| Is 30's the dead zone in dating?
Posted: 1/31/2008 10:14:08 PM | I read 35% of people on dating sites are married, I wonder what age group they fall into?
I think over 30 dating is on the rise myself. | |
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| Is 30's the dead zone in dating?
Posted: 2/1/2008 8:12:09 AM | | There does seem to be something to this, but the reasons are readily explained. People in their 20s are often single and looking , and marry usually a few years before turning 30. People in their 40s are divorced from the people they married in their 20s. People in their 30s are most likely to be in happy relationships. Also, if you take 30-40 to be the bulk of 'generation X', there are fewer people in that range than the generation Y (mostly 20somethings) and the Baby Boomers (mostly 40s-50somethings). | |
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| Is 30's the dead zone in dating?
Posted: 2/1/2008 11:58:39 PM | Its tough in the 30's if you haven't found someone yet.
Most of my friends are all married now, with kids coming into the picture. Less available women in my age bracket now.
As much as I would like to date someone younger, it seems all those young women are into those wimpy emo types and party types anyhow, so I could be screwed now, too late. | |
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| Is 30's the dead zone in dating?
Posted: 2/2/2008 8:17:47 AM | | being in my 30 i find it very hard to date a man who wants the same things i do.....haven't had much luck and very few dates.maybe i'm just looking in the wrong places??who knows!! | |
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| Is 30's the dead zone in dating?
Posted: 2/2/2008 9:09:49 AM | The only "dead zone" for dating would be the one between your "ears" no matter the age if you look at it that way.......
Age is but a number that allows you more opportunities to gain experience and maturity, and with that comes better dates, more creativity, higher chances for financial security, and the ability to be a better lover for that other person, "in" and "out" of bed.....
What will happen as you mature, will be less tolerance for playing games, hanging out in bars, and being in situations where there are multitudes of others in the same position as you just might be. The whole point of growing up and maturing should be to find "other" ways to meet adults, be productive for yourself, not counting on family or friends to support you, and forging your own path in life.
As much as I enjoyed my very youthful years, I am a better person now for that experience, much more experienced and mature, and still able to hold my own in almost every situation that may be thrown my way......
I feel that age is more of an attitude, and if you work hard at being youthful, staying in shape, eating right, thinking positive things.......you will be looked at and considered much more of the type many would enjoy knowing and dating.
Just my opinion......   | |
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| Is 30's the dead zone in dating?
Posted: 2/2/2008 6:53:00 PM | | Good lord I hope not!!! I'm turning 40 this year and while it is a challange, its not totally impossible. What does baffle me is the games that people over 30 continue to play....whats with that folks??? | |
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| Is 30's the dead zone in dating?
Posted: 2/3/2008 2:06:42 AM | Was reading a study done here in australia that has found that between the ages of about 30 to 45 there is a man drought .... Which has led to women in their 30's left to date men that are bordering on retirement or the alternative is to get a toyboy 10 -20 years younger..... I know which one I would prefer.... | |
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| Is 30's the dead zone in dating?
Posted: 2/3/2008 2:16:47 AM | I find that there is a little gap there...I find alot of twenty somethings...
I am still waiting for that little cherub to show up!  | |
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| Is 30's the dead zone in dating?
Posted: 2/3/2008 6:40:17 AM | Well, OP, I'm not an engineer, but I've noticed the same pattern as well. I guess as a truck driver, we have LOTS of time to think about the really odd things.
I've noticed a greater pool of mid-20's and more so in the late-40's/early-50's, but it seems either the mid-30's age is either still married, or they are taking a break from dating.
I do agree, though, way too many of the people in their mid 30's ARE tied up with the lil-guys. One would say its next to impossible to find a match with something in common, and not a strong desire to reproduce at this age...
I'm not sure about All the different zip codes, but I tend to notice things about Central & Western KS, and Central and Western Okla, as I spend most of my time between the two.
CowTrucker
Chapman, Kansas | |
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| Is 30's the dead zone in dating?
Posted: 2/3/2008 7:10:41 AM | My late 20s/early 30s was grrrrrrreat as far as dating. But I have to admit it kinda sucks now that I am 39. It's like once I hit 35, whatever was so attractive to others previously turned into a turn off.
But then again many others I know had great social lives in their late 30s, so the problem mostly lies with myself. | |
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| Is 30's the dead zone in dating?
Posted: 2/3/2008 9:23:35 PM | I personally think it is a hard age range...Some people have either already settled and started a family or they are now realizing in their 30's that they want to settle down, get married and start a family and don't necessarily want someone who has been there, done that and already divorced. (ahem, me  ) | |
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| Is 30's the dead zone in dating?
Posted: 2/7/2008 2:48:33 PM | | yah it sucks most people are married or dont get divorced until 40s or later so the 30s are a bad time to be dating.i wish i was in my 20s if i had a choice right now .its a real bad scene. | |
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| Is 30's the dead zone in dating?
Posted: 2/21/2008 9:33:19 PM | Lots of theories. It does look like a few people agree with a "gap" in this 30's age. I think there might be also some fact regarding divorces involving children. Usually, the higher percentage of cases have the children residing with the mother. There simply may not not time to date until the children reach an easier age.
I agree age doesn't really matting in this range. It is not like the old days when you heard some girl in highschool was dating someone in college. +/- 10 years is almost nothing (except for music). | |
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| Is 30's the dead zone in dating?
