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Posted: 2/13/2008 8:31:25 AM | | OK i cant help myself i want to insert my penis into the vagina and i get impatient in my case. However i've accepted that most women want a lot of foreplay first so i will gave them what they want and tease them about it. Being patient is a lot of work though. If i have in my mindset to tease and mess with her then i can wait it out. The best part is she is more likely to be fully open so easier for both of u. u might not even need lubricant | |
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Posted: 2/13/2008 10:43:27 AM | | Canoist... A tongue party? Awesome! How do I get on the guest list? | |
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Posted: 2/13/2008 11:03:00 AM | fit62 said
I think too many people have lost sight of the issue here, isnt foreplay all about pleasing your partner?
I think a lot of folk would agree with you.
But you know, I've never really thought that way. To me, foreplay is part of a joint sensual experience of giving and receiving pleasure. Of enjoying your partner's body and giving them enjoyment.
So, yes, it is about pleasing, but it's so much more than that. I can't imagine thinking to myself "Ok I have to spend X minutes hitting his high spots before we can move to the next part". That's so cold, so calculated.
FOr one thing, it's not a tit for tat. Sometimes, it will be offbalance. other times, the balance will be in the other direction. ANd that's ok. Sometimes ya might be so hot for each other that foreplay is nonexistant... othertimes it might be 90% foreplay and by then things are at such a "fevered pitch" that intercourse is over in 2 minutes. But hey, it's all good. It's all pleasure.
Just...try not to think of sex as having rules. It's not about rules. It's about happiness and pleasure. And if you are really into the person, the foreplay and the pleasuring each other and the listening to cues, communicating, all of that should come fairly naturally. THis goes for men and women.
Then, all that knowledge you've gathered about how to please a man/woman, how to give oral sex, how your partner likes to be touched...etc. all that stuff you've learned will just be part of having great sex w/your partner, not part of rules to follow.
And guys, it's true, sometimes you will O before she does. SOmetimes you won't O at all. SOmetimes you'll O in5 strokes and it's over. It's all good - as long as other times she's the one writhing in pleasure.  AGain, it's not a tit for tat...but it is about mutual pleasure and just making sex as fun and great as it can be for each other.
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Posted: 2/13/2008 11:21:56 AM | | You need to be with a man who ENJOYS it as much as you do... | |
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Posted: 2/13/2008 11:45:23 AM | Why do all the guys who know what they're talking about here either live hundreds of miles away or are less than half my age? Sob.
What I'm wondering is, Why do you women keep on having sex with men who are bad at it?
Sometimes we care about them in almost every other way possible, and don't want to hurt their feelings . My husband really tried, but he was the big affectionate puppy type someone mentioned earlier. I'm widowed, btw, not divorced. Well, I was divorced years ago, in spite of the fact that sex with that the first husband was truly mind-blowingl. Unfortunately we couldn't figure out a way to spend 24 hours in bed.
I'm now starting a relationship with someone, and we seem to have fallen into a pattern of playing Scrabble as foreplay. Sadly, the only Scrabble game I could find was SuperScrabble which has a bazillion tiles, and by the time the game is finished I'm so wet that I'm practically sliding out of my kitchen chair. It's the raised eyebrows and the sideways glances the occasional gentle touch, and the way the Scrabble tiles seem to keep making sexually explicit words.
What this guy has in spades is finesse. I've nearly dropped half of whatever I was trying to cook for supper because of a short kiss from him. Weak knees don't go well with taking a roast out of the oven. | |
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Posted: 2/13/2008 12:22:23 PM | If I learned anything from my salad days, its you are not going ANYWHERE without
engaging the built in PROGRAMMING stored in a womans computer !
Guys .... you will find her computer way up on the 'top' floor!...a little..higher...above the boob line....keep going..up...up....WHAT?...afraid of....HEIGHTS!....your sunk if you are, cause thats where the action REALLY is!
TALK TO HER!, I know this could be extremely dangerous......but hey!...get her to lie down...safer that way...closer to terra firma
Foreplay begins much earlier,starting on the top floor, not her middle mezzanine, and my experience is when her programming kicks in...YEEEOOW....TIGER!
Ihave never, I doubt any male ever gave a woman an orgasm. By switching on that grreat built in accessory women possess, utilizing that great accessory men possess[women too], YOUR VOICE....well ,fill in some gentle caresses etc.!
Also, if you haven't spoken for three weeks, lots more floors need to be visited!
So....SHOP EARLY!...DO YOUR HOMEWORK.....floor by floor= bliss  | |
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Posted: 2/13/2008 12:51:13 PM | | Wouldn't sex without foreplay be like watching only the fireworks grand finale? You might get a lot of pleasure from the big climax, but think about all the fireworks you missed. | |
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Posted: 2/13/2008 12:51:45 PM | Trust me, there are men out there who will take the time.
There's nothing wrong with telling a guy what you like, and what you might expect....it works to your advantage, and theirs.
If someone isn't interested in listening (which I cant imagine any guy wouldn't want to talk about this), then he's selfish, and you should find someone who does it for you...I would never be with someone who couldn't take the time for me too.
Thats what makes it so good!
I'm not nice enough to fake it. | |
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Posted: 2/14/2008 5:40:31 AM |
So, please tell me the tricks for picking these guys out of a crowd....
I would love to be left weak at the knees and forget my own name.
There is NO TRICK. It takes just as much work to find and educate the 'man of your dreams', as the man feels it takes, to bring you to orgasm; if there is no love, respect and trust.
