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| Overly Suspicious Because of Inet Dating Experiences?
Posted: 1/25/2008 7:11:36 AM | I was BORN suspicious.
The 'story' is ... That , I asked the Dr. : "What the HE11 was THAT all about?!"
Won't even 'get into' What Happened when the B@STARD *smacked* me on the a s s !
'Internet'/POF ? *pffft*
Really , has NO 'bearing' on My 'frame of mind'. | |
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| Overly Suspicious Because of Inet Dating Experiences?
Posted: 1/25/2008 7:58:19 AM | Overly suspicious is not the word I would use to describe how I feel about internet dating experiences. More so cautious ... as in confirming in real life what someone has said online to know they are for real. Cautious because it's easy to give out a cell phone # and meet for dates but not know if someone is married. Cautious because it is easier for con artists (male and female alike) to hide behind the cloak of the internet to play with people's lives.
It has become the new playground for people to cheat on their partner, in multiples. It's quite sad actually. | |
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| Overly Suspicious Because of Inet Dating Experiences?
Posted: 1/25/2008 8:26:08 AM | Any experience that you have in life affects the way you are in the REST of your life, OP. I don't like the words "bitter, jaded, cynical". They put a negative connotation on a totally acceptable value, which is "cautious and wise". Anyone who does not pay attention to the world around them, does not learn from previous experiences, does not listen and consider the experiences of others, is not a very wise person.
The stove is there.
The burner is red.
You NEED the warmth.
You put your hand on the burner.
You get burned.
The stove is there.
The burner is red.
Your NEED is still there....
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Does this make you jaded? Cynical? Bitter?
No. It makes you wise.
Hell, you will not only avoid RED burners in the future, you will be damn careful around anything that remotely resembles a stove or a burner!
That's called "intelligence". | |
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| Overly Suspicious Because of Inet Dating Experiences?
Posted: 1/25/2008 8:31:23 AM | If I put "open minded" on my profile, it doesn't mean that I like people who try new ethnic cuisines and are open to debating politics and religions - it means I'm into S&M and am looking to get laid. If a woman puts "generous" or "financially stable" on her profile, it doesn't mean she's looking for a guy who gives to charity and/or is responsible with money, it means she's a gold digger looking for a free ride. If a man puts "active" or "takes care of themselves" or "fit" on their profile, it doesn't mean he enjoys working out and being physically active and is looking for the same, it means he's a shallow pig who's only interested in barbie-doll types. I could go on all day with these.
Well, it would be much simpler if people would put "I'm into S&M and looking to get laid" "Im a gold digger" or "Im a shallow pig who is only interested in barbie doll types".....but lets face it, THOSE words won't get them anywhere....Soooo, they HAVE resorted to the cute little word-isms you've described above. That is why those cute little descriptions have taken on new values.
Just like "cozy cottage" in the real estate business means "shack too small to even keep a dog in". And "gay" no longer means "happy". And "cute" is no longer an acceptable complimentary word. (See, I am able to learn!)
Its life. Get used to it. Roll with the punches. | |
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| Overly Suspicious Because of Inet Dating Experiences?
Posted: 1/25/2008 6:38:32 PM | Well you asked the question.. So Yes,. I think you ARE getting wierd in your middlish age I mean.. look at it like you did the other night..You like the guy, got his info.. But. there MUST be "something" is always in the back of your head. Even YOU thought it was stupid! I'm sure if you look at ANYONE long enough everyone will find some bones in the closet. I think we're becoming a nation of the "tabloid mentality".. and all want to be the investigative reporter paparrazi that breaks dirt on someone who "seems" too good to be true. OR: The rush to EXTRA!, EXTRA!< All MEN ARE PIGS! READ ALL ABOUT IT! OR: This JUST out! All women ARE B-I-T-C-H-E-S! Details At 11:00! If some one's going to look at ME that way,. they better bring the camera crew, because I make all the Baldwin boys, look like saints. I have to move from time to time because the closets overflow into the rest of the rooms with skeletons.. in various stages of decomposition.. And.. If they want to take MY picture.. they get this hanging & shakin' out the Limo window...(((___I___)))    | |
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| Overly Suspicious Because of Inet Dating Experiences?
Posted: 1/25/2008 9:00:18 PM | while i've usually found many of 'JWA's posts to be Logical (even if i don't necessarily 'agree' w/all the specific words) ... it does 'stand out' - just a little...
THAT : The statement of 'Not having the same problems/issues/scenarios' as are so often discussed'? BECAUSE of Being 'Logical' ('seeing *Red Flags* for...what they ARE, Not 'markers') hehe
Well, whilst that statement - in,of it's SELF? Is Logical , um ... perhaps not entirely 'fair'?
Personally , I would Never deem Any 'thing' written/said/whined about ... in,on Forums/POF as any indication of, well... Any'thing' (really? *shrug*)
Oh, i know - i'm TRYing to 'word' (bear w/~Please~?)
Just Like in 'Real Life' = POF/Internet...Any/Every'thing'.
It is not 'like' there are 'Different Rules' , such. EveryOne has the same 'choices/opportunities/Etc' , in any 'venue'. (minus the ability to correspond w/folks Physically,Geographically 'Far Away')
BUT! To 'attribute' all (or, 'most') of 'Others problems'? TO ... Not being 'cautious' , Ignoring *Red Flags* ? Well, Just Like in 'Real Life' - Sometimes? 'Things' just ....'Happen'
(Despite one being Ever VIGILANT in Their 'behavior/process')
Now, as stated...^Mr. JWA seems a fine feller , as a 'fellow veteran'...one might ~wonder~ ... "If All IS so 'Figgered Out'? Well, then what IS the *deelio*?
