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Posted: 2/18/2008 11:58:57 PM | Wow, there sure are some brave souls out there. I think some of you are looking to be punnished by more than love!
Coolnomad: Your essays paint a picture of an enlightened, romantic guy, but your lead pic makes you look like a military geek who's just finished off a six-pack. Pick an image and stick with it!
txriverwillow: Your profile is nicely written but maybe a little long. I'd dump the first paragraph about your breasts and your discussion about how you don't really need a man in your life; give us all a break, you're on a dating site! Disclaimers are not becoming. You asked me to tell you "what was wrong with you," but there is nothing immediately obvious. Well, aside from needing to turn "a few extra pounds" into "average." If you're having trouble meeting guys, I'm sure you already know that's where you need to start.
Misty: I don't know what look you're going for, is it Goth? I think it's a fine line between "Goth Chic" and just looking scary & miserable... and I don't think you've got the Goth thing down yet. As with our good friend Coolnomad, your pictures and essays tell a different story; your essays make you sound like a normal, sweet, fun-loving, quirky gal and your pictures say "oooga boooga!" Decide which one you want to be and stick to it. Also, most of the things in your lists are fairly generic and since you should shorten them anyway I'd start by slashing the ones that apply to everyone (like saying you have a great sense of humor and you want someone who's honest & open minded. DUH).
Johnny: just a casual meeting, you know, to see how much you misrepresented yourself Dump this line, it's funny but could easily make someone feel self-conscious and uneasy. The rest of your profile is good, congrats. Your first picture kinda makes it look like you're trying to imitate Kramer from "Seinfeld," if that was your goal. Not sure if it's helpful. | |
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Posted: 2/19/2008 1:02:54 AM | I'm sitting here laughing and laughing and realizing that I'm about to set myself up for this too. So please, take a look and hit me with your best (but honest) shot! I have to say though, your advice seems to be ace-on-line so far.
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Posted: 2/19/2008 6:26:39 AM | Thanks Mojo!! I'm always tweaking it and you gave me some good ideas!
But I have to laugh, usually guys are complaining that women should move their profile from average to a few extra pounds or even up to BBW! Your comment put a smile on my face for the day. | |
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Posted: 2/19/2008 10:59:20 AM |
But I have to laugh, usually guys are complaining that women should move their profile from average to a few extra pounds or even up to BBW! Your comment put a smile on my face for the day.
Txriverwillow: Sorry to burst your bubble, I didn't mean you should change your profile from "a few extra pounds" to "average," I meant you should make the switch! | |
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Posted: 2/19/2008 11:19:13 AM | Calgarygreek: Great profile! Guys looking to improve theirs should just plagiarize yours. Just one little odd statement here.. I know how to treat a woman with a breakfast tray. Do you mean tip her or smack her across the head with it? Less is more so I'd just lose it. And it does look like you watch sports more than play them, so if you want people to believe that line get out there and hit the field!
PlayItByEar: Pics are good, but dump the one with the bird, it's not helping. And did you get the bird's permission to be posted? OK, I am not much for writing stuff and especially about myself, so here it goes Yo, one of the first rules for profiles is no apologies or excuses! Just say what you want to say, save the apologies for after you meet :-) -Find some meaning to my life, most people have children and/or career and/or religion to provide this... Women like a guy who knows where he stands, telling people you have no meaning in your life is kida like saying "I am horribly depressed and have nothing to live for." Aside from not being a strong selling point, I'd guess it's not true about you so snip snip! Everything after that is fine.
imadjinn: I’m completely house broken, I have all my shots and I play well with others... This is a cute line, but I think it's better for a guy - women probably don't want men to even subconsciously think of them as animals (whereas women already see guys this way so it's ok). The rest of what you've written is nice and has lots of personality, but I would personally remove the bullet points, they seem a little random and don't contribute to my warm and fuzzy feelings about you. Pictures are great! | |
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Posted: 2/19/2008 3:09:39 PM | \
Ok, now let's roll up our sleeves and get to it. Nortatem, my man, you're 5'4, so you're on the short side of the manscale. Add to this equation your Stay-Puft marshmallow man physique and we're talking about an uphill battle with the ladies that even Lebon may not be able to help you win.
I agree with much of what you said and thank you for your honesty. However I do find falt with two things. In the above You said I look like Sty-puffed marshmallow man. Granted I am only a few extra pounds. Howerver I havea lot of muscle and work out. Look at the main pic and the one of me on stage with my old band and you can see a lot of muscle. I am not really that fat, I do have a beer belly though.
The good news is you have a fun personality and it comes through in your essays. Still, I'd lose the "poor schlub" reference, self-depricating humor in a profile always works against you. Also, unless you want to turn off every last X-chromosome in POF land, I'd remove any reference to females as slaves!
