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| Why are guys afraid to ask women out?
Posted: 5/26/2005 8:51:04 PM | men seem to take lack of interst from a woman
to a very personal and deep level...
makes me wonder why? was the ego overblown to begin with?
is it they are insecure?
Is it really fear of rejection by the woman they fear... or something else?
lol
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| Why are guys afraid to ask women out?
Posted: 5/26/2005 8:54:48 PM | who cares if you get rejected so what, just says she's not the one or he's not the one. i'd rather get rejected instantly than be with someone for a while and then have to break it off because it just wasn't right. getting rejected instantly is a good thing. after a build up of a bond, then blowing it off is Wayyyyyyyyyy worse. rejection shouldn't hurt! if it does go get rejected on purpose, then you'll realise it's meaningless and illogical to worry about it.
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| Why are guys afraid to ask women out?
Posted: 5/26/2005 8:56:33 PM |
because everyone knows men will have sex with anyone
Ouch, KB ... I have to disagree with you on this point. We're not all sluts. Some of us have a lot more respect for ourselves. Even a woman as strikingly attractive as you, had we just met and you tried to "bed" me, I'd turn you down. I'm not easy. However, if you wanted to have some coffee (or beers or wine, however the mood strikes you) and good conversation, I'd be fired up for the opportunity.  | |
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myxtup
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Joined: 3/29/2003
Msg: 32 | |
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| Why are guys afraid to ask women out?
Posted: 5/26/2005 8:59:42 PM | Now, red dress, when have you known me to become hostile or cry, run and hide? Of course, IMO, I never bash women, but if they are proliferating an unfair misconception about men, I will call them on it. And I'll explain my points from a very intelligent and well-presented POV.
Only woman that ever made me cry, run and hide was my mom. That woman was wicked w/ a shoe  | |
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sddude
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Joined: 11/4/2004
Msg: 35 | |
| Why are guys afraid to ask women out?
Posted: 5/26/2005 9:00:00 PM | dress we fell frejection , it kills the ego ,little by little , I mention 14 rejections in one night , in person , it is normal for me and most guys to be rejected , 14 is my record .
How would your self worth be if 14 guys rejected you in one night ? I would not think you would be giddy and happy .
That is why there is a cuzzilion courses on the internet on how to aproach and date women , , like someone said here , requieres straegy .
Most women will never feel how a guy feels it to be normally rejected.
Kaboobers , you were rejected a couple of times , it can't be ? you are too hot , maybe they were gay ...
Kaboobers , yes I know how devistaed woman can feel , my beautiful friend was rejected twice in one day , it must have been the giant pimple on her lip , heheheh.
SHe cried and cried and said she was ugly for any guy , , she was stupid , two days later a tall hulk of a man became her bo and I stayed in the sidelines remebering cuddleing her all night and giving words of encourgement , tried to kiss her , but al she had to say "buddy , what are you doing , we are just friends..."
rejected again | |
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| Why are guys afraid to ask women out?
Posted: 5/26/2005 9:00:53 PM | Because all the easy guys are in Canada..
Can we stay away from generalisations..its all Canadian guys are easy thankyou | |
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sddude
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Joined: 11/4/2004
Msg: 37 | |
| Why are guys afraid to ask women out?
Posted: 5/26/2005 9:02:01 PM | fatty , not getting laid , I would do you 4 times a day , well you would reject me for being short anyway .... damn rejected again , going for some chocolate to feel better ... | |
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| Why are guys afraid to ask women out?
Posted: 5/26/2005 9:02:45 PM | Ouch, KB ... I have to disagree with you on this point. We're not all sluts. Some of us have a lot more respect for ourselves. Even a woman as strikingly attractive as you, had we just met and you tried to "bed" me, I'd turn you down.
who wants to hook this guy up to a polygraph ? | |
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| Why are guys afraid to ask women out?
Posted: 5/26/2005 9:02:57 PM | if people lived in fear.... they would not have the opportunity
to experience new things and maybe grow as a person..... emotionally.
They would be threatened by anything new or unfamilair... sounds so stupid to me.
Its people who keep trying and try new ways that are the ones who really succeed.
Look at Abe Linclon.. he failed the bar exam to be a lawyer like 17 times
and he became the president and a part of history.
There are many examples like that.....
