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| Ex-Boyfriend as God-father?
Posted: 2/12/2008 2:49:44 PM | | Just my opinion but maybe joe is picking up on the discrepancies in your stories and he might be feeling like there is more to what you tell him about guy. You attended a party and asked your new boyfriend to tell a guy , who he did not know or find out till the next day, was your old boyfriend , that it was ok for him to still come over? Who did your new boyfriend think this guy was? I would wait till you are further along in the relationship and if it is as good as you say, perhaps after marraige to ask to let your son call him daddy. Maybe he can adopt him. As far as the shirt, inappropriate perhaps, i wouldn't let my son wear it. He has a point there, as far as him being a god father to your son, When he's older and asks who this person is, there is nothing wrong with saying it's your godfather. That's what you should be telling him now. He doesn't have to know the whole story that you dated him. If you do end up having more children, they aren't all going to have the same godparents. Whoever the godparents will be i don't think will disregard other children in the home. If they do then i'd have a problem. When someone is made a godparent they will always be the godparent in the eyes of the church. Can't just exchange them. You can have the godparent not involved in the childs life. If you are going to make a decision like that, do it soon before the 2 year old becomes attached. They realize more then you think. | |
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| Ex-Boyfriend as God-father?
Posted: 2/12/2008 4:57:31 PM | So test Guy out, if he comes over and mostly talk to you, tell him that he's here to spend time with your son, not with you. However, he may feel awkward in talking to your son since he's a child. The only way he's intruding is if you don't want to be friends with him. If your bf isn't jealous, then he shouldn't have an issue with your friend coming over from time to time. As someone suggested, maybe your bf can be friends with him. perhaps you can go in another room while guy is with your child and bf.
And think about this, if it wasn't for your bf, would you really have an issue with Guy being there from time to time? | |
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| Ex-Boyfriend as God-father?
Posted: 2/14/2008 5:07:46 AM | | Clearly, from the personal messages I've been getting, I would have to say yes, I would still have this problem. Better than 95 % of the men that have commented on this subject have stated that they would have an issue with this scenario; even most of the women that have messaged me say the same. It is somewhat different in the Forums...I think many don't post due to privacy issues ;( | |
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