| Why are guys afraid to ask women out?
Posted: 8/10/2008 12:22:37 PM | Why do women think we are made of steel ? beleive we have no fellings, want us to have no feelings, but always in their profile say they want a sensitive man , think about it , doe it make sense .
It makes NO sense. Its deplorable for a woman to act that way. Im glad Im a woman. I would never date if I was a man. Women are evil.
I feel these kinds of 'ladies' are making several of you pay for the last dude that 'done her wrong'. They seem angry.
There is no reason to demean anyone. Unless your are narcissistic or insecure. Not to mention insane, evil and cruel. I'm just sayin' ...
and 'ladies' !! Get some manners and respect yourself more. | |
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| Why are guys afraid to ask women out?
Posted: 8/10/2008 12:43:20 PM | i will admit i'm afraid of women, i really hate the part of asking one out, but i also realize i got nothing to lose, because 9 out of 10 times they are going to say no to you, and countless times ( few gals on pof have proven it) that they are going to make you pay for the last guy that did them wrong. man if i did that to any lady i would be single for life.
its life, just buck up and ask them, if its a no just think that they are missing out on someone great. and it sucks to be them. thats the way i look at it.
and comment to all women, get your heads out of your butts and just give the male some time of day. it would make things for everyone go a tad easier. you never know if he could just become a good friend. | |
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| Why are guys afraid to ask women out?
Posted: 8/10/2008 12:56:45 PM | Because they might have to pay. Men don't want to pay anylonger. If you ask them out then they expect you to pay.. Haven't you been reading the forums.
Don't ask me why. Dumb, if you ask me. I like a man that can step up to the plate. | |
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| Why are guys afraid to ask women out?
Posted: 8/10/2008 1:01:49 PM | Well, first you have to figure out what you're after. If it's just to have dates, then it's a numbers game... and unfortunately, until MOST women get brave enough to split the risk up 50/50 and ask out as well, then it's up to you.
And until they do (which would make it more of an intimate chase... even dance in my opinion), then that's exactly what it is... a numbers game.
Women are attracted to confidence, and you won't get it until you keep going... so keep going.
Keep asking women until one says yes. Look at every "no" as one rejection closer to a yes. Keep going...
Eventually, the "yes's" will grow, and your confidence will grow... and you'll find you'll have a better ratio because of it.
It's not as romantic as women think... as in "I'll wait until I'm asked out", and that's my argument for them to get busy, but, until they realize that until then it's a numbers game, and that they are missing out on opportunities to possibly meet that soul mate they so desire, it is what it is. | |
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| Why are guys afraid to ask women out?
Posted: 8/10/2008 1:17:34 PM | What I want to say is very simple!!!
Guys get some balls.....fast...we like confidence..and Woman quit being so nasty...forget the last jerk you went out with!! | |
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| Why are guys afraid to ask women out?
Posted: 8/10/2008 8:08:29 PM | Rejection means nothing. Don't worry about what others think about you...
Just keep that in mind you'll have NO problem asking women out. Of course, if I actually listened to my own advise I'd be a lot more successful.... | |
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| Why are guys afraid to ask women out?
Posted: 8/10/2008 8:22:22 PM | Did anyone notice this thread started way back in 2005? Maybe OP has grown up a bit and wears big boy pants now and has figured out how to attract a lady's attention, in a good way. 
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| Why are guys afraid to ask women out?
Posted: 8/10/2008 8:30:43 PM | | Maybe the problem is'nt you but the women you are asking out. Make sure you are asking a woman who seems approachable. If you are headed to the most beautiful woman in the room who is entertaining looks from all the guys you are probably headed for disappointment and that's when it gets scary. It boils down to fear of rejection. Women send signals that say "ASK ME OUT" if you know how to read them. Is she smiling at you...does she laugh at your jokes...does she touch you when she's talking to you...that's a girl who wants to be asked out. Be realistic as well, if you don't look like Brad Pitt, forget trying to get Angelina's number. Lots of women are waiting to be asked out ...trust me. | |
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| Why are guys afraid to ask women out?
Posted: 8/10/2008 8:58:14 PM | | As a women, we get don't get it either, just ask, we get rejecte too! I never get asked out, they all think i've already been asked out,,,what's up with that??????? | |
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| Why are guys afraid to ask women out?
Posted: 8/10/2008 8:58:54 PM | | This is one area I excel at when it comes to approaching women in public. I've coached many males on this and its fairly easy. I just have a problem doing it at my job with other employees or if they are working in a location and i'm a customer. | |
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| Why are guys afraid to ask women out?
Posted: 8/10/2008 9:27:19 PM | OK... I can't stand it any longer!
I made a promise to myself NEVER to respond to these insipid, inane, and totally stupid forum "conversations." Promise broken!
What kind of idiots ask these stupid questions? More importantly why are some people still responding to this topic thread that was started over 3 years ago? What are stupid questions like this constantly being recycled?
