| men..would you date a woman with little or no sex drive?
Posted: 1/24/2008 4:37:58 PM | | Wellbutrin works wonders - no sexual side effects - eases the depression without the BS! However you have to talk to your Dr. to see what is right for you. You have to wean off other drugs first before changing to a new one! | |
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| men..would you date a woman with little or no sex drive?
Posted: 1/25/2008 12:33:50 AM | I wouldn't mind really. Just as long as I knew it was not a case of "no sex drive for me".
But truthfully why would a person want to be involved when they can't enjoy or have any satifying sexual relations? Mor importantly why would someone stay involved with another whom gains no satisfaction from the act of sex? Or more pointedly with them?
Simply put: They wouldn't. I know if it was solely for my benefit, a bar of soap and a steamy enviornment makes for more satisfaction than a woman whom has lost her desire for my manhood, or more pointedly fakes an orgasm on a regular basis.
If indeed the dysfunction is that great and its that obvious, only a very selfish man would continue to use such a woman as his sperm recepticle, a get his device. And often, to boot.
Truely, its not a question of the man not being able to stimulate his woman. Its more of a question of her being able to be stimulated by him. If the first is the case she won't be faithfull or present in the relationship for long. If the facts speak to the second, then he will seek a more responsive or comunicative partner. If the mechanisms that are the sex drive arn't present, there is still things that can be done. If a treatment for a medical condition is sterilizing ones labido, then I suggest seeking different medicines. There are altenate methods and medications for addressing most ailments of the mind and body, are there not?
But no amount of cure can help if the spirit isn't willing to seek it.
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| men..would you date a woman with little or no sex drive?
Posted: 1/25/2008 12:39:07 AM | Ha, well, if this hasn't been enlightening!
So, according to some posters here, women in their 20's and 30's are NORMAL???? if they have a low or even no sex drive during those years? ROTFLMAO....so I'm NOT necessarily the frigid b*tch my ex believed me to be just because I got nothing out of it? Oh....and then there was the counselling I went through where I found out there was actually more to sex than someone jumping you, dry humping and then leaving....there was something called foreplay!!!! Imagine that! Oh and the loving words of ridicule and the put downs were just so erotic....hmmm. But I'm wondering something....if women in their 20's and 30's sometimes Normally decrease in sex drive anyway...then being physically sick, and having multiple other issues going on at the time (too personal to mention here) would not in any WAY be a reason then for decrease in sex drive during those years, huh? Geez....sorry folks...but I've carried alot of guilt over this very issue for a long time, feeling like an oddity, and being treated far worse, only to find out it was actually a natural occurance in some women and that it truly might NOT have been all my fault that I got nothing out of it, like I'd been led to believe? Funny, that counsellor should have mentioned that fact, even if I or my ex's didn't have a clue that it was fairly common. And here I've been, for years thinkin it HAD to be another chemical imbalance of some kind, or the traumatic things I'd gone through that was behind it. Oh well, guess ya learn something new every day. To bad I didn't know years ago...could have saved alot of guilt and grief, which may also have been contributing factors in getting nothing out of it. | |
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| men..would you date a woman with little or no sex drive?
Posted: 1/25/2008 12:51:12 AM |
Or say she was willing to have sex, but you knew she wouldn't get any enjoyment out of it except for feeling an emotional bond, would that bother you?
I don't actually think it would bother me that much, I could be understanding with that situation and the effects of the medicines, etc. And besides, I'd much prefer a girl like that anyway as opposed to one of those that's so nympho-licious that they make me feel like I'm being attacked by a sexual demoness from Hades. | |
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| men..would you date a woman with little or no sex drive?
Posted: 1/25/2008 1:56:01 AM | You have the right attitude in wanting to find a solution to this problem. If you don't you will likely be alone for the rest of your life. You're young so deal with it now. Don't simply accept it and try to make the best of it.
I'd like to say that it would be easier for a woman to still have sex without a sex drive, but the reality is that you will likely only be able to keep up that act for a limited amount of time before you just avoid sex completely, so the gender difference is probably not relevant. I'd also like to say that there is a med that will work for you, but that's not always the case. IF one SSRI or tricyclic affects you, they likely all will to varying degrees. SSRI's and SNRI's are particularly horrible with this side effect. There are some meds that don't fit in either class and may provide the relief you need without the harmful side effect.
Good luck with your search OP. | |
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| men..would you date a woman with little or no sex drive?
Posted: 1/25/2008 5:22:18 AM | Absolutely.
My reasoning? I have a virtually unexistant sex drive, myself. I don't consider myself asexual, though, but i'm borderline.
I'd be in heaven with a partner with a drive that matched mine.
I find it difficult to date, as most women I have dated, had a very high sex drive, making us very incompatible in the long run. | |
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| men..would you date a woman with little or no sex drive?
Posted: 1/25/2008 5:35:49 AM | | My ex-girlfreind was deaf and little sex drive . we were togetehr for 4 years . I would date a woman with low sex drive . maybe , her ex saw her as having low sex drive I , on the otherhand might see her as having HIGH sex drive . | |
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| men..would you date a woman with little or no sex drive?
