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| what does a guy mean when he says you deserve better?
Posted: 5/27/2008 9:13:54 PM | Not everyone is willing to go across countries to be with someone. Emigration is a big deal, I've done it.It's a huge effort for a high risk relationship. I would take it to mean it's an impossible relationship and you deserve someone closer. Ask him? If that's what he means he's being considerate. Maybe he doesn't think you'd want to go through all the expense and hassle, upheaval, leaving family and a job and all that etc to meet someone from another county. And maybe he thinks you would not think enough of him in person to follow through anyway. Some people would but lots if not most would not.
It's possible something else is going on but use your gut and figure it out. | |
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| what does a guy mean when he says you deserve better?
Posted: 5/27/2008 9:17:56 PM | I think bullilover hit the nail on the head.. she said that he had some things in his life that weren't quite right.. things that he can't change or is unwilling to change and he feels like a dirt bag because you have been talking for so long.
So.. believe him.. my friend.. and go on your way..
Had a guy tell me that just last month.. he had some serious issues come up in his life.. indicating in my view he needs to make some major changes.. so I politely said.. and smiled "yes I am too good for you.. have a nice life.. and nice knowing you". | |
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| what does a guy mean when he says you deserve better?
Posted: 5/28/2008 12:08:50 AM | I agree with tinydancer123! I met a gal online 5 years ago, she lived about as far away from me as one could. I told her she deserved better.........because I wasn't willing to leave my, job, and kids. I find it ironic all the negative explanations that were given to this thread.
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| what does a guy mean when he says you deserve better?
Posted: 5/28/2008 12:02:54 PM | | well girls say it to guys too. iv said it to a guy and to be honest it was a better way of saying 'i dont want you and im not intrerested'. i sound like a **** but im bein truthful. xx | |
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| what does a guy mean when he says you deserve better?
Posted: 5/28/2008 3:54:58 PM | "you deserve better" decoded means:
I dont have the balls to say I'm not into you, so I'll play the "its not you, it's me" game and hope you dont protest too much so I can get out of here quickly"
Seriously, what are you going to say to that.... "no, I dont deserve better, I'm worthless" It's a way of disarming you and ending things quick. | |
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| what does a guy mean when he says you deserve better?
Posted: 5/31/2008 1:05:41 PM | He means.......you deserve better.
Don't you know that guys never lie....he is being totally honest with you. He cares about your feelings and emotions and is willing to sacrifice his love for you in order for you to be happy with some other guy.
Maybe you should hook him up with your sister or best looking best friend.
Whatta guy! | |
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| what does a guy mean when he says you deserve better?
Posted: 5/31/2008 5:57:29 PM | it means that the guy doesnt' want to be together any more and so the girl wont feel bad he says that. He also may be looking for someone he's attracted to more or wants more sex. Not a hard one I dont think.
People keep saying how magical their relationships are and then say they are shocked the other leaves. Well its obviously not that magical if someone wants to go away. | |
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| what does a guy mean when he says you deserve better?
Posted: 5/31/2008 6:22:18 PM | Without seeing the emails, I would hazard a guess that he found sometihng that he dislikes about the situation. Not about you per-se, but the situation at large.
I read your profile and see that you are outside the US, and it could very well meanthat he is a lonly fellow that has really big dreams, finds you attractive, but for some reason (perhaps he is an invalid, perhaps he had no money, or some other equally important (to him) reason) he has made the decision to not go any further.
I would say that if you like him, then send him an email and offer to be pen pals. You may find that he will be very happy with this, but not with taking the relationship to the point of buying you a ticket or going there to visit you. | |
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| what does a guy mean when he says you deserve better?
Posted: 5/31/2008 10:45:36 PM | | Always remember this. If a guy tells you that you deserve better, then you had better believe him. This means that he is really not that into you, and there is something fundamentally missing ON HIS END about his psyche, and the ability to connect with you. RUN FOR THE HILLS! | |
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| what does a guy mean when he says you deserve better?
Posted: 6/1/2008 12:17:04 AM | ok I have said this a few times to my girlfriend but that's because she is sooo good to me and I just think she deserves a better guy then me.
I'm a nice guy and I love her but I think there's a better guy out there for her that would give her the life she truly deserves. | |
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| what does a guy mean when he says you deserve better?
Posted: 6/1/2008 12:27:34 AM | Same thing as a guy who says "I don't want to disappoint you."
Both mean that the guy does not believe in himself. Which is sad. The DANGER is this: he perceives you (the person he says these words to) as "out of his class."
So, you can try to prove that you're in the same class...but be aware that if you do, he may find you "beneath" his values.
In other words, it is an admission of insecurity and instability--and my experience is that they have other "irons in the fire" ...I've been caught nurturing such individuals who lack faith in their own motives...so, if you want to take a chance, please be sure to obtain "buyoff" from the guy before you put energy into it--and REALLLY REALLY REALLY question your friends and acquaintenances as to whether you should put your heart into it. | |
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| what does a guy mean when he says you deserve better?
Posted: 6/1/2008 12:34:22 AM | Most people in this thread have told you he's trying to distance himself, he's trying to desert you.
In communist Hungary when I lived there they used to say, "you desert better", which was a compliment on the teqnique of the vis-a-vis admitting they have better skills at deserting the country. | |
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