| Am I a bastard?
Posted: 5/12/2008 7:12:44 PM | Are you aware of who your father is? If so, then no, you are not a **stard.
She's just a tramp who can't keep her legs shut and she is pissed off b/c you don't want to pay for her and her little **stards. Just text her back and say 'Hey, yeah, well, you sure do know about those **stards since you keep creating them.' Give her tit for tat my friend. Or you could just change your number.
~Welder's Girl~ | |
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| Am I a bastard?
Posted: 5/12/2008 7:17:21 PM | | Wow nice guy alert!! Dude, run run run!!!!!!!!!!!!1 Find someone deserving and respectful. Not those types like you just described. If a chick kids or not asks you for money or anything and not to mentions keeps a secret like that from the start, she's bad news! | |
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| Am I a bastard?
Posted: 5/12/2008 8:53:54 PM | | F that b, you took her shopping for God sakes? Are you insane? Your not a **stard but a NICE GUY who was taken advantage of. Why is a 20 yr old having babies, boyfriends and broke? Women like that give other good women a bad name. You did the right thing (minus taking her shopping). I'd text her back and tell her you plan to get a protection order from her if she doesn't go kick rocks. This tramp has me all fired up, WTH? | |
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| Am I a bastard?
Posted: 5/12/2008 10:02:52 PM | No, you're not a blastard, she is.
You shouldn't even bother with her to begin with, she's got a kid and pregnant at 20? and she can't even afford food for her kid, what is this world coming to? I am 36 and I will not date a man with kids, I know I am selfish but if I am dating someone I want that person to focus just on me, not "I have to be with my kids this weekend" nonsense. | |
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| Am I a bastard?
Posted: 5/13/2008 7:39:20 AM | | No, you are not a **stard. She was perfectly willing to freeload off you for as long as she could keep her little secret a secret. First of all, I would never ask for or take money from a guy I just met a few weeks ago. Heck I'd never ask for money from any guy who wasn't my husband, for that matter. | |
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| Am I a bastard?
Posted: 5/13/2008 8:40:26 AM | | You aint a bstard! You did the right thing by abandoning ship when you did...You're one of the lucky ones. | |
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| Am I a bastard?
Posted: 5/17/2008 1:58:12 AM | No, you're not a **stard.
You're young brother.
Micky -- Do yourself a favor and do what I do -- just click over women your age(or younger) that have kids already.
That way if you decide to have some of your own you they won't have to grow up in an awkward living situation... Sorry if I offended you or anyone else but I'm just extremely biased on this subject -- I don't think women our age(ish) should even have kids in the first place because:
A) Most can't support them
B) It's a surefire sign that they put out(to god knows who)
C) If multiple kids of multiple ages, they decided to make the same mistake twice
D) Attending and completing college = twice as hard
E) There are men from past relationships in their life usually, and most times permanently
Why put up with a girl that's got baby daddie(s) in her life when there are millions more that don't. | |
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| Am I a bastard?
Posted: 5/17/2008 4:14:33 AM | You did the right thing.
Contraception in the UK is free. I can understand first child being a "mistake", but the second and succesive? I don't buy it, as well as that every girl doing that claims that the pill makes them sick, or that condoms don't work.
However, the UK is a heaven for single mums with no money. They get a £500 grant when the child is born for equipment, support, maintenance, a council house with no rent and money for bills.
She needs to grow up and stop conceving children when she is going to make their life a misery.
This issue makes my blood boil  | |
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| Am I a bastard?
Posted: 5/20/2008 1:33:04 PM | Um yeah you did good, what kind of girl is that, dosent she have any morals and standards for life, omg I cant stand woman who use men. Just really think about the kid thing real good becasue even thou some parents want a partner for them, they have to learn how to love that child as there own and if not that would just be selfish and wrong for everyone , one life and its gone, live it with honesty with yourself. sorry i blabbed | |
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| Am I a bastard?
Posted: 5/20/2008 3:51:09 PM | Run, move, change your phone number.
You dodged a bullet on this one! | |
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| Am I a bastard?
Posted: 5/26/2008 10:43:16 PM | | Naw you did good. She had no right to expect you to buy her groceries and basically support her. It'd be a little different if she asked to borrow money until payday or something.... | |
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| Am I a bastard?
Posted: 5/26/2008 10:48:41 PM | Micky....oh my, where do I start?
No, you are not a **stard. I think it was very kind (and smart) of you to take her shopping for groceries instead of just giving her cash. You have a very kind heart, which is a wonderful quality. Don't lose it.
I completely understand your feeling that her situation is too much for you to take on. And as for her hurling insults at you for backing away ~ I think that is very manipulative on her part. Yes, she's trying to survive, but survival by being a leech is not a good thing. She needs to get her life together and learn to stand on her own two feet, especially now when she's about to have not one, but two children to support.
If you're still concerned for her (or like me, more concerned for those poor children), then do some research and offer her some resources that can help her. Her situation is beyond the scope of what you can realistically do, I'm afraid.