All can 'lament' on about 'how to be *Wicked Smot* in 'Their Searches' , such.
HowEver , when one IS as / seems as ... ~Fine a Catch~, as poster i've 'referred to'
well?
I spose , 'Bottom Line' is ... It's 'ALL' just *hinky*
'Here' / 'Out There' / EveryWhere' = an Utter *CrapShoot*
shrug
(ohhh gawwwd - took me too looong to figger out...what (_)(_) was^^^ hehe) | |
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| Overly Suspicious Because of Inet Dating Experiences?
Posted: 1/28/2008 3:20:10 AM | Oh Dear. I shall TRY to be concise , to the point.
The Op of this thread is questioning if ... um, Maybe having read all the 'Horror Stories'
(Internet/POF/Etc)
Has made AnyOne 'overly suspicious'?
Of Course we must ALL be on the Lookout for *Red Flags*
BUT... In light of the 'tone' of This Particular thread - 'suggesting' that others find themselves in a less desirable sitch, Because they didn'T spot those Red Flags? just seemed a lil 'odd'.
SomeTimes ... *stuff* just Happens. One can be Very 'Careful' , Even Vigilant , Still be Wronged by one they ~Trusted~.
To imply that one has it More 'figgerd out' ... than 'Others' - YET , one is still Also
'On a Dating site/Not partnered up'?
Well, NO 'offense' Intended (~Sincerely~)...just, doesn't seem Entirely 'Logical'.
Hey, i am Only 'saying' ... "It is ALL an absolute *crapshoot*. 'Here/Internet/Real World/
Etc'
The 'Internet' hasn't made Me 'overly suspicious' (I have AlWays been 'on zee LookOut')
Oh, not to be 'taken wrong'. I HAVE been in Many a ~TRUSTING/TrustED~
Loves/Relationships.
Just...Oh , ya 'get'. no? (i hope) 
NM , i fear i will be entering 'Convoluted Land' ... again.  | |
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| Overly Suspicious Because of Inet Dating Experiences?
Posted: 1/29/2008 1:31:07 AM |
Ahhhhhhhh NOW I get your gist-------makes sense now!
Well, *WsheeeeW* Crisis Averted! ( lil Joke - NOT *biting sarcasm*)
Still just a lil *tad* shy of the 'gist' though. See...
being careful to know enough about someone before meeting. In many instances, after discovering some major turn off I’ve ended conversations that would have led to a meeting otherwise. Had I not taken the time getting acquainted first I too would have one of the “horror stories” or at least another of the disappointing encounters so often described here.
Maybe/Maybe Not ... 'woulda been a Horror Story'. Now, Of Course the 'NOT Maybe' is a far greater 'IF' - I mean, if there Are *Red Flags* ... The chance of a bad scenario/outcome is much greater than the chance of 'maybe NOT'. (but, i Am getting a lil 'ahead of self')
The statement of 'Taking TIME'? Well, 'T I M E' is Such a 'relative' concept - now aint it?
What may seem like 'adequate' time for some , may not for someone else? (*dangit* getting 'ahead of self'- Again!)
K! It is Good , even ... ~Wonderful~ ... When ... One IS 'afforded' the Luxury of disclosure (of a *Red Flag*) , prior to investing themself Physically / meeting in flesh / spending...Time
Oh, But WAIT! ^That^ is 'WHAT' i want to 'Get at/To'!
TIME!
One might deem spending a 'Lot of' Time (prior to meeting)...= a Waste of such.
I wonder ... Hmmm? Really brings sumpin to mind fer moi. I Do see a Lot of threads,posts
by folks , that ... I go to check the profile - expecting to see a 'young age' (because the 'scenario' is Soooo Outrageous) ? Annnd? I am often *shockarood* at the 'Not so Young' age of the poster. 
Could it be that...at a 'certain age' - um , folks begin to feel that they should Not spend so
much of their precious TIME ... 'getting to know'? Hm?
(kinda 'sad/skerry' - if So)
K, 'back to' ^ one of my 'dangling/UnFinished' thoughts (yes, i even confuse myself grrr)
If one Does allude to / 'show' a ... 'sign/trait/behavior/potential InCompatability'
Before meeting , affords another the chance of 'Avoidance' of a Horror Story?
Great , the Time spent 'getting to that'? Could not be deemed Anything BUT = Well Worth it!
However, Many are Very...VERY good - At Hiding 'things' , keeping up extreme Decptions. There is Always a possibility of one *sneaking* under the radar.
(No Matter HOW much Time is 'taken' - no?)
To suggest/claim ' Personal Responsibility' for 'NEVER' being'had'? Well, just doesn't seem Entirely Logical. *shrug*
It is so *Handy* to have the opportunities that we DO though. All Should be ever so Grateful for Many 'things' that this technology Can 'do for us'.
EX : The POF forums? What a *handy dandy* 'way' to ... well ...
Of Course NoBody should Ever 'expect' anOther to Think,Feel the Exact Same way , about EveryThing as themSelves. BUT? There certainly ARE some 'things' , thaaaat?
If one can 'go,look at' ? What/How another 'says,feels'? Might just be dat 'One Thing'
That : Lets one Know - Ooooh No , 'we' wouldn't get along for One Day! | |
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