| Valentine's Day
Posted: 2/4/2008 2:02:02 PM | | One of my late wife's ancestors went to Europe and saw the custom of sending cards and notes of love and brought the custom back to America in,I believe, the 1700s. It was a VERY special holiday for us and I feel bad for those of you who hate it for one reason or another. Sure, you should show your SO that you care every day but that doesn't mean that you can't go out of your way a little on Valentine's Day. After all, you buy Christmas presents don't you? Birthday presents? I rest my case. | |
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| Valentine's Day
Posted: 2/4/2008 2:07:15 PM | | I hate valentines day, the candy companies and the jewlery companies all realized that there was to big of a gap after christmas so that had to come up with something to boost their sales. | |
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| Valentine's Day
Posted: 2/4/2008 2:10:17 PM | Valentine's day is very special to me, but it wasn't at first. My divorce became final on Valentines day. When I first got it I was devestated. BUT after I had time to think things over I know it is a day I want to celebrate!!!!! | |
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| Valentine's Day
Posted: 2/4/2008 3:38:39 PM | A day which is bad at some times in your life and fantastic other times, bit like Xmas or any other holiday / celebration where you are on your own.
For me it has had some bad memories, but I think it is good to have one day to celebrate your love for some one, or even to let some you fancy that you have your eye on them, so you can gauge their reaction if your a bit shy, or not had the chance to chat to them properly.
Could do with out all the financial trappings like most holidays / special days | |
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Msg: 80 | |
| Valentine's Day
Posted: 2/4/2008 8:09:17 PM | I've never felt that Valentine's Day was important. Mostly because my ex was so demanding about it. She would always tell me ahead of time exactly what she wanted, how she wanted it. It killed the spontaneity, and turned it into a chore.
Come to think of it, she did the same thing with every holiday, half the time, she would buy something for herself and say, "Look what you bought me for ______ (Insert holiday here)." If I'm with someone, and she inspires me to want to get her gifts, then it will happen, regardless of some calendar event.
I say, do away with all holidays that are based on gift-giving, and then leave it to men and women to do those little things that make each other happy on their own schedules. | |
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| Valentine's Day
Posted: 2/4/2008 8:24:25 PM | | I could care less about valentine's day. I hate that everyone seems to make a huge deal out of it. I would just rather skip it. For me I always get shortchanged because my birthday is the next day. My ex got me one gift for both. How cheap is that of someone? | |
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| Valentine's Day
Posted: 2/4/2008 8:30:12 PM | | I'm single. I'll likely be alone for Valentine's Day. But I'm not going to go and complain about the holiday itself just because of that. I think the idea of taking a day out of the year to celebrate love is great. It doesn't have to be about the commercial side of things. Those that complain about it being some sort of florist/chocolate company conspiracy are just too closed up to see what the occassion COULD be. It can be about romance and remembering to acknowledge how important your special someone is in your life (whether you do it on the cheap or like to buy presents. That part is up to you). | |
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| Valentine's Day
Posted: 2/5/2008 5:25:32 PM | Jules....First off..HAPPY BIRTHDAY...not sure if it is Feb 14th or what...My oldest will be 36 on the 12th...
...I have never sent myself flowers before...I HAVE recieved flowers from SECRET ADMIRER's that to this day have NOT fessed up to being the senders...lol...
As for the lady who bought herself flowers that were wilted...I am totally surprised that the Florist would allow them out of the place...most generally they take more pride in the bouquets since it does reflect on their business...I WOULD NEVER go back there..lol.. | |
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Msg: 84 | |
| Valentine's Day
Posted: 2/5/2008 5:31:18 PM | Personally I like the day AFTER Valentines day better......Chocolate is half price! | |
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| Valentine's Day
Posted: 2/5/2008 6:10:18 PM | | On a Valentines day many years ago, while I was pregnant with our second child, I went to my now ex-husbands work because I needed something out of his truck. First thing wrong was it was unlocked. When I opened the door, there was a bouquet of wrapped flowers with a card in his writing professing his love for another woman. I almost fainted right there. I got back into the car and sat down and my mother who was with me asked me what was wrong. I obviously looked very pale. I said nothing and faked the rest of the afternoon with her. Long story short, I divorced him eventually and have never liked the holiday since. It only brings back bad memories for me. I usually call the radio station during the lunch hour when they play a whole bunch of sappy love songs to celebrate the day and request "Love Stinks" lol. I also like to go the card section of a store where there are tons of people trying to find the one special card and pick up ones I think are stupid, read them aloud and say what a bunch of shit, etc. I just get a kick out of it, I know it's juvenile, but hey it's fun. | |
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| Valentine's Day
Posted: 2/5/2008 6:15:34 PM | Nope don't think so but looking forward to the flowers I'll be getting from a man I write to, He is in afghan until April and its his way of saying thanks.
If you are with someone you care about why can't you do something special everyday???? | |
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| Valentine's Day
Posted: 2/5/2008 6:17:12 PM | | Why ruin other people's day just because you're so negative? That's not fair or fun! Valentine's Day is about love. I guess too many of us feel we have no love if it's not romantic love. Personally, I'm overwhelmed by the number of people I love and who love me.... my kids, my Sunday School class, my best friends who are always there to help me when I need it.... or yeah, and myself. I don't need a husband or boyfriend to be surrounded by love. And you betcha I'm gonna be celebrating all the love I do have in my life, not complaining about what I don't have. | |
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| Valentine's Day
Posted: 2/5/2008 7:15:38 PM |
I would welcome some good suggestions on how to spend my first Valentine's Day alone after a very long marriage. Can probably handle the Valentines part, but it is my birthday too. Having dinner with a girlfriend is too weird, thought about just flying somewhere--anyone have any other good ideas?
