Mary1K
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| What do you think of a man (or woman) who comes on really strong right away?
Posted: 2/18/2008 12:38:38 PM | | It may be a feeling real to that person, but that is beside the point. Love is a desirable emotion, to be in love is what people strive for, for it tells us of someone close to us and our wish to make this person a very important part of our life, there also must be some hope of this relationship lasting and evolving for it to be in the line up, it seems to me that someone, if this is how they felt, would try to see which way the wind blew before running this sail up. | |
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| What do you think of a man (or woman) who comes on really strong right away?
Posted: 2/18/2008 1:00:11 PM | | Okay I wont want to trust a person who says they love me with in a few dates. But you know when people who say they are looking for their true love,the one, etc you would think if you came across this special person it would have intense feelings if they are the "one". So its one of those catch 22 situations. | |
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| What do you think of a man (or woman) who comes on really strong right away?
Posted: 2/18/2008 2:18:09 PM | I tend not to think much of any man who comes on really strong or flowery with me at the start. If he can be that way with me, I'd have to assume he's sending out that same monolog to dozens of other women til one bites.
You don't fall IN love with anyone you don't know. You may love certain things/qualities, about them like their humour, etc. but pleadging your love to a complete stranger is just a tad toooooo weird and desparate for me.
OP when you asked if someone falls in love so easily, can they fall out of love just as easily?........definitely YES. They are either very fickle or terribly desparate. Neither traite being attractive in men or women. Love is something that grows with the QUALITY then QUANTITY of time spent together. Just my opinion. | |
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| What do you think of a man (or woman) who comes on really strong right away?
Posted: 2/18/2008 3:26:33 PM | What do you think of a man (or woman) who comes on really strong right away? (says he has feelings for you right away, wants you to trust him, etc.)
Answer: I would be flattered by their level of interest by coming on really strong, I still would keep them at arm’s length esp if they are asking me to grant them my trust instead of earning it gradually. I see that as a red flag.
Do you assume they are just desperate for a relationship with ANYONE? That they are in love with the idea of love?
Answer: No, I don’t necessarily assume they are desperate to be with just ANYONE - just me at the moment. 
Do you think they might not be well?
Answer: Perhaps.
Excluding any reasons having to do with sex what are your thoughts on this?
Answer: Run swiftly, Run silent, Run deep, just RUN!
Do you think that most times when someone "falls in love" this easily they can fall out love just as easily? (going from one extreme to the other)
Answer: Yes, these types do tend to be extremists in that manner and can easily swing from one end of the spectrum to the other with ease. | |
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| What do you think of a man (or woman) who comes on really strong right away?
Posted: 2/18/2008 3:55:48 PM | I do NOT like having any man come on strong to me, I don't care who he is, or why he's trying .. I find it invasive and alarming.
- he probably acts this way with any woman.
- I don't know where he's been.
- he doesn't know where I've been, which makes him seem indiscriminate.
- I don't have sex with people I don't know.
FRIENDS FIRST!!! | |
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| What do you think of a man (or woman) who comes on really strong right away?
Posted: 2/20/2008 10:14:19 AM | Just because someone has feelings early on doesn't have to be a red flag. . . if they're 40+ years old and never been in a ltr, then yeah, it may be an issue - but falling in love has a lot to do with chemistry and compatability - when you feel it, you feel it. Communication is key - ask them what they love about you.. . My SO and I just hit it off immediately - we were comfortable, and compatible - and there's nothing wrong with that!  | |
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| What do you think of a man (or woman) who comes on really strong right away?
Posted: 2/20/2008 12:37:52 PM | | i think anyone who finds a person like this should be very wary, i'm speaking from experience, i was told he loved me, siad he'd never felt like that before, even with his ex wife, yes he has fallen out of love with me just as quick, he is obviously not what or who he said he was, he asked me to trust him and foolishly i did, the sad thing is my kids met him too, something i should have waited alot longer before introducing them, i no longer trust my own intuition and this is due to someone i met on here who couldn't be honest and that hurts | |
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| What do you think of a man (or woman) who comes on really strong right away?
Posted: 2/20/2008 3:34:07 PM | | When someone starts that, I start backing away...to me it seems they are so desperate they will settle for just anyone almost. I want to take things slower and want them to know me, inside first before they decide they just want to leap in there..either in bed, or in being together supposedly forever! When they say trust me..that usually says watch out..., some who say they have feelings that sudden just want to get you in the bed- then all of a sudden their feelings change again..., so just be on your guard!! | |
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| What do you think of a man (or woman) who comes on really strong right away?
Posted: 2/20/2008 3:48:50 PM | When I was much younger I would fall for the guy who walked right up to me at the party, now I am much more intrigued by the one who stays at the back and just as I am getting ready to leave, walks over and introduces himself.. that means that he watched me for a while, and then decided that he would like to meet. The "pouncers" are usually not the keepers, this being said, I do believe in instant attraction.
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| What do you think of a man (or woman) who comes on really strong right away?
Posted: 2/20/2008 4:10:07 PM | the phrase is FnC.. f*** and chuck. That is what I think of them 
Really you should tell these people exactly this "I am not interested in you for anything but sex, so after we have sex...I will not be calling you again, if we don't have sex..I will not be calling you again" NO MATTER what choice they make, same consequences... Man life is so much better when the outcome of ALL choices is exactly the same. | |
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| What do you think of a man (or woman) who comes on really strong right away?
Posted: 2/20/2008 4:19:05 PM |
What do you think of a man (or woman) who comes on really strong right away? (says he has feelings for you right away, wants you to trust him, etc.)
Do you assume they are just desperate for a relationship with ANYONE? That they are in love with the idea of love?
Do you think they might not be well?
Excluding any reasons having to do with sex what are your thoughts on this?
Do you think that most times when someone "falls in love" this easily they can fall out love just as easily? (going from one extreme to the other)
All of the above and.....
They are too self-absorbed to not realize putting that kind of pressure on someone is not healthy nor fair;
They may be someone who likes to "chase" after love but once they get it, it means nothing because it was the chase that was important;
They are easily victimized and wounded (bring it on themselves); and
They live in fantasy land. They aren't in love with me because they can't possibly know me. They are either lying to me or themselves. | |
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| What do you think of a man (or woman) who comes on really strong right away?
Posted: 2/20/2008 9:56:10 PM | Humans are such emotional critters.
I agree with another poster, nothing worse then a woman
coming on like gang busters, and then leaving you when
reality doesn't live up to her fantasies.
From what I hear from women, far too many men appear
to be just gone, over a woman, sometimes with only a
picture. They come off as extremely needy and quite pathetic! | |
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This typeof man sends "RED FLAG WARNINGS" up for me. He is eighther playing a game, or he very insecure about himself.
