| How do you get over someone
Posted: 4/9/2008 7:20:04 PM | The only thing that heals is time...time....time...time...!
Somedays are better than others but focus on the good days.
Go out - don't hide in your shell.
I was told that the only way to get over someone is to fall in love with someone else.
We all feel that we will never get over it but I always ask myself a personal question..
Remember when you thought you would never love again and then you did? You look back and say I cannot believe I felt so bad and I cannot believe how happy I am now- I would go through it all again to be here. That should be your goal - Get there and know that you will love again! | |
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| How do you get over someone
Posted: 4/9/2008 7:51:14 PM | | I do love how he choose World of Warcraft over you. I have had one of those boys as well. Quite irritating. | |
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| How do you get over someone
Posted: 4/9/2008 8:06:28 PM | | Your right find someone else and move on. First finding someone isn`t that easy. I`m talking to someone and I like her but everything is up to her now. I`m hoping she is at least is going to give me the opportunity to see if we can connect or something like that. And I know that everything in the past can stay back. I need to move forward and what other way than to have someone in your life. | |
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| How do you get over someone
Posted: 4/9/2008 8:54:02 PM | | Wow...i hate to see anyone get so hurt in a relationship....but i read every word of every response since i've just gone thru the h--ll myself. Things were great i thought til i found out he was "chatting" with others online etc. and maybe more, i'm still not sure, but never the less, when i found out, i called hoping to get a "i'm sorry, i messed up, let's work thru this" but i didn't. he got very mad, very upset that someone had informed me etc....All i wanted was for him to take responsibility for what he'd done and tell me how we could work thru this bad time. but his anger was nasty. i found out more about him during this "break up" and realized i couldn't be in a long term relationship with someone who says all the terrible nasty things when they are mad...no matter how many times they apologize later, you never forget what was said. So for breakups....seems best not to say all the mean things that you're going to regret soon.....that doesn't accomplish anything, it makes everything worse. MY RULE #1 IS DON'T SAY THINGS IN ANGER THAT IS MEAN AND HURTFUL. Finally, you have to make a TOTAL BREAK....none of the "maybe we can be friends" thing....make a total break for a while.....it gives you time to really think about whats happened, and think about "is this the kind of person that i knew, or is it the kind of person you HOPED they were", and gives you time to think about the good and the bad and "is this really the kind of person I want to be with?". During all this, you cry, you get depressed, you don't want to go out, and if you do, you sit there thinking about "the other person" the whole time...so seeing someone new is only a bandaid. But like many of the others have said....it takes time and its hell. All the other replies had some good advice too. If you have someone you can talk to about what's happened, that helps once you get to where you can talk about them without crying. We were together for over a year, was planning our future together, where we'd live, how we'd put our families together, etc. And if it helps at all, be glad it happened now....it's painful but much cheaper than a divorce and saves ya lots of work splitting everything up etc. I feel for anyone going thru a breakup....it's so painful, you go thru all the phases of anger, crying, depression, etc...then you get to acceptance. I don't think all the pain ever goes away, you lost a part of your heart that is gone, it will heal, but it'll never be the same. | |
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| How do you get over someone
Posted: 4/9/2008 10:34:40 PM | god you so right galonthemt,
i have done that only once in my life , it hurt the guy i had hooked up with for two years ( while i got over my broken heart). i feel so bad about it , it wasnt deliberate, i was so in love with my ex-sole- mate . it took me by surprise too when one day i realised didnt love him enough , and i had to get out of it immedatly. | |
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| How do you get over someone
Posted: 4/9/2008 11:38:17 PM |
This was serious relationship and I think if we worked through some issues we could have been married and really happy. Unfortunately I pulled the plug when (we) reached a crossroad...and I see that she is doing no work in trying figure it out...says ... loves me but in this case actions speak louder than words.
Deal breakers. A broad topic, ranging from spending and eating issues--to faith and career---to life views and personal space.
I've avoided situations that remind me of that person (places, activities), and I've thrown myself into them with renewed fervor. The first approach prevents me from hurting; the 2nd approach helps me heal and even outgrow the importance I ascribed to that special other who brought joy to my life.