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The refference you pointed out is taken way out of context. I was refering to the "Placing women on a pedistal" point of veiw. Save for two famous queens, QUEENS WERTE SERFS...SERFS ARE GLORIFIED SLAVES> I never refere to women as a queen a serf or a slave. I am a feminst and I refer to tham as GODDESSES. This is reverence for the goddess culture. and is about treating women as equals.
I am glad that you took the time to reveiw my profile on ever level, but taking what I said out of context is wrong. If I had another ewway to convey that point...I would.
However thanks again and I do agree with the rest of what you said. | |
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Posted: 2/19/2008 4:02:03 PM | I am a feminst and I refer to tham as GODDESSES. This is reverence for the goddess culture. and is about treating women as equals.
Bullsh!t, even a feminist wouldn't call herself - or any other woman - a goddess.
Feminism is about being treated equally to men both socially and professionally; putting a woman on a pedestal or calling her a "goddess" is just as bad as the opposite; women are PEOPLE and should not be treated worse - or better - simply because of their sex.
If you want to think of women as goddesses, that's all fine and dandy, but don't say it's a feminist viewpoint because it's not. And a word of advice, if you're treating women like goddesses, you're basically saying they're all better than you and may treat you as a subserviant creature; this is not the sort of confident, "let's walk hand-in-hand" attitude that most women want from a man.
Treat her as an equal but with respect and a bit of chivalry (seasoned to taste) and you'll earn a lot more points than being her lapdog.
And I know you weren't calling women slaves, but as I said, just using the term and referring to them that way, IN ANY CONTEXT, provokes a negative reaction.
If I said "gay men should never be referred to as faggots," many people would still find the statement offensive simply because I used the word. I don't care how you slice it, using the word "women" and "slaves" in any sentence is looking for trouble. | |
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Posted: 2/19/2008 5:40:40 PM |
Bullsh!t, even a feminist wouldn't call herself - or any other woman - a goddess.
Feminism is about being treated equally to men both socially and professionally; putting a woman on a pedestal or calling her a "goddess" is just as bad as the opposite; women are PEOPLE and should not be treated worse - or better - simply because of their sex. \
Bullshit to you. I know a great deal of TRUE feminists, who refer to themselves as goddesses ( ever hear of WICCA). It has nothing to do with being oput on a pedistal, which is as bad as being put down. Feminsim is about equality and reverence. Treating someone like a goddess is not about worship, it is about equality. I do not treat anyone better than I treat my self. I do treat my self as a spiritual being. | |
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Posted: 2/19/2008 6:32:47 PM | LoneWolfEnters: See that straight flush you're holding? That's a very ironic symbol, because we're going to be flushing your profile straight down the toilet!
Now, from what I can read, you're a pretty smart fellow and you can actually write, so I predict you'll take great offense to my suggestions but hey, that's why we're here! It's not so much your writing style I take issue with, but the pretentious, babbling nonsense you choose to write about.
In this part I could ramble about the many things I've done and who I am but how are you to know its the truth? Like the saying "you can't judge a book by its cover", you can't really judge a person by their profile. Anyone experienced at online dating knows that you don't really know the chemistry until you meet... BLAH BLAH BLAH BLAH BLAH! For the most part, this and all that follows is just telling people how they should read profiles and how they should treat dating; thank you very much, but I'd let everyone decide for themselves. Guess what? You have rambled on but about nothing that tells people about yourself. You don't believe in getting to know people by their profiles? You think the best way is to just meet? That's a very valid concept, but then don't go on to write a long profile! Just say your peace and be done with it, leaving it up to the girls if they want to meet and get to know you.
you see above I smoke. But it doesn't let you know that one day I plan on quitting for reasons of my own. Get to know me and you'll learn those reasons... I think even the non-smokers in the audience are going to cough up a lung reading that sort of pretentious crap! You smoke, end of story. Making excuses or trying to further explain it does nothing except make you seem like another daydreamer who is always promising they're going to quit.
So as you're looking at my profile please don't just judge me by my pics, my habits or only my interests... So you're basically asking people not to base any decisions on your looks, smoking preference or hobbies. That leaves what, your clever use of emoticons? Good luck with that, cowboy (by the way, you're over 30 and male, making the use of any smiley-face graphics or the term "LOL" strictly prohibited. Seriously.
Speaking of your interests, you list a whopping total of forty-five, ranging from movies to rocket science; essentially, you have listed anything and everything that anyone might find interesting - in other words, you have been completely generic and failed to demonstrate what makes you unique; maybe all these things DO interest you, but I'd whittle it down to perhaps a dozen that better define you.
