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Posted: 2/5/2008 2:06:20 PM | | Easy Loving.....a real BRIEF entanglement, and i mean brief!!! He knew you were EASY.... and played you. If i was you, the hell ,with thinking of him, : i be thinking about my work reputation etc. You are his newest conquest, at that makes you a FOOL. | |
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Posted: 2/5/2008 2:31:05 PM | Hey, seems like the women are burning you, I am sorry. Don't worry about that.
Married or not, you had as did he " fooling around a lot as you said" some very intimate fun. Just remember that and don't worry about the Na sayers!! | |
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Posted: 2/5/2008 3:05:19 PM | OP, I watched the day you began this, you were chewed alive . I was gonna let it go, but for some reason it keeps showing up at my login box. Must mean, I gotta answer.
I viewed ur history tracks, and heres what I see. Your 25, just divorced man with a 'serious condition'. Having to retain Police services against your mother-in-law.
You never 'closed' feelings with boyfriend prior to wedding/marriage/kids. Yes, I saw the part where you went to marriage councelor, to deal with feelings of ex.
OK, now.. your in a home, you own, have ur two kids, and your next life event took you to a conference. (any time we go 'away', a sense of freedom comes out... it's natural...new environment... no obligations, the routine is on break)
You meet this man, for some reason, it took a week, "last night"... you said...
I get feeling you dont drink much... why should you, babies, mom, etc...
What you felt, since of caring, rubbing your back, well, honey no wonder you cant stop thinking about it... your overwhelmed at this time in life... (are u sure u wern't ruppied?)
I deserve to have some judgement and bad words and if that's all I get well that's life ...deserve my teeth kicked in
STOP IT! ... dont drop anchor here! it's not end of the world, and HE stopped...
Whose that in your arms??? Thats what you deserve young lady! I would love to trade places with you and have one of those, but my body wont allow. | |
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Posted: 2/5/2008 3:15:36 PM | Er Narmouse!
Clarify things please.
Did you actualy have sex with this guy or did he just help you out of your clothes and into bed?? | |
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Posted: 2/5/2008 3:37:58 PM | Op,
Your profile states:
"I believe you get back what you put into a relationship. ...Some qualities I'm
looking for in a guy are honesty, loyalty, humor, ambition and intelligence. "
I'm thinking this one-night stand guy is not honest, and not loyal. Or do you think he would be 'with you' ? Because a guy holds your head when you puke does not make this guy anything special. I would look for some other more redeeming qualities like which you first outlined in your profile above. If he does it with you---he'll do it to you. What do you think this guy is 'putting in' this relationship with you, and what will you get in return. Ummmm probably starts with an *L* like uh, ...LIES.
RM. | |
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Posted: 2/6/2008 7:39:20 AM | The OP wrote,
I got really close to passing out and he stopped what he was doing, jumped in a cold shower with me, held my hair up while I threw up and rubbed my back ever so gently. He sat with me for a long time to make sure I was okay and when I started to get better he tucked me in, turned up my heat and left.
The OP feels the man treated her well, however, we see the following comments from others regarding the event.
Msg 16,
Are you really ...REALLY that diluded into thinking this is someone who cares for YOU??????……… his token holding your hair up in the shower while you puked… and msg 18,
Don't kid yourself, this guy had no more thought/respect for you than you had for yourself…. and msg 25,
After all, he's the ONLY one that's ever treated her with such tenderness. (Yeehaw someone held my hair while I barfed my drunken guts out! THAT'S THE MAN FOR ME!!!) and msg 59,
WE DONOT KNOW THE EXACT TRUTH?FEELINGS OF THIS GUY SEE THAT HIS BEHAVIOUR MAYBE WASNT LOVE and finally, msg 80,
Because a guy holds your head when you puke does not make this guy anything special.
So, I have a question to all the above posters regarding their comments implying the guy didn’t give a damn about her. Let’s switch the people and have the guy being the one who was drunk and vomiting. How many ladies would have stayed and cleaned him up and put him to bed? Would anyone here have given a damn about the man? Anyone?
(Msg 59) IF he truly did have strong emotions for you, instead of tucking you in and leaving(He made sure you were alive and not going to choke in your sleep, )....... he would of spent every second he could with you, he would of crawled in beside you and held you all night.. knowing that you only had a short time together.
