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Posted: 1/22/2008 6:27:23 PM | 10 beers takes the talking stick. And looks around for someone to whap with it. :D ( btw: Im just joking around Arapaho7, Im an opportunistic comic person. And have to admit that your post I saw on this thread was impressive. So here's respect dude, one of my grandfathers was full blooded. And would probally whap me, for this post :D )
Anyway, looks around for a likely person to whap, lol. Ummm damn nah Im not really in whapping kinda mood. Op, basically like most of us. I think U need to get laid. Like some azz smacking, hair pulling, neck biting laid. But hey I do to. So what point am I trying to make here ? NONE, ABSOLUTELY NONE. BUT U READ ALL THIS ANYWAY, LOL. 
Desperately tries to find someone to whap with the talking stick. But gives it up reluctantly and passes it instead. :D
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PS, or I could be saying dont take shyt too seriously, U decide. ;) | |
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Posted: 1/22/2008 6:35:03 PM |
Two Hawks takes the Talking Stick:
I think what is being said here is there are many people who feel inadequate about themselves, so they cover that with a superiority complex. They put on airs about being somewhat better than others and they wonder why others aren't as good as they think they are. I have, at times, felt inadequate, but rather than cover it with a superiority complex, I backed off and thought about it again and discovered where I had made the error. I wouldn't ever have an "I am better than you" complex simply because I am no better than anyone else. I might be better in some things, but overall I'm no better than anyone.
As Humans we do have a tendency to belittle ourselves at times when we encounter something we don't understand "I don't understand this so that makes me a dummy!" WRONG! Not understanding something doesn't lower your IQ! It doesn't make you any less smarter than you were yesterday! Not understanding is all part of life. Each day we learn something new. Something we didn't know yesterday. Something we may not understand, but it's there and we need to get a grip on it. As for love and romance....Good Galloping Grief! There are lots of things we don't understand about that! None of us walk into that knowing everything! Oh good heavens no! We just take it one day at a time and work with it.
So my point here is....NEVER feel inadequate about yourself and NEVER cover your inadequate feelings with a superiority complex. That's just asking for trouble.
Does what I have just said make any sense to anyone?
Two Hawks passes the Talking Stick. Thank you Mr. Hawk I'll take that talking stick ,and be sure to give it back~~~Texas Bandit now has the talking stick~~~ I can relate to exactly what your saying and it has nothing to do with short comings or thinking your better than anyone else,Simply put you or a Princesses , and I can relate to the fact that you have not lived up to your full potential. while knowing that the light that eludes you over shadows everything , and in an effort to stay grounded, you deny your self certain liberties but still pocess the adroitly that you know in your own heart that's automatically drawn to you, and rightfully so, being who you or. This is the same that we all pocess, it's like wanting to pocess or control a wild stallion chained down denying it it's freedom and then after a while the chains come loose. What's wrong, it looks like the same horse, but where did it's character go. The ability to react with natural instinct, the fiery spirit, the light in it's eye , no it's the same horse and can now walk free, but because of the chains in it's own mind denies it's self the same liberties that made it so hard to tame. And stepping out side of the lines that represent the length of the chain becomes it's deepest fear, until it's sees another horse with it's same attributes that it had before with a spirit that has not been tainted with unseen forces allowing it to become free again...........thank you..........I can relate and sometimes although I lack the ability to explain in such detail as you have, it's not hard to dig deep down and release it in words that resemble "poetry in motion.............and I might add that in denying your self you've also limited your self in the fear of loosing friends and the respect of others being replaced with jealousy and envy, But what you need to know is that what God has for you, no man can Hold, and once you find out who you or, it'll also come with new friends that or also genuine, and a new respect and of those who will adorn you, and I hope that what I've said will help...........Oh I almost forgot, here Mr. Hawk your talking stick | |
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Posted: 1/22/2008 6:43:43 PM |
Would somebody in Missouri PLEASE make sure WthU gets laid soon!!! ignore him, he said it his self, he was a joke. | |
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Posted: 1/22/2008 6:44:44 PM | TexasBandit....you said something that struck a chord with me....
and I might add that in denying your self you've also limited your self in the fear of loosing friends and the respect of others being replaced with jealousy and envy, But what you need to know is that what God has for you, no man can Hold, and once you find out who you or, it'll also come with new friends that or also genuine, and a new respect and of those who will adorn you, and I hope that what I've said will help.