Posted: 1/25/2008 7:06:27 AM | | I am 65 soon to be 66 and I still have a sex drive so why would I date anyone with less,I think sex is a third of the relationship maybe more.Many a relationship has been lost because of sex,some too much,some not enough and some because none at all.Look around and you will see how sex is used to get us to go places,buy things and to date someone like it or not its in our every day life. | |
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| men..would you date a woman with little or no sex drive?
Posted: 1/26/2008 5:31:01 AM | | my ex-girlfreind had a low to no sex drive . I stayed with her . UNTIL 5 credit cards were maxed out THEN , I left . otherwise , low sex drive can be seen as a good thing or bad . depending on the other person . | |
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| men..would you date a woman with little or no sex drive?
Posted: 1/26/2008 5:59:41 PM |
Just curious because I've had this problem ever since I started taking antidepressants; even after I got off of them the problem never went away. I've had moderate success treating it by using vitamin/herbal supplements while off the SSRIs but eventually I've had to go back on the SSRI because the depression was making it so hard for me to function in everyday life. I still have hope that I can find a way to successfully treat both the depression and sexual dysfunction, but it's really discouraging sometimes. Are there any women on here who've had similar problems that were successfully treated?
i will tell you first hand what solved my problem about being depressed and get me off the anti dep drugs.
Quit your job !!!
You are a nurse ... at times very depressing seeing sick people all the time.
I use to work as an IT manager for a funeral home/ cemetery company.
that was hell for me until my doctor asked me what do u do for a living and who do u work for. when i told him he took the prescription he was handing me for paxil and said quit your job youll feel better in about 2 weeks
well sure as hell about 3 weeks after i quit i felt great, sleep better, no more migraines and have a really nice new career.
Hope u have a happy ending too. good luck!!!! | |
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| men..would you date a woman with little or no sex drive?
Posted: 1/26/2008 7:34:03 PM | Wow, kudos for you for acknowledging this but unfortunately you would end up in the friend category.
In my opinion sex is too much of a part of a relationship to not have my partner into it whether she is willing to go through the motions or not :(
Cheers
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| men..would you date a woman with little or no sex drive?
Posted: 1/27/2008 2:58:19 PM | | i dated a girl and for awhile everything was perfect...she was very sexual and we had a great connection...then she started taking celexa and it all went downhill from there...she had very little interest in sex and she totally changed personality wise....we barely had sex anymore and when we did i could tell she was just doing it for me...that coupled with her turning into a mega biatch was enough to end our relationship..which didnt end easily either..she ended up filing a bs peace bond against me and making up lies in court with her family who were also on sum crazy medication.i ended up beating it down in court and embarrasing her family...i would date a girl with little sex drive but if it was caused by a side effect from meds then no..cause she has sum underlying probs....girls on meds=phychotic ****es who will do sum crazy shit to u to try and hurt u when u r not together anymore | |
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| men..would you date a woman with little or no sex drive?
Posted: 1/27/2008 2:58:38 PM | | i dated a girl and for awhile everything was perfect...she was very sexual and we had a great connection...then she started taking celexa and it all went downhill from there...she had very little interest in sex and she totally changed personality wise....we barely had sex anymore and when we did i could tell she was just doing it for me...that coupled with her turning into a mega biatch was enough to end our relationship..which didnt end easily either..she ended up filing a bs peace bond against me and making up lies in court with her family who were also on sum crazy medication.i ended up beating it down in court and embarrasing her family...i would date a girl with little sex drive but if it was caused by a side effect from meds then no..cause she has sum underlying probs....girls on meds=phychotic ****es who will do sum crazy shit to u to try and hurt u when u r not together anymore | |
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| men..would you date a woman with little or no sex drive?
Posted: 1/28/2008 9:44:16 AM | dually681 - You're right, I definently think my job is contributing to my depression...it's not easy at all. But the good news is that I have found a new job and I'm hoping it'll be alot better!
batman,superman, bridgman - I'm sorry you had such a bad experience...however not everyone reacts to medication that way...some people have little or no side effects, and most just become emotionally numb. | |
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| men..would you date a woman with little or no sex drive?
Posted: 1/29/2008 8:14:14 PM | | This is very common in almost everyone on antidepressants despite what the drug companies might say. A study showed that over 60% of people on antidepressants lost their sex drive almost completely but it seems a lot higher if you read about other people's experiences. Meds scare the hell out of me, especially ones that mess with brain chemistry. The good news is that most people manage to find one that seems to work without the severe loss of sex drive. Since these medications increase your serotonin levels, which is essentially a "feel good" chemical that controls emotion and mood, the brain subconciously doesn't need sexual desire for pleasure so it sets it aside. You may want to try various types until you find one that works without that problem. I read about a good test to see if your antidepressants are too strong. It said to watch a movie that usually will always make you cry, and if you don't feel anything at the saddest part, you may be on too strong of a dosage. I really hope you find your way out of your depression because I can only imagine how bad it must be. Depression isn't really a strong enough word for how frightening and scary this condition is. | |
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