Its people who are willing to fail who are the ones who finally acheive what they seek
and sometimes even gain unbelieveable side effects.
Lucille ball was told she was too skinny to be a dancer... lol
and she became a famous comedian :) The point is... she kept trying until she found her niche.
Dating and marriage is maybe on the same prinicpal.. | |
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ggreg
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Joined: 5/25/2005
Msg: 40 | |
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| Why are guys afraid to ask women out?
Posted: 5/26/2005 9:05:51 PM | @sd
let me ask you then... if its so hard on a mans ego....
is it possible that maybe that man had too much ego?
I mean seriously... think about that?
If his ego is normal... would he maybe percieve rejection differently? | |
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| Why are guys afraid to ask women out?
Posted: 5/26/2005 9:08:16 PM | | I'm just not a person that out right approaches a woman. I'm not that bold, shy guy I guess...or a coward...whatever you deem to label me. | |
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| Why are guys afraid to ask women out?
Posted: 5/26/2005 9:08:24 PM | | If you never ask, you won't ever know, so what are you so afraid of, other than the fear of hearing NO...so go the next one and try again. This fear can be in women too, if she likes a man and wants to ask him out and could be easily rejected, but if you never try, you won't go home wondering, should I, why didint I...then all the why, why, why.... | |
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| Why are guys afraid to ask women out?
Posted: 5/26/2005 9:08:49 PM | | I don't even get why rejection is such a big deal. It's not the end of the world. You shouldn't dwell on turn downs. If you want a date or partner or whatever bad enough, you're going to have to at least try. Happiness & the right woman isn't just going to fall from the sky in your lap. It's like finding a job, ya gotta put in applications & hope you get one. | |
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| Why are guys afraid to ask women out?
Posted: 5/26/2005 9:10:16 PM | | ya lots of stuff on the internet, for men on dating lol! i've looked at that stuff before had a nice theme that went with it too, every sentence i read said something negative some kind of put down to make the reader feel like they needed THEIR SECRECT INFO. Big business making big money. those books are feeding i'm a loser, i'm a loser, i'm a loser to the readers so they feel bad begin to fear rejection more, Ah need to buy their book and learn a few things. you shell out the cash for another good ole dose of i'm not worthy i'm not worthy. being pumped into your head. most people aren't single and they aren't reading that stuff. a lot of singles are reading that stuff and are remaining single. | |
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| Why are guys afraid to ask women out?
Posted: 5/26/2005 9:12:36 PM | | ^^^ fatty and smitten, good replies. why fear it, plus i dunno women seem to be more skitsh anyhow, in my work i'm generally dealing with new people a couple of times a week and it usually the women with majority of the questions/concerns, the guys are like ya whatever :) | |
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| Why are guys afraid to ask women out?
Posted: 5/26/2005 9:13:00 PM | I feel a little LESS ego would help a guy
and also
to consider things from a womans perspective when approaching her.....
shows maturity.... which most normal women like !!! | |
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ggreg
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Joined: 5/25/2005
Msg: 48 | |
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| Why are guys afraid to ask women out?
Posted: 5/26/2005 9:16:05 PM | trapped,
Go for it ... she's a beautiful woman, no doubt. But I would hope we're not all fitting of the stereotype and have some sense of self control and self respect. | |
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sddude
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Joined: 11/4/2004
Msg: 50 | |
| Why are guys afraid to ask women out?
Posted: 5/26/2005 9:16:53 PM | dress ego is a form of self worth , that we feel we are worth it . I love to have some ego intact , many women in the dating scene feel inflated , especially in a bar or a danceclub .
maybe I have the definition wrong , maybe you mean guys should have zero ego and just self worth ... I meant self worth .
People say being rejected is no big deal mostly woman say that , even miss fatty , it is a big deal , when a guy makes eye contact with a woman gets a smile out of her from afar , then come up to her and just see her look me up and down and say " ewwwww go away " , " I told you NO!!!!" , awe to bad you are short , go back to your table , hahahaha right ! , no (ignores), etcc... and multiply that with 14 times .
Why do women think we are made of steel ? beleive we have no fellings, want us to have no feelings, but always in their profile say they want a sensitive man , think about it , doe it make sense .
If you were rejected like this , you still would be happy ? I guess women are made of steel and have no emotions ? You expect guys to be cuz we are not human but robots ? | |
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