| Why are guys afraid to ask women out?
Posted: 9/21/2009 9:54:59 PM | It certainly helps your odds by paying more attention to evidence of her interest in you than just "asking out" any random woman to whom you're attracted, preferably through enough interaction to get a good sense of it. And you can weed out a vast majority of the rude and nasty ones (who are often the ones who complain the most about men being "afraid to ask them out," interestingly enough) through observation as well.
My degree of nervousness when asking a woman out directly relates to the level of uncertainty in her interest and the appropriateness of the timing and/or setting. I like to manage situations so that it's just something that naturally happens in the flow of things. | |
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| Why are guys afraid to ask women out?
Posted: 9/22/2009 12:38:20 PM |
As guys , women will never know how it feels to be rejected by 14 different people from the opposite sex in one night , they always remeber the horrible moment of their one or two rejections they had in their lives.
But you say 14 times, so you dont give up do you?
If I like someone talk to them, most times when I chat with them it all goes... I feel nothing!!
Only a couple of times has my heart been in my mouth or I have wanted to run... Or my breathing just takes over and I think I am going to get called a heavy breather...
Cherie xx | |
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| Why are guys afraid to ask women out?
Posted: 9/22/2009 1:38:17 PM | Don't ask them out. Like someone said they are brutal with a responce if they are not open to it. The old read my mind game at play.
I guess this is why I stick to the net. If someone is interested in me they will let me know.
Mike | |
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| Why are guys afraid to ask women out?
Posted: 9/22/2009 1:50:50 PM | here's a tip...
don't ever ask someone out you don't know....or you have never seen/talked before!
No cold approaches !
Always make small talk and give your number, tell her to call if she desires to....and move on...
If she likes you, she will call guaranteed (or at least text - lol) ... build friendship first/ make her comfortable .....works 99% of the time.... the rest 1% ehh fk 'em!  | |
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| Why are guys afraid to ask women out?
Posted: 9/23/2009 9:45:57 AM | I dunno, I go to school, and when I'm not in class, I sit in the lounge hoping someone approaches me. Most of the time, I'm ignored and I try to figure out why it's so easy for other people.
I mean, I don't consider myself an ogre or anything, but apparently I am.
Even on the Internet, I can't appear interesting enough for others to message me. | |
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| Why are guys afraid to ask women out?
Posted: 9/23/2009 12:23:35 PM | | For me personally, I am not comfortable approaching women when they are with their friends or in a large group of people. | |
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| Why are guys afraid to ask women out?
Posted: 9/23/2009 12:52:47 PM | 2ears1mouth:
"I like to manage situations so that it's just something that naturally happens....."
Are you trying to be intentionally ironic here? Or do you actually believe that a "managed" situation is "natural"? Or is it that if a woman believes that a situation is "natural", she'll be more likely to respond to your advances?
Don't think that I'm just ridiculing your post(well, maybe a little). When I was young and single back in the 70's, it was the conventional wisdom that "modern" women wanted to meet guys in "natural" situations. I eventually realized that I and a lot of the guys I knew spent alot of time and effort scheming and conniving to get ourselves and the women we were attracted to into those "natural" situations without much success because you really can't fake natural. | |
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| Why are guys afraid to ask women out?
Posted: 9/24/2009 10:59:27 AM | guys that are not stuck on themselves, will not ask a girl out because they are afraid of being hurt by being rejected. the fear of being rejected is huge by guys in general. or if the woman is so hot we just do not think enough about ourselves to think we are worth someone like that, even though we dream about someone like that.(are usually the ones you can count on and that would love you the right way...)
guys that are stuck on themselves will ask any woman out because he is thinking he would be doing you a favor by adding him to your life...and that he is better then anyone else out there. (usually end up cheating on you, or beat you up and talk down to you.)
just my thoughts..... | |
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| Why are guys afraid to ask women out?
Posted: 9/24/2009 2:59:14 PM | Your biggest problem is you care about what everyone in the room is thinking... (who gives a damn about them) -have a few drinks (dont get drunk) go have your fun: flirt, tease and smile at every cute gal in the bar . don't forget about the fat chicks (giving fat/ugly chicks attention makes you look like a sensitive guy)
note: giving your number to a woman never works -if you don't have the balls to ask for her number -she's not going to be interested enough to call you... | |
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| Why are guys afraid to ask women out?
