| is Sex a Normal Human Need, or is it simply a Social Treat?
Posted: 1/28/2008 11:46:49 AM | There's a hidden society of men on Plenty of Fish who take it upon themselves to send dozens of very short, barely literate mails to women asking for sexual favours. It was "pathetic loser" that brought this to my mind.
In a very interesting post, Esad explained the role of these men... how their function was to make the rest of us look good, and to keep the ladies here carefully balanced between cynicism and optimism. I think it would be a difficult job to do. If women respond at all before blocking you, it's probably not polite. Your fellow man doesn't appreciate the sacrifice you're making on his behalf...
So, I'm wondering if the OP wants to retire from the "Hai, I cam lik the bark off a tree!" team. | |
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| is Sex a Normal Human Need, or is it simply a Social Treat?
Posted: 1/28/2008 7:14:54 PM | | If you have ever studied psychology and/or physiology, you would know that sex IS a need, but it exists as need on a sliding scale. Think Maslow. What is our first and foremost need? Air! Then what? Water! Then what? Food! Sex probably comes somewhere above things like art/music, but below the above listed needs. It is a need, but down the scale in terms of needs. If it were not a need, none of us would be here reading this forum and the earth would be roaming with six foot long roaches. | |
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| is Sex a Normal Human Need, or is it simply a Social Treat?
Posted: 1/28/2008 7:27:44 PM | I haven't had sex since 2006, and to this day I can say that I have no desire at all to have sex.
There's no medical reason. I'm not impotent, or have problems when I DO have sex, I simply do not desire it. Period.
So, for me to say it is a need when I'm proof to myself that it isn't, it'd just be crazy. | |
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| is Sex a Normal Human Need, or is it simply a Social Treat?
Posted: 1/28/2008 8:17:10 PM | I'm absolutely happy.
I'm not going without sex because I haven't had the opportunity. I just simply don't desire it. My last girlfriend left me because I wouldn't sleep with her. I don't know, I honestly have no desire to have sex. | |
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| is Sex a Normal Human Need, or is it simply a Social Treat?
Posted: 1/28/2008 8:58:59 PM | | I don't necessarily agree see you said "Sex is Equally as important as Eating, Drinking, Breathing and Sleeping." now come off it. without the other things you mentioned you would die. If you never got laid you wouldn't die. Maybe you wouldn't be in the same state of mind which could turn it into a need but not on the same level as the other things you mentioned. Anyways if it is a need how frequently do you need it at least once a week, month and what happens if it's 1, 2 days later hell what happens if your a month late do you turn into a depressed wreck. | |
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| is Sex a Normal Human Need, or is it simply a Social Treat?
Posted: 1/28/2008 10:14:41 PM | Everyone is different.
Sex is needed for a species to survive :)
and sexual urges are natural.
But honestly.. you will not die without sex.
I could go the rest of my life without sex.. I want to have children and still be a technical virgin.
Sex is important to you and not to me, so I suppose it could be a 'need' but you would survive not having sex the rest of your life. (Unless you killed yourself) | |
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| is Sex a Normal Human Need, or is it simply a Social Treat?
Posted: 1/28/2008 10:17:20 PM | quote
Sex is not a mandatory need in life, but it's something that we all desire.(disincluding nuns
Do not believe nuns do not desire sex as according to my friend an x-catholic nun
masturbation is a lot more common then you think in the monasteries | |
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| is Sex a Normal Human Need, or is it simply a Social Treat?
Posted: 1/29/2008 12:36:45 AM | The short answer to the OP's question: is Sex a Normal Human Need, or is it simply a Social Treat? - I would say both
I think it differs for each person. I am sure, for those who are sex addicts - it is more of a need, albeit one that a non-sex addict cant appreciate. But I assume the subject of sexual addictions is beyond the scope of the original question
I also think one has to differentiate types of sex: (1) Sex for the sake of having sex (acquisitive love) and (2) sex when in a relationship (benevolent love) which involves deeper feelings and hits different psychological levels. My college ethics professor would be proud me of now for having this memory. I think (1) is driven more by need while (2) evolves into a treat. It is true, we guys have it better off in terms of this. We experience the same physical sensations to both (1) and (2). I think what makes (2) the preferred type, is the emotional sensations that tend to heighten the physical response.
But then again - it is 12:30AM and I could be suffering from sleep-deprived delusions...
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| is Sex a Normal Human Need, or is it simply a Social Treat?
