| At what point am I sacrificing my self respect waiting for sex?
Posted: 2/16/2008 9:15:41 AM | | thats the dumbest load i have ever heard, no girl is worth waiting this long for sex. and are you sacrificing your self respect by waiting. what does your self respect have to do with waiting for sex, if you didnt have such an ego problem and werent stuck on yourself, i would say that you are very noble, but you could always find another girl to have sex with while you are dating the other one. who said you had to wait. you are only dating. thats common sense. Yeah there are girls who are worth waiting. One day you may find the girl you would do anything for. but until then you need to start being a gentleman, or you could be the one who gets hurt. what goes around comes around. I dont know how old you are, but you are acting like a teen ager. IMO | |
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| At what point am I sacrificing my self respect waiting for sex?
Posted: 2/16/2008 11:22:14 AM | Hmmmm.....6 dates in two months? Have you thought maybe she's just not that in to you?
And maybe, she's dating other people inbetween, the past two months. Dating is dating. This is not about self respect, this is about the act of sex. I'm thinking you don't really align your self worth with having to sacrafice sex with someone you've been on 6 dates with, intermittenly. | |
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| At what point am I sacrificing my self respect waiting for sex?
Posted: 2/16/2008 11:54:04 AM | You're so young OP.....You can't seriously be conetemplating a LTR at your age-not with your mentality. I can understand hoping that someone finds us sexually attractive enough to want sex within 3 dates but its immature to actually expect it-unless its just a one night stand.
Sounds like your ego is bruised because she hasn't jumped your bones yet. Too bad.
If you're sincere in wanting a LTR, you should respect her wishes and be willing to wait. Its not like you're even seeing each other very much.
I think if you are open and honest with your communication with each other, everything should work out. I'm sure she does want to have sex with you - or she wouldn't still be seeing you. I certainly wouldn't see someone 6 times if I knew I wouldn't have sex with them. I guess you just have to determine what it is you hope having sex with her will accomplish. Do you want to move to being in an exclusive relationship with her? Does she know that? Are you both still seeing others?
Most women aren't into sharing their lovers with others, so maybe that's what she's waiting for. Only she can tell you.
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| At what point am I sacrificing my self respect waiting for sex?
Posted: 3/13/2008 10:53:16 PM | | It's not about sacrificing self respect. It's about compatibility. It well could be that the girl you are dating does not like sex or just doesn't find it as important as you. Bring up the point and talk about it. Communication is the key. | |
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| At what point am I sacrificing my self respect waiting for sex?
Posted: 3/14/2008 5:53:18 AM | | I think it is hard to judge, but I don't think two months without sex is necessarily a sign of lack of self respect. I personally would be extremely wary about having sex with anyone, given the prospect of pregnancy or STD, who I did not love and trust first. Sometimes self-control is a greater way of respecting yourself than being intimate. | |
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| At what point am I sacrificing my self respect waiting for sex?
Posted: 10/4/2008 8:11:13 PM | If you had self-respect, you wouldn't be so upset that the girl doesn't want to sleep with you right away. I've been dating someone for the last month and it has been totally casual. I have more respect for myself holding back and developing a REAL relationship that jumping in the sack with him right away.
There is more to a relationship that the physical.
2 months is NOT a long time whatsoever. You really need to look within yourself - self-respect has nothing to do with how soon you can f^uck a chick.
Get a clue. | |
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| At what point am I sacrificing my self respect waiting for sex?
Posted: 10/4/2008 8:48:09 PM |
Maybe she thinks sex is something you have once you're in a relationship. Op you can't possibly consider that you are in a relationship with this girl when you haven't even seen her once a week in the 2 months that you have been "dating" her. It seems the girl is the one with the self respect as she won't have sex with a guy who clearly sees her a a casual date.
If you really like her as you say, then show her by spending a bit more time with her. Maybe even sacrifice a WHOLE DAY (sarcasm) to get to know her a bit better, then she might think she is a bit more than a warm spot to put your willie in.... | |
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| At what point am I sacrificing my self respect waiting for sex?
Posted: 10/4/2008 9:00:24 PM | well, OP, your premise is the reverse to most questions posted in reference to self-respect and sex. frankly this has more to do with ego and physical wants. the only point at which self-respect might enter the equation is if you're implying that you're considering cheating to fulfill your physical desires...at that point it comes down to your personal ethics and whether or not you can live with the potential consequences of your choice.
you obviously have a high libido and sexual intimacy is a very important component in a relationship for you, perhaps that's not the case for the girl you're seeing...neither of you is wrong, you just have different priorities. at this point you simply have to ask yourself whether or not you can get by using your hand and practising a little self-love long enough to give this relationship a chance. | |
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| At what point am I sacrificing my self respect waiting for sex?
Posted: 10/4/2008 9:06:36 PM | what are you talking about YOUR SELF RESPECT? I am amazed at what you are saying here. If you like her, then she is worth waiting for. Not every woman wants to jump in bed on the second date... you show respect for her, and that gives you self repect.. its not the other way around. SEX IS SEX AND THATS NOT WHAT SOME WOMEN WANT... They need to be reassured that its not just sex... and by saying what you have said Im sure its just sex... Move on, you're not the right guy for her.
Sometimes it is not about whether she wants to have sex with you. We can get that anywhere and anytime... Are you the man she wants to get involved with.. ? on a personal, and physical level, which means an emotional level....
My assessment and I could be entirely wrong, is you are not!
Go find a friend with benefits ! thats all you're looking for anyway.
sorry to be so tough on you but I tell it like it is! | |
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| At what point am I sacrificing my self respect waiting for sex?
Posted: 10/4/2008 9:18:13 PM | 6 dates in 2 months isn't a lot of dates. Have you talked about what sort of a relationship you might like to have with her?
I think it's weird that you feel like this affects your self-respect. If you're worried that you may have incompatible sexual needs, ask her about it and communicate with her, and move on if necessary. | |
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| At what point am I sacrificing my self respect waiting for sex?
Posted: 10/4/2008 9:34:53 PM | I am not nearly as shallow as everyone in this thread is portraying me.
Clearly you are! If your relationship with a woman (Who might be a totally great person) depends on whether she wants to be intimate with a person who she barely knows, then you are shallow because you're basing your whole relationship on that one thing. Now I know some people are more casual about sex than others, but come on!!!!!!!
And honestly, I feel sorry for ANYONE who's self-confidence depends on another person. My recommendation? Intensive therapy!  | |
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