Posted: 9/24/2009 3:27:16 PM |
guys that are not stuck on themselves, will not ask a girl out because they are afraid of being hurt by being rejected. the fear of being rejected is huge by guys in general. or if the woman is so hot we just do not think enough about ourselves to think we are worth someone like that, even though we dream about someone like that.(are usually the ones you can count on and that would love you the right way...)
guys that are stuck on themselves will ask any woman out because he is thinking he would be doing you a favor by adding him to your life...and that he is better then anyone else out there. (usually end up cheating on you, or beat you up and talk down to you.)
just my thoughts..
Don't talk total bollocks. Seriously.
You are either capable of opening up on a woman you like or you can't bring yourself round to talk to her.
Simple. | |
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| Why are guys afraid to ask women out?
Posted: 9/24/2009 5:20:39 PM | There's not a guy alive that doesn't have some anxiety asking women out. Just pretend to be brave until you really are....
I think it's funny though, how many women don't understand this and say, "what is the worse that could happen, she rejects you?" Yet, how many women EVER approach men? | |
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| Why are guys afraid to ask women out?
Posted: 9/27/2009 4:10:09 PM | | I wonder why women always think a guy has to be afraid of them or he just has to be intimidated by them. For me i just stoped approching and asking someone out. I think its a waste of time and i dont feel like playing games. I know i should do it again. After a few dates where you rather be back home watch TV or read a good book, go on a night hike or just ride a motorcycle going north on the PCH. Then be there on a date with someone where the only common thing you have is the food in front of you. When you find yourself thinking of something totaly else, While what she is talking . After a few dates like that you would rather stay home or do something else then waste time or money. On a very boring evening. | |
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| Why are guys afraid to ask women out?
Posted: 9/27/2009 6:14:40 PM | Perhaps I can't find the proper words to express what I'm on about, hardwoods69, but the real thing I'm attempting to get across is that there's a flow that usually tends to be there, and feels "natural": eye contact, exchange smiles, interact a bit, and if there's a connection of sorts, then exchange info.
Most guys who get "shot down" are trying for gals who simply aren't interested straight away, and are just too bloody clueless to get a sense of that. If she's interested, she'll want to get together. Simple, really. | |
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| Why are guys afraid to ask women out?
Posted: 9/27/2009 6:30:50 PM | | here is something you can try. Call the woman and strike up a conversation or email her on line and talk for a bit. Once you have talked ask HER when she is going to ask you out? She will respond with "Me ask you out you are supposed to ask me out", there you go, say "Ok, when"? Done deal. Women want a man that takes control and makes decisions so have a freaking plan and tell her where you are taking her and she will be yours. jake | |
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| Why are guys afraid to ask women out?
Posted: 9/27/2009 6:38:47 PM | | on this site, just message, and send a few back and forth. Then ask for aim, talk on aim and you're pretty much set to say "lets hang out sometime". Key being that if you're a good talker on aim, you can pretty much never get rejected. If the girl is busy and doesn't reply too well, then there's nothing you can do about it. There's no reason to hesitate or wait for the time because that time might never come. This method works WONDERS for me, should be the same for most people. And when it comes to bars, just have fun and dance/drink. Try to talk to girls here and there, after all if they reject you, it's not like you'll see them again. Men get rejected ALL the time, it's a part of life. It's easy to reject a lot of guys when you get 20 emails per day, doesn't mean you should give up on life just because you're afraid of rejections. My 2 cents. | |
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| Why are guys afraid to ask women out?
Posted: 9/27/2009 9:23:48 PM | I've come to realize 1. I'm looking for a woman in a similar stage of her life as I am 2. I'm looking for a woman that likes me 3. I'm looking for a woman that I like 4. I'm looking for a woman anywhere
If none of these are met then I will not ask, and from what I've seen there are alot of women already involved with men so it's hard to find any that are single and I like. But then who can say, 28 years alive maybe 28 more will be required to find one that meets the criteria :? | |
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