| Guys with big egos
Posted: 1/27/2008 12:20:50 PM | He got lucky with you, if you have common sense then maybe you should dump him. Meeting someone on here takes a lot of effort and trust, I don't think I could meet anyone on here, simply becasue anyone and everyone joins it, so your not sure if someone is just on here to fool around.
As far as I am concerned, this is not a dating site but a social networking site, it trys to be so much of everything that it fails.
As for having a huge ego, I don't think so, it's about getting affection... | |
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| Guys with big egos
Posted: 1/27/2008 12:22:32 PM | AlienSecret
A lot of people with low self esteem view people with healthy self esteem as being vane or egotistical .. its just perception .. If youlove yourself it doesn't really matter.
You hit the nail exactly on the head. | |
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Posted: 1/27/2008 12:31:27 PM | I assume he's of the same general age as yourself.
Guy's your age aren't that much into the stable thing, then again most of the girls your age aren't that stable either in a relationship.
Being in your twenties is generally when you experiment and learn why it's a good idea to be stable. | |
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Posted: 1/27/2008 12:37:23 PM | Having been married to someone very good looking, I can say that even though it may seem they have a big ego.........ahhh, it's what lies beneath. There's just something very wrong with someone who thinks they are better than everyone else.
That's why I always say I'd take the average guy over the stud, any ol' day. Seems men on here don't believe that of most women, but once youve had your fill of someone who's inanely narcissistic, you yearn for average, believe me. | |
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Posted: 1/27/2008 12:45:05 PM | | OP Ego generally is due to many insecurites and low self esteem. When someone is secure in who they are they have no need for that big ego. Attention seekers are very insecure within themselves. JMO | |
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Posted: 1/27/2008 12:47:23 PM |
OP Ego generally is due to many insecurites and low self esteem. When someone is secure in who they are they have no need for that big ego. Attention seekers are very insecure within themselves.
This has proven true in my experience time and time again.
OP, you are only 21.."do guys ever grow up"....ummmmm, you've got about 10 to 20 years before you can seriously ask that question.
Your dude will not 'grow up' for a loooonnnnnnnngggg time, in my opinion. | |
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Posted: 1/27/2008 2:07:19 PM | | OP you are 21................you have no idea............. | |
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Posted: 1/27/2008 2:51:28 PM | I agreeBrunetteGirly...I was just saying get used to it...Men at any age are who they are............ | |
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Posted: 1/27/2008 2:57:10 PM | | No women like men who are secure in themselves | |
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Posted: 1/27/2008 2:57:59 PM | from the Opost
"So when it came down to it I started to realize this guy had a huge ego. "
I did not read any evidence in the Opost to support this claim? Was it his proposal for an LDR? | |
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Posted: 1/27/2008 3:07:05 PM | I don't mind a man with a big ego ...so he likes himself that is a good thing... guys with big egos often have other big thingies that's a better thing!...It's those ALTER ego's that scare the bejeezus out of me! But then again I have a huge ego.. takes a hell of a man to put up with me..us.. | |
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Posted: 1/27/2008 3:15:05 PM | He's insecure and needs attention
I wouldn't be too upset over this loss if I were you. | |
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Posted: 1/27/2008 3:29:15 PM | Why is this guy egocentric and insecure I don't get that? They saw each other twice for flounders sake!
It felt like I wasnt enough for him. This beautiful young lady did not feel like she was enough for him...so instead of giving the romance a fighting chance she GAVE UP... because of something in her.... not him! | |
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Posted: 1/27/2008 3:35:15 PM | No doubt you're better off without him and a LDR anyhow. But he told you what he thought of the site and the likelihood of finding someone here straight up. May very well have something to do with how hard he was trying to. He's obviously having a fun time with some of his buddies - hence the bet - and there's no law against it. IMHO it's a rare man who doesn't fantasize about having at least two women at once anyhow. And people log onto the site regardless of relationship status for all number of reasons -- the forums being a prime example.
A woman and I were talking about that last night and the numbers on a person's favourite list. Just how many really are members of the opposite sex? Almost half of mine are not. The point was that once a person is on your favourites list, the system works as a greeting/meeting place for whatever one's intentions are. So the guy wants to act like an a$$hole with his buddies...it could be worse. Much worse. If you're really concerned about his ego being too big, with all due respect, I suggest you don't devote any more 2-page threads to him. | |
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Posted: 1/27/2008 5:11:04 PM | Question isn't really about male ego, dontcha think?
