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| Need some advice... re: blowjobs
Posted: 2/12/2008 8:07:11 AM | | ha lol its all good, everyone needs a little bit of spice in a relationship and handcuffs are good as clearly your movements restricted and so you just have to lay there and enjoy | |
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| Need some advice... re: blowjobs
Posted: 2/12/2008 2:36:19 PM | LBP---"I hear of some women not liking to receive oral but not a guy not willing to get it.
I don't think I could handle the situation. Having a lower sex drive than me would be one thing but to have actual "issues" with sex whether it be religious guilt or whatever, would probably drive me away."
Some men don't like it, for purely mechanical reasons. It probably has nothing to do with psychological problems or bad experiences. | |
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| Need some advice... re: blowjobs
Posted: 2/12/2008 2:47:13 PM | | I haven't read all of the replies yet, but I also vote that something bad may have happened to him. | |
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| Need some advice... re: blowjobs
Posted: 2/12/2008 3:44:09 PM | | This is the first I've heard of such a disposition. I've known of people who don't go for that sort of thing because of religious conditioning, (and one who was disinclined because he considered that the act would be demeaning to his wife) but never of a guy who doesn't like it. I agree with you, if he's only experienced it once, how would he really know if he likes it? Contrary to the common quip, there is such a thing as a bad BJ. Especially if there are teeth involved or if the timing is wrong, like after, when his T levels are plummeting and he just wants to sleep. However, if he doesn't like to be touched, then it's a bigger problem. He may have been abused. If so, he needs to get counseling. Also, since he lost his erection when you handled him, he could be gay. Lots of people live in denial and sometimes don't even know it themselves. (“Never underestimate the power of denial.”)Again, therapy is advised. If it were a simple matter of preference, I'd say that he should set that aside and let you have the contact that you enjoy, but it seems to run deeper than this. I wouldn't advise pushing the issue since he's not open-minded. I suggest backing off until he sorts out what's really behind this. -good luck to you both. -C: | |
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| Need some advice... re: blowjobs
Posted: 2/12/2008 4:01:23 PM | | What DOES he like to do with his ****? Does it give him pains in some way when it is touched? Have you asked him why? I would just sit down and talk with him about this. Aphenphosmphobia? Does it bother him to be touched other places other ways? Handshaking, hugging, etc.. If he doesn't like it to be touched and doesn't know why, it would seem obvious that something traumatized him as a child or something. But I would recommend seeing a doctor about it or having a serious talk with him and see if something can't be worked out. | |
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| Need some advice... re: blowjobs
Posted: 2/13/2008 12:48:52 AM | | Pick me. I'd love to feel your lips and tongue slide up and down my**** As for the other guy, forget him; if he can't accept a gift like that from you, he isn't worth your time. Find someone like me who'd let you do it any time you like; even teach you to swallow if you don;t already know, and return the favor with gusto! If you and I were together and you wouldn't let me go down on you, it would be a deal-breaker for sure. If God didn't intend for chicks to give head, why did he make your mouths fit our**** so well and feel so good? As for swallowing, it's much easier for you to swallow it than for me to wash it off after it dries! You are one cool lady, I think, and it's a shame to waste all that talent on some idiot who doesn't even know when he's got it about as good as it gets! Whatever you decide to do about the oddball, never stop sucking****, and I'll never stop eating ****. Deal? | |
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| Need some advice... re: blowjobs
Posted: 2/13/2008 1:32:06 AM | F**K being molested - it's probably not the thing.
from what I've read it's more like he was raised that ANY form of release (i.e. orgasm) was reserved for marriage and he's a "sinner" for having any woman in any fashion (russian, greek, french, english, italian, spanish, etc - and if you don't know what I mean, google it I'm trying to be polite and use codewords).
You either need to change the way he thinks, or slap a ring on your finger to cure the situation. beyond that - I can't help you, or him. | |
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| Need some advice... re: blowjobs
Posted: 2/13/2008 8:39:03 PM | Maybe he's a faggot.
Dump him and find someone else (eh hem, eh hem)
but if you insist on putting a round peg in a square hole, rent some porno movies, and see how the pro's do it. There are many techniques, and each guy has his favorite....but mind you, if you do his best prefered technique, and only that one, he will cum off sooner than you want. So you have to mix it up....maybe bite him, or put an ice cube in your mouth........Hey, let us knowhow it turns out!.......if he's not a fairy.....LOL | |
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| Need some advice... re: blowjobs
Posted: 2/15/2008 6:21:48 AM | Leeanne -- "He probably just cums too soon and wishes to stave off any stimulation until he can take it! He's probably embarassed that he is a premature ejaculator!"
Rather than use the term 'premature' let's just say that perhaps he finds it too stimulating for comfort. | |
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| Need some advice... re: blowjobs
Posted: 2/22/2008 8:46:54 AM | | I know just how you feel girl. I dated a guy recently who was the first who said he didn't like em, before I even touched him. Why? It was a big turn off for me because not that I'm a loosy but I enjoy giving em and have been told and shown I'm good at it. I asked a male friend and he told me maybe it makes the guy feel like ur a slut if you like it, and it's not true. I got good at it during a verry long relationship where we expiremented alot. Did you have any luck? Or get any good answers? | |
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| Need some advice... re: blowjobs
Posted: 2/22/2008 10:19:18 AM | | If you click with him, just try not to think about it much, but there again could be a problem, if you ask him if you might try it once and tell him, "let me try it once, and if it doesn't do it for you i won't do it again" I hope i could be of some help, yes i am a guy, but i am also a sex therapist for women to find solutions to problems with there men, and sometimes my advice works, sometimes not, so please don't quote me as to 100% effective because nothing is 100%. | |
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| Need some advice... re: blowjobs
Posted: 2/22/2008 12:37:57 PM | | It's a either a religious thing or sexual abuse like others have pointed out. This is not normal behavior for a healthy young man. I once dated a guy who couldn't masturbate because he grew up catholic. He was taught that masturbation is wrong. He was okay with other sexual acts though. This guy sounds a lot worse. Perhaps you should ask him about his past. He won't get over this unless he confronts what the real problem is. | |
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| Need some advice... re: blowjobs
Posted: 2/22/2008 12:58:56 PM | PetiteOne78 -- "It's a either a religious thing or sexual abuse like others have pointed out. This is not normal behavior for a healthy young man. I once dated a guy who couldn't masturbate because he grew up catholic. He was taught that masturbation is wrong. He was okay with other sexual acts though. This guy sounds a lot worse. Perhaps you should ask him about his past. He won't get over this unless he confronts what the real problem is. "
No, it isn't odd at all. It's perfectly normal not to like fellatio. Many men just don't like the sensation, or may take quite a long time to get used to it. | |
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| Need some advice... re: blowjobs
Posted: 2/22/2008 2:51:12 PM | | Have you tried dressing up like a boy and see if he turns you away if you try to touch his woody? If he doesn't turn you away, then he's gay. LOL> | |
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| Need some advice... re: blowjobs
Posted: 2/22/2008 2:54:25 PM | somewhere, someway, somehow he's been shamed at the thought.... probably needing professional help if he has any desire / need to get over it....
"Many men just don't like the sensation"
many ???? I beg to differ . . . | |
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