If he did I feel you would have interpreted that as the guy hoping she’d recover enough to continue but I suppose that’s just speculation on my part. In any case how many women would have crawled into bed with a man if the roles were reversed?
Why are people insisting the man didn’t care for her when he did more than any woman would have done in similar circumstances?
This is not to say what happened was right, however, to say the guy just used her and didn’t give a damn isn’t right either. | |
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Posted: 2/6/2008 5:50:19 PM | aahhh the dysfunction of so many! so, if what is good for the goose is good for
the gander,Then why is the goose getting smothered with all the dirty feathers'
of the gander?????????
Oh please above I heard some naive woman state the op a fool!
The woman is a fool? But the man somehow is the great masterminder..
what does it take to make people get>>>>>>>.a Clue! | |
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Posted: 2/7/2008 12:40:55 AM | You DO sound very young. Look, shit happens. I'm sure you didn't think to yourself..oh good, a married man, i want to have sex with him. He's a man who happens to be married, but wifey wasn't around at that conference. You were.
You feel for him because it WAS nice of him to look after you after you got stinking drunk. He could have just left you vomiting in the toilet. And you didn't get to have sex with him.
So it's a combination of unfulfilled desire and you imagining him to be a kind person.
A good combo -- if he is single.
Sweetie, forget about it. You can meet a guy who's just as nice and sexy and will be around for you full-time. If this had happened back at home, he would have had to leave you spewing because he needed to get back to his wife. He just happened to be alone and could spend the time being nice to you.
Forget about it and him and move on. You'll probably shudder when you remember this in 10 years time. | |
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Posted: 2/7/2008 2:15:19 AM | | Wow, I hate reading these kinds of posts. You both knew where it was going? you women do nothing but confuse us. How could you like a guy that gets you drunk and then has sex with you on the first date and is married. Wow, women are the new men. Crab some self control. I would never respect a girl who got drunk and slept with me on the first date. The second is totally different though. Mabe you are just desperate, ever think of that? And where is he now? Is he still by your side? if not someone better rub my nuts while I puke.................. | |
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Posted: 2/7/2008 2:17:44 AM | not quite " one night stands", more like " one day woes "- but with most of the women i have met from off this site i was very excited at the thought of meeting them , having met them in the flesh i was pleased and excited at the thought of wanting to see them again and take things further....unfortunately none of these women as it happens thought the same about me.
i dont look for faults in women, i WILL see their good points, i dont try and be fussy and look for things to complain about, iam actually very easy going.
with most women i have met, the 5 ive met on here or anywhere else i have felt some sort of attraction or " spark" unfortunately the feeling wasnt mutual.
if only more women were more easy going and less fault finding this site and the dating world would be a much better place. | |
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Posted: 2/19/2008 7:46:38 AM | | Never beleived in them. To have sex without the love behind it would leave you both with such an empty feeling. Thanks to this and my respect for women, I've never been without a mat. For those guys that enjoy one night stands, think of the passion, intimacy and those other incredable feeling you are missing out on just for those few moments of release. | |
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Posted: 3/2/2008 9:54:44 AM | | its called a shipboard romance, those few days together seems like you were falling in love. It happens when youre travelling or at meetings like you went to. You shouldnt have gotten so drunk. You will be fine. Next time dont get so drunk so you can make the right decision and make sure the condom gets put on. | |
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Posted: 3/2/2008 7:24:13 PM | | lol....couldn't agree anymore with the guy who said "women are the new men"...so sad, so true... | |
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Posted: 3/2/2008 8:35:53 PM | It never ceases to amaze me when I see the outrage of so many righteous people who have never had a one night stand (which I don't believe) and are so ready to throw the first stone! A one night stand is what it is, a one time shot. When you are mature enough and can manage it properly you have your fun and when it's done and over, no fault, no regret, you move on! What you had doesn't look like just a one night stand. It seems you want to get involved with the wrong person. For your sake, direct your thoughts somewhere else.!
Getting involved with a married man is really yukky. It's a lose/lose situation for everybody involved. Be patient, you'll find a single guy that you will like who will want to be with you, believe me there are plenty of them out there. Don't put yourself in undesirable situations, ie drinking too much so you lose control and do things you might regret. You are young and naive and only beginning your journey.
Stop beating yourself up. Life is a learning process and you are gonna make mistakes, as we all do, so learn from them and move on! You are in charge of your life and the only one responsible for your actions.
Good Luck!
Sunshine | |
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