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Posted: 3/26/2008 7:15:45 PM |
nope - only you can help yourself... and I'm not being mean... do what's right for you and you will be as o.k. as anybody else out here...
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custis
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Joined: 3/16/2005
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| I'm the other women
Posted: 3/26/2008 7:46:03 PM | Wow! have you ever heard what goes around, comes around? Are you so naive that you don't know that you will pay one day for doing such a devious thing to anyone, much less someone you say you like? Its sad, and you need to get out of this like NOW. Do you not have any respect for yourself to allow any guy to use you like this?
He also is going to possibly cause you some friendships, when the friends you have won't trust you with their men. You are being disrespectful to yourself and im my opinion if you are with a cheater, that makes you a cheater. | |
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Posted: 3/26/2008 8:26:54 PM | Hey you are not the other woman unless he is married. All is fair in love and war, if he is just dating, make him want you more, however once a cheater... and hey it is called... dating.... unless he has told everyone that it is exclusive which I doubt and the person calling people names better watch herself, you sound like a crazed bi*ch, lay off, if a guy wants to date other women, lie to his "girlfriend", why get mad at the other girl?? It is the guy that could just say no... why do the guys always seem to get away with this?
Always seems to blame the "woman" | |
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Posted: 3/26/2008 8:40:57 PM | Storm18: Looking for fun dude (from your profile)
Guess you've found him....he sure is having fun with you!
Your just posting this suggests you know what the right thing to do is, both ethically and morally. Think better of and for yourself Storm. Walk away.  | |
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Posted: 3/26/2008 8:47:54 PM | Personally I have never knowingly slept with someone I knew was seeing/sleeping with/married to or dating anyone else. It goes against my morals. I did after sleeping wth someone find out he was married and was mortified by that and I moved swiftly on realising Id been conned and cut all ties!
I cant see anything nice in what you've done. If you liked eachother then it wouldnt just be a sex thing behind his gfs back and thats what it sounds like to me and unfortunetly (or not) seems you've developed feelings. Cant help but think you deserve that. Making a mistake is different to coninuing to do something so destructive. It will all end badly for someone. Something will go wrong.
He'll dump you, youll get found out, someone will get pregnant, someone gonna get a smack in the chops, someone will get a reputation.
The problem is hes the one in the wrong mainly hes not single but for you to know and probably even know her makes you just as wrong in thes circumstances.
If you like him and want to salvage something and some integretry you need to sit down with him and discuss what you both want. I would guess at hes happy to have his cake and eat it. One woman not knowing whats hes up to and the other so infatuated to be the other woman.
I think you need to be prepared to lose this one and become mighty unpopular and sorry to be blunt, you deserve that. | |
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Posted: 3/26/2008 9:18:56 PM | This is one of those things that's pretty common during the first year of college. I would break it off because it isn't going anywhere but towards drama.
If he wants to try again later, that's fine--- but now is not the time.
Like I said-- it's pretty common in early college. (At least, judging from my wing of the dorm.) I wouldn't feel too horrible about it-- but I'd learn from it. | |
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Posted: 3/27/2008 8:53:57 AM | 1st, let me say that "morals" are something open to each persons personal definition and does not have a universal meaning. Try laying your Christian morals on an athiest and they will ask "why".
2nd, your morals are your personal beliefs and have no bearing on "right" or "wrong". IMHO, your moral position may be "wrong".
Simple solution.....tell everyone your going to have a relationship with that it is not exclusive; oh ya, that should start a relationship for you........NOT. | |
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Posted: 3/27/2008 1:21:17 PM | simple. this is the kind of hurtful, awful, mean, nasty thing that many of us do when we are young and in college. you will find that being on either end of the triangle is NOT fun. sooner or later you will realize that you are hurting another human being, and for what? sex? did it flatter your ego that HE came on to YOU? only you can answer that question. the point here is that you are in school and you are going to learn a hard lesson. may you learn from this and NEVER ever do this again, or be an accesory to someone else deceptive behavior. cheating hurts people, and it will hurt you too!
you need to end it. you will feel better about yourself and you will reduce the possibility of a huge blow up or a bunch of drama. learn from this mistake and clean up your act.
remember the girl code... if you dont want someone sleeping with your husband or your boyfriend then don't do it someone else... otherwise you'll end up without any girlfriends because noone will trust you...
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Posted: 3/27/2008 3:12:06 PM | | Again from someone who was cheated on... It hurts like heck! Why would you want to be a part of any situation that would hurt another person? What does that say about YOUR character??? Not very much!!! And remember Karma... what goes around comes around!!! | |
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Posted: 3/27/2008 3:52:43 PM | Hope your practicing safe sex ?
