| | Have some of you really had success with Intimate Encounters?Page 2 of 3 (1, 2, 3) | | at least someone looking for an intimate encounter is being honest...i've met plenty of guys who said they were looking to hang out, be friends, date, heck even a few who said they were looking for longterm but ultimately just wanted to get laid. nothing wrong with it, but c'mon a little upfront honesty is nice. | |
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| Have some of you really had success with Intimate Encounters?
Posted: 1/21/2008 12:13:53 PM | If you log in as a guy and look at what's out there for "intimate encounters", the choice is pretty sad. You'll find two types of women:
TYPE 1) Absolutely ugly. The kind of woman that almost has to pay for sex.
TYPE 2) A Male-Female couple looking for another GUY to be in their threesome.
(Yes, you can imagine the gay implications there.)
I think when guys go looking for an intimate encounter, they're hoping to find an attractive looking female (or two). I know I am. It hasn't happened yet, and I'm still waiting.
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| Have some of you really had success with Intimate Encounters?
Posted: 1/21/2008 12:21:45 PM | | ^^^ perhaps if you're unhappy with the intimate encounters options you're finding on a vanilla site like PoF, you may want to try adult-friend-finder or other site more suited to NSA hookups for a more varied selection of like minded individuals. just a thought. | |
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Posted: 1/21/2008 5:19:21 PM | Well I hate to burst the bubble here -maybe not  I WILL BE HONEST -shocking.
Okay first of all you don't have to be ugly to want to have to have an intimate encounter -
1. Maybe getting trown up on or possibly killed by some random dude at the bar isn't appealing.
2. Maybe you are too busy to date but have a kicking sex drive
3. Maybe you are a person who owns their sexuality and doesn't let anyone else define what is right for you- you decide for yourself and you take it!
4. Maybe looking online gives you a chance to take as much time as you want to to get to know that person.
5. Maybe you are looking for a regular, a boy toy, a maintenance man.
6. Maybe if you have these close minded ideas about the modern women, you are too ugly for them to sleep with you!
So guess what - I've done at least one of these things and I am not ashamed to admit it. I have needs, wants and desires and I don't care if someone else doesn't agree. I am not saying its a permanent solution, I am just saying its time to cut the crap and stop making women out to be these holy beings that can't get their swerve on like guys do. You guys can't have it both ways and women need to stop bowing to such pretentious ideas, its much more liberating when you take your sexuality into your own hands and that doesn't make you a slut. Don't knock it until you try it, I emrace my sexuality as long as I do it responsibly and I highly recommend opening that "pandoras box" to any women who hasn't.
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Posted: 1/21/2008 7:37:19 PM | Okay, well, from what I've been able to figure, a female listing under "Intimate Encounters" on here is basically just wanting to sign you up on Adult Friend Finder so they can get their commission.
The fact of the matter is, if a woman just wants to get laid, this is about the last place in the world she's going to look. I'm sure she has some male friends who wouldn't mind scoring with her, or she could go to a party with some friends and find some guy to hook up with. It's not hard for women to get laid if they are straight-forward and direct about it. Sure, it may creep out one or two guys, but what straight single guy is going to say "no" to an at-least somewhat attractive woman who wants a no-strings romp?
As for the guys who list under "Intimate Encounters" under here, well, I'm sure they have mostly just come to terms with reality, that they're not emotionally mature enough to have an actual relationship that involves things like actually having a conversation with a person of the opposite sex.
Overall, I've found that *real* Intimate Encounters stem from two people who are each looking for a relationship, and finding eachother physically attractive, go on a date. They find that personality-wise they're not very compatible, but find the other attractive enough on a physical/sexual level to sleep with them until something better comes along.
If you want to actually go out and "score", hunt around on Craiglist Casual Encounters. On there, you'll get postings from women who are looking for *very* specific things, and know that they don't have much hope of finding them by random chance. So if you are over 6'4, 220lbs, buff, black, and have 10" or more in the sausage department, you can get plenty of play on there. For those of us who are "average" (read : not freakish?), well, keep reaching for those stars. | |
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| Have some of you really had success with Intimate Encounters?
Posted: 1/21/2008 7:49:49 PM | Yes, I did...It was sorta an Intimate Encounter..
It was with my Custody lawyer.. Man he was screwing the He11 out of me...Sometimes over 250/hour and would always tell me SAME when we parted..