As far as your pics go, they're not bad, but I'd refer to my previous warnings about listing yourself as "average" and not having a full-body picture.
Oh, and if you no longer have the beard, don't post the pic, it may turn someone off.
ACinSD: The picture with the dog is fine, but I'd make it a secondary picture (which will be easy to do since you'll be replacing your scary "Taxi Driver" picture with a brand new headshot)!
Women hate it when guys talk about their ex, so let's not start off our profile by telling people how long you were married, ok? All it's going to do is make people think "hello, baggage!"
I'm not a gym rat, sports addict, hunter or NASCAR fan... That's great, Skippy, care to list more things you don't do? Just focus on what you DO like and enjoy... telling people you don't like baseball is negative, but mentioning that you go ape for a night at the ballet is good!
Same holds true for the detailed analysis of your "bad traits;" everyone's got 'em, everyone knows everyone's got 'em, just not everyone feels the need to air them out in public. See that cute girl with the sweet smile? She probably has a temper. See that nice guy in the suit and tie? He's a bad listener. People will find these things out in due time, my friend, save it for later.
And I would let someone discover your forum posts on their own; mentioning specific ones that people may no longer be able to find is pointless, and if there is essential info in your posts that people MUST know, put it in your profile!
Sunnydayz777: Thank god, a decent profile! Very little to say about yours, nice pictures and a good, concise description that gets the point across. But, speaking of god, you mention him right off the bat, so you may want to let people know just how important your faith is and what role you would like it to have in your relationship; someone may assume you're only interested in dating only the most devout when it may not be true.
Holy frak man I should be getting paid for this! Someone buy me a drink. | |
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Posted: 2/19/2008 6:54:02 PM | | Oh, Mojo.....your payment is making us all look better on this site so we can find true love! hahah! Isn't that enough? If not.....I'll send you 7.00 for a beer. 8) | |
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Posted: 2/19/2008 10:40:12 PM | Oh, ouch, man one thing you've just reinforced is that honesty (or the request for it) is rarely rewarded!!! DAMN! LOL~ Ok... lets take this one step by step eh?
I predict you'll take great offense to my suggestions
Mmmmmm for the first five seconds (give or take 10 minutes) I was pissed! I mean how dare you?!?!? Then I realized that A) I had brought it on myself by asking and B) you were for the most part absolutely right and that me being irked was just bruised ego. So I went back and re-read what you wrote then took a look around and got a few thoughts together.
Now, from what I can read, you're a pretty smart fellow and you can actually write, ... It's not so much your writing style I take issue with, but the pretentious, babbling nonsense you choose to write about.
Well I don't know about pretentious but yes, it was a bunch of babbling nonsense with no beginning, no end and no meat to the middle now wasn't it? I suppose I was trying something I thought was different, in reality I have no idea what I was trying except to try and MAKE it different and original. Now I'm glad it was up for just a day! Thanks to you for that one~
I won't really go into the smoking issue because really, non-smokers can't and don't really understand where I'm coming from with what I said about quitting. Ex-smokers might understand depending on how much of an anti-smoker they've become. But its more of a personal thing anyway. Who knows, after I quit I might become an anti-smoker also but I hope not. I wouldn't want to be too hypocritical in my post-addiction phase.
(by the way, you're over 30 and male, making the use of any smiley-face graphics or the term "LOL" strictly prohibited. Seriously.
Ok, now just WHY is this? Not understanding it simply because I come from the generation that invented LOL's, ROFLMAO's and smiley faces which are now being used worldwide. We've used em so long that to NOT use them feels unnatural so maybe you can explain this a bit?
Speaking of your interests, you list a whopping total of forty-five, ranging from movies to rocket science;
Though I don't really agree with you on it making me look "generic" after looking at it I did have to agree that it was "too much" so I whittled it down some. Not nearly as short as you suggested but a lot less than it was.
As for the beard, I do have it but I'm not really attached to it. Ok, technically I AM attached to it but don't really care if I keep it or not. I just put it up there to show both sides of the coin... I may keep it, I may not. Dunno yet.
All in all though I realize you just cut and slashed my profile with a longer reply than you've given anyone I think. Now that I'm over the bruised ego and all that other stuff I can actually thank you for taking a look at it and let you know that I appriciate the input. I'll let you know that I've totally revamped it and ask you to take another look and let me know what you think now. I think you'll find it completely different than before. Plus I just can't help but wonder what you'll say now. (no lol here but I am laughing out loud) heh heh...
BTW~ Next time you're on the east side let me know, you can stop by and have a few homebrews. Least I can do for all the typing work you put into your reply.  | |
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