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| Are people over analysing relationships to much?
Posted: 1/26/2008 1:31:09 AM | Re post 12:
Right!
Correct:
It is not the quantity of analysis that makes the difference, it is the quality
Some people like thinking and analysing before they do something, some are impulsive. These are 2 different "schools" of philosophy on life. One can subscribe to the former or the latter.
"But if you do, you have to do it right, or you won't feel the benefit" (1occ)
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| Are people over analysing relationships to much?
Posted: 1/26/2008 1:43:13 AM | | I'm not dating at the moment, but yeah, I know I over analyze things. I think it's due to the fact I'm scared of repeating the same old mistakes. Funny though, it never hit me until reading this post...I've never thought of dating as a form of fun. | |
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| Are people over analysing relationships to much?
Posted: 1/26/2008 7:29:03 AM | | YES! Way to many people are over analysing. Always trying to figure things out. Too much work, too much effort.............too much trouble. The more you know yourself & accept yourself & make decsions about what you want, the less you would become caught up in doing that. | |
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| Are people over analysing relationships to much?
Posted: 5/9/2009 4:52:30 PM | I know this is an old thread but just wanted to state here that i to have been guilty of over analyzing ..have just recently gone through it but you know what accured to me and it was like a light switch going on....If it is the right person for you...there would be no need to analyze....it would flow and just be easy... No questioning, no does he like me etc etc...should i be like this or that...nothing .just pure fun and joy to be with...so next time you are analyzing ask your self ...is he/she really what i want..you may just find the answer ..Relationships shouldnt be hard if it is the right guy or girl for you...just my thoughts..
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| Are people over analysing relationships to much?
Posted: 5/9/2009 5:09:27 PM | | ^^^ True to a certain extent pisces, however there are people that can't accept being happy and will analyze till their mouth drops...those are the people that NEED to sabotage their relationships....and you're right, relationships/dating should be about FUN, the key factor that most of us forget about... | |
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| Are people over analysing relationships to much?
Posted: 5/9/2009 5:19:21 PM |
Yes, but we now live an age of thought and enlightenment were everything is being over analysed so we might as well get used to it!
Not necessarily! the difference between any two people is AWARENESS, to be aware of what is truly happening is the most powerful thing....just because everyone else is doing it, doesn't make it right...as you can see. | |
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| Are people over analysing relationships to much?
Posted: 5/9/2009 5:20:40 PM | Relationships shouldnt be hard if it is the right guy or girl for you...just my thoughts..
You're absolutely right Pisces... When a man and woman are hitting it off, all of the good things flow naturally from each of them and there is no need to biopsy every single move each one makes.
On the other hand, when you come into a dating site made up of a lot of people who are actually still grieving, it's to be expected that you will find a lot of people wondering what the hell hit them. I think that the older we get, the harder it can be to "start over" and that is also reflected by people who are questioning because they no longer trust their own judgment.
Some people can simply appreciate the wonder of a butterfly. Others will pluck the wings off of it to try to understand how it flies. Go figger. | |
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| Are people over analysing relationships to much?
Posted: 5/9/2009 6:10:54 PM | Well i do agree with everything that has been stated here...I personally have done a lot of self healing....inner child work to remove programing that was instilled in me as a young child...my biggest fear is rejection.....every time we start to analyize it is actually our inner child controlling the situation....Can people really find meaningful, loving, equal relationships if they are still holding on to the pain of the last....Are we not going to just keep repeating the same old patterns into the next relationship...i had a relationship with a guy and he would talk to me like he spoke to his ex wife if he got annoyed....friggin did my head in....ooops getting off the subject here...so when we start to analyze it is surely just a trigger to let us know that we are not getting what we want out of the friendship/relationship and should just move on.....Or have the closeness to chat about it..if that gets you no where then move on.....Start with listening and loving yourself.... | |
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| Are people over analysing relationships to much?
Posted: 5/9/2009 10:38:24 PM |
“Happiness is like a butterfly: the more you chase it, the more it will elude you, but if you turn your attention to other things, it will come and sit softly on your shoulder…”– Thoreau
I can be guilty of that as well from time to time.  | |
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| Are people over analysing relationships to much?
Posted: 5/9/2009 10:40:26 PM |
Not necessarily! the difference between any two people is AWARENESS, to be aware of what is truly happening is the most powerful thing....just because everyone else is doing it, doesn't make it right...as you can see.
I am not saying it is right or wrong, I'm just saying it is becoming a more acceptable practise to take a closer look at things in order to attempt to improve or avoid certain pitfalls that can destroy a relationship. Whether it is being over done is in the eyes of the beholder. | |
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| Are people over analysing relationships to much?
Posted: 5/10/2009 12:26:42 AM | | OP i definitely agree with you...people make situations in relationships more complicated than need be..i don't know if this is done on purpose or not..but its something that has been destroying relationships for a while now..i don't know..i am not sure why people cant be relaxed and take things easy and not make a big deal about every little thing that arises.. | |
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| Are people over analysing relationships to much?
Posted: 5/10/2009 1:10:57 AM | i call it "baby mamma drama" and EVERYONE does it to one extent or another..... i thinks its just human nature, if everything was simple, life would be boring, and so we ALL look for drama to spice things up.... why do you think reality shows are so damn popular? cause they drama free? c'mon....
quit living in fantasy land and come back to reality peoples!!!!
and take that whole "im not into drama" line out of your profiles and your vocabulary!!!! | |
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| Are people over analysing relationships to much?
Posted: 5/10/2009 1:15:22 AM | I would agree with your assesment partially. People do seem to nit pick realtionships far too much, and read what ever they are worried about into inconsequential actions of their partners.
That having been said, It is just as destructive to a relationship, not toattempt to find out why a significant problem is taking place and improve upon it.
Fun in a relationship is important, but they are far from simple, and will from time to time need repair.
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| Are people over analysing relationships to much?
Posted: 5/10/2009 6:39:01 AM | I think for the most part, over analyzing comes to play in a relationship when the communication is poor or you are poorly matched. Unfortunately, people don't always say what they mean nor mean what they say. How many times have you heard the phrase "read between the lines" to later be told "you are reading to much into it" If you don't analyze enough you are considered "naive" if you read too much into things you over analyze.
Go figure ...
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