There are, of course, some sentimental reminders that hark back decades--outgrowing beats denial every time. | |
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| How do you get over someone
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| How do you get over someone
Posted: 4/10/2008 12:44:40 PM | time i guess, taking care of yourself and trying not to get too cynical and jaded by the whole romance thing.
i dont know, its one of the hardest emotions to go through. i just got fed up with red eyes and sore nose so gave myself a time limit to be really miserable about it then shook myself up and carried on. still there in the back of my mind though and i think always will be until i meet someone who can really shake me up and rock my world.
its fun looking in the meantime. i dont take this lark seriously at all and have met some really nice people.
oh and i always keep at least one foot on the ground now, friendly but guarded :) | |
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| How do you get over someone
Posted: 4/10/2008 5:09:56 PM | | Well...Go get some strange...works everytime. There is an old saying. "If you can't be with the one you love...then honey...love the one you're with". Works for me. Works for all I have prescribed it too. | |
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| How do you get over someone
Posted: 4/10/2008 5:26:36 PM | Ok, Ive seen this "Strange" crap that u have been telling everyone to go get or something like that...First off, what the hell is it your talking about and secondly, if your going to respond to someones post, dont write the same responce in every thread | |
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| How do you get over someone
Posted: 4/10/2008 6:12:07 PM | | Get over them by doing something new and exciting. Try rock climbing. There are many climbing gyms where you can safely climb and forget them. Go for long hikes. Read more books. Learn to cook. Become a monk? | |
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| How do you get over someone
Posted: 4/11/2008 7:57:39 AM | It is sad to say but time is really the only thing. There are however things you can do to speed up the process adn give you moments of peace...
Change the furniture in your home, especially in the bedroom
Exercise
Spend time outdoors
Be single for a while. Who's says you need anyone else? | |
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| How do you get over someone
Posted: 4/11/2008 11:08:13 AM | | hey there akmusic i know how your feeling man.only time can heal and help u get over a serious relationship.my 1 main bit of advice would be have very little contact with ur x u cant even start to get over her if ur in cotact every 2nd day with her it will just totally drive u bonkers.u won't know where u stand and u will continue to have that horrible feeling in ur stomach u know the feeling we all xperience it at sometime in our life.its going to be hard bud to get over it if its ur 1st luv it makes it even harder.when u feel down in urself listen to some music from a happier time in ur life it will give u a bit of escapism from how ur real feelings r.good luck to u bud and remember there is more than 1 fish in the sea always is . | |
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| How do you get over someone
Posted: 4/11/2008 1:03:13 PM | It's hard work my friend.
It takes time... Nothing cures it.
I think of it as a psychological addiction. Like cocaine. All you can really do is live through it.
I found that changing my surroundings..... e.g. redecorate/ move furniture about... Changing my routine a bit, meeting new people/women, going out.
But above all.... things really started changing when i started fancying other girls.
Not seeing her helped me along... not biting at the "I still love you" crap. It's stuff that you want to believe but you have to come to terms with it sooner or later. (sooner is better... but harder)
But it takes time.
As the song goes:
"Love in an elevator.......Living it up when you're going down."
I know it doesn't mean anything and has no relevance but i like the song. | |
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| How do you get over someone
Posted: 4/11/2008 1:09:43 PM | I hooe you are wrong as far as the time frame, that means its going to take me 9 years to get over him? Although its been 2 so far yikes | |
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| How do you get over someone
Posted: 7/9/2008 6:53:48 PM | | I was over my ex before I left him. When you try everything and anything to save a relationship but it's still not working, it's time to walk away without looking back. | |
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| How do you get over someone
Posted: 7/9/2008 7:06:41 PM | I do many different things to get my mind off of the stresses of life, such as:
Playing games; they keep my mind focused
Driving my car; I've always found the rumble of a V8 to be somewhat calming, as odd as it sounds
Hanging out with friends; having fun, keeping my mind focused on that
Working on something, maybe my car or computer
Those are the main things I do. | |
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