Why not treat yourself to a day at the spa? Always works for me! | |
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| Valentine's Day
Posted: 2/5/2008 8:51:19 PM | | Talltexan, I assume your comment was for me? I really don't care what you think, you sound a little conceited to me. Not all of us have an overwhelming amount of people who love us in our lives. I have 3 kids who I suppose love me, sometimes I wonder. I have no parents, they are both deceased and no other family. No friends either, my best friend died suddenly, she was my age. Try to picture being 6 months pregnant with your second child while the first one is only 13 months old and finding out your husband is cheating on you, not fun I assure you. I was very young also. The fact that it happened on Valentines Day did ruin it for me. As far as having a lot of fun with it, that's my prerogative. I won't apologize for it. Oh, and I highly doubt I ruin anyones day by it either, they probably think I'm just some freak and seriously, I don't care. | |
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| Valentine's Day
Posted: 2/5/2008 9:07:52 PM | Valentine's Day is a way to exploit men to shower women with gifts.....
Just kidding.....
Hopefully I get a box of chocolates and flowers from a secret admirer....Hehe!! | |
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| Valentine's Day
Posted: 2/5/2008 10:04:28 PM | | Yeah have to agree, cheap candy day after valentines, or just about any holiday, is definately a perk. Other than that though I've always thought most holidays are to over comercialized. I work in retail, and we jump from Halloween to Christmas, no one even notices holidays like thanksgiving, its all about the money. | |
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| Valentine's Day
Posted: 2/6/2008 8:30:08 AM | Valentine's Day has never really held any special meaning for me, even when I've had an SO in my life. I fully agree that it is just another opportunity for the card shops, florists, and gift shops to make oodles of money.
One of the specialty chocolate shops in town had their Valentine's decorations up 4 days after Christmas!!! | |
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| Valentine's Day
Posted: 2/6/2008 10:39:21 AM | I've spent a few years single for Valentine's Day like a lot of people. It had been more of a choice though. If you want something more exclusive then you may be more likely than not to find it. If you don't have a date try treating yourself to things you enjoy. Take it easy. Enjoy.  | |
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| Valentine's Day
Posted: 2/6/2008 12:02:20 PM | We'll it would be nice if I had a significant other to take out for dinner and flowers on Valentine's Day. Hopefully God Eros will be on my side this year. I can only hope for the best  | |
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| Valentine's Day
Posted: 2/6/2008 1:05:11 PM | I kind of had to chuckle...when CaRisLOVE said he didn't like this holiday...I laughed because I could picture him finding a lovely lady on that day!! Life is unpredictable!!
Hmmmmm...It doesn't matter one way or the other if V-Day comes and goes and I am alone. I'd like to meet my man unexpectedly...so unexpectedly...I'd cry with joy!! | |
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| Valentine's Day
Posted: 2/6/2008 6:10:22 PM | | srsly dude who needs a certain day to show love, like come on that whould be done every day, valentines day is no big deal at all | |
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| Valentine's Day
Posted: 2/6/2008 6:26:26 PM | Actually valentine's day has a sweet origin. When the King was recruiting soldiers... he wouldn't let them marry...so couples that wanted to marry- St. Valentine secretly married. He was thrown in jail. The jail keepers daughter befriended him. They were friends and their letters became known as Valentines.
For every holiday... their is a counterfeit, of commercial value.
(look up the historical account if you think I'm nuts LOL)
Faith, Hope Love.... but the greatest of these is Love. | |
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| Valentine's Day
Posted: 2/6/2008 6:29:36 PM | | but yea its the commercialism that sucks im not too fond of christmas anymore either XD. its all this money makes everything good, its not about buying the best things its what u do with the people that rly matters | |
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| Valentine's Day
Posted: 2/6/2008 7:20:40 PM | | Most holiday have been ruined and had their meanings twisted by their commercialism. Look at Christmas. It should be about family,friends,being together,eating together etc. But as a kid what it's about and it comes down to material possessions and the most popular toys,games,gadgets etc. Valentines is a celebration of love, not just for people who are married or dating but for anyone you love in your life like your grandparents,aunts and uncles,sisters,brothers,your parents. But now it's all about chocolate and tacky lingerie. Would I like to have someone on Valentines to be with like a date or something? Sure of course but I'm not going to rush anything. I was talking with a friend about this the other day and we were both saying that even going out with a friend of the opposite sex and having dinner since you're both single would be a good idea. I mean for me this year will maybe hurt a bit more since my bf just dumped me 2 weeks ago and this would've been my first Valentines actually dating someone. But oh well, I could let it bother me but I have better things to do. | |
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| Valentine's Day
Posted: 2/7/2008 3:42:11 PM | Gosh guys, why let business, big or small, ruin things? I hear the same rant around Christmas. Business ONLY controls your life if you let it. . . .
Take the day(s) in your heart; live them. It's well within *your* power. Enjoy rather being negative: other peeps have to "live" with you.
You must be the change you seek.....Gandhi
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