He's male.
He likes women
He's non-commital & wants to date as many ladies as possible.
Hmmm...no surprises there, but it's not an ego thing, it 's male thing. *shrug*
When a guy is ready for one, he's ready for one, but she better be a helluva one. | |
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Posted: 1/27/2008 5:16:20 PM | | Are you mixing up ego and arrogance? To me it sounds like he's arrogant. If he had a as big of an ego as you seem to make out then I don't think he would dated you in the first place (nothing against you of course) but then again sex could be an ulterior motive. Did you give it up after a few dates like he's used to or did you hold out?? Answer is plain and simple, if its the former then he got what he wanted and is ready to move on, if it's the latter then you bruised his ego and now he's compensating. Either way...toss your line in again and see if you can find a bigger and better fish cuz honey that ain't a keeper! | |
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Posted: 1/27/2008 5:16:56 PM | Answer is, a person doesn't grow out of it with age. They grow out of it through developing, maturing, learning that they're not "all that." If they're in a profession that is all about ego, such as modeling or acting, that growth is less likely to happen, in my experience.
The one man in his forties I dated who was in this profession was very egotistical, so much so that he was egotistical about not being egotistical!  He was handsome, intelligent, and very talented, but there was no room in his mind or life for anyone but himself and his own dramas.
Other men, by this age, have learned a thing or two about life, in my experience. One would hope. | |
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Posted: 1/27/2008 6:15:30 PM | I have 2 sons who are "men". Yesterday they were boys. When they were teens I read a book called Primal Teen which included a lot of information on the teenage brain. MRIs were done on a bunch of teens, along with other studies. Long story short there is so much cell division in the brain that it is comparable to that of a toddler, often more cell division. They elaborately explained that, in a nutshell, this is why what comes out of their moths and the behaviors are so impulsive and hard to fathom. What is MOST interesting, to me, is that the bottom line was that these brains ARE NOT DONE until around age 25, give or take. So, legally my sons are me. Biologically they are still adolescents. Thankfully, they are not egomaniacs at this time.
As to the question if a "man" ever grows out of his ego? I have seen some egotistical geezers in my day, and I agree that it is a need for attention, maybe a latent self esteem problem
And I am still cracking up on the post that states OP is generalizing. ALthough she really wasn't, this is a f-o-r-u-m. I expect wikipedia to have a definition added any day now: forum (n) - an electronic vehicle for generalizing... | |
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Posted: 1/27/2008 6:18:24 PM | oops, didn't proofread well enough.
it's what comes out of their "mouths", not out of their "moths", although sometimes I see moths come out of their mouths...
And legally my sons are not "me". I left off the "n". Sawwy. | |
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Posted: 1/27/2008 7:22:02 PM | I have a big ego, it's a large flightless bird with dark feathers...oh wait...that's an Emu.
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Posted: 1/27/2008 7:44:12 PM | HAHAHA! Frau you are so funny...an ASSHAT??? Gawd thats a great term...love it!
Tam | |
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Posted: 2/3/2008 3:06:54 PM |
He continued to talk on pof and said he couldn't change his relationship status due to a bet.
 what a TOOL I can't believe the crap that comes out of some players mouths........
just when I think they can't sink any lower.......some clown shoe comes along and proves me wrong. | |
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Posted: 2/3/2008 3:14:59 PM |
But my question is, why do guys continue to have these huge egos as they grow into adulthood, do they every grow out of them
Not all guys do, I've seen some females act like they're holier than thou or act like they're God's gift to men. K just cuz some of ya females got the model look doesn't mean you're ALL THAT and vice versa with us guys too.
as for your situation that guy was stupid to miss out getting to know you. I hope you find someone that really cares about you. | |
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Posted: 2/3/2008 4:27:27 PM | The big ego is not gender-specific. What I have noticed in my life, especially since my mother let me in on the secret years ago, is that those who toot their own horn the loudest do so because they feed off the attention of others. Their insecurities make them hunger for validation of their worth in the scheme of life. What they don't seem to realize is that the people who are laughing are usually laughing at them, not with them.
In the case of the OPs exbf, it probably isn't a matter of ego, but of youthful quest for more instead of quality. | |
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