I did and still caught something ! | |
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Posted: 3/27/2008 3:58:12 PM |
You are being used..........GOD YOUR DUMB!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Yep.
usually filthy slutty whores don't figure that out until they've been tossed into the trash can. let her do what she wants. she'll never learn otherwise.
hey...at least the guy is getting his cake and eating it too. thats all that matters. | |
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Posted: 3/27/2008 4:15:20 PM | | What goes around, comes around...Grow up...I would not be broadcasting this to the public...Shows how stupid and selfish you are...He's got it going doesnt he, "You and her"...You both lost!..Kids, "Geez"...I know , I know "grownups do this too"..."DUMB | |
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Posted: 3/27/2008 4:49:30 PM | | At my age this guy wants to talk so when chatting with him I asked if he had a g/f and his reply is he has a friend.which means yes he has a g/f so everytime I speak with him I make mention of his g/f and he replys that she can't tell him what to do.What I am really doing is finding out for myself where his head is at concerning women ,got it?This guy at our age has no intention of being fateful to any one woman and will play around as much as he can but the sad part is that he probably doesn't even wear a raincoat,if u get my meaning again,so this means that when he is smiling all innocent at his g/f he is also sharing everyone of those womens bodily fluids with her and what makes it even worse is the g/f doesn't even know they exist.Now what about ur friendship with this guys g/f?How do u feel about that?Let me ask u something else,do u seriously believe that being in college is an excuse for anything or is it an opportunity?Sadly there is another well known chat site that has lots of different rooms and some of them are adult rooms where u can see young girls in college being approached to have sex and the offer is that they will get some books paid for.The thing is that college girls everywhere are now getting the reputation of being very easy and willing participants in this orgy of downright degrading acts against women everywhere.I thought college was getting u prepared for life on ur own but from what I have seen and heard,the only thing college is getting these young women ready for is a life in prostitution. | |
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Posted: 3/27/2008 5:18:52 PM | I think the odds are against you, in more ways than one. The whole situation is bad. The fact you have knowledge of the gf, indicates you are willfully being dishonest.
That fact you post it on here to get advice, implies 2 things, that the majority do not support this behavior. Those few that do, well, need I say more about them.
2nd, you post this on here, but....you mentioned the very answer you are asking as the solution in your post. So what does this all mean? You are looking for justification from here to continue in your behavior. | |
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Posted: 4/8/2008 5:50:52 PM | If he's not married then you can't be the other woman. The other woman is a mistress and you are not that. | |
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Posted: 4/8/2008 6:14:45 PM |
I know this is gonna sound terrible. But I am sleeping with someone in college, who has a girlfriend. Who I really like.
Whats worse is he initiated it. And I know I have feelings for him too ... but I know I should call it off.
He initiated it. Nice cop out there sis, you spread your legs, now what you want a sympathy medal?
Shame on you. | |
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Posted: 4/15/2008 7:03:17 AM | | Cool good on you, come over so you my wife and I can have coffy. Love should be shared, keep your self open and surround your self with people that will support you when you know its right even though your head is so full of bullshit that you are having a hard time holding onto it. I think you are amazing how bold how wonderful you are.......go for it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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Posted: 4/15/2008 7:35:03 AM | | You had absolutely the very best reply - for a guy, I was impressed. | |
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Posted: 4/15/2008 7:58:13 AM | Attraction is a ****...funny how these things always seem to happen in three's -- I guess that's why they call it a love triangle and not a sharing circle. 
OP: Here is what I would if I were in your situation.
Stay with him, but keep your eyes open for something else and the minute you find him and are convinced he's of quality, drop the other guy and stick with the new guy.
If you just leave right off the hop without a contingency plan, you will likely find yourself saddened and feeling like the loser in the game of love. If you find something better though, only he loses, which is what he deserves -- every dog has his day.
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Posted: 4/15/2008 8:22:18 AM | | If you've ever been on the recieving end of this situation, you'd kick him to the curb and never look back. He does not have an ounce of respect for you or his girlfriend. Think about it...when he leaves you where do you think he's going????? Is that kind of a man worthy of your time and energy? Get your head out of the fantasy relationship you have with him and look at the real relationship you have with him....you're just sleeping with him. He's saving all the good stuff for his girlfriend. Walk away while you still can. | |
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| I'm the other women
Posted: 4/15/2008 8:51:36 AM |
Why not see if you can turn this around so that everyone wins...?
Are you suggesting they practice polygamy? | |
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