| Am I a bastard?
Posted: 2/25/2008 3:56:18 AM | | nah she should have been honest from the start. you did nothing wrong. | |
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| Am I a bastard?
Posted: 2/25/2008 4:34:22 AM | | I swear, some women... I'm glad you saw reason early haha. | |
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| Am I a bastard?
Posted: 2/25/2008 4:55:15 AM | | you did the right thing . any man would have walked away. 20 yrs old and on second child and both have diff fathers. if i were a man i would have ran like the wind. | |
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| Am I a bastard?
Posted: 2/25/2008 4:58:05 AM | I would of ran like the wind the minute I found out she was skint....
Kerching! | |
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| Am I a bastard?
Posted: 2/25/2008 8:07:00 AM | OP.
Dump her with zero remorse! Do under no circumstances feel bad for her situation and the corresponding sob story. I bet she has every excuse in the world for why the other to men (which she most likely call **stards) are not around. Believe non of them. Its not your fault that she an irresponsible tool. And if your do, she gets a go ahead to manipulate and abuse you! If I was a betting man, I would bet that she kept the children assuming it would keep the other men around. She obviously have no morals or consideration for anybody but herself.
So do yourself a favor and remove yourself from her in every aspect or you will end up f&cking your life up! | |
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| Am I a bastard?
Posted: 2/25/2008 8:30:49 AM | i think that you taking her out grocery shopping was a very sweet thing to do and that she should have told you she was pregnant from the beginning
if you hadn't made her any promises you didn't keep, then i don't see that you're in the wrong... everyone has a preference as to who they want to date, it doesn't make them a bad person just because that preference might not be what we wish it was... | |
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| Am I a bastard?
Posted: 2/25/2008 9:00:19 AM |  Good for you for getting away from her!! Now stay away from her. | |
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| Am I a bastard?
Posted: 2/25/2008 9:01:53 AM | | No, you're not. Sounds like she was looking for someone to use. Be glad you're rid of her now. | |
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nero1
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Joined: 1/30/2008
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| Am I a bastard?
Posted: 2/25/2008 10:28:56 AM | | You most definitely did the right thing. You have to look out for yourself first and foremost. She is looking for child support. If you shack up with her, you will be seen by courts as "in loco parentis" which basically says you were willing to take on the parental responsibility of the natural parent - means $$$ in child support. Don't go there - it will ruin your life. Let her chase the real dads. | |
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| Am I a bastard?
Posted: 2/25/2008 11:30:44 AM | | have you posted this thread before ? only asking as saw an almost identical one to this a few weeks ago ??????? | |
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| Am I a bastard?
Posted: 2/25/2008 11:39:17 AM | No you are not a **stard
But you are very lucky you didn't end up making one with her. With your moral compass you would have ended up paying for it, unlike her previous paramours. | |
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| Am I a bastard?
Posted: 2/25/2008 5:20:39 PM |
have you posted this thread before ? only asking as saw an almost identical one to this a few weeks ago ???????
Lowenna - somebody revived his thread. That's why it looks so familiar.
OP, you are a good guy for helping out someone in need, and a smart one for getting out when you realized she was going to take advantage of you.
20 with 2 kids from 2 different daddies and looking for someone else to take care of her ... hmmmmm
keep running and don't look back. This one is bad bad news. | |
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| Am I a bastard?
Posted: 2/25/2008 8:40:49 PM | | Some people learn to get by preying on the good will and compassion of others. I seem to have a talent for finding them , same as you OP. Don't take it to heart. better to be a decent human and be taken in on occasion than turn cold and be uncompassionate. You did the right thing now move on. I met a woman, fell for her, and found out too late i was no more than an open wallet to her. We live we learn. | |
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| Am I a bastard?
Posted: 2/25/2008 8:45:03 PM | No I don't think your a **stard for doing that.
She is not your responsibility. She is some girl you met a few weeks ago.
I also think your a kind and caring person for taking her grocery shopping. You did the right thing by ending it with her. | |
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OLT4U
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Joined: 12/21/2007
Msg: 66 | |
| Am I a bastard?
Posted: 2/25/2008 9:08:45 PM |
she couldn't afford food and so on so I took her food shopping ...did I do the right thing?
No, you shouldn't have taken her food shopping. | |
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| Am I a bastard?
Posted: 2/25/2008 9:22:34 PM | She is trying to manipulate you.
You didn't fall for it. And~ you were even kind enough to buy her groceries? Sheesh. She outta be b!tch slapped. She is a slimey little wench. You can do better.  | |
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jdb57
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Joined: 6/20/2007
Msg: 68 | |
| Am I a bastard?
Posted: 2/25/2008 9:58:49 PM | No, man, you did the right thing. Some people just cannot accept that they are responsible for their own actions and then they take it one step further and think that everyone else has to fix the problems for them. You could take her grocery shopping and pay her bills and then she will be pressuring you to pay her rent. If at any point you refuse to pay you would hear the same bullsh*t that you got from her by not paying for the groceries.
You can feel sorry for her, but since she put herself into this mess she needs to get herself out and there are things she can do about it. The first thing that comes to my mind is getting the daddy of each child to pay for child support. Sure, it is going to be a tough road ahead but that is what happens when people make those decisions. | |
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| Am I a bastard?
Posted: 2/25/2008 10:04:14 PM | | If your parents were married, no. | |
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| Am I a bastard?
Posted: 5/11/2008 10:57:18 PM | to much on-going in only the 2 wks a;ready.....u r not a ***tard. u sound like a decent person. u have in no way/shape/or form have a responsibilty to her. the childs fathers r responsible to provide 4 their children. not you. u only knew her a few wks...run.   | |
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| Am I a bastard?
Posted: 5/12/2008 1:49:44 PM | | It takes alot to take on someone with kids and at your age I feel you did the right thing .....You need to be able to make that choice of your own if you would want to have kids at your age. You have a long life to live and to start out adulthood caring and haveing to be responisble for someones else children isnt a good way to start..... She should of told you ahead of time about being pregnant. Life can be tuff enough as it is. | |
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| Am I a bastard?
Posted: 5/12/2008 1:58:21 PM | Whatever; this girl is 20 years old and is extremely immature and ignorant to be having unprotected casual sex. She's creating train wreck of a life and then gets upset when you dont want to go along for the ride.
She's danger; dump her like yesterdays news and dont' talk to her anymore. Her irresponsible mistakes are not your problem. | |
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| Am I a bastard?
Posted: 5/12/2008 3:15:45 PM | | She needs a lesson in getting to know men before having their kids ! | |
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| Am I a bastard?
Posted: 5/12/2008 4:13:21 PM | The original post is from January, I'm thinking the guy is over it by now.
****this message brought to you by people against useless thread bumping.**** | |
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| Am I a bastard?
Posted: 5/12/2008 4:29:25 PM | You didn't owe her a thing.
Good thing you left. Sounds like she's never heard of condoms...or maybe she has one of those acidic vaginas that melts rubber. | |
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