Posted: 2/23/2008 5:33:53 PM | | You know I think alot of the problem with 30 something dating is that there isnt really any place for single people our age to mingle and meet. Most of us are over the bars and clubs which are taylored to the younger crowd anyway. Most of us wouldnt want to date a person from the bar and club either. Also there is alot of hype on the tvs and newspapers about all the negative things about internet dating and meeting which tends to keep the available people stuck at home trying to figure out how to meet a decent person. | |
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| Is 30's the dead zone in dating?
Posted: 2/24/2008 3:32:40 PM | I agree with practically every theory out there...population shifts, raising children, geography, perceptions of socially acceptable (or safe) behavior, etc... they all seem to be valid reasons for finding fewer available singles in the 30s age bracket. I've even expressed a few of these sentiments to my friends in the past 5 years.
Yet, even the most eloquent, backed-by-the-latest-US Census demographic research-based reason isn't going to address the issue for me or my single friends. (Knowing why there are now fewer dating opportunities doesn't really make me or my friends feel any better, from what I remember- I'm sure that this may not be the case for everyone but wanted to divert attention away from the "why" to the "what to do about it since it's this way regardless of why" for just a few seconds).
Creativity, on the other hand, has made a difference. I'm one of 2 single women in our entire office. They all know I'm available for dating so they keep me in mind- and it's been hilarious. Going to new places has been a riot, too, even though I managed to break a $400 piece of glass art at one of them. (At least now I have another story...)
At the risk of sounding like an annoying, perpetually chipper big sister, I would encourage anyone who finds him/herself in the 30s Dating Vortex of Tell Me This Is Not Really What It's Like to entertain some out of the box suggestions for meeting more people our age in their respective cities/towns. Just going somewhere new is a start- grab a few friends and have fun! And don't take a big purse to an art show- big mistake.
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| Is 30's the dead zone in dating?
Posted: 2/24/2008 5:28:42 PM |
Wow ... that kinda makes me feel like a rare penny!
Ya, so someday we'll be found and evaluated on the Antiques Roadshow. Hope does spring eternal! | |
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| Is 30's the dead zone in dating?
Posted: 2/26/2008 1:43:37 PM | Heck count yourselfs lucky, I don't even think the people are *human* around and in Derby, let alone female and single!
But seriously yeah, must be the age range, all my friends are married/partnered now which makes it a bit more difficult. (Where was I on that day!?) | |
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| Is 30's the dead zone in dating?
Posted: 2/28/2008 1:37:49 PM | I believe that your results have alot to due to the "Internet Society" that we live in. In general the older you are the more uncomfortable you will be with computers and the internet. Ask anyone 30 years old or younger and I would bet you will be hard pressed to find someone that did not grow up with a computer in their house. Ask the same question to 40+ and the older they are the more likely you will find people that don't own a computer or don't see a need for one. With a greater comfort level of a technology the greater chance you will use it.
This may be true, but I don't necessary think that the 30s is the dead zone. I still think this can vary with geography. I know some people in their 30s that are already divorced and they have no major problems finding dates. They are also some people in their 30s ( especially early 30s ) that have never married. When you add up these groups of people, there is a decent sized potential dating pool at least in my area. Worse case scenario, you could always date someone a bit older ( 40-45 yr old ) or someone a bit younger ( 25-29 yrs old ). | |
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| Is 30's the dead zone in dating?
Posted: 3/5/2008 10:36:30 AM | | One factor I've noticed is that 75% of my social crowd are married, engaged or are having kids now. They tend to get drawn towards people in the same situation as them. For the few of us who are single in the group, there aren't as many social activities involving people who are available. I don't have a huge desire to go meet whole new groups of people, but if you want to meet other single people that's what it takes sometimes. | |
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| Is 30's the dead zone in dating?
Posted: 3/5/2008 1:31:43 PM | | Hey man, I know how you feel- I'll be 31 this year and I've been divorced for 2 yrs. Well here's what I've seen-- 20's are looking to marry fast (since normally that's an age range that most do--out of college , the new job, the house, then the kids then the Divorce!) So that leads us to the 30's, and most of us that are in our 30's have learned from our mistakes in our 20's therefore choose not to get to serious as we are trying to recover from divorce or The ones that have never married- (these are normally the ones that in their 30's are living with someone and have some type of investment with them-say a house or are engauged.) I see that things are very much different than back when I was dating- say 10yr ago. I have kids now which limit my areas to live. Also, seems as if the hook-up scene is much larger now than then. I want a long lasting realatonship so I'm not into that. So with being said, you're right- Most people that haven't been married yet people tend to say or ask well Why not? Something must be wrong? Then the other ones say if they are divorced, wonder wht caused it? Some may even ask themselve can they merge 2 sets of families - their's and your's. Just somethings to debate on and from what I've seen. | |
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| Is 30's the dead zone in dating?
Posted: 3/5/2008 1:44:32 PM | | Well i have to agree i am turning 38 this year and feel there is huge lack of available yet attractive male available. Or should i have a hard time finding guys to date because they are wanting to date the 20 to early 30 crowd. I also live in a big city and the bar scene isnt the place to meet someone when you are sitting there with your friends and drinking. Yes you get the liquid courage however you ask yourself that question in the morning if the person was nice or were you drinking them nice. Bar are not a good place to meet anyone.....lol. | |
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| Is 30's the dead zone in dating?
Posted: 3/5/2008 5:30:17 PM | You said:
This is online dating:
If you're a man, anything past 32 is the 'dead zone'.
Unless you're into grandmothers.
Btw, guys, a lot of the 'young & attractive' profiles are nuttin' but hooks to get you to subscribe
I said:
I think you're screwed bud...I don''t think women under the age of 32 would want you and those 32 and above in which you refer to as the "dead zone" well, are just too good for you...
Last I checked this site was free so your theory of "hooks" does not apply here.... | |
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