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Posted: 2/13/2008 9:39:19 PM | I was taught, If it quacks like a duck, Walks like a duck poops like a duck, Its A DUCK!
Do what you want, I don't believe any of this guys con game but you must assume total responsibility if he uses you, as you allowed him to use you.
Life is simple if you place a person in your shoes and answer the question from your view of their relationship. Try it.... K.I.S.S. | |
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Posted: 3/11/2008 8:35:38 PM | | just wanted to thank everyone for their harsh words and common sense. | |
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Posted: 3/11/2008 10:36:19 PM |
just wanted to thank everyone for their harsh words and common sense
And you are so very welcome. Need a little more attention? | |
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Posted: 3/11/2008 11:02:36 PM | some do. I used to be a wild homewrecker. I have broken up 3 marriages, and yes, made them move out!
You have to be a player yourself, as a woman. be flawless, LISTEN extensively, be empathetic (in an actress way)even if you are really secretly nauseated by it all.
find out the things he wishes wife would do, then DO them when it appears you are acting naturally. Giggle and have a grand old time doing what he's missing in his life and say you've always loved to do 'whatever thing he needs is'. Fake it if you have to, to snag a man.
Courtesan charm.
AVOID arguing or bickering at ALL costs until you have him FULLY. even then, its not good.
To pull a man away from another woman, you have to be EVERYTHING he wants, perfect. Make him think you're THE ONE. ask any family/friends of his about his interests, research them and surprise him with stuff he likes. (burn a CD of HIS music tastes, offer to pay for a date to a shooting range) Men lap up crap like that. doesn't take a TON of thought, but makes 'em fall in love!
Use your brain. Use every trick in the book. If it fails, at least you know you gave it your ALL with FULL effort and didn't just ride the waves or waste any time.
Dont write TOO many love letters, men dont like it. 3 or 4 good ones, leave it at that.
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Posted: 3/12/2008 12:45:04 PM | | no i dont need any more attention. i was being sincere, i mean of course in the end i'm guna do what i want to do but i like hearing different opinions and a lot of what was said makes sense. thats all. | |
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Posted: 3/22/2008 10:16:16 PM | discotrash, Is that supposed to impress me because you wrecked 3 marriages corrupted 3 weak d ick less men?  that is probably one of the most ignorant things ive read in the forums today I suspect sustaining ignorance must be hard work for you, you deserve a kit kat break.
What was it that they say in Mississippi, if you scratch your balls in dirt and dont bathe you get fleas, or something like that? Santa Maria
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Posted: 3/22/2008 11:00:11 PM |  there is no love without integrity. | |
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Posted: 3/22/2008 11:26:36 PM | Call me a total romantic.
But what he has told you could be correct !
What if you follow what all the reply's to your post are sugesting, and then in time you you find that they are all wrong ? He was telling you the truth ?
Yes it dose sound as if he is lieing ! but tell him what you are thinking and ask him to prove that what he is telling you is correct . . .
Yes a duck is a duck !!
But this is life and sometimes, just sometimes people do in fact tell the truth about thing's . . | |
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Posted: 3/22/2008 11:59:44 PM | Discotrash.... it is very sad at your age that you have that mentality...and guess what your elevator doesnt go all the way to the top... and holy crap if it did... then when you stepped out of that tree... I am sorry but u hit every branch on the way down... Kid you are going to learn one hell of a lesson in life... and i can gaurantee that u will not ever receive a life full of love... you have some major issues!! and the coconut that gets u is some desperate a##hole... get a real life... and grow up!!!!!!
Wow!! you give a whole new meaning to why mothers eat their young! Good thing we are not cannibals... Geez where is Hannibal when you need him... so sorry about this... everyone!!
I have never posted before... but this is truly sick!!!! from all angles. She gave no good advice anywhere in her bull crap story... just fiction!!!! Dreamer can you put your hands in your head!!! YIKES!!!!
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Posted: 3/25/2008 6:15:48 PM |
discotrash, Is that supposed to impress me because you wrecked 3 marriages corrupted 3 weak d ick less men? that is probably one of the most ignorant things ive read in the forums today I suspect sustaining ignorance must be hard work for you, you deserve a kit kat break.
