| Should I pursue a woman allready in a relationship?
Posted: 1/21/2008 11:02:12 PM | Just do it like Nike
I met some girl while I was out last weekend and she was overly flirty so I figured if I don't do it someone else will and if you care about her it's better it being you then some other jerk off! | |
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| Should I pursue a woman allready in a relationship?
Posted: 1/22/2008 2:33:55 AM | | relationships are by nature a very selfish thing, and little reward comes from patience. i say **** all and roll the dice. everyone is worried about the girls relationship, no one is worried about the guy. the only one who can get hurt by this is the other guy. if she isnt interested, or unwilling to leave the guy. at least he knows were he stands and is a healthier man mentally for it. i would hate it if someone did that to me but i'm been on the other side too. a mans got to do what a mans got to do | |
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| Should I pursue a woman allready in a relationship?
Posted: 1/22/2008 3:13:38 AM | In your heart you know the truth.
The good ones are all taken, the rest are on PlentyOfFish.
The only way you're gonna get a good one is to take her from somebody else.
Get ruthless! | |
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| Should I pursue a woman allready in a relationship?
Posted: 1/22/2008 3:46:30 AM | OP,
From what I understand, she already knows how you feel about her and she knows you are single. She is still in this relationship with this other guy and I think she's exactly where she wants to be. Wouldn't she have taken action by now ? The ball is in her park and it's up to her what she decides to do with it and up to you to decide if you're willing to wait another 15 years for a woman that doesn't seem to be as mutch into you as you into her. If you decide to wait...FGS...don't hold your breath.
You already told her how you feel, she knows you are single now and that should be enough. If you decide to "persue" her, forgive my bluntness, I hope he catches you and beats the cr@p out of you for persuing his woman that you know darn well is involved with him wether or not you know him personally.
No hard feelings.
Ray | |
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| Should I pursue a woman allready in a relationship?
Posted: 1/22/2008 5:18:53 AM | This is more than your Subject Header Leads because she is NOT just a woman in a relationship. She is the inevitable circumstance that you WILL experience and this game you too are playing is leading up to that moment. People can say what they want, but you and her WILL be together and you WILL have sex. The only thing about your forthcoming situation is: How long will it last? Is there another guy playing the same waiting game as you did so she can do the same to you?
Currently she has the control and it IS her game (and not for one moment should you ever think it is yours--although your rendition is posting it in the forum...and you know you don't need any advice and you know deep inside you are going to make her yours regardless of these foolish postings.) So let me help you not totally screw this game you think is yours up--so that 15 years doesn't turn into the last guy you ever expected having his way with her instead of you.
1. Get the part that makes you THINK you're the one out of your head so you can make room for the truth because you KNOW that you are the one.
2. Stop exposing your details to the point that you are sharing what she is saying to you with an Internet audience of strangers, halfway keeping it real and telling you what they think you want to hear in some commercial-like Oprah meets Lifetime meets Drama. I.e. "No, don't do it!" "You should leave her alone...she chose someone else not you!" Ha-ha, even through your defense that she is messaging you and flirting with you...I am failing to hear people target her and her part in this non-confusion you're assuming to have when you KNOW you're going to get it (keeping it real dude!) But the point is: If things go well as you two are planning; in the event something like this post ever crosses her when her heart is full on you and she has made a sacrifice to stop playing with men's hearts for you--something like this will hurt her female, emotionally driven heart. "How could you?" AND your coolness values are being presented now with this post--so that could also play part in why it is taking so long for you to seal this deal in her game.
3. Are you a "man" or a "mouse"? This determines it all!!! As of current, dude, you're pushing toward mouse because your emotional values towards her are on front street and it appears that you are whining about it. If you stick with the "sweetheart I would do anything to be with you" theme; you are DOOMED!!! I bet the guy she is currently with is more like this with her ("You're hot...you're mine...end of story...now what would you like to do tonight or how can I make this experience one that we both enjoy!") Yeh, bud you have to do the man thing (sometime a tad bit of being a jerk is needed to keep the sauce perfect.) I don't know what is wrong with women, but the guy who doesn't have jerk in him always gets cheated on for and with the one who does.
The same goes for a woman: A guy wants a respectful woman who isn't freakish or a slut, but he cheats on his "Polly Purebread" for and with a freak. A woman that loses or hides her freak loses her man--the same as being a mouse. So be a man--you know what to do..."Man Up" or you WILL lose...Sensing a bit of fear, so lose it with along the mouse and you will do fine. | |
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| Should I pursue a woman allready in a relationship?
Posted: 1/22/2008 5:24:53 AM | | If you really like her as much as you say, and she likes you, then why don't you just remain single and then once she's available, go for it? Talking to her about it won't hurt. Maybe she has the exact same feelings but thinks you're not as interested as she is, so she's staying away. | |
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| Should I pursue a woman allready in a relationship?
Posted: 1/24/2008 10:02:05 PM | | if you get involved with a woman that is in a relationship....do NOT be surprisedif she does it to you..................and then youwill have NO right to get pissed if it happens toyou at someother time......karma kind of thing | |
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| Should I pursue a woman allready in a relationship?
Posted: 1/24/2008 10:09:01 PM | Somewhere in the 15 years of affection, there was something there that allowed one of you to go off and be with someone else. At one point or another, you just gave up on the other person, and chose someone else.
I believe in love, and if you love this person, the best you can do is to tell her how you feel, and see how it is. If you really LIKE this person, I think there might be a problem. It might just be that you're putting quite a high premium on something that might not even be worth anything. If the attraction is purely physical, a long term relationship won't last. Ask yourself what you want, what you feel, and go from there.
For what it is worth, I'm not convinced... | |
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| Should I pursue a woman allready in a relationship?
Posted: 1/25/2008 6:21:29 AM | LOL Good Luck!
I've done this a couple of times (sometimes not even knowingly)... But I had some serious guilt trips and issues with the whole thing.
I'm pretty sure that in one situation, she left him because she just wanted out of the relationship, and since we were close "friends", then I was her perfect excuse to get the heck out of it and perhaps catch her on the rebound.
Which was strange because we never had anything physical, just a mental click... I would NEVER knowingly get physically involved with another man's woman because I don't wish to be her "bit on the side".
Anyway I just hope it works out and that the feelings are genuine on BOTH sides. You'd be surprised at how some women are sooo desperate to leave bad relationships that they'd jump into the arms of just about anyone whose nice to them, just to get out of it. Not exactly a solid foundation for building a long lasting relationship, but that's not to say that it won't work necessarily. | |
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