Posted: 1/29/2008 2:30:59 AM | Of course sex is a normal human need. Whatever way someone wants to argue you can't go against ten's of thousands of years of wiring just because we decided to complicated things by coming down from the tree's.
We are what we are and people need sex. | |
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| is Sex a Normal Human Need, or is it simply a Social Treat?
Posted: 1/29/2008 3:18:27 AM | I think the question needs some clarification. Is sex a need for what? For survival (of the individual or the species)? For maintaining one's sanity?
I agree with those who've pointed out that many have gone without sex for years, decades, even their entire lives without having died as a direct result of not having sex - however unpleasant such an experience may be.  | |
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Posted: 1/29/2008 3:45:12 AM |
Men survive for year on isolated mining camps and cattle ranches, or in Antartica , with no sex. And they don't go mad.
They may not be having sex with a female or even a partner, but I can damn well guarantee you there's a hell of a lota sex still going on. | |
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| is Sex a Normal Human Need, or is it simply a Social Treat?
Posted: 1/29/2008 6:40:59 AM | That Sam I Am, if we all thought like that we'd all kill ourselves out of worry and fear. You couldn't walk to your car in fear of an airplane falling from the sky and killing you. You wouldn't walk on a sidewalk or cross a street because a car could hit you. There are dangers in churches and schools, with maniacal shootings occurring at alarming rates. There are sniper incidences in George, Virginia's, and Florida over the past 10 years. Heck, there's even the risk of spontaneous combustion or incidental lightning strikes on a clear sunny day! All kinds of crazy stuff can happen. If you let STI's and pregnancy be the reason you steer clear of sex you need to have something else looked at. Pick your partners well, be careful, use ample protection and get checked out regularly. Of all the alarming rates out there for STI's I think some of those statistics are off. If you have 10 friends do you think 3 of them have an STI RIGHT this minute, and do you think 5 of them have had one in their lifetime so far? Of all my close friends I know of one who's had one, and most of them are open enough that if they'd had one they'd ahve said it by now. And the guy that I know of that has had one.......had slept with just his wife in his life. But she slept with a guy before they got married and he caught it right after they started dating. I've never contracted anything and I can safely say I've slept with a lot more than just one person over the years. The worst I've ever encountered is razor burn from a girl! ;-)
Someone brought up Maslow and that's great. I'm glad someone else knows the story there. On Maslow's Hierarchy of needs Love and Belonging needs are #3 of 6 needs required in human life, behind biological needs (such as sustenance, air, shelter, and sleep) and the need for security from danger of any kind for family and self. Love and affection is number 3. And while you won't die from not having sex you may live a shorter life as the many benefits of sex include prolonged health of vital organs and disease prevention. So not a need as important as food or water or sleep but a need nonetheless. I could go a year without sex. I'd likely have a 12" skud with a mean right hand curve (I'm right handed) from wanking it all year long though! LOL | |
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| is Sex a Normal Human Need, or is it simply a Social Treat?
Posted: 1/29/2008 7:24:37 AM | | Sounds like less of a hormonal imbalance and more of a directive imbalance! Some might suggest a second girlfriend. You aren't a Mormon by chance are you? If so perhaps you are in luck! I know a guy who is a sex addict but if he sleeps with more than 2 women in a week on a BUSY week he's lucky. He's tall, dark, handsome, brooding, and VERY smooth with no filter whatsoever. But he's lazy as hell and when the mood strikes he just takes care o' business so to speak. I bet the guy masterbates a dozen times a day, regardless of where we are. And he's open about it. We can be in a bar and someone will say "god I need to get laid" and he'll joke about how he's jerked off three times since we've been there. And the scary part? He's not lying! LOL So I suppose to some it IS a need just like food and water or they might just take their own life or scratch their skin off in the attempt to fill that need. | |
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| is Sex a Normal Human Need, or is it simply a Social Treat?
Posted: 1/29/2008 7:44:42 AM | Sexual needs discussion on this forum seems to be questioning more or less behaviour. Looking at it as Sexual Behaviour you will find that it is society/culturally driven.
After all sex is like breathing air, you really don't think about it until your not getting any........then you take matters into your own hands, lol. | |
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| is Sex a Normal Human Need, or is it simply a Social Treat?
Posted: 1/29/2008 7:49:41 AM | | It is a normal need, but like many other needs (food, shelter, clothing, etc.) there are many, many who do without. So, how to cure this? Revert to your basics, become the hunter man was so many eons ago, but remember, though you may hunt, it is still the gatherers that determine if you get to eat. | |
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