"Don't say a word to anyone,including your wife about us"
I was successful in getting full custody though  | |
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| Have some of you really had success with Intimate Encounters?
Posted: 1/21/2008 10:52:14 PM | I have had much success with IEs. Most of the time those are FWB relationships. If you can't turn it into that, then there is a problem. If you find someone that wants the same thing as you, you end up bonding on that fact and become friends. It is very beneficial, but there is a downside. When you get into either of these, there is the problem of attachment. Now if you go into an IE or FWB and don't expect someone to get attached, think again. It usually always happens and its usually the woman that wants to connect. Now the women that thinks of IE to be a turn off, is mainly because they have done it before or moral values.
IEs get abused all the time which is why it is a turn off, if both treat it right, then it is some of the best times your sexual life can experience.
I have enjoyed all my playmates and they have definitely enjoyed me. Make sure if you do get into an IE or a FWB, that you take care of the woman as well. Never go out just to get yours. It will backfire and karma will catch up with you. | |
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Posted: 1/23/2008 11:06:51 PM | I dont think I have EVER met a man who didnt want sex. How he gets there is what separates the men from the boys.
For me.....It's the journey not the destination. I want sex too, but I want to get there with someone who feels like I do. | |
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Posted: 1/23/2008 11:25:47 PM | Something I would almost like to see on Plenty of Fish is a way to block myself from sending mail to people who are looking for Intimate Encounters. Most of the time when I mail people, it has nothing to do with meeting or dating. There are so many interesting people here who are only looking for traditional encounters. I don't know how the IE "market" is on plenty of fish, but I wouldn't cast a hook there, even if I were looking, because you risk the chance of getting blocked.
Let's see... several people have suggested that women should just go "pick up some guy" if they want sex. Score a tipsy bloke in the bar, or turn to one of their current friends. None of these seem like particularly good options to me. Just picking up a guy... well, no guarantee of success; the guy you try and pick up might be in a relationship and not interested in straying, or just not into you, no guarantees he's going to be receptive to the kinds of play you like either. Drunk guys... same as above, only with all the possible complications alcohol can add to a guys personality and physiology. As for turning a long time friend into a bed-buddy... I'm just thinking of my friends who are girls, and to be honest, one of the primary reasons they're "just friends" is that for one reason or another there is absolutely no sexual interest there, either way.
So, we know why a woman (or man, heck, same reasons) might go the intimate encounter route. Been there, done that, don't regret it, but don't intend to go back. I'd have to say that the general level of attractiveness of the women who were looking for intimate encounters is about the same as the traditional crowd, because whether you're looking for intimate encounters has more to do with your interest and availability than how you look.
oh.. re: women masturbating over the invitations to sex they get... kinda doubt it. From all accounts, they're pretty much one liners: "ur brests are nic. can I suk on them?" Just doesn't make me think this has women reaching for their double-A assistants. | |
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Posted: 1/24/2008 7:39:06 AM |
nope no luck at all.i think the woman on pof in the ie section are just on there for an ego stroking and a giggle with their girl frinds
I think that has a lot to do with it. They post provocative profiles simply to get attention. Obviously they're lacking something in their life if they need to be propped up by total strangers drooling over them.
Then there's the attitude. My goodness you've never seen ****ier women than women looking for IEs. Read one of their profiles and see how overwhelmingly negative it is. They're usually filled with insults and lines like:
"Don't waste my time..."
"If you can't do xyz..... you're a total loser..."
Wow, talk about a classy woman. For me personally, the reason I'm looking for an IE is because I don't want nor have time for the other relationship stuff right now. I don't want to have to deal with all this dating etiquette crap about phoning and seeing each other regularly and listening to someone complain about all their problems. Then it starts getting into the hypothetical 5 years down the road questions of "do you see us getting married?" "do you see us having kids?" etc......... Christ I just want to simplify things a bit. My life is complex enough.
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Posted: 1/24/2008 10:19:09 AM |
...I just don't think the ones who are even marginally attractive to the opposite sex are the ones doing it online. As I mentioned...it is sooooo much easier to just walk out the door and find it. Why go to all the effort to create a profile online for it? Not necessary.
