| 1 night stand, to real love?
Posted: 3/1/2008 6:45:57 PM | Like life, it depends on your minds set going into the event. I have had 'one night stands' and radom sex.
As a one night stand I knew I just wanted the one thing. Never exchanged numbers or emails. Hell, not sure if we even said our real name. So, hard to find true love in that. Ramdom sex; however, could be a different story. You met someone and there is a mutual attraction. You share some personal information and then get your freak on. Can you find true love from that? I believe yes. Hell, that's how I found my husband! Granted, we are getting a divorce, but I still found love! | |
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| 1 night stand, to real love?
Posted: 3/18/2008 5:50:47 PM | Funny you should ask this question....
Since a girl can't ever spend time with a guy cuz he is busy with work then should she just give up or seek other means to this crazy end.
I met a guy awhile ago and when we finally did 'meet' we seemed to get along - at least from my point of view.
Then he got involved with a goal of his - a new job - so I left him alone and gave him space...more space than I wanted to.
This was difficult for me because coming from the old school I didn't like 'chasing' him but I didn't hear from him so I continued from time to time to leave messages or emails to just let him know I was still interested in a friendship/relationship and go from there.
We did engage in one nighters a few different times and I felt they were pretty good...of course practice makes perfect right? LOL
So what if this certain girl really would love to spend time with this busy man?
Is it wrong to want both the physical and spiritual company of this man?
If it were up to me I would be over his house tonight, sharing in the company of his conversation, the knowledge of sharing experiences both in daily living and spiritual growth and then basking in the warmth of his kisses, safety of his arms and explosion of what followed?!
Thoughts from you sir.
Maybe this guy is just blowing her off and she is too involved in her own fantasy to see it?! | |
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| 1 night stand, to real love?
Posted: 3/18/2008 5:57:17 PM | I was married to a man for 7 years that almost was a one afternoon stand or I suppose "hookup" would be the right word because we were neighbors. We were both randy and maybe a little intoxicated and I said "ya wanna?" and he said "why not" 12 months later we were engaged.
I still think it was love, even now that it is over. | |
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| 1 night stand, to real love?
Posted: 3/18/2008 6:03:11 PM | | Of course. I know of more than one long and happy marriage where the couple in question began by meeting in a nightclub and falling into a bed together somewhere drunk off their butts. Love happens when it happens. It makes little difference how you meet or how long you have known one another. | |
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| 1 night stand, to real love?
Posted: 3/18/2008 6:22:47 PM | | Maybe when you meet someone that you really connect with, it just happens. Is it wrong?Immoral? Whos to say? I suppose it depends on who they are. And what they want.I dont see how it could have a negative impact on a relationship unless you are immature enough to let it. | |
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| 1 night stand, to real love?
Posted: 3/18/2008 6:53:43 PM | | Mine started as just sex and turned into 13 years! She was great in bed and as time went on we just fell in love! Not with her now, but, sometimes I wish I was yet! | |
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| 1 night stand, to real love?
Posted: 9/26/2008 9:36:44 PM | | Absolutely it does ... we met at a dance ... had a date ... can't even say I got her drunk because she did not drink ... went to my house and had sex. Was planing to be a one night stand ... some time we later we both admitted to it ... we moved in together and got married 8 months later. It lasted for 25 years until she went to be with God. | |
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| 1 night stand, to real love?
Posted: 9/26/2008 11:41:52 PM | | This is too risky.......Most that do this are drunk or not in control of their actions. It is so rare that sex can bring on a relationship of love. It is not worth the risk. | |
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| 1 night stand, to real love?
Posted: 9/27/2008 12:38:03 AM | I think that the nature of the expression invalidates the notion of developing a longterm relationship. It's one thing if you happen to have sex one night, but, and correct me if I'm wrong, I always interpreted a "one night stand" as being sex, nothing more, and then cessation of contact.
I've done similar things in the past and I think that while it's possible that anything can eventually develop into love, but I don't really adhere to notions like "true love." It's kind of limiting the possibilities. If you happen to lose your "true love" for some reason, it implies there will never be another.
ANYWAY, digression aside...
I don't personally find one night stands conducive to developing a healthy relationship as it places emphasis on sex prior to anything less fleeting. I mean, sex is nice, but it seems to demean the nature of the interaction if the interaction itself is in the interest of sex alone.
So while I won't discount the possibility of discovering love this way, I don't think it's the most reliable method. | |
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| 1 night stand, to real love?
Posted: 9/27/2008 4:00:41 AM | Okay, my current realtionship is kind of like this. Now it wasn't going to be a "one night stand" but it was supposed to be "sex only". Neither of us was looking for a relationship from the other. I was in the process of dating several men and thought he'd be good for maybe one or two times but then I'd get bored and move on. He had just recently seperated from his wife so didn't want anything serious. We talked about anything and everything after sex and ended up having a lot in common and a lot of the same goals.
4 months later here we are and he is living with me and we have his kids this weekend. :)
This is too risky.......Most that do this are drunk or not in control of their actions.
I think that's apretty good point there. Maybe that's why I have ended up with different results. I don't drink and play, they don't mix. I've made that a firm rule for a very long time and I think it serves me well. | |
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