I have been guilty of this several times in my life. I have been blessed with so many wonderful opportunities in this lifetime and there have been times when I actually felt guilty about recieving so much greatness, and wondered what would my friends and family think...would they be happy for me or jealous. And somehow, I find that that thought process helps me sabotage the opportunities. | |
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Posted: 1/22/2008 6:52:22 PM | 10 beers takes the talking stick again. And whaps TEXASBANDIT with it, shuddup U dork. There is wisdom in humor. Not that U would know anything of that. Well unless were talking about your ex-gf laughing at your less than normal sized manhood, that waz just humor, lol.
10 beers whaps the Txdork again and passes the talking stick back.
btw: Thanks 2 whoever for pleading my case girl And hiya Ignoble. | |
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Posted: 1/22/2008 6:56:36 PM | TexasBandit....you said something that struck a chord with me
Princess, this type of denying your self can be a struggle I've found that it can also be a gift. The person who has experienced it can help others through it. Only one who knows first hand how it feels can offer compassion and understanding . This kind of empathy is not possible for someone who has never felt for themselves the unselfishness of denying ones self............so my best advice is to stay strong because the only way to be free is to be yourself, in spite of what others may think and accept all the gifts that has been bestowed to you.......SMILE  | |
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Posted: 1/22/2008 6:58:23 PM | weaselontoast: Im not sure I can avoid typing this reply... its seems I must... my fingers have a life of their own. Alas... I cant resist.
"No hun... but I'll throw YOU one. WINK WINK".
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Weaselontoast(Post below this): Only ineffectually... so dont worry. ^_^ | |
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Posted: 1/22/2008 7:09:08 PM | omg i've been propositioned by a puppy. what's he gonna do, hump my leg?
Iggy, I'm howling here, you're a hoot! | |
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Posted: 1/22/2008 7:26:36 PM | ggirl
my ONLY problem is that somewhere I feel uncomfortable at being fully happy. I can have it. I can have it all. And yet, I seem to sabotage any potential at love.
perhaps you have guilt over something and you feel that you don't deserve love until that something has been addressed. just a thought.
As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others."
liberated from fear? ha! shackled in fear of eternal damnation more likely. | |
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Posted: 1/22/2008 7:26:42 PM |
Author: texasbandit
Mr.wthUagain101, ten beers or what ever your name is, I can handle your comments aimed at me, being warped as they may seem. But it doesn't take much of a man to offend a women, especially when she's clearly done nothing wrong. And it's probably safe to say that you were the last comic standing, and I don't mean while the show was going on, but after every one else left. I might add that you or a very poor excuse to represent the show me State, because all you've shown us is your stupidity, and in all honesty that's not trying to be funny | |
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Posted: 1/22/2008 8:00:20 PM | Too bad this post is starting to go off in the ditch !!!
To regroup...EXCELLENT POST OP !!!
I prefer to not referance 'God', my anology is the eternal, positive energy...
We as human beings are made up of positive and negative forces both physically, mentally and emotionally.
Often our positive side is suppressed as children and as we mature we have that "superior adult" still lingering in our heads ; saying we are too young, too immature; wrong gender to be worthy and saddest of all too stupid.
We carry it into our adult life and it does affect some to the point of self destruction or in another term, self defamation. We don't think we are worthy of the best, we are not mature enough, we are the weaker (and for the guys over 40, stronger) gender or just too stupid to be worthy.
The child in us is AFRAID to JUST DO IT !
We are in a sense strangled by our childhood insecurities so we DON'T TAKE CHANCES or we SABBOTAGE a good thing.
Until we can realize that AS ADULTS WE CAN CREATE OUR DESTINATION AND FATE, we stay in this 'I am not worthy, it won't work for me' state...
The power of positive influence is all around us but we are afraid that we should not be included...