The confused dude who started this thread, asked "Why are guys afraid to ask women out?" I always believe the answer to a "problem" lies in the question or questions being asked. Get a clue! If you're "afraid" to ask a woman out, I don't think there's help for you.
You have motivated me to start a weekly award... "The Rotten Stinking Fish Head of the Week Award! It will go to the most deserving forum topic of the week. My problem is that I may have a hard time limiting my "award" it to one topic per week... there's so much to choose from here! | |
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| Why are guys afraid to ask women out?
Posted: 8/11/2008 8:42:23 AM | | if you have been around enough women you will know if she likes you.do not ask out women you barley know your setting your self up.your scared of women i would love to take you out with me and show you how to do it its not that hard unless you make it hard. | |
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| Why are guys afraid to ask women out?
Posted: 11/28/2008 12:44:45 AM | 1.They are afraid cause they might feel a negative "vibe" about the woman! 2. He just want "some" and want to SKIP all that dating stuff! 3. Maybe he's not attracted to her to where he wants to be seen in public with her! 4. He just want "some" and want to SKIP all that dating stuff (snap... I mentioned that already..ha) 5. He maybe GAY or MARRIED or perhaps SHY and *drum roll please*
6. He just want "some" and want to SKIP all that dating stuff!! | |
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| Why are guys afraid to ask women out?
Posted: 11/29/2008 4:50:42 AM | | Most women just aren't worth asking out. Look at your matches and you'll see what I mean. 90%+ of the profiles are insipid, faux-cutesy, ungrammatical, want-it-all, and pretentious. There's not a real woman around for miles, and the ones that you do find (unless you live in a really big city) are too far away. In real life, it's not any better. Most girls are shallow and cruel. | |
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| Why are guys afraid to ask women out?
Posted: 11/29/2008 6:37:13 AM | Not all men are, and you are really talking about your own fears. I would highly recommend you go to a therapist in order to improve your self-esteem permanently. Then, this issue wouldn't be such a problem.
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| Why are guys afraid to ask women out?
Posted: 11/29/2008 4:15:14 PM | Apart from trying to tell if she's interested in you, the important thing is to either: 1) make it clear it's a date and suggest a variety of places to go so that she can help you narrow it down to something she'd enjoy; or 2) keep it loosely as an asking a 'friend' along thing and invite her to something you were thinking of going to anyway. If you choose the latter option, you need to make sure it's something she would like to do or she may just turn down the activity (and you end up going there without her). Bear in mind that if you invite her along to an activity and she thinks you are asking her as a friend, she won't know that you are interested in more. You'll need to make that clear at some point.
If she does turn you down for either kind of date, it might not be a rejection it may be that she has something to do on that day if that's what she's said, so suggest another time. For example, I've turned down a suggestion to accompany a rather nice friend to salsa classes because I didn't want to dance. I wish he'd asked me to something else instead! Sometimes I've turned things down because I have commitments on that day or I know I'm going to be too tired after work. It can't be easy to do the asking, I know, but if she turns down two different dates or an offer to fit around her schedule, then she's probably not interested. You just have to guage it as best you can. The guys I've know who have been successful getting dates don't give up with one woman, they are brave enough to keep making new women friends and then asking them out. They also talk to a lot of people in a week (mainly women). | |
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| Why are guys afraid to ask women out?
Posted: 11/29/2008 4:40:41 PM | | I have a huge ego. Rejection really pisses me off. The flip side of that is it makes you stronger the more you're able to deal with it. | |
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| Why are guys afraid to ask women out?
Posted: 11/29/2008 4:53:46 PM | I love the forums. This thread asks why guys are afraid to ask women out, why they are shy about asking women out. Go to ask a guy and there are women asking men why they have to ask the guy out, they are scared about making the first move.
It all seems like a big high school dance. Two factions facing each other yelling "You ask me to dance, what happened to chivalry!"
"No you ask me to dance, you wanted liberation and equality!"
Some people ignore the two factions, dance, then yell "You just want to use me for dancing!"
"Well you only used me to accomplish your ideal dance!"
And other people dance, and determine they are simply not compatible dancers as one likes to foxtrot while the other waltz's.
Hilarity at its finest. | |
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| Why are guys afraid to ask women out?
Posted: 11/29/2008 11:21:45 PM | | I'm not afraid, I already know what the answer is going to be so there's really no reason to bother asking and then getting rejected. | |
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| Why are guys afraid to ask women out?
Posted: 11/30/2008 2:29:09 AM | I hear that mate!
I've tried asking out several women. I just made it real casual and said simply, 'freakin shot in the dark, you want to do something sometime?' and every time I get the same response. I'm sorry but I have a boyfriend. It seems all the nice girls are taken. I often wonder are there more men on this planet than women?
Maybe we're afraid to ask women out because we dread that kind of response.  | |
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| Why are guys afraid to ask women out?
Posted: 5/25/2009 8:48:18 PM | reddwine,
your post,   if I would have said it I would be a mysigin, missigisyn, misygis.... woman hater. bravo
checked your profile. looks like your pretty adept with a fishin' pole | |
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