| My gut says no
Posted: 8/21/2008 7:17:44 PM | | I think its a mistake because you could end up falling in like or love because your naturaly attracted to woman. I would not trust my hot girl friend to be with her ex as friends no way, not that she is a cheat but come on lets get serious oh ya go with Joey the guy you have ****ed for the last 2 years before I came along,,, go i understand have fun, ya right are you crazy. | |
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| What type of friendship is appropriate for a married person to have with the opposite sex?
Posted: 8/21/2008 7:37:42 PM |
Neither the husband nor wife should have to "approve" of their spouses friends. That's what parents were for when you were kids, and these are grown ups. When you get married, you're allowed to have a life. As long as there are no extra marital relations, it's fine. If you can't trust the person you're effin' married to, then you have no business being married in the first place. If your spouse cheats, that's grounds for divorce. You people over-complicate things.
^^^^^^^^ This post bears repeating.
We cannot expect our partner to fulfill all of our needs - they would have to be close to a carbon copy of ourselves for that to happen, and that is just boring. I am not talking sexual needs.... I am talking of other needs within ourselves for mental and emotional health. I have many interests and I do not expect to find a partner to share them all with me.... nor do I want that. I want to have my other friends too.... and whether they are male or female is really quite immaterial. I am not biased in regards to friends - I choose friends based on commonalities..... and if they are a different gender, colour, sexual orientation or religion, etc..... so what? I have friends of both genders.... and my best friend is male.... but he is a platonic friend - like a brother.... if my partner questioned our friendship, I would question his trust in me.... and maybe we shouldn't be together. | |
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| What type of friendship is appropriate for a married person to have with the opposite sex?
Posted: 8/21/2008 7:38:14 PM | | I watched a woman that had a crush on a guy since high school help to ruin a marriage. I don't care what the man or woman says, they aren't just friends. Nothing good can come of their being together without the wife present. I think that if they want to do things as couples, in groups, or all together fine, but otherwise it is just asking for trouble. | |
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| What type of friendship is appropriate for a married person to have with the opposite sex?
Posted: 8/21/2008 7:50:48 PM |
I watched a woman that had a crush on a guy since high school help to ruin a marriage. I don't care what the man or woman says, they aren't just friends. Nothing good can come of their being together without the wife present. I think that if they want to do things as couples, in groups, or all together fine, but otherwise it is just asking for trouble.
I have two great male friends at this time. NO, I have no interest in dating them. I am currently dating someone for 2 months now. He has no issue with me hanging out with my guy friends or doing something with them if I choose to. We are just friends afterall and were prior to my current involvement so why not???? Geez just cause you have a friend of the opposite sex it doesn't mean one of you wants something more. | |
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| What type of friendship is appropriate for a married person to have with the opposite sex?
Posted: 8/21/2008 7:51:40 PM | Old fashioned much? Seriously, who cares who your spouse is friends with? I highly doubt you would be okay with them denying you the right to spend time with any of your friends.
My best friend is a female, and a majority of my friends are female. Stacey is the name of my best friend, and we're so close that that I told her when I get married someday, I'm breaking tradition and naming her my "best woman." She's really happy about that. I would never marry a woman who tells me it's not okay to spend time with my female friends, or any of my friends for that matter. My friends are very good people, and my female friends have never cheated because they're great people.
It's interesting how a lot of older folks tell younger people such as myself to "grow up." It seems that to grow up is to become narrow minded and bitter and to cast everything in a negative light.
When you enter into a relationship, you become a part of your partner's life. Nobody has any right to say "Okay, now that we're together, you can't do this, this, or this." I mean, the obvious things such as sleeping with randoms and complimenting people in a sexual manner are a given, yes. But the people we're friends with are a part of who we are and what our lives are. To take a person's friends away is to take away a part of who they are; a part that you fell in love with. | |
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| What type of friendship is appropriate for a married person to have with the opposite sex?
Posted: 11/8/2008 6:56:32 PM | Ok how about this situation?
I compete in a sport that is about 4 to 1 ration with men to women. Because of this I have formed a few friendships with married men whose wife's do not compete. These friendships are 100% platonic. Many times we end up traveling around the state for competitions and spending quite a bit of time together training. Is it appropriate for me to suggest ride sharing/hotel room sharing with these friends? From a practical standpoint it saves gas and $$ but I am never sure if its a good idea to ask, becuase I don't want to step on any toes. Although I feel we could make good travel partners, I would have no romatic interest in these men even if they were single, and have usaully met the wife's too.
Women if you were married and one of your husbands female activity partners suggested traveling to an event together, would that bother you? | |
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| What type of friendship is appropriate for a married person to have with the opposite sex?
Posted: 11/22/2008 2:03:46 PM | | Why would you ask this question??? you already know if you are married...stay away from anything that gives you the quivers or even warmy feelings. If you find yourself in a situation with someone you are attracted to other than your spouse, make it a point to never see them again when You are alone. Always have someone else with you too. Don't tempt yourself. KweKhi | |
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