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Posted: 5/30/2008 8:57:14 AM | OP next time stop doing the asking..
see if hes into you.. let him make the move..
if you keep making the first move.. he might just feel he doesn't have too.. and then you gonna feel like he doenst like you etc...
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Posted: 6/2/2008 5:43:58 AM | | u are a hot chick..but i suggest you take off those sunglasses once in awhile while you're playing tennis..u look like a racoon..lol.. | |
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Posted: 6/11/2008 2:21:03 PM | This goes to what I believe is a fundamental difference between men and women. In my experience, and from what I've learned from many women and men, there is a great difference in expectations between us when it comes to physical contact and intimacy. [Let me first state that I am aware that there are no absolutes and that there are exceptions, and I even know a couple of them myself.] Men generally do not require an emotional connection to kiss a woman, while women generally require it to kiss a man. A man could passionately kiss a woman for no other reason than her kissable lips. That's not to say that there's no difference for man when kissing someone where there is an emotional connection, just that he'll eagerly do it, enjoy it, and think nothing of it. I remember a poem floating around and hung on so many refrigerators and bulletin boards, the one about how one kiss is not a lifetime (I tried to Google this but could not find it).
In this case, you asked him to kiss you (something a man might be spending much thought about in terms of "if," "when" and "how"), which was, in effect, offering candy.
I looked at your profile. You're an attractive woman. I severely doubt it was a "pity kiss" -- I'm sure he enjoyed the kiss immensely, but something else was at play. My guess is he had a nice time but for whatever reason was ambivalent about seeing you again or is "looking around" for someone to connect with; he might not have intended to kiss you, but could not resist your bold offer. Or, perhaps, he couldn't handle your directness; he could be the type who would have liked to have initiated the kiss. | |
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DazzyB
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Posted: 6/11/2008 4:28:00 PM | What do YOU think is the nice/right way to let someone down? Would you allow for there to be a kiss with a person you could not see yourself seeing again? How would YOU let someone down gently? Should I just let it go??
Personally, I'd rather be told straight and not kiss than the other woman kiss me and then never contact me thereafter. To me, that is cruel. I'm SO sorry that you went through this. Sometimes I think that I am an over-sensitive guy and that becomes my downfall. Sometime I wish I could just play the 'hard' man in order to avoid getting hurt, or to avoid being let down. Either way, I think that it is unfair what this guy did to you and I feel for you. I think you could do a lot better!
God bless you!!
Dazzy.
Ps. I know this is hard for you to hear, but are you sure that this guy wasn't only after one thing? And realising he couldn't 'get it' (excuse the pun), he then decided to vanish?... | |
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Posted: 9/11/2008 5:53:32 AM | Just email him and quit playing games. You women don't want head games, but all Im reading now is nothing but headgames...especially these two lines of stupidity. I just love pseudopsychiatrists who give the wrong advice. Its been my experience that women who don't want to play headgames, or want a relationship are the ones that date all the time and do nothing but play headgames...
And there are some psychologist that may argue that what you write down in your profile in terms of what you want is nothing more than what you lack in your own personality....so I love the women that bring on a laundry list. Talk about issues...lol. | |
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Posted: 9/11/2008 6:56:38 AM | Wow, is all I have to say. You have really come off as emotionally unstable by your actions. He may have picked up on this. From reading this post, it seems you may have thrown yourself at him. He may have taken into consideration that perhaps you stopped wanting to know his mind and now just wanted intimacy, since that was the subject of the email immediately following the date.
You definitely sounded very immature when you sent him that "freak out" email. Yes, it was a "freak out" email. Re-read it now that you have calmed down and you will see it.
Another thing I have noticed is that you keep on emphasizing words when you type by putting them in "all caps". Did anyone ever tell you that "all caps" are equal to yelling. Your style of conversation, sets off a huge amount of emotional waves with all these overly emphasized words.
The last thing I want to add is that you had one date. Let me say that again... one date. What appeared to be a lack of interest on his part, very well could have been a test of your character to see how mature your reaction would be if he were to not contact you right away. The best way to have contacted him would have been to send him an email like the pre-date emails. That would have showed him that you are who he thought you were, instead... he now sees a panic stricken, insecure woman.
I do not want to seem mean to you, or judgmental of you. I just want to save you future embarrassment. Because if you aren't already embarrassed by your behavior... you should be. | |
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