past your own genetic limitations, just get out of your comfort zone. tell the next cute guy you see "hey, whats your name, cool, do ya wana smoke some weed and get drunk with me this friday? just pick me up and take me to your room...boy... and buy the vodka"
trust me once you get a little high, things should go well from there. then when new guy bangs you because you are drunk and easy, your feelings for this other guy should start to go away | |
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| I'm the other women
Posted: 2/23/2008 10:11:04 PM | I think you not only tell the other young lady but you should tell every female you know. This will create the reputation that he wants the guys to know about but also serve as a warning to all the other young ladys!
This is immature on both your parts but only you can do something mature and save the other ladys your problem.
You know your a woman when you handle lifes problems in an adult way. | |
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| I'm the other women
Posted: 2/23/2008 10:27:45 PM | | Let's face it. You're disgusting. You sleep with a man who has a girlfriend, you don't feel sorry for her? You don't feel guilty? You're only thinkin of yourself. He's just as selfish as u, even more so, in fact, because he is a shameless liar and a cheater. If you are with him, he will cheat on you too, and what's ironic? You deserve it. So, stop. Learn to feel compassion for other people. That girl he's with is one sad, unlucky woman to be betrayed like this. | |
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| I'm the other women
Posted: 2/24/2008 1:51:03 AM | | That's O.K. honey. I'm sleeping with her and I know that she doesn't feel ANY guilt at all. Don't beat your self up, you already know the answer little "grasshopper". | |
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| I'm the other women
Posted: 2/24/2008 2:06:12 AM | Much as I couldn't do what you have done, my sentiments are also to focus on your studies first and foremost. Live, laugh, play, but value your friends over a man any day of the week. Men come and go like clouds, in this age group they just aren't people you should put before your friends and a drama free life. Its probably a given you have Herpes by now, get that HPV vaccination (around $400 in Australia I believe).
Doing silly things and regretting them, is something probably every poster on here has done sometime. Our values are what we inherit from our parents, I tend to agree exclusivity is expected more for older age groups and those who are more responsible about their health. At 18 you are feeling nothing can infect you, or bring you down, life is for the moment. Adults here with life experience have overwhelmingly shown how they feel. The only one to support you as having done similar is in your own age group. That says something, this scenario is a product of defining personal values, something that the teenage years are meant to be about. Move on, but don't kick yourself in the head, just vow to be more discerning and caring about yourself and others in the future.
Interestingly if it was a male sowing his oats and bragging about doing two girls who know each other, there would be some boys laughing about it. But real MEN have values and so do real WOMEN. Assume all of your college boys are cheating at this age if they are "initiating things" and are popular, how you really feel about that is up to you. I would also suggest that few of the older posters have experienced college life and really understand what passes for "normal" during that time....! | |
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| I'm the other women
Posted: 2/24/2008 3:20:15 AM | Like most threads here there are opposing view points.....no problem with that....opinions are like noses....everybody has one....
The problem here is that I think you aren't really looking for anyone's advice here, you are just looking for consent, which you know you will find from at least a few people on this forum.
So, here is just one more opinion that you won't listen to because it is telling you to do something you don't want to do.....
Stop . What you are doing is wrong. It degrades this man (although it is obvious he doesn't care), it degrades his girlfriend (imagine how she will feel when she finds out...sadly, she will likely be married to him by then) and it degrades you (you will always know you were second place...not the "real" girlfriend, just someone to be used for sex.)
Would love to hear what you decided to do...but I think I already know.......... | |
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| I'm the other women
Posted: 2/24/2008 4:21:19 AM |
I think you're both scum sorry.
CC don't be sorry - you're right. Unfortunately, there's a 'little' scum in every pond. What I do 'like' is that they seem eager to identify themselves, thereby sparing the rest of us their "ahem" company
There should be a site just for cheaters, husbands whos wives don't understand them, wives whos husbands don't treat them right ... people who seem drawn to marrieds and/or taken folks .. They really should have their own site...
"Springers Swingers and STD Bringers".. or something equally appropriate.
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| I'm the other women
Posted: 2/24/2008 9:07:16 AM | | OP - you've made a mess, now you've got to clean it up. You're not doing yourself any favor by asking POF for help. You need to end it, and you need to end it now. It's simple, "I cannot see you anymore, this is not right, do not call me, do not write me, do not come near me". Period, end of story. If he's going to cheat on his current GF, he'll cheat on you. | |
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| I'm the other women
Posted: 2/25/2008 6:07:31 AM | | yes that is a terrible low thing to do on a friend.... | |
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| I'm the other women
Posted: 2/25/2008 9:38:22 AM | Is this a real thread? You've got to be joking right? If you're looking for serio0us advice.. what makes you think he'll be faithful to you/ Oh because you have a connection? Or that he shares things with you that he doesn't with her?
Or on the other hand, Why should anyone trust you. Infidelity of anykind is wrong. You're just a guilty as the cheater, and would be completely untrustworthy.
But of course I'm sure you've justified it somehow. Oh yea... you're some kind of friend. | |
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| I'm the other women
Posted: 2/25/2008 12:08:02 PM | It all sounds pretty desperate to me.
There are plenty of men around, GET YOUR OWN ! | |
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| I'm the other women
Posted: 2/25/2008 12:17:01 PM | Karma dear karma, What goes around comes around, if he is cheating on his partner, Ask yourself this CAN YOU EVER TRUST HIM? Even if he left her could you truly ever trust him now?
If you are allowing this to happen to someone else, ask yourself this, HOW WILL I FEEL WHEN IT HAPPENS TO ME?
Get out and treat other people with respect, you will bring what you give back upon yourself in later life
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| I'm the other women
Posted: 2/25/2008 12:21:46 PM | | If u know u should call it off y don't u? imagine that it could be u the next time he's cheating on someone | |
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| I'm the other women
Posted: 2/25/2008 12:32:06 PM | I think you should keep on keeping on: clearly you two are a match. It's the girlfriend who's the odd man out.
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| I'm the other women
Posted: 2/25/2008 12:49:20 PM |
I think you should keep on keeping on: clearly you two are a match. It's the girlfriend who's the odd man out.
Mother I told you to keep out of this  | |
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| I'm the other women
Posted: 2/25/2008 12:52:41 PM | | yes i can help ..if he has a girlfriend be happy its her stuck with the loser instead of you. if he will cheat on her he will cheat on you. why would u even consider such a guy? think about it. | |
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