I think trash might be the operative word here................ | |
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Posted: 3/25/2008 6:30:34 PM | | 21spursfan,yeah I smell a lie with this man. I've been through these scenarios before and ended up getting hurt big time. You may want to fish out all the facts first. | |
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Posted: 3/25/2008 6:37:19 PM | | Disco Trash,what is your point to this subject??? This lady is asking for helpful advice, not your experiences of manipulating stupid men. Unless you do have a point to your story? If so please share | |
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Posted: 3/25/2008 7:22:49 PM | OP: let him get on with his life IF the story he tells you is actually true ?? You are playing second fiddle . I rarely suggest to anyone to walk away, but seriously think about it....
Trash This is nothing to sound off about or be so proud of... as a home wrecker.This will get you lots of dates and you certainly have lived a whole lot of trash in your short 23 years. AH! just remember what goes around comes around. Karma. Good luck...
oh yeah of course you have mended your ways... now.
DiscoTrash:::some do. I used to be a wild homewrecker. I have broken up 3 marriages, and yes, made them move out!
You have to be a player yourself, as a woman. be flawless, LISTEN extensively, be empathetic (in an actress way)even if you are really secretly nauseated by it all.
find out the things he wishes wife would do, then DO them when it appears you are acting naturally. Giggle and have a grand old time doing what he's missing in his life and say you've always loved to do 'whatever thing he needs is'. Fake it if you have to, to snag a man.
Courtesan charm.
AVOID arguing or bickering at ALL costs until you have him FULLY. even then, its not good.
To pull a man away from another woman, you have to be EVERYTHING he wants, perfect. Make him think you're THE ONE. ask any family/friends of his about his interests, research them and surprise him with stuff he likes. (burn a CD of HIS music tastes, offer to pay for a date to a shooting range) Men lap up crap like that. doesn't take a TON of thought, but makes 'em fall in love!
Use your brain. Use every trick in the book. If it fails, at least you know you gave it your ALL with FULL effort and didn't just ride the waves or waste any time.
Dont write TOO many love letters, men dont like it. 3 or 4 good ones, leave it at that.
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Posted: 6/29/2008 8:29:07 PM | ********UPDATE*************
Just in case anyone wondered what ever happened. well lets see, everything seems to be going ok. We are still together and i would say we're happy. I mean everyone has issues in their relationships and we are just dealing with whatever comes our way. We're actually become very good friends and i gotta say have never been this close with anyone in my whole life. Thanks for ur interest and good luck to all u who read this! | |
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Posted: 6/29/2008 9:12:36 PM | op....... your posting history says..
<div class="quote">A kiss is very important. when i met my boyfriend i swear we only knew each other a few minutes and felt some sort of magnet pull us together and kiss. we knew we shouldnt have since we hardly knew each other but the chemistry was so right and he was the best kisser i ever had. we've been seeing each other for 8 months now. had it been a bad kiss, i dont think i wouldve continued.
so it seems you are calling this womans 12 year defacto ...your boyfriend..... and have kissed... yet you say after 7 months you never slept together? (when you posted this thread)
may i give you a scenario........ the woman with the kidney failure has said to her defacto i dont want to be a burden....
can you imagine yourself going to her bedside... and saying to her ohh please dont worry about him.... weve been seeing each other emotionally.... connecting kissing etc....
for 8 months now... so you heal/get well b/c we are both caring people ... ill look after all his needs ... and he feels obligated to be there for you .. cause well your dying
so im being very generous in allowing him to be there for you... while behind your back... he loves me not you....
just thought we would be completely honest to you.. so you didnt feel like a burden......
reality is.... if you cant do it in front of her what your doing is sneaky... deceitful......
but heres the beauty in deceitfulness....... no honour amongst theives......
youve found someone like you... the fact that you both trust each other to do this to her but not to each other is simply amazing....
the only thing is... how would you feel if ... you found out what hes doing to his defacto with you....... hes doing to you?
hmmm its a tangled web we weave .. when first we practise to deceive...
this isnt about circumstances.. but about peoples characters...
so even ... if he ever disassociates the inner guilt he feels.... from you... the character will always be there... otherwise it seems he will always associate his time with you as guilt ridden...
a reminder.......somewhere in the back of both your beings will be a conciousness.... of will she...or he ... do the same thing to me?
now on the other hand if your both honest...up front and the dying woman has no problem with you comforting him.... and you have no problem with him.. comforting her in her dying time... then..... the guilt is gone...honesty/integrity prevails...
its interesting how conciousness can change when death occurs.. its a reaction people cant plan for... it has to occur for the reaction.... ie someone can hate their father for 25 years yet when he dies.. the impact can be unexpected... eg only..
but has he ever been unfaithful to her ...before you.... in the 12 years?