I have a saying that I use when I am asked why do you do this or that ? (and it would be considered out of my comfort level...)
I answer with; "everyone will come into this world taking a first breath...all of will also leave this world taking a last breath"...think about that...breathe...
To me that makes everyone the same regardless of age, race, religion, color, financial status etc...
I have chosen to take the path that I am ; WHAT I BELIEVE IS WHAT I CREATE very simular to the 'Secret" (gee, I should have helped write that...)
We all have choices and with that actions...Every action will have a re-action, we have the choice based on how we react...positive will create positive...negative will create negative...
All the best and remember ...
This isn't a dress rehersal, it is the real thing...(don't know the original author ) LLL | |
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Posted: 1/22/2008 9:05:45 PM |
We all have choices and with that actions...Every action will have a re-action, we have the choice based on how we react...positive will create positive...negative will create negative...
All the best and remember ...
This isn't a dress rehearsal, it is the real thing...(don't know the original author ) LLL although your reply wasn't directed to me,there is some truth in what you say, and I definitely was pulled into a negative reaction which was my choice to react in a not so positive way. We all make our own choices, this was not one of my best. I didn't stand to loose or gain anything from it, being that Mr. Ten beers doesn't pocces the secrete or isn't affiliated in any way and I think that if it was presented to him, in it's clarity no doubt he lacks the lucidity and it would still remain a secrete. | |
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Posted: 1/22/2008 10:15:14 PM | Two Hawks takes the (slightly damaged) Talking Stick:
Ok folks.....let's not be whuppin each other with my Talking Stick! This is a tool! Not a weapon! 
In case you are wondering about the Talking Stick....this is a tool that most of the Plains Indians used. When in council with the elders, or in general council a highly decorated stick was brought out. The only person that could speak was the one holding the Talking Stick. This eliminated a lot of useless jabber and it also put the kibosh on arguements. When the holder finished what he, or she had to say the stick was passed to another who had his/her hand up. The person with the stick always stood up. It was not acceptable to speak with the stick seated. I have sat in council with both the elders and in general council and trust me.....this method of a meeting works very well.
Sorry to go off topic like that, but I thought you should know about the Talking Stick
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Posted: 1/22/2008 10:33:22 PM | Happy OP found God. Wish I'd found this highly evangelistic thread in the religion/philosophy section. 'I know what your problem is.....' is not an appropriate title for a quote from an evangelical radio show host's book in the general relationships section.
Sorry it took OP 194 men to find out she was sabotaging herself. Can't relate to: 'there's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you' -- Huh? Sounds like a superiority attitude in and of itself when combined with all the other self-promotion/self pity.
Any time I personally did anything self-sabotaging or shrunk back from the limelight, it sure wasn't so OTHERS wouldn't feel insecure. Get the point in general, but prefer Winnie the Pooh quote too. Wish I'd clicked on the thread when the 'delete' option was still available. | |
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Posted: 1/22/2008 11:04:43 PM | This quote has been emailed to me many times by very good friends that felt I needed to read and understand it. After many readings I have come to the belief that it simply means it is not only ok to shine but it is an insult to God to be less.
I am a very strong woman and sometimes feel men are intimidated by this. I have found myself "dimming my spirit", my inner light so that I would be more attractive....or so I thought. I have worked very hard creating the life I have now and nurturing my soul. I have been in relationships in the past that have required me to step out of my truth in order to please someone else. I will no longer allow this to be the case. If the man I am with cannot be strong enough to be with me, he needs to move on. I will no longer allow my spirit to be overshadowed so someone else can feel better about themselves.
I also know that the stronger the woman, or man, the stronger the partner needs to become so we are giving that gift also. | |
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Posted: 1/22/2008 11:15:12 PM | Two Hawks takes the Talking Stick:
Msg 43:
Holster those shootin' irons, ma'am! Give the lady a break! None of us are perfect as some of think we are. If the Mods had thought this was self pity, they would have dumped it. Those of us who have been following this don't see it a self pity and we are trying to help the lady with it.
Peace to you and blessed be!