Yes, maybe there is a pill or maybe a little alcoholic lubrication that 'short circuits' the process, but it is still a process.
You shall reap the rewards of your investment.
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Posted: 2/14/2008 5:45:14 AM |
The best part is she is more likely to be fully open so easier for both of u. u might not even need lubricant
If you need lubricant, then you are doing it wrong.
You only need lubricant for hookers. Every woman-friend I have been intimate with, is a gusher.
I didn't even know what KY jelly was, until a woman-friend said her ex needed it.
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Posted: 2/14/2008 7:52:46 AM |  STOP IT ALBINO DINO..... your making me hot lolol | |
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Posted: 2/14/2008 9:41:09 AM | | i didnt mean oral, i meant just in genral.. and i wasnt th one askin for advice on tips in the bedroom.. thanks but i dnt need it. | |
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Posted: 2/14/2008 9:48:44 AM | lubricant...actually it's quite well documented that post-menopausal women are often dry b/c of the lack of estrogen in their system. No fault of theirs or their partners. It's a biological thing. Lubricant can be helpful.
(not personal knowledge, but I've read this many many places)
Kaylie | |
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Posted: 2/14/2008 9:53:05 AM |
The best part is she is more likely to be fully open so easier for both of u. u might not even need lubricant
If you need lubricant, then you are doing it wrong.
I was going to say that, too. I never, not even with the worst man, needed lubricant. Err...maybe it depends on what he's trying to do  | |
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Posted: 2/14/2008 10:16:21 AM | I actually _Prefer_ a LOT of Foreplay . .
It's the Fun and Frolick that make the actual Love-making more Intense . . !!
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Posted: 2/14/2008 10:52:13 AM | | To alot of women foreplay is more enjoyable than sex. Its all about the passion you can have with someone. You know when you have it with that first kiss or the first look into someones eyes. | |
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Posted: 2/14/2008 10:57:51 AM | | I knew cowboypirate would be a scoripo by reading his posts. I also am a scoripo. I really do think we know passion. | |
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Posted: 2/14/2008 10:59:24 AM | | The secret is soooo simple that we (men) don't see it. Always make love, not just have sex. Only think of pleasing your partner, not yourself. Believe me, when she experiences your lack of selfishness, she will respond in such great ways and you will be pleased as well. | |
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Posted: 2/14/2008 3:07:17 PM | | Before the Jade Chariot can pass through the Gates of Heaven, they must be opened. | |
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Posted: 2/14/2008 6:43:15 PM | Unsatisfying SEX! THE BOOGIEMAN in a relationship!FIX IT FAST, lest it turn to resentment! Everyone should get what they want in a healthy sex enviroment.
I've found that personality cuts across the entire relationship, right into the bedroom!
Unfortunately,personality problems themselves may make Foreplay Fixes difficult.
Been there!! Personality problems, SEVERE ones broke our relationship, later she suffered similarly yet again , a broken marriage. Seen a lot of ,Imean a lot of this!
Good luck with Foreplay Fix! | |
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Posted: 2/14/2008 10:12:10 PM | Whew! I feel so fortunate I haven't had too many experiences with selfish lovers. The majority were quite eager to ensure my satisfaction and pleasure.
One of the few redeeming qualities my ex had was his willingness to make sure I was squirming before he'd even consider penetration (though, it was never through oral ) I didn't complain since I was always satisfied.
Then I discovered POF and my eyes were opened to a whole new array of possibilities... men who enjoyed giving oral. I was flabbergasted and knew I had to get me some...
Fast forward to S, who said it was one of his favourite aspects, along with kissing my inner thighs *jaw drop* !! But, alas, we never did get to explore that area too deeply as his myriad of other annoying habits/quirks made me realize I would want to kill him in a few months' time 
Cowboy, your intelligence and wit is refreshing | |
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Posted: 2/16/2008 2:20:50 PM | | And are there really men out there who are erotically knowledgeable, skillful, and attentive? Yes Virginia, there is a Santa Claus. However...keep in mind that you will never get the gifts you want unless you sit on his lap and whisper in his ear exactly what you want. | |
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Posted: 2/16/2008 3:19:54 PM |
keep in mind that you will never get the gifts you want unless you sit on his lap and whisper in his ear exactly what you want. Well, you might get the occasional surprise package, but, yes, for a funfilled holiday, communication works wonders.
Annudder | |
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Posted: 2/16/2008 4:44:03 PM | | WOW NOT ALL MEN !!!! I TOTTALLY BELEIVE IN FOREPLAY CUDDLING KISSING TOUCHING. EXPLORING HER BODY !!!!! WELL FIRST OF ALL SEX IS SEX AND MAKING LOVE IS MAKING LOVE I AM A LOVER AND NOT ONE THAT DOES IT TO SATISFY MYSELF. I MAKE SURE SHE FEELS THE SAME OR BETTER WHEN I MAKE LOVE TO A WOMAN. GUYS PAY ATTENTION TO THERE BODY LANGUAGE AND YOU'LL UNDERSTAND. WITH THE RIGHT PERSON MAKING LOVE IS ENDLESS AND AWESOME..... | |
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Posted: 2/19/2008 8:02:57 PM | Hi There:
I have to reply to the fore play. I myself really in joy the fore play with a woman as well as her having it giving back to me. i think you are right that a Guy should pay extra attention to all of the sensitive spots of you or any woman. That what make it so great as well as woman paying attention to the man sensitive spots as well It works both ways. It is well worth it and been able to know where those spots are as well. | |
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