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Posted: 1/19/2008 7:58:19 PM | A side from the multiple "O"s which if you are not having any 
Bonding with partner huge
pain relief and stress relief great bonus
great sex adds to relationship and self esteem
enjoying self priceless
visualizing goals and power behind sex unmatched what else can we say
sex enhances life with well matched lover | |
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Posted: 1/19/2008 8:04:25 PM | | Having sex, or fantasizing about sex, makes me feel emotionally connected, and dare I say for a brief moment cared about/loved. Feeling cared about always puts me in a good mood. | |
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Posted: 1/19/2008 8:15:16 PM | 1)I appreciate your openness and candor. You sound like a hell of a lady for a guy to know. You are comfortable in your own skin and with your own deeper pleasures. A real assuring sign.
I agree with your answers about what social sex does for me. It is a tension reliever, pleasure, comfort, excitement, fun, escapism, conquest, release, risk, acceptance, regenerating, and approval. Sometimes guilt, shame, disease, demoralizing, diminishing, and yes even death.
2)Sex for me in a deeper loving committed relationship is all these positive descriptions above but much more than that.
It is an intimacy where I am much more aware of my partners desires, needs, responses, erogenous zones while I take the time to insure her enjoyment is fulfilled, and it is a much deeper meaningful experience.
It doesn't start at coupling, it is an ongoing thing that encompasses all of our other daily activities. Embracing all this it culminates in exhilarating anticipation, arousal, fantasies, flirtation, petting, teasing, smiles, and coyness ( the irresistible sensual eye thing) and can be overcoming and expressed at anytime of the day anywhere. Sometimes unexpected and surprising.
The cerebral descriptions of that might be becoming physically one, affirming, complete submission, love, calming, arousing, extreme, fulfilling, captivating, surrendering, invigorating, enamoring, a motivator, securing, freeing, remorseless, or a spiritual bonding that cannot be found in extemporaneous or transitorial experiences. It isn't likely to happen unless I love the whole of the other person, physically, emotionally, socially, intellectually, and I am delighted by her in every way. It is totally a joy when I am with her.
It is all of this but for me if it is with that special person that everything physically, emotionally, and spiritually fits, these intellectual descriptions dim compared to the experience.
It is a completely rewarding sense of intimacy that is elusive and a person only finds at best a few times in life. It is not something that one can "find" or "build" through determination or performance. It is either there or it isn't.
It's almost like the story was written before we even met and it has a momentum of it's own. The "two" really do become "one " through this expression of unselfish love.
With your level of self confidence, openness, and freedom, it is quite likely that you will find this wonderful experience much easier than others who have a lot of hang ups about sex and their sexuality. Bravo! 
Brian (monkey694u) | |
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Posted: 1/20/2008 7:56:58 AM | | It gives loads of diffrent feelings at night sleepy, comfy, relaxed and closer to the woman. In the morning and afternoon it makes me feel awake and alive and ready to face the world!! but i always feel closer to the woman | |
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Posted: 1/20/2008 9:02:12 AM | | Sex releases in the brain the opiate like chemicals, endorphins and seretonins so it is no surprise that we feel happier afterwards....however, besides the obvious mood enhancing properties....it helps me scratch that itch I can't do alone....I actually feel a physical satisfaction, not just an emotional/mental one :) | |
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Posted: 1/20/2008 10:55:46 AM | | I think it can be alot of different things. Being a fairly new widower, its been probably 25 years since I've been with someone other than my late wife. But even with her it was sometimes recreational(orgasm, exercise, fun), sometimes just goofing off(fun, fun,fun) ,but the best was full connection (tantric)two as one stuff. There the orgasm is secondary and the soulfull connection is the real rush(and I mean full body/mind rush). It took some years to get there and I will never complain about my younger years (its all good). But we were still surprising ourselves after 19 years. Orgasms are for novices. The good stuff requires the right connection. | |
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Posted: 1/20/2008 11:49:22 AM | | yes satisfaction and relief and physicality and belonging...but it also seems to only add to the appetite for more! Please tell me I am not the only one who seems to crave it more the more I get........lol | |
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Posted: 1/20/2008 12:29:39 PM | I think sex for me is much more than just having an orgasm.
For me its the feeling of closeness to someone I trust and love. | |
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Posted: 1/20/2008 12:41:20 PM | | It's all about connection and an expression of feelings. I don't have to get off to have amazing sex...those soulful looks at just the right time give me shivers. | |
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Posted: 1/20/2008 7:29:13 PM | I am with you ayetheres- 
these are great responses, all the more the difference between meaningless sex and meaningful sex | |
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Posted: 1/20/2008 8:49:49 PM | This is a good question! Good for you OP to post it!
Sex is a wonderful expression of my feminimity...letting go completely and letting down my guard. It opens me up to my own senses and the surges of endophines feel so warm and euphoric. It makes me feel accepted entirely. For a man to look beyond my body flaws and enjoy me is very pleasurable and gives me a sense of freedom within myself.
I agree that it is an awakening in all aspects of your body and soul. The closeness of another's body is like no other feeling. I sleep more soundly and I feel more energized the next day. I usually have more of a bounce to my step and a bigger than usual smile for a few days afterwards. It creates happiness, stress relief and good self esteem.
I like the big "O" of course, but if I do not always experience it, the act itself of giving certainly gives me great pleasure and makes me feel even more feminine to have made the man I am with fulfilled.
It can be amazing when in love with the person. Satisfying one another is truly the ultimate act of caring and is the essense of the word "love". | |
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Posted: 1/26/2008 1:01:13 AM | I can't do much better than ohdriver's (message #26) description. And because I have a passing interest in NLP (neuro linguistic programming) I find it's like picking up an order of food to go that tastes even better the next day than it did the night before. NLP is just a deliberate self-induced means of intensifying good memories in ones mind without distorting the actual details of the event. | |
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Posted: 1/26/2008 1:42:29 AM | hey sometimes sex alone doesnt make any woman orgasm
u need 2 experiment with urslef & eventually u will get there
clit stimulation is a must if u wanna reach the most powerful orgasm but patience,practise,good imagination or a patient lover either was its the only way.
DONT GIVE UP KEEP PRACTUSING BELIEVE ME U WILL FEEL IT EVENTUALLY & WHEN U DO U WILL B BLOWN AWAY
cheers & good luck! sex is a good 4 the skin,complexion,stress relief,self esteem,belonging,ego,muscle tone,body image,calorie burner,its all good & should b done every day lol
I WISH! any1 interested hehe  | |
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Posted: 1/26/2008 7:56:58 AM | ...hey tasty taurus {mssg #46} - sure ...I'll be right...up ;)
Now, onto the SECOND hand question :) sex...does ALOT for me -
all the things the tasty one mentioned - and fulfilment of a 'job well done' too
After hearing (closely) all the...different moans etc (w/o detailing) some 45 minutes later, its MY turn - but hearing all (that) prior to, really brings the added excitement!
Surely, afterwards, the 2 lie spooning together......
(who started this *** forum... now I need to...  | |
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Posted: 1/26/2008 9:45:53 AM | Maybe it's a guy thing, but if you ask me what it does for me before and after I have sex, you're likely to get two completely different answers. | |
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