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Posted: 1/25/2008 6:59:32 AM | Well Scott in NY, I'm a little confused, does your parents live with you or do you live with your parents and taken over there payments?
Either way , you're a good son helping your parents to that I say it shows the type of person you are, and most decent women wouldn't run from a guy like you, now if a woman tells you that its not cool what you're doing and decides not to date you, trust me you're better off without her.
Dont lie about it, the lies will come back and bite you in the ass later on, lets say if you say " oh i have roommates" and later on you have to tell her its your parents she might wonder well what else is the b astard lying about? | |
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Posted: 1/25/2008 10:52:06 AM | You are a good son, Scott.
Oh boy, are you gonna have HUGE problems......
Your choice is basically to either let your (white) lies 'bite you in the ass' later (which they may or may not), OR be mauled to ribbons by being truthful right here, right now. | |
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Posted: 1/25/2008 5:35:22 PM | Here is the thing, if you can take a girl home and bang her on the bed till she screams the national athem of France or something , then you are not living with your parents.
If you have to ask permission of your parents to bring her to dinner, then your living with your parents and still no matter who pays what, need to move out. | |
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Posted: 1/30/2008 1:04:09 AM | I commend you for taking care of your parents as most people usually don't. I know they have many reasons why they can't or won't.... good for you | |
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Posted: 2/1/2008 7:00:45 PM | Scott - be upfront, tell it like it is. If someone can't accept it - too bad! It is obvious that your living situation is working for you and your parents. When exactly did it become a problem to be a supportive and caring son? Kudos for you!
Any woman who doesn't understand, or jumps to conclusions, obviously isn't the right woman for you. Maybe we should start to question why it is percieved to be more acceptable for a single woman to share a home with parents, but considered a negative for a man? | |
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Posted: 2/2/2008 9:52:22 AM | Some folks get all twisted up about a few little lies.
Let's face it. Everbody lies.
You should make your lies more creative, more fantastic, and better than anyone elses.
If you are going to lie, then do an outstanding job of it. | |
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Posted: 2/3/2008 7:11:40 AM | OP: Always tell the truth no matter what your living situation is. If someone doesn't like it or "can't live with that" then it's their problem, not yours. Move on to someone more tolerant. We all have certain things that happen in our lives which may change our "independent or financial status" due to a parents aging and us having to re-arrange our lives in order to take care of them or a sick child or sibling. Would I lie about that to a potential mate? no, I wouldn't. If he couldn't understand the sacrifice I had to make for my family/friends/animals...then he can drop dead.
Good luck!
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Posted: 2/3/2008 7:44:42 AM | | If I really liked a guy and he told me he lived alone and it was clear he hadn't... than I would end it. I'd feel you had something to lie about (felt guilty, ashamed, taking advantage of his parents) or you didn't trust me to tell me the truth. If the guy was sitting at home playing video games all day and wasn't making a future for himself than yeah I would pass him up. But if he had a valid reason than I probable wouldn't mind until it came time to alone time. I would have a couple question because I'd feel strange sleeping in his bed with his mom home or mom making breakfast for everyone. But you gotta get to that point.. and can't guess what it be like. My grandmother lives with me because she can't take care of herself. But it's my place and you can tell by the furniture and pictures that it's not an old lady's place. Plus half the time she doesn't even know I'm her granddaughter and once in awhile she thinks I'm her daughter or her greatgranddaughter or hired help. If a guy doesn't like than tough because someday she wont be around and I'll still be the same girl. I live with my choices and you should live with yours. There is so many good reasons to stay at home... save for a house, in school, never home becasue of career, both need help with taxes and insurance being high). I'm sure with good communication and the right girl it will be ok. If someone has a problem let them go, but let them decide how they feel with the truth. You cant start a relationship with lies or make someone accept it. It seems to be common for people to move back in with their parents. Hey it's hard without a good job, strict budget, or roommate. | |
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Posted: 2/3/2008 7:53:35 AM | "If you have to ask permission of your parents to bring her to dinner, then your living with your parents and still no matter who pays what, need to move out."
If mommy is making dinner or it's a regular dinner than.. you have to ask... it's respect. It should be if you are cooking dinner and have to ask to use the kitchen.
"if you can take a girl home and bang her on the bed till she screams the national athem of France or something , then you are not living with your parents."
I don't think I would want to be too loud, if I had sex, at a house where a guys parents are. Hell, I wouldn't even think of doing it if my father was in the same house. Everyone knows you do it... but don't want to talk about it with parents or them to think of it. That just would be creapy. I'll be a virgin in my dads eyes... probable even after I have a kid. And that perfectly ok with me. | |
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Posted: 2/3/2008 8:23:33 AM | "And if you don't feel your parents can take care of themselves,then they should consider selling their house,and moving into a retirement facility."
That sounds soo cold hearted. Sometimes it's not that easy. You can't say that till you have to make the decision. Family helps family and everyone does what they can. They raised him and gave him morals and values.
For instance, my entire family would more than support my decision to place my grandmother in a nursing home. But she gave up everything and moved to florida to raise my brother and I... so my mom could provide a nicer house for us. She tought me at a young age without even realizing that you just do it. But no one ever asks me why i try to help her they just judge.
You just do what you feel is right because you have to answer for your actions. And you have to know in your heart you did the right thing and nothing else matters if you cant live with yourself. It might be hard to get made fun of for standing out, but you'll be harder on yourself than anyone else will ever be on you. | |
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