Basically, you've just put women into two categories, attractive and unattractive. I think this is more of a comfortability thing. Maybe you have no problem picking up at your local bar but not everyone would feel comfortable with this regardless of how they look. Anyone with social anxieties might find the internet as a comfort zone. Some people also might not find the 'bar' setting as something they enjoy. Perhaps the mystery of meeting someone online and developing it into a erotic rendezvous is the turn on. I'm not going to make any assumptions because I myself have never looked for an IE. However, I think to say that attractive people would opt for a more direct in person approach, is a little narrow minded. | |
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Posted: 1/24/2008 10:42:33 AM | | you are soooo right on that,there is a lot of negitivity on their profiles and i would seem that these women are looking for joe stud that should be in a fashion mag.and keep in mind joe stud cant be involved with any other women and cant have a past.but what really floors me is the amount of favs.i mean come on 392 have listed them and they cant find one to be intimate with i dont even bother the ones that have more than 10 favs listed. | |
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| Have some of you really had success with Intimate Encounters?
Posted: 1/24/2008 8:08:25 PM | Not here, but PoF is a pretty useless way to meet people, for any reason.
The couple of IE experiences I had were both initiated by the woman. The first was just a random chat on yahoo that I initiated (I was bored at work), and we were discussing her belief that there were more women than men in her country, which made it hard to find a bf. I pointed out a singles sex site which showed like 16,000 guy profiles and 1000 female profiles, and said, "How do you figure that?". She looked at the site (hint, it was something like All Friendly Folks :D ) and started to pour out her guts about how she wanted sex.
She ended up being one of the most important people in my life.
The other messaged me and pretty quickly got to the point that her husband worked on a ship at sea for 10 months a year, and she was looking for someone to fulfill her needs. Husband knew all about it.
I suspect if a guy is extremely good looking, a "wanna****" message shotgunned to hundreds of women will work pretty reliably. If you are not extremely good looking, forget it.
Any woman who puts "I'm not interested in sex" in her profile, I won't even bother to contact. Not because I am looking to get laid, but just because it's such a dumbass thing to say. If it's true, then she has a low sex drive and thus is uninteresting to me as a normal, healthy man. But if she's a normal, healthy female, of COURSE she's interested in sex. Obsessed about it is more accurate...and if you don't believe me, check out the content of womens magazines like Cosmo and Glamour. | |
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Posted: 1/26/2008 12:54:55 PM | Intimate encounter can mean differnt things to differnet people. To some it means slam, bang , thank you mam to others it means "if I really like you the chemistry is right , and I don't think you are using me I'd love to hook up.
My exgirlfriend was a fixup we were together for 7 years and the first date lasted 3 wonderful passion fulled days.
Second point: 99% of the people on POF do want an intimate encounter. They just want it to be part of a relationship, or they don't want to be made to feel cheap or used.
So you can filter out people who approached an "intimate encounter person", but it's probably your loss. | |
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Posted: 1/26/2008 1:42:55 PM | | The honesty is admirable. I think there is way too little of that on all dating sites. I've always been skeptical of women who post that they are interested in an intimate encounter. As others have pointed out, it's not difficult for a reasonably attractive (don't need to be Meg Ryan) woman to get laid . . . walk into any bar and pretty much have her pick. | |
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Posted: 1/26/2008 9:59:34 PM | >
You could guarantee to me that if i walked up to a guy in a bar there would be a 99% chance he'd go home with me but my whole fear of rejection issues would make me not risk the one percent. Not everyone appeals to everyone no matter what they look like. The closest bar to me is also 45 mins away.
Since I'm in an open marriage I'm obviously not here for ltr so why do I need to put intimate encounter in my profile? I don't blame women for avoiding to outright state that they're looking for an IE because it seems to me when guys find out that I'm pretty much just here to get laid, they assume that I'm ready to go whenever they are and into cyber sex. | |
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| Have some of you really had success with Intimate Encounters?
Posted: 1/26/2008 10:41:24 PM | theres not many on here cause most are on paying sites like amature mach and fling .com
seriously they stupid when they could go on here for free -_-.
I nosed on here and only 4 with in 30 miles of me lol.
maybe I should start free acounts on those pay sites and advertise for pleanty of fish | |
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Posted: 1/27/2008 5:58:37 AM | Sure! Sometimes when you're looking for one, you meet someone looking for the same thing. There's nothing wrong with that and it can be loads of fun!
However..
The danger is that when intimate encounters become the only encounters. When the thrill of finding and fulfilling one becomes too important.
Partners can tend to become.... disposable commodities | |
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