I respect you for what you've done already and I hope you feel good about that. | |
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| Am I a bastard?
Posted: 5/26/2008 10:55:40 PM | | You're a great guy for even thinking for a moment you might be a **stard. That means you have a conscious. Run, far as you can and fast as you can. | |
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| Am I a bastard?
Posted: 5/27/2008 8:47:37 AM | | No u did the right thing! Her wanting your money was a sign. I have never asked a guy for money. | |
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| Am I a bastard?
Posted: 6/23/2008 5:29:21 PM | | YOU weren't a **stard. Her two kids were!! lol And she was a schemer. Who dates while they're prego? | |
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| Am I a bastard?
Posted: 6/23/2008 8:56:09 PM | You did the wrong thing by dating a single mother. Are you really that desperate?
I have a rule. No single moms. Ever. Under any circumstances. Ever.
If you’re the type of person that is just looking for sex that would be one thing. But for anything else - no single mothers. You’re talking about a women who brought a child into this world, an innocent human being, with no father.
Do you really want to step in and pick up the check for another man's responsibility? You will never come first. Her **stard child, another man's DNA, the jerk who dumped her, his mistake, that will come first. You exist as a human wallet. Tag your it. The goal is to reel you in while giving lip service about how she is "independent" or what not finally getting you to "play daddy" and act as another source of money for her and her child. Think about it.
This was the man she let impregnate her. Now you are going to pay for it. Sound like a good deal? Don't be a fool!
Being a single mom is a choice. Back in the 1950's things were not like this. There was a social stigma against single mothers and against divorce so women did everything they could to stay together at least for the sake of the child. Now look at today. Selfishness rules.
Most of these single Moms have themselves to blame. They could have had a nice guy back in the day. Instead they kicked the nice guy to the curb and gave the best of themselves to some a**hole. Now they want you to step in. Mr. nice guy, and get the leftovers and pick up the check. That is what they see you as. The more you think about it the more you will realize how insulting it is.
I do not date single Mom's. And you should not ethir. You are asking for drama, problems, and to become "Mark" taken for his "bundle". Do not be so desperate. You are a nice guy and she took advantage of you.
There are plenty of single, fun, girls out there waiting for you. And if you are like me, a nice guy looking for a serious relationship that is what you want, not another man’s leftovers and DNA.
Don't be a fool. Never date single Mom's. | |
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| Am I a bastard?
Posted: 6/23/2008 9:19:25 PM | The first text that asked for $$$ should have been the last.
I dated a woman who owned a house, said she ran her own business, etc. By the second date I found out her business was kaput, her house was inherited from her mom, her car died and she was hitting me up for money.
Yeah, it was OVER. | |
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| Am I a bastard?
Posted: 6/23/2008 9:42:45 PM | OP- are you seriously questioning yourself here? You owed this girl nothing yet took her to buy food anyway because she got herself into a bad predicament. She's not your responsibility and didn't deserve the kindness you showed her.
Move on, you deserve way better then that. | |
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| Am I a bastard?
Posted: 6/23/2008 9:44:29 PM | | Why do you choose to date trash? Having your taxes pay for their bad choices is more than enough. | |
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| Am I a bastard?
Posted: 6/24/2008 12:20:39 AM | | Nope you done the right thing. She was clearly using you and is raging now she cant. You are so clearly a decent bloke and she does not deserve you. | |
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| Am I a bastard?
Posted: 6/24/2008 1:23:32 AM | Don't think that of yourself, the fact you were willing to help her with groceries is above and beyond the call of duty imo. It shows you were willing to stretch the extra distance to make it work - but she tried to play you, and you were smart enough not to be a tool. Kudos.  | |
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| Am I a bastard?
Posted: 6/24/2008 2:10:17 AM | She is just a hustler that wants drug money dear. You should never have even taken her to the grocery store. Chances are she is not pregnant either, because con artsit and liars will tell us anything.
Whenever she told you initially that money was tight, your reply should have been "That is why people have jobs">>>>Go get one! Don't regard any of her metaphors of text personal, but chok it to experience. | |
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| Am I a bastard?
Posted: 6/24/2008 2:31:49 AM |
Since then we parted but now i`m getting the texts - your a **stard just like all the rest etc etc.
 Talk about f'n hilarious.
No man, you aren't a **stard lol. You're just better off. | |
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| Am I a bastard?
Posted: 6/24/2008 11:08:08 AM | You had better d@mn well be a **stard in this situation!
I strongly recommend you stay away from her - she's freakin' crazy!
She sounds like the type who would merrily ruin your life, then discard whatever is left.
BTW - the ability to be a **stard is a very useful skill. It is important to use this skill very occasionally... and without hesitation when it is warranted. | |
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| Am I a bastard?
Posted: 6/24/2008 11:11:26 AM | nope. sounds as if you're a smart guy who avoided an immaturey drama queen to me.
she has 1.5 kids she didn't plan for and can't feed, then she's blaming someone she barely knows? run forrest, run! | |
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