you say your ex was cheating on you........... now you know what its like to be the other woman/conciousness...... so i guess at least youve learnt forgiveness of the woman your ex left you for.... or had fun with.. chose her over you...
and youve chosen the same sort of character in your next guy... and chosen to be the other woman....
hmmm
interesting...
i hope his defacto.. has someone in her life who can provide her with real love.. not guilt/obligation.... and i hope ...... you all find love... real love....
good luck in your choices....
sounds like pyschological russian roulette here..
just imagine... spending 12 years of your life with someone.... who is being unfaithful behind your back.. isnt in love with you... and your dying...looking back on your life.... and realising..... your not loved....by your partner? how sad a way to die...
so how long was he pretending to be in love with her ? out of those 12 years?.. and if it had been years?... was he unfaithful before?..... thats deciet.. in . if he had been honest and left when he fell out of love... maybe she would of found someone who actually loved her....
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Posted: 6/29/2008 10:21:55 PM |
Just in case anyone wondered what ever happened. well lets see, everything seems to be going ok. We are still together and i would say we're happy. I mean everyone has issues in their relationships and we are just dealing with whatever comes our way. We're actually become very good friends and i gotta say have never been this close with anyone in my whole life. Thanks for ur interest and good luck to all u who read this!
You have not really updated. Did his wife die? Or are you still taking from her? Yes, everyone does have issues in their relationships, but I hope to god, I never have one like this. Well, I don't have to hope.... I know I won't have these issues to deal with, because I have something called integrity, and morals!!! | |
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Posted: 6/30/2008 11:14:36 AM | | no she didnt die. She still lives with him but she tells him to hang in there with her for just a little bit longer. I know it seems like i'm a horrible person and i understand where people are coming from. i also used to say i would never put myself in such a situation but sometimes things happen. Believe me its not all great, i go through alot with this man being with her. Its like he was already unhappy and out of love with her but this happened. How can u leave someone when they need u? We have even both tried walking away but are miserable without each other. As far as i know I dont think he ever cheated before me. (but who knows for sure?) I don't wish this on anyone one its a very difficult situation and theres alot of heartache on all parts. | |
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Posted: 6/30/2008 11:24:37 AM |
She still lives with him but she tells him to hang in there with her for just a little bit longer. What for?
She didn't die even though the doctors said she would? So her illness whatever it was defied medical reasoning and she had a miracle recovery?
What the heck is this man waiting for? What are you waiting for?
This is not right you know. You are being had and you are just too manipulated to see that. | |
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Posted: 6/30/2008 6:16:43 PM |
She still lives with him but she tells him to hang in there with her for just a little bit longer.
What for?
She didn't die even though the doctors said she would? So her illness whatever it was defied medical reasoning and she had a miracle recovery?
What the heck is this man waiting for? What are you waiting for?
This is not right you know. You are being had and you are just too manipulated to see that.
They are waiting for her to die. And if she has been had. Good, getting what she deserves! | |
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Posted: 6/30/2008 6:35:52 PM | | Look at how he treats the woman before you, to see how he will be treating you one day. | |
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Posted: 7/1/2008 6:26:01 PM | | No, we are not waiting for her to die. She first of all is not his wife, they never got married and have not lived together the whole time except for maybe the last 9 months and thats because she had no where else to go. She is supposed to be moving soon as far as her health is concerned, she was saying she didnt want to go through the things she needs to to get better but now she is so thats y the doctors had said if she didnt she could die. And as far as getting what i deserve, u know i know that i am a good person over all to everyone and maybe haven't made the right choices sometimes but i know what i've been through in my life and hopefully do get what i deserve. I'm just tired of always putting everyone else first and this time i want to get what i want and it so happens to be this man. anyone else can say they wouldnt do this or that but until someone is in that situation, cant really say what they would or wouldnt do. im just a little more honest than most people i guess. | |
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Posted: 7/1/2008 7:50:44 PM | until he breaks up with the first woman, he's cheating on her. that should tell you all you need to know. he's not a good bet. is this really the kind of guy you want in your life? by the way, all cheaters have a good story as to why they cheat and there's always some schmuck who falls for it. they usually also have some supposedly good reason for not leaving the first person. (and boy does this man have a whopper!) yep, there's always some schmuck who falls that line too! you're asking for heart break.
also, even if he breaks up with the first woman, it's statistically unlikely he'll settle down with the very next woman who comes along.
last thing, i'd be very wary around a guy who would even think of tossing one person for another.
best wishes to both women involved. | |
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