| Guys??? Need to know! Was I played??
Posted: 3/4/2008 11:57:50 PM | He does not sound like a player, if he was, you would have screwed him all night long, and never heard a peep from him after that.
You sent him so many mixed signals, he is probably still shaking his head trying to figure it out.
If you had a connection before you met, then made out all night long, but gave him no sex, of course he moved on.
I would have for sure.
What did you want him to do, repeat the same thing over and over in hopes you oneday might act on your mutual attraction and give him some nookie?
Seriously, if you liked him tell him so and then screw him hard.
Then he will understand you really do like him, and not just as a friend.
But as a desireable person worthy of his time and efforts. | |
|
| |
| Guys??? Need to know! Was I played??
Posted: 3/16/2008 6:35:59 PM | | Wow...I hadn't thought about this thread in a while, but just reread it! One of the posters was right. There was suggestive talk on the phone prior to meeting. (LOL OK, more than suggestive, but I took it to be the result of a strong, sincere mutual attraction - otherwise, I would have never gone there.) Anyway, in retrospect, I'm guessing he must have thought I was putty in his hands by the time we finally met. (At the time, I was naive enough to think his behavior was just a continuation of a mutual, sincere attraction.) Oh, and about that boner, he wasn't shy or embarrassed. LOL he put my hand on it - that's how I knew! (I withdrew my hand, BTW!) Most of the evening, however, was just sweet caresses, kisses, and words. I assume when he saw I was shy, he figured he'd butter me up with sweetness then go in for the kill. LOL The only thing that got killed was his boner! Since then, I've met a couple of people I really like, so all is well that ends well. | |
|
| |
| Guys??? Need to know! Was I played??
Posted: 3/19/2008 5:23:24 PM |
This guy was NOT a player. I can say this with absolute certainty for a couple of reasons.
Firstly, because real players do not ever chase women. If they have tight game, women chase them. And secondly, because if he was a player, you would have had sex with him.
Amateurs (rolleyes)
Beat me to it... | |
|
| |
| |
| |
| |
| Guys??? Need to know! Was I played??
Posted: 5/6/2008 8:37:34 AM | I disagree with some of the posts here. I don't think you got played.. first of all, because you didn't put out.
Secondly, there is no worse feeling than a girl acting totally awkward and uncomfortable with you. He obviously picked up on this, and his pride was damaged as a result. I suggest really going after him to show him you're not creeped out by him or anything, and arranging a second meet. This time, however, try to open up more now that the first-date-jitters are outta the way... I don't mean let him have sex with you, but if he starts making advances again, deal with him in a more flirtatious/teasing way instead of just avoiding eye contact and acting scared. | |
|
| |
| Guys??? Need to know! Was I played??
Posted: 6/30/2008 12:34:26 PM | lol sefra....i don't think so, but he sure sounds like it, doesn't he?!!!
actually, i found out some other strange things about him since that time. all i can say is, one never knows about people.
in general, i DO wonder what makes these types of guys tick. why the big show if they're not interested? seems weird...way weird. all i can figure is that guy was a player trying for sex and was willing to say anything to get it. i'm always so befuddled. sigh....... | |
|
| Guys??? Need to know! Was I played??
Posted: 6/30/2008 12:37:07 PM | | Sounds like a playa, actually before you said he dropped interest, he sounded like an instant lover... where every girl is "the one" for him. | |
|
| Guys??? Need to know! Was I played??
Posted: 6/30/2008 1:19:40 PM | umoukun:
that particular guy wasn't shy in the least...highly doubt he was wounded. the closest he came to that was being burned in a marriage, but that had nothing to do with what he pulled on me. | |
|
| Guys??? Need to know! Was I played??
Posted: 6/30/2008 5:23:42 PM | I don't think you were played - as the others said, he's a complete and utter amateur. I actually thought this guy was some pimple-faced teenage boy with raging hormones - based on his ass-hat behavior on your date - and almost fell over when I found out he's a supposed grown man.
Was he raised by a pack of wolves in the wild?
The other poster was right when they said this jerk showed you zero respect. | |
|
| Guys??? Need to know! Was I played??
Posted: 7/1/2008 7:47:27 AM | | surely a good play...a raging hardon, well, to see that on the first date, im surprised you stayed as long as you did.. | |
|
| Guys??? Need to know! Was I played??
Posted: 7/1/2008 8:54:28 AM | "Distinguished" players do not give up that easily. They will continue the game until they get what they want. Then, they move on. In addition, such a person would not display a hard on and be as attentive as this guy was. A "real" player will move slowly but consistently.
OP reassuerd him she liked him a lot after his apology. A "real" player would have grabbed that opportunity to move ahead.
A "real" player would not have had a hard on and would not apologize for it (since it wouldn't even happen to him)
No, this guy was not a player at all. He was just a man, who like many other men on a dating site thinks that a woman can always be persuaded to have sex, regardless of their initial request (dating, friends, long term, etc.) Or he was lead to believe there was a chance at frolicing.
At least he had the good manners to apologize. | |
|
| |
| Guys??? Need to know! Was I played??
Posted: 7/3/2008 2:30:44 PM | yes; you were played and yes a guy would romance you for the night to screw you; You need to wake up IMHO.
about a 9.3 on the naive scale; and thats out of 10
You should not be sleeping with men when you meet them once or twice after chatting for a month. Why are so many people blindly trusting internet people so quick? not getting it. | |
|
| Guys??? Need to know! Was I played??
Posted: 7/5/2008 1:47:49 PM | "Ah, the screwed up state of societal affairs are reflected in this thread . . ."
^^^^^lol couldn't have said it better! | |
|
brad47
|
Joined: 5/12/2008
Msg: 71 | |
| Guys??? Need to know! Was I played??
Posted: 7/5/2008 2:00:39 PM |
Sounds like the guy either did like you and didn't believe your words or he is a player in training and you were his scrimmage and he is getting chewed out by his coach right about now.
holy shit, coach steve is that you? hahaha
yea, im thinking he was just looking for some ass, and could not control himself. There can be times you might want it kinda hard, dancing with a girl at a club, she throws a****check your way, its good to be a bit chubbed up so she knows what shes working with, but full erection while on a date is a big no no. Part of learning how to keep it down, comes from learning how to keep it up :) | |
|
| Guys??? Need to know! Was I played??
Posted: 7/5/2008 4:49:32 PM | Just because someone has "played" other women in the past does not mean that you were "played". Without asking him what his intentions were, it is hard to say what happened. He could be the type that falls really fast for women hence the same verbiage being used on multiple women.
To post 71...
Part of learning to how to keep it down...is that why guys are constantly pulling their pant legs down while seated
Cheers,
A | |
|
| Guys??? Need to know! Was I played??
Posted: 7/5/2008 9:06:42 PM | | agree & disagree, bear. i believe if players meet the right person, they'll stop playing. conversely, until they do, they definitely play. that's my sense in this case with the op. | |
|
| Guys??? Need to know! Was I played??
Posted: 7/6/2008 1:04:36 AM | | I wouldn't know without meeting the guy, finding out what he has to say about the experience also, and then asking both of you some probing questions. | |
|
| |
Home
login 