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Posted: 1/22/2008 11:22:45 PM | Carrie takes the Jimmy Choo Talking Stick and says:
I think that you are right with a lot of things OP. My thoughts on all of us. We often set ourselves up to fail because if we fail then it validates the fact that were are inadequate and not meant to have anything. It is far too easy to just give up, think negative and not even try and therefore not even strive for anything because we think we are not worthy.
But we are worthy. We are worthy of love, happiness and whatever our heart desires. We are worth it all.
In order to become a success and obtain our dreams we must be ready for them, ready to embrace them and know what we are worthy.
~Carrie
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Posted: 1/22/2008 11:55:20 PM | Two Hawks, I have no problem with helping someone out. I know for a fact that I am far from perfect if you are referring to me which you may not have been at all. But apart from your 'peace and blessed be' which I tend to associate (rightly or wrongly) with more new age religious beliefs; I don't see how all this talk about God and the soul and whatnot belongs in this section.
And I think that OP's sad story and 'why me' is the only way it managed to slip in here. Some people have indeed mentioned other means of helping oneself, but IMHO the whole thing sounds more like an all-night crusade and should not be entitled 'I know what YOUR problem is....'
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Posted: 1/23/2008 12:09:01 AM | Can anyone relate? Has anyone really overcome this before and could you share some insight? Yes, it may be deep for some, but I think this is an eyeopener to alot of us here.
OP;
I've never been so full of myself ... that there wasn't room for Jell-O.
careful with that talking stick ... you don't know where it's been | |
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Posted: 1/23/2008 12:24:32 AM | Two Hawks takes the Taking Stick:
No ma'am! I was NOT referring to you as being perfect. The word I used, "us", covers a broad spectrum of people....more than one.....plural. And I agree with you on the God and soul bit. Many times people will cast the blame on God because they can find no one else to blame for their own insecurities. I have also found that when some can't come up with a logical answer to a question, or statement they will begin quoting scripture. To me this shows ignorance. The inability to think clearly.
As to your comment about "new age religious beliefs" I am a Pagan and a practicing Witch. "Peace and Blessed Be" is the most common phrase to use in a parting gesture. The greeting is "Merry Meet".
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Posted: 1/23/2008 2:47:27 AM | Cosmic takes the talking stick (thanks for the talking stick Arapaho)
Op, I completely get where you are coming from and have compassion for the struggle you have within you. My personal path has been filled with self sabatoge and overwhelming feelings of being unworthy. There are many different methods for overcoming this offered here (from counselling to spirituality) and you need to find the one that works for you. It doesn't matter which method you choose, there will always be people that think it's the wrong one - don't head their judgement. What worked for me was a spiritual path and finding a connection with the divine love which I now allow to radiate through me. After years of debilitating depression, I have found peace and joy within myself. One tool that provided great insight was the Anatomy of the Spirit by Carolyn Myss. I highly recommend it! That book more than any other tool ( and I've tried many) seemed to finally give me ansers that"clicked" and turned the light on. I agree the last thing you need right now is to "get laid" as was suggested earlier. Loving yourself isn't going to materialize under someone else, metaphorically or literally. I hope you find the tool that works for you and swifly find resolution to your struggle.
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Posted: 1/23/2008 2:57:02 AM | | Msg 24, MissPriss, I can so relate to what you say as I've self sabatoged every dating relationship I've ever had. Married twice, and they ended for other reasons, but you say it nicely and it's something that honestly never crossed my mind before but is so true! I never trusted myself. So bringing us to the now, I've found my fishie, and found her right here on POF! Well, she found me actually. Point is that we're sooooo perfect for each other, clicking going off in my head on every single level. And still one night I found myself in a small anxiety attack awhile back. Why? It's so clear to me now that I just didn't trust myself. And I actually believe I'm a pretty cool guy! I've had almost 18 years of clean sobriety, gone down many roads in that time and learned many life lessons, and truly have made myself into a better person, one who is ready and deserving of a like person in my life. Still there was that last trust hurdle to overcome. Good thing is, I've done it. And now today I have a woman in my life who is very likely going to become a permanent fixture in my life one day soon. GREAT post OP. | |
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