| Guys .. i need some advice
Posted: 2/18/2008 9:25:35 AM | he had also been flirting and sleeping with alot of other girls
That's all I needed to read to come to the conclusion that out of all the other's you were the better in bed. He just needed to try out a few more to make sure. It's called playing the field, and you were a home run in his game.
Yes it takes two. Yes both of you are at fault.
Now all you have to do is ask yourself if you want to make the same mistake again, or learn from the last time?
If he respected you to begin with, you wouldn't be here asking this question. | |
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| Guys .. i need some advice
Posted: 2/18/2008 11:33:19 AM | | in a word...........NO........YOULL BE AT HIS BECK AND CALL FOR EVER OTHERWISE.have self respect and tell him to do one | |
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| Guys .. i need some advice
Posted: 2/18/2008 2:13:55 PM | Only you can know everything that has been going on in the past and the present with this guy.
Trust your gut. It's usually right since it picks up on the things that your brain might miss until maybe later.
I found that most people don't change in a couple of years. You need to look at the essence of who he is and how he behaves towards you.
Sometimes it helps to think of the situation in another way so your emotions aren't so involved. It's then simpler to think with your head instead of what you hope might happen.
If a guy treated a good friend or younger sister (someone you care about) the way this guy treated you would that be something that you would want for the person you care about. Would you want her to be treated that way? Would you think the guy would treat her the way you feel she should be treated. Only you can make the decision. What do you think she should do in the situation.
Maybe this way of thinking will help you with this guy or any other guy in the future.
BTW - This guy has had lots of chances, he's kinda thrown those chances away. Past behaviour is often representative of future behaviour.
All the men who posted (and there is a wide age range) are telling you the same thing just in different ways. The guys have great advise. | |
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| Guys .. i need some advice
Posted: 2/19/2008 6:21:11 PM | | well i am happy to report,i got rid of him!and of course,he ran to someone else.which showed me that he is not a good person.he is not worth my time and would never be able to treat me well.i finally told him im done talking to him for good.normally i would leave him on my msn and not talk to him.now i blocked and deleted him and blocked and deleted him from my facebook :) | |
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| Guys .. i need some advice
Posted: 2/21/2008 10:49:59 PM | | O my God girl how blind are you? One sentence explains it all. "after that he didn't want to see me again....." this is your clue. A guy who truly cares about you will never leave you or abandon you, jeez i can't believe you could actually wonder about this guy....Get over your "alpha male" mentality, and make an effort to find the quiet respectful guy......he's there. And he will appreciate you for who you are believe me. | |
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| Guys .. i need some advice
Posted: 2/22/2008 3:54:01 AM |
^^^^ its past your bedtime too grandpa. .....And grandma says.....If ya want to know anything just ask someone in their early 20's, most of them seem to know it all. Oh sorry! Comments as the one quoted are from the more mature 20ish's! Just before I take my nanna nap I'll put in my 2 pennies worth.
OP This guy is a player. I had one of these try the same thing on me some time ago. A date, then a cancellation (due to family issues) an hour before the date. When I questioned him about his family issues (I was pissed off after having had my hair done and buying a new outfit, not to mention I hadn't had my dinner!) the guy became entangled in a web of lies. When he realized he was caught out he became quite narky (nasty in every other language). Twas a while before I heard from him again, and I did give him a second chance, but he blew it again. I then gave him a 3rd chance, and no surprises there!
So here we are 6 years later and he's still up to his old tricks.
Geez, I could write a book on this fellow.
Just tell the guy where to get off and proceed with your lifes journey. | |
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| Guys .. i need some advice
Posted: 2/23/2008 9:41:32 AM | | HaHa...I was 18 once too......Sounds like he's just looking for 'booty calls' at this stage in his life! | |
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| Guys .. i need some advice
Posted: 2/23/2008 9:47:22 AM | The guy sounds like he doesn't know what he wants, other than what he wants *right now*. Whether you see him again is your decision, but I wouldn't imagine this go-round would be much different. He's aged a whole year from demonstrating how immature he is, and I just don't think there's that much maturity to be found in a calendar year.
My recommendation would be to tell him to take a flying leap at a rolling doughnut. Ex's are ex's for a reason. That being said, IF you choose to spend time with him, I'd hold out on any physical contact other than a hug for at least 3 'dates', and nothing involving the removal of clothes for at least a month or two. Just see how devoted he is, or how frustrated he'll be when he doesn't get what he's really back wanting to get.... | |
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| Guys .. i need some advice
Posted: 2/23/2008 10:30:09 AM | Well -OP, you might want to change your header from "looking for something new" to something more difinitive of what you want from a guy or what your about. After all something "new" often is a synonym for something risque. If the posting on this forum is accurate, include more of that content pertaining to "not looking for a hookup" in your profile.
Keeping in mind the general impression of naivity, thats promoted in your profile and subsequently your gramatical arrangements in your post, is there any wonder why your meeting "Jerks"? When you won't put any limits on "what a man wants", and all men want sex. And they may consider your sentence arrangements as being .simple. .niave. and that impression might lead them perhaps, to .I'm Easy.
after all. impressions might be all. a person is getting. about the real you. and all that. that implies. with those impressions. either as intended. or not.
because some people. make impressions. of another persons. mental facilities. based on. how they write. when thats. their only impression. to go on.
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| Guys .. i need some advice
Posted: 2/23/2008 12:18:23 PM | the night of our date he tells me he has a family emergency and we would have to reschedule
Here's your sign...seems you have already answered your question | |
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| Guys .. i need some advice
Posted: 2/23/2008 2:59:21 PM | do people skip over what i say ? lol
Guys .. i need some advice
Posted: 2/19/2008 10 11 PM
well i am happy to report,i got rid of him!and of course,he ran to someone else.which showed me that he is not a good person.he is not worth my time and would never be able to treat me well.i finally told him im done talking to him for good.normally i would leave him on my msn and not talk to him.now i blocked and deleted him and blocked and deleted him from my facebook :) | |
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| Guys .. i need some advice
Posted: 2/23/2008 9:35:32 PM | | Seems like it is one of those he had his chance and you should tell him no. Besides I agree with some of the others, you won't have any trouble finding someone who is deserving of your attention, and why waste time on a guy that showed something about his character the first time around. | |
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| Guys .. i need some advice
Posted: 2/23/2008 9:47:30 PM | I say you can give him an other chance if you really want it but you risk to get played again. I doubt he has changed already, you guys are still young and it's no time to get hooked on someone, you need to experience a bit. It's hit and miss until you find the real deal.
Move on, there are plenty of guys that would love to go